NewStats: 3,261,342 , 8,173,726 topics. Date: Wednesday, 28 May 2025 at 09:27 PM 205y2a

From experience I can tell you that marriage is all about sacrifices and compromise for the common good. Unless a couple do not have the interest of the family at heart I see no reason why compromise and sacrifice will be an issue.

The man in question has sacrificed and lost his job in the process now he has travelling issues, I expect the wife to understand and make some sacrifices as well. It's just for a year.

From your narration I believe the couple in question are good together and the only issue is the wife's stubbornness (though I believe the man also has his own) and I'd advise she jettison her stubbornness let it not lead to regrets later. Everyone has got their elastic limit and the husband no matter how calm and understanding he is now is not an exemption.

Good luck to the family

Location and information?

Chief, the matter is quite simple...

Change your phone number and ensure no one in the family, (extended family inclusive) have access to you.

Send money to your parents once every month because it's the right thing to do but DO NOT communicate with any of them.

Do not allow any of them come to your dwelling and if possible change your location

Go ahead and do the court wedding. Forget traditional wedding for now. It's not a must

Draw closer to God and ask him for help when you are lost or confused or feel dejected.

The reason you are helping your parents is because you are seeking their approval especially the approval of your mum. You are yearning for that piece of love you never got from them and you are thinking "if I do this they might just show me a bit of affection"; my brother the earlier you face it the better, you may never get any form of affection from them. Focus on yourself and try to be a better man.

Finally and again, find God if you haven't and stick close to HIM.

This wan just wake up decide say na Nigerians him wan call out. Na pity be him case.

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Why won't you know?

You prolly haven't been to a Nigerian interview before.


You will be shocked at the very basic things you expect people to know that they don't know.

illicit:
They are not all wrong

They speak Nigerian English

Apart from the last guy the others are all shades of wrong. Can I meet you is another way of saying please introduce yourself.

Mercychen:
I can't believe this simple question got many undergraduate students goofing. Mehn...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-SIEoss-gn8

Please watch and laugh away your sorrows.

This is so hilarious ����
What you don't know you don't know. What you don't understand you don't understand.

Stay focused and stay away from evil or the appearances of evil if not... Make dem no go use you take buy benz

Ulunne777:
Church: because someone is disturbing me .
Prayers: bexuse I don't want my children to say their mommy didn't teach them how to pray.
For some years now,spirituality has become burdensome for me.I haven't even read my bible once this year.
Do I want to reconnect,I don't even know.I'm going through some things that makes me question if God is actually interested in me.If he actually exists.If we are not living like animals who die and go.
I wish sometimes but the will,the time,the concentration is not there.
Ike Gwuru!

At times like this all you just need is to call God for help. Just keep saying "God help me". He definitely will come to your aid and renew your spirit.

Things dey happen...

The Lord preserve and give you speedy recovery. In order to get the victory you seek you will have to do the hardest thing and that is completely forgive your sister and everyone that has put you through difficult times. Unforgiveness is the device the devil is using to pin you. You may miss the mark of you don't forgive.
God bless you and give you great grace.

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Listen to @Donald3d, he has given all the advice needed. There's a high chance you'll be unable to meet someone like her again.

Wine making follows the same process even to date though there are machines in use nowadays but still they make use of the good old grape stomping.

You can like to stop drinking wine.

Some of the grape wine you drink is made through similar process. It's called grape stomping. No be only Naija.

I must salute you on your disposition even in the face of provocation. You did really well.
You must as a matter of great importance sand urgency reveal the health status of your wife to her family least they come for you when she starts falling Ill as a result of the psychological trauma she will be going through in the coming weeks. Mind you, both of you will be going through this trauma as a result of this separation.

Meanwhile, ensure you do not go alone. Make sure you go with an uncle or 2 and if possible make sure one of two of her relatives are there present to act as witnesses.

I only just wish it won't come down to this because there will be no going back once you do this. She might find it very difficult to forgive you.

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I must salute you on your disposition even in the face of provocation. You did really well.
You must as a matter of great importance sand urgency reveal the health status of your wife to her family least they come for you when she starts falling Ill as a result of the psychological trauma she will be going through in the coming weeks. Mind you, both of you will be going through this trauma as a result of this separation.

Meanwhile, ensure you do not go alone. Make sure you go with an uncle or 2 and if possible make sure one of two of her relatives are there present to act as witnesses.

I only just wish it won't come down to this because there will be no going back once you do this. She might find it very difficult to forgive you.

Best of luck.

Babies taste colours. Such wonderful creations

There are three things you need right now in your life:

1. A sound financial investor who will show you where to invest your money

2. A very good lawyer who will help you investigate properties that's been brought to you attention

3. The Holy Spirit to give you and the two mentioned above wisdom to carry out their duties without regrets.

You especially need wisdom to handle your husband and family.

You cannot give him all your savings as that will be stupid. Talk to a financial investor and see what sound investment advice you can get. Use majority (as much as 60%) of your savings to invest in. Give him 30% and keep 10% for yourself. This is a win-win

If you have kids, get an investment portfolio in their name controlled solely by you or open a trust for them.

