NewStats: 3,265,441 , 8,186,756 topics. Date: Sunday, 15 June 2025 at 12:34 AM 1a2m1j

@yumi,
well like u have said, we all have made wrong choices in the course of our choosing a life partner, ( i myself have made worse ones sometimes) and am not to judge people for that fact.
aside from what i said, i think you perception about issues showed here so far, has shown maturity, responsibility and a good dose of proper upringing.

the part of meeting people on here, and face to face, is a very dicey one.
i can assure you that some peopl are very good actors, that even using a lie detector can not decipher if they are honest with you or not.
so u meet here, or in person, you can hardly tell the person you dealing with.
moreso, i have come to realise that where you meet people somtimes hardly count, but rather the circumstances at which you meet them.

its okay to say ur are a perfectionist, but dont you think it could be a little overbearing for other individuals? i mean wanting things  done in a particular manner, or at a particular  time or style, might not fit into other peoples lifestyle ,dont mean they are not good materials for a relationship!

like i said you sound very nice and one who knows what she wants and how to get it,
but maybe your standards are a little high and might be unrealistic for some people.


lastly i will tell you that nairaland  is a community of different people,.
here you will meet the  good, the bad and the ugly, just like the real worklld out there.
its a faceless community where alot of people hide behind their screen. and even though you might want to believe they are mostly bad,
we still have some very incredible ones here.

take your time to warm around, am sure u wud realise what am saying.
aside from this, i think i owe you and apology for judging you too fast.
welcome on the forum, and we all are your friends.

Yumi:

I actually don't want to lure anyone men here for anything. I am having a break after having been involved recently with someone who wasn't really good to me. After what happened I really don't think I want to rush into anything with anyone else. Part of my heart still lies with him, but he really needs to change his ways cause he is a bit of a con artist and I find that hard to deal with as I want him to be a good person. You always want the person you love to be a good person right not a con artist. He also has a bit of work to do on repairing what happened between us as he hurt me a bit. However I won't wait forever and if he doesnt fix up soon he will lose me and he might not get another chance as I have a few other guys that like me, that I don't speak to at the moment cause of him. However if he cant fix up soon I will have to move on. I don't ask for much and I am so understanding when my man has problems or whatever but I do expect respect, truth and communication.

Why would I try to get a guy of an internet forum for dating? I usually get to know a man first before dating them and I usually date people I know through friends of friends. In fact I have a female friend who is always trying to find me one of her male relatives to marry as she has been my close friend for ten years and she says she just wants me in her family. Everywhere I go her other friends try to hook me up too with their uncles, cousins etc, they know me inside out and they always say they want me for a wife to their brothers. Its just unfortunate I havent met one I am attracted to yet. I am a bit fussy though so I think thats why.

Don't worry about me though God sees everything and God will look after me. In him I trust

well i must say that this is well drafted, but i will tell you why i took to nticing you on here.
1. from one of your recent post, you went ing the word ex(s) that you got engaged in, which got me thinking either you easily get entangled in relationships that dont lead you to the alter, or
better still you have been attracting the wrong type. which also speaks volume of the kinda person you are trying to paint you to be.
2. u have also recently stated here that ur most recent ex, was a con artist, and i wonder why you still want to stick with him whne you know that he is that way.
3. from this same post, u claim that your friends are so eager to see you married of to their brothers, and sincerely, that sayss u must have something we can associate as wife material, but my worry is how come u still are not married?
in this present world where guys are claiming its diff to find decent wives, and yet u have eluded them all.
4. you can easily for the desperate to settle down type, hence ur always making the wrong decisions as to the kindas people you get hooked to.
5. how do u have spares  for your relationships, like u ssaid above, "as I have a few other guys that like me, .
dont u think it has also been a problem to geting properly settld in your relationship, knowing there is always a spare to backupwith.
and last babe, i was just teasing when i said u was hubby huntin here, although i see nothing wrong from meeting ome1 here and finally getting settled.
i just think you need to do more self evaluation, as u might also have a chunk of the problem that has caused all ur breakups.

so u have all found thats thread starter guilty without a proper jury sitting?
haba @ theseeker, u shud know better than to s judgement without clear evidence.
lol
tell lexi to show us his kini weda their names no dey engraved on am.

well she sounds too composed for a newbie fo one, and she seems to know her way around here.
good thing if she aint impersonating though.

she tell u say she get sexy voice.
go and meet and post.

it has s on now.
eye defect corrected, so dont go blaming all ur mistakes on the poor guy. he sees just as good as any1.

lexi, u dey suspect yumi abi!

fine boi lexi!
i wish i was u sha, cosi know u enjoyed to some extent even if the chicks are omitting that part.

i asked somewhere " who is this yumi". u just keep bring up the same qstn inside.
its either u are really good, or painting a good picture to lure a prospective hubby here.
time will tell sha!

@ your post, only very materialistics girl wud want a rich life over a responsible income earner.

@gabry,
u mean all those perves that call in to have their sexual urges met!
u got great buz sense.
@post, meet her let her give you the modalities for such buzz.

God loves a contrite and broken heart.
be remorseful, ask for his forgiveness, thats what God is about. forgiving and bringing back to himself.

one bible scripture says shall the lawful captive be held prey. so even if u did it intentionaly, u can seek his mercy.

well to ba to yen gan se e ma so be ni!
abeg leave matter. ugot big ass, its all good.

child abuse, and this is not flirting its advertising!

yjay,
anything bigger, nah craine go carry am oh!lol

who is this yumi self?
am being suspicios, and i have my reasons!

Too much sound no action.

YJAY,
LOOKS LIKE URS?

u mean that very expensive ring i had to forgo 2months pay to buy,
return my thing jare!

they are ruling even though you don't know it.

iice:

gbam!

slap abi!
sesman just proffered that solution.

oh she offered to wash my clothes, cook and sweep my apartment, iron my clothes for work stuffs like that,and i allowed her.
and in spirit of reciprocating, i waited in the room for her to finish theh i gave her a good time.

mazi self don collect dollar nah, mouth don close.

kelvin, ur sister oge, and ur papa austin,
behave urself abeg.

some dude that just left for the states.

and hey is that not kelvin?

candy abeg tell her wetin i said biko!

what kinda rubish be this nah!
come behave oh, why give a girls bum to a guy.

Gabry:

Naggers?

niggers u mean!

Emperoh:

The first thing before imbibing all these grammar above is putting that masculine ego and self pity attitude in check!!

and u bera have a wife that's understanding and loves u like hell!

hehehehhehehehe
tales by moonlight.
dude get a hold of you. do you think you are the first to be lied to?

let me give u a scenario,
imagine ur girl schooling in the far east, you call her and she tells u she is in an open field yet her voice echos back at u.

well we all have heard strange lies, but your ability to act maturely would determin how far you would go not just with her but other ladies.
go beat her and gain what? if she sustains serious injuries, or the worst happens.
pls let her be, she has lied enuf, put her out of her misery

@theseeker,
u be proper igbo man. we did not ask for the price.

u case is like the beggar and his the proverbial horse ride, and u dey ask how much the horse dey cost for market now.

and if u must know, its neither armed robber, thief, or soldier.
i be delta boy, u can addup the rest . lol

u funny big time.
babe dey nag, u dey zip down tro.
ur long tin will surely become longer.

d'banj extraordinaire.