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Please the mods should help us move this to the front page,tanx.

Ujoan:
I really feel bad for this woman, but I hope this story serves as a lesson to women all around. No amount of money you spend on a man and his family will make him love you. Love is not for sale.

This woman was childless , not by any fault of hers. But because she choose to exist in a toxic environment. How will she even conceive under that condition? Now she has transferred her wealth to the man and his family and he has gone to buy a whole new family with her money. And she's jobless, peniless, childless and husbandless. . . . . All because she chose to demean herself and sell her pride for 'love'.

My husband and I have an understanding, my property is my property, his is his. . . Maybe if circumstances were different and his family were different we would do the whole combined husband and wife thing. But the reality is that things are different. Nobody is sure of the next day. God fobid something happens to him tomorrow, I won't want my kids and I to be at the mercy of his family after having contributed to his estate. So I work hard, save my money and invest for my children's future. I've been accused of not being loyal to my husband but I don't care. My children's future is more important to me than being seen as a 'good wife'.

You can't put your happiness in the hands of another human being. . . . Love no reach that one a beg.

my dear,this is so true and i also love and appreciate your wisdom towards your children because they are your tomorrow

i wish she had such knowledge,she wouldnt have been hurt this bad and most of all i wish she knew nairaland,she would have tabled her matter before the invincible council of elders on this platform,they would have given her the encouragement and ginger she needed at that point in time,but it is just so unfortunate

Collenshy2020:
chai, i'm short of words... Very touching scenario.

it's indeed touching

Ginaz:
I almost wept for her, it's appalling how something as good as love could turn bad, how love could turn to hatred.

My advise to ladies it that, you really need to know the man you're marrying, you really need to forget about money, status, facial looks and concentrate on the man he is inside.

Bring topics that brings out the kind of person he is, you are a woman you should be 90% be able to say, "I know what my man can do under any situation ".

Marry a man that blends with your thinking, don't categorized a man base on looks, height, money, or whatever. Marry a man with sense, a man with confidence, a man that can stand on his decision and nobody pushes him around. A man with substances.

It's hard, but when you concentrate on the inside, what's outside becomes secondary.

I hope she recovers, and build her life around. And one more point to take home, don't suffer for anybody, don't allow nobody to treat you less worthy like an animal. Quit when enough is enough!

my dear,everything you have said is the truth.....she allowed the man to know her weaknesses and he trampled on it and now she lost it all due to her low self esteem.....such a beautiful young woman,indeed if you do not hear one's story you would never know what's eating them on the inside

another advice to people out there is to speak up,whatever you are going through,try to share your problems,you dont need to be close to a person to share your problems....her family and friends were not willing to know her plight and that was what ate deep into her.....its indeed quite unfortunate

Godchild2015:
@op, after all said and done , what have you learnt from what she said and most importantly what assistance did you render to her to show her love.
I believe God sent her to assdress some issues you are questioning God for( think deep)


Pls if you still have that woman within your reach show her love( she needs It more than ever) this should be the kind of people that actually needs our help both financially and other wise other than some lazy set of people .

i really learnt alot from her,i thought about it all night,there was really love at first but everything turned sour,what happened to all the promises made while they were still young and dating? How did the love turn sour so early?

I also learnt that patience is key,if the man had been patient who knows maybe God would have answered their prayers,but he was quick to move on with his life and leaving her exposed,and the woman on her part could not bear the heartbreak because she never expected such would happen to her so soon.

I pray to God to hear our prayers about marital choice because it is obviously not a bed of roses

After my mom talked to her to stop alcoholism and try to put herself together and every every,she later left but to our surprise she came back again because she loved our conversation and she has never felt relieved like that before.....i really felt for her.

So i was sitting under a mango tree discussing with my mom when this woman came to ask if she could us because of the hot sun and we offered her a seat.......i and my mom were talking about a family friend who secretly married another wife because his wife could not bear a male child although she had three beautiful grown girls.....she felt really bad and decided to us in the discussion and she started thus:

So a man can leave his wife simply because she could not bear a male child in this modern age She asked and continued....i was living peacefully with my husband but after been married to him for four years and there was no child things started turning upside down,i used to work in abuja airport then and i was very wealthy,i had a bar,a restaurant and other side businesses although i and my husband run the business together because as at that time my husband was not earning much then, but everyone thought it was his money because i was never proud about my wealth,i would pay my husband's siblings school fees,send them pocket money till they graduated,i got a job for his sister as an air hostess and she was earning well,i also got a job for his younger brother....then i used to send his mother wrappers but she would always check the edge of the wrapper to see if it is of high quality,she just never appreciated me,she even told me that i am just enjoying her son's money,driving his car with nothing to show for it,she was really a hardnut to crack,not knowing it was my money.

I and my husband decided to go for medical check up and it was really expensive and i footed the bills,although we were medically ok,,,,,So time went by and the pressure became much on my husband from the family,so i told them that if they want to bring a new wife that they should,i would whole heartedly accept her,but the family said nooo that they cant do such because it was not right,meanwhile they have started the preparations to get him a new wife long before then.

Time went by and my once lovely husband started beating me,started drinking,keeping late nights,i was patient all through but the beating became too much that he would use whatever he lays his hands on to beat me,he would threaten to hang me on the ceiling fan and kill me,most times i do run outside or lock myself up in the toilet till the next morning,everything became sour,there was a day he beat me so much and hit my head,that was the day i ran out of the house with just the clothes i was putting on because anytime he wants to beat me he would call my sister and tell her that he wants to start beating me then he would switch off the phone and seize it....and i could not go back home because i was too scared to go back.