Going forward, distribute your pay such that a bigger chunk goes for investment while you try to the home.
When you are ready for a property go ahead and buy it liquidating part of your investment without his knowledge and when you are done let him know and give him small money to cool his temper.

I wish I could advice you some more

Uncle op, what about those house helps who go about seducing their oga?

All ye ladies calling men all sorts of names please restrict it to a few men, avoid generalisation because for every male rapist there are a million men who will do anything to protect a lady (known and unknown) from being assaulted.

There are predators (both male and female) and no matter how strong or disciplined you think you are you need wisdom to be able to outwit the predators. You cannot tell a predator NO and he will understand it.

I'm a nutshell, there are bad people out there, just be careful.

The question here: what are they going to do about it?

Hmmm... This your story is sweet but Dangote truck in 1992 scratching my head.
Secondly, a truck driver gave you ₦200 in 1992. Do you know the value of ₦200 in 1992? Well... Make I no talk again. But the story sweet.

Bros ee, his location shows he lives in Dubai while he works at FMC Owerri/Abuja... Wetin again you wan know about the guy?

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Since you have come to realization that you have issues then your problems are half-solved!

Now you need to be deliberate in your actions. Make out time to plan your every next move. Good thing you still have age on your side.

This is what I will advice:
1. Take time out to reflect on those things that you do that are not productive and start working towards stopping them.
2. Read a few motivational books (not too much o as too much of everything is bad).
3. Start making good efforts with making friends who are level headed.
4. Finally, plan to do one of the following:

a. Go back to school for a second degree. I don't mean post-graduate or masters but a second degree. Check your certificate to find out what you studied or ask a few classmates.
Take a post-de or whatever exam that is required to get back to school. No one have to tell you to study now. You have to make the effort.

Or

b. Learn a trade or handwork. There are so many to choose from, auto mechanic not excluding heavy duty vehicles, electrical works, fashion design, etc. Make a list and decide on one you think you have a flair for.
The other option here is to delve into the world of ICT with focus on any of the following: web and app development, software engineering, cloud computing etc. Make a list here as well and decide on the skill that fits your person.

Stay away from relationships for now but keep good friends who will motivate you.

Draw close to God and ask for His help.


The choice is all yours my brother, I really do hope you make the right one - it is never too late to start afresh.

Raising a glass to your future success!

They should have rounded the goats and export to Naija - pepper soup and likes

tunmiluabi:



She will one day tell her parents herself. Her parents have sought for an amicable solution and meetings are being called. I have not doubt in my mind that I have moved on. I still have good relationship with her family because of my child..

I understand where you're coming from. But for the sake of your child a handful of people need to know your own side of the story. You wife doesn't have to be there when you tell your side.

Please do this so they don't all agree with her and turn your child against you in the future because you're trying to be a gentleman. I've seen this cause a lot of problems or some people like you. They never had the relationship they sought with their children. At the time the truth eventually came to light it was too late to have the relationship. All these because nobody heard their own side of the story.

Well, this is your own side of the story. All the same I commend you for being patient even in the midst of violent provocation - it only takes a true martial artist to restrain from hitting back.

One word of advice thought: if truly your hand is clean then you should explain to her parents and your parents what went wrong. You owe them and yourself that. For posterity sake; somebody needs to know what went down. It is important you do that. I know what I'm saying.

All the best

You messed up big time sha. But she has to do the right thing - she needs to understand that paternity fraud is BIG NO and the supposed father should learn the truth about the little girl.

First things first, you have to do a DNA to ascertain if she's your daughter.

Dog wey wan die no dey hear hunter whistle.

Bros we dey wait oo. Answer the questions na

9jaRealist:


Perhaps your grandparents and parents should go ask for free food then...
But if you are dodging paying taxes, you should not expect the government to give you free food paid for with my tax Naira.

In the US, they say that the only certainty in life is death and taxes (and of course the US taxes its citizens on their worldwide income, so Americans in Nigeria or anywhere else in the world still pay US taxes). Meanwhile, in Nigeria, if we are brutally honest with ourselves, we would acknowledge that only Nigerians under the PAYE payroll or other withholding tax regime dutifully (even if reluctantly) pay their taxes timely and in full.

Taxes are the obligation of citizenship (or residency). It is what gives you a voice and the moral right to make financial demands on government. In other words, it is the financial part of that vaunted social contract between the government and the governed. Unfortunately, in Nigeria, the oil windfall (that until relatively recently was produced by foreigners) has caused the government to become un-able to the citizenry since it does not rely on tax revenue paid by citizens, and has similarly caused the citizens to demand public services without bothering to pay for it.

Frankly, Nigerian tax dodgers are just as societally immoral as the government they criticize. Furthermore, they are effectively “stealing” from those of us who pay taxes whenever they access public services paid for by our taxes.
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Your last paragraph is all you should have written. Anyways, when the government decides to be irresponsible what do you expect of the citizens?
To sum it all, what works in those countries is a "system that works". Our government have not even tried to put a system in place.

If a parent is irresponsible their children will most likely be irresponsible. Same applies to government. Dog no dey born goat