NewStats: 3,264,840 , 8,184,863 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 02:18 PM 3w4h3l

The article says OECD countries. Nigeria is not a member of the OECD.

http://www.oecd.org/about/andpartners/list-oecd-member-countries.htm

fhranciz:
Wetin concern this woman for this matter .

lol

just ing by

Very possible, with the "one child policy", who do you bequeath such to?

Ioannes:


ayam not understanding you ma, can you pls enlighten us a lil bit.

Some of the kids will bear his surname, while some will bear your surname?

So you bear a different surname to your husband's?

This is a before marriage discussion when both partner still bear their different surnames.

edwife:
This Bournemouth is a useless team.

Very useless

bebe2:


Our pple are becoming d****r by the minute. Are they happy she died?

How about "a painful exit"?

Weird family

I won't say happy but resignation of fate.

You'll agree with me death means different things to different people.

While some believe it's the end of life, other believe it's the beginning of another life.

Amelian:
I can never have a housshelp as am living alone. My friends have sweet talked me to have one but am like no way.. I can't live at home alone with a stranger. It's kind of awkward . I can't even wrap my head round it. Yes! Am that paranoid with strangers staying with me.. No matter how angelic they look.
Even when I get married, she will simply come and go in the afternoon, on specific days of the week.

The bride virtually killed herself with I have too much money to own house help.

May her soul rest in peace.. Amen

May God forgive you

lol...Efe, don't know how it works these days o but just to mention that they were not really govt funded but govt subsidized, so the school fees were also not free but reduced due to the subsidy from govt.

EfemenaXY:


Ladies, am I the only one going crazy here??

How can one little person be soooooo demanding?? I'm starting to think I shouldn't have taken time off work when madam is on holidays too, Christmas or no Christmas.

Lol...I feel you Efe. I did same thing last year and won't try it again. No more time off work during Xmas.

Enjoy the time, you'll miss it soon enough

edwife:


Of who? I can't even see you people on the table, i beg which number are you again?

Right behind ya! The day is still young and very pregnant

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Jolosi

zaynie:



No pap till baby can sit or is 6months old.
Keep feeding with formular.

raumdeuter:
Looks like the strong woman Tiwa Savage is back to collecting her cassava from teebillz

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/3509562/tiwa-savage-tee-billz-step

No issues with that...as long as she is calling the shots

oyetpel:
After several treatment and money spent, this shit killed my dad last year. The wound killed him, Diabetes is like cancer, once someone is experiencing this kind of wound, na to dey countdown for the person.

. Hope your mom get better.

Edwife mi luv, congrats on tonight's win. The league is something else this year but I trust my boyz to get better.

Ve missed you more babes. Been planning to drop a line for you on the family thread but I'm always so worn out after work and I barely have enough time to breeze thru before nature calls.

cococandy:

Right?

But you're conspicuously silent when the man is cheating on his wife. No one hears you people's condemnation and cursing like you're doing on this thread.

Yet it's not about your gender bias? Tell that to the birds.

Don't even look too far...she asked him in one of those chats up there, "you have had your own extramarital affairs, did I question you about their families? I forgave you and moved on, why are you not doing same". And of course, he was silent when she brought that up.

@topic: No justification for what she has done, but he has no moral right to question her loyalty. And who knows how many babies he has also aborted during his numerous affairs?

My only question for the wife and all those who do revenge relationship is - Why another married man? Must you also destroy another woman's home? And why make babies only to murder them? Even school children cannot claim not to know about protection.

This couple deserve themselves IMO. They should both spend eternity in the same cell. God help their kids.

ajoskele:
Bros, you do not tell me who I owe an apology.

Could you find time to scroll up and understand what led to this??
FYI, I apologized to her already.

Good

ajoskele:
Are you alright?
So you are shocked Funjosh mentioned me?
Do I know you? Do you know me?

What exactly is the insult for? Cuz she called you for help and what's the crime in that?

You owe her an apology!

Happy birthday Light. God bless you abundantly.

He couldn't wait to get out of the senate to do this the country should be paying him for doing nothing while he continues to gallivant round the globe taking pictures? the senate is a joke anyway

TV01:
Holá Kim,

Assuming one makes or agrees to the choice, there is no wrong person, only a wrong understanding and approach. Once certain needs and expectations are met, RL will set in, and even flourish.