I cried and cried,i wondered why these things were happening to me,i prayed to God for the fruit of the womb,i prayed and fasted for God to give me even if its one child to call my own,i begged for forgiveness if i have sinned against God,,,,i started having mental problems because of the way he hit my head,i went to the hospital to get medications,i became depressed and since then i have been liviing on anti-depressants and alcohol just to calm down,i could not sleep in the night due to thinking,i had no father nor mother,my siblings cared less because they had thier family to face,i was all alone with no one to talk to,i bottled up the pains to myself and it caused alot of damages to my health.

Along the line,i lost my job,my money vanished,i barely feed now,sometimes even to get #10 for water is a major problem,i was too weak to bear the heartbreak........and as for my ex-husband,he is now married with two kids and he is the manager of a big hotel around here,nobody would believe he was once my husband,i called him and congratulated him on his new family,i told him i was happy for him and that i wished him all the best......

And now i'm here all alone,starving,jobless and very scared to even go into another relationship....the most painful thing is that all these things happened during my productive years as a young beautiful lady....i was running a second degree in a federal university but i could not finish due to all this problem....

And finally she said 'i feel really relieved talking to you people,i guess what made me lose direction was that i was neglected and had no one to talk to,now that i have shared my pains i feel really relieved,madam you are indeed blessed for having children around you to call your own,and she gave me alot of advice about marriage,she told me to be patienr,not to be competitive cos my friends are married,and to pray for a Good man.

i felt really bad for her,though she looked unkept,i never knew she once owned cars,once had millions running in her ,her english was too fluent for her looks.It was indeed a heartbreaking tale that touches deep beneath the heart...Only God knows tomorrow...
Thank you for reading
i would appreciate if the mods could help me move this to the front page

Pain:
Nothing New..reminds me of the house maid my wifey fired last week

bros,give us the full gist na.....tanx in advance

Pain:
Nothing New..reminds me of the house maid my wifey fired last week

bros,give us the full gist na.....tanx in advance

Nawao........lo wa le to yen......all this insult and curses for what na......his attitude indeed shows he s still ......mtcheeew 9ja and thier so called yeyebrities

Ma dear isabella....this is nigeria.....in dis part of the world.....such tins are not appreciated

Julimartins
microbiology(Bsc.)
undergraduate
300level
university of abuja

mehn,we v a whole lot of tales here,both the good,the bad and as well the ugly...........quite scary though........ I really wanna go into industrial(petrochemical) or environmental microbiology......please i need hints about it,cos am confused here.....i need to know firms where i can do my IT in abuja and things i need to hold tightly in order to succeed in this field......tanx.

Lol.....olamide and his tinted hair indeed!!!........ Him for go london leave him tinted hair for naija na....nawao

I know this movie....its titled "when love happens"... a Nigerian movie.....same lines....nawao

to me its something I wudnt lyk to do,buh as a gal if u r ready to take the risk,den its all good.....buh ur self esteem and dignity myt b at d receiving end

hmmmmmmmmmmm.....Mr Adams...... thank God someone finally voiced out.....kemi ur story is most likely to be true....I Mr Adams harassing a lady during my remedial exams in 2013...he is also widely known to be the king of sorting in statistics department...... a chronic womanizer 100%.....I hope ds case gets justice someday...... I hereby the train #istandwithkemi....go girl!!!

dearie u jes gotta calm down...... u v alrdy pointed out wah u ain't doing ryt......y not take a u-turn n start doing dem ryt......d key to d success u desire is in ur hands......all u nid do is to make use of it.....I wudnt blame you for performing poorly...if u set ur goals ryt u wud get dere......@ chivickyy

diaris God ooooo

congrats to whoever has been crowned

hmmmm......a true woman!!!

menix:
This OP is an incredible Liar...

How can a small gal of secondary school get pregnant nd no one noticed.

Abii she lived in the Dorm for the 9 months.
She gave birth in the bush without screaming at her tender age.

OP is it a blind school that none could identify her protruding stomach.

OP lie mohammed is an apprentice where u are..

I think I blve d Op cos a similar thing happened in my sister's skul.....no one ever knew d gal was pregnant till she gave birth

gud evening er'1...... pls does anyone knows anything abt diploma..... please I need answers urgently..... tanx

mehnnnnn.......congrats odumewu Debbie.........a.k.a pinkidebbie........ this girl dey dance scatter.....follow her on Instagram to see her hot moves......@pinkidebbie

R.i.p 2 d dead,i lost ma neighbour in this terrible accident.....#in tears.......r.i.p dearest mummy muna,we love u buh God loves u most

Hey aslee.....hw u doin? Wats ur real name?? M also in mcb

chukwudi1989:
Change of course approved,heading for screening into new course.





If u submitted ur form go now and collect urs cus is ready,once u collect it u goto 1st bank inside d school get a teller fill it,change of course from ur demand is 20k while from school demand is 10k, get anoda teller for comission of 100naira after paying u go bak to dsame officer whom u submitted ur form to and submit it again with ur teller He will den tell u d next thing to do , the info to be continue on wednesday.......thanks

yh,mine was also approved nd i've paid,m also goin on wednesday for ma new notification

Alextanko, r u on whatsapp?? If u r drop ur numba pls

Pls wahs d form no.and pin al abt?

Pls is dere any electrical engineering fresher here??if yes,do signify pls

[/color][color=#006600] any electrical engineering fresher here?? Pls mesge me

Jalil29:
Plz is remedial form on sale, Someone who knws shuld plz reply

d list s even out....went 2 rems unit nd i saw d 2nd batch fully pasted on d board....the 1st list came out in august nd the 2nd list came out early dis month

Pls any electrical nd electronics fresher here? Mesge me....tanx