Maybe risky to say for sure at this point - but certainly current - I mentioned "arranged marriages" in my initial post here, but is it noteworthy that even some of the Chibok girls are seemingly content to remain in forced unions ?

Timbuktou, well said jare...should have checked for you first. Crackhaus how far? "Where you been" as TVjnr often says. Come, some of your harem have been acting up like they seriously need your attention. Don't know how you do it dude, but glad you are back .


TV

You left out your famous quote, "some ladies people would be better off having their fathers parent choose for them".

naijababe:


Thus saith the lord, ayam Dangote in-law

D5000y:
That's it. Sometimes one wonders if it's always the will of God or man.

will of man...I think

raumdeuter:


So if he is never broke or always around, What are your own financial responsibilities to your own family? Or you are telling us you have none?

So what is your own investment into a family, husband and kids you call yours?


Yet people wonder why men treat women like that as inferior to them? If you cant spend your own money on your own family then what is your contribution to the house

Will you agree for the kids' to share surnames? Some of them will bear your surname and some mine?
Should we as a couple both adopt our surnames tly? yours and mine together?

When it comes to headship, why do men want the rights but not the responsibilities?

Like soonest said - you say the housework is mine, I don't complain
You go to work, I go to mine - I don't complain
I choose to reserve my money for myself except for pressing needs, hell let loose Biko, who go look Uche face

@ subject - who is the wrong person?

raumdeuter:
Bukatyne



This is coming from one oyinbo, the same people we copy the idea of love from.

On the other thread you said if both parties buy into the idea of romantic love. But one thing you need to know is that the romantic love is also predicated on some factors.

There is a reason I have romantic love for A and not for B. There is a reason timbuktou has it for kimoni and not for mindfulness.
There is usually a tangible reason why people "love" each other lets not delude ourselves that its "just magic and I cant explain it"

It might be because of the pretty face, the well packaged backside, the hair, the voice, the riches etc and lets assume the girl too has other things she likes about him that brought about the love maybe height, strength brilliance, the money, the power, the connection etc

After shackling together you might not be as enthralled as you were initially about that thing thaat drew you together either he/she lost it or you think there's more to life than that thing

Thats why all the Brad Pitt Angelina fiery flaming love has disappeared and whats now left is disgust and some "What did I ever see in him/her"

I am diehard fan of love and I believe love is and should be an important factor why people get married.

But is that the only reason why people get married? NO
Should it be the only reason why people get married? I don't agree
For those who do not consider it as a yardstick for marriage - Are they marrying wrongly? I don't agree

People have different reasons for marrying and staying in marriage. Staying in marriage is a choice
The fact that two people are married for years does not mean they love each other or still love each other or love each other better than those who separated. Also, It's not always the case that people who seperate hate each other.

Two people could just decide to stay in marriage regardless
- Tiwa could have decided to stay with TJ
- Toke could have stayed on with her man
- Angelina could have stayed with Brad

They just made a choice not to. The decision could have swung in the other direction.

So where does wrong or right comes in?

Mimzyy:
I have a phobia for lengthy posts Summary please!

PaperLace:


I agree with you too.
When I see people say marriages fail these days because people don't marry for love, I wonder when it was that most people married for love.

There are other factors that keep it going.
As much as I love my husband, over the years he did things I looked at his big head and wondered what I was doing with him .
'but then, there are things that gat me coming back...oh, including the money o .

at least you are sincere

raumdeuter:
5minsmadness

What you call love itself is predicated on some factors, If you find those factors gone, then the love is probably gone too. E.g the person you love currently if you found out she used to be a man or is plotting to kill you

Also love isn't enough, there are many things like common goals, common background, similar ambition, mutual-respect etc

Exactly Dayo.

I also find it queer when I hear perfect people say that other people are marrying for the wrong reasons. What is the wrong reason and what is the right reason? Is there any generally accepted standard or legal reason why people should marry?

Truth is people marry for different reasons, and it's not always love or should be love. Who says it should? (Which is why I also quarrel with the perfect marriage crew who are quick to judge a forgiving woman for tolerating her husband's excesses, my question is - do you know why they married each other in the first place?)

And even for people who marry for love, there are always some underlying premises or foundation upon which this love is rooted and once the center no longer holds, the so called love comes crashing down.

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