NewStats: 3,263,827 , 8,181,529 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 June 2025 at 07:05 AM 35382h

Firstly; 'to love' doesn't mean possesive, we are equating love with ownership! We don't always have to be with the ones we love, we can still love from a distance, as close as possible and inbetween.

Having said that, anything is possible, atleast he is not acting, and it takes a bold person to take this stance, he knows what he wants.

For you; it is time for you to know what you want; not what your mum wants, your bf, your siblings, half of the comment section or the other half or even me. You have to ignore all of us, ignore what we want you to do, read it but ignore it, humans are opinionated, they always have solutions to peoples problem and and not to their own.

You have to know what you want.
Veiw your life, imagine how you want to live and draw a clear picture of what you want.
If your bf fit into the picture continue, if he doesnt discard.
Same with every thing/one around.

Life is short and long to please everyone and not you, or regret surpressed happiness in a long run.
Cheers.

This morning, i made my girlfriend breakfast in bed while playing NINA SIMONE playlist and she cant get over it.
She cant even hide the happines and smile.
I hope i have given her less worries. I actually enjoyed seeing her smile.

It was going sweet until she said " babe there is too much sugar"!
Like seriously...is that the 'thank u' and she is laughing.

Goddys:
@OP your boyfriend position is well-founded. I have come across many girls that are seemingly angelic, calm, well-nurtured who turned out to be a torn in the life of the man years later after marriage.

My girlfriend said she would wait till I am ready which I know I may not be. She will be the one to advise herself to break up and move on at the right time. I won't do it myself.

Marriage is a favour to women which in most cases turn men to a working robot, not having time to advance themselves spiritually and otherwise.

Advise yourself and seek out men who consider marriage a priority in their list.

Any woman I may eventually go legal with must personally acknowledge I am doing her a favour if marriage is her priority

What are you looking for?
Seems you havent asked or answered the question of 'why we are here and existing?'
There is a difference btw marrying late, to be able to give the kids a better life and this asertion.
Why are we here?

Scientists:


Guy, did you ejaculate full into her? Or were you using pull out method?

Why not watch porn? If you wanted a full sex escapede.
I can help you with a link in case.

Ishilove:

Use condom! Or place her on contraceptives!! Is that too hard?

The question is not how to prevent pregnancy, the question is 'the time she has to take, to completely heal and maybe to start enjoying sex again (any kind of sex, that is if she want to)'.
I feel the pains will affect her reaction to sex too soon.

fati2001:
as long as you can wait.

Thank you dear, this is well accepted and will work on it.

Macnnoli4:
Protected sex is the safest for everyone.

I know that, wasnt asking about what we should.

My question is "when is geuinie to touch her again, due to the pains she has had"?
Do they think i love seeing her sad or in pains?
I was asking for an advice and they want to derail it.

RTSC:

That is why I said I did not blame you.

It's the girl I blame if she allows herself to be messed up again.
No be today, men dey get sweet mouth.
women dnt have swt mouth?
You where there doubt things the person that hurted you said, and you forgot to live life and not be entitled and sentiment, you would have being a happy person.

Women that marry without aborting even once don't have two heads.

They don't have two heads. yes, but as it has happened how do we put it back zero?

RTSC:
I don't blame you.

It's the girl I would blame if she opens her leg for you without paying her bride price first.

That lady that was dumped after 24 abortions, also started like this.

You people are leaving the solicited advice and putting opinion where it is not needed.

Am i the man that abadoned the lady after 24 abortion?
Did i tell u i would not marry someone that have had 24 abortions?
Did she tell you she wanted your pity and blame?
Did she tell you that she is not happy or we are not happy?
The enemy of knowledge isnt ignorance but "illusion of knowing".

Everything is wrong with this post!
It contains all sorts of misinformations, lies, fallacies, generalizations and irrational veiws on sexual discussion and argument.

Therefore i don't know what this 'THING' is doing on the FRONT PAGE misleading ignorant/confuse innocent people.

I guess making click is better than the lives this post will ruin from the number of veiws it get.
You are all to be blamed in advance, either consciously or sub.

Futurejoy:

You can’t even comprehend that analogy, no need to banter words with you.

I understand you still, you think because you dnt like cracked egg, you think everyone else, including me, shouldnt like cracked egg.
Maybe you are to tell me the kind of rice i should eat too, mayb foreign or local.
Since you want everyone to be and act like you.

As you like it.

Futurejoy:

We can all eat egg but no one will agree to eat a chick that just crack up from its shell.....think about it

How do we eat egg if we dont crack the shell?
Think about!
Is is only an ignorant person that belives or use this analogy.
But then we are all guity of ignorance.

Yungmil:
Sunday ft other topics





Mods today is Sunday yet no single post on religion in front-page.




smh for this generation

You are not racist or tribalist, then why do you not see "extremism in religion" as a problem?

Maybe bc you dnt understand the .

FreeMejoor1:
santa claus..

Now you are understanding.

Futurejoy:

I really don’t know how legal abortion is, seizing life from a feotus. Most ladies don’t even know what they are doing to their lives, you are no different from a murderer. You committed one and now you planning on how to start up another one. May God help you both....it is not like you both will even marry!

I understand you. Life is important but only to the child in the stomach, the mothe's life is not important?
Same with the condition the child will grow in too.

Lets look at the foetus from the onset and generalize together.
It also means;
Sperm cell and ovaries should be protected bc they are living cells and are small babies.
It means menstration should be prevented bc you are wasting and killing the eggs(murderer) every woman should get pregnant everytime and avoid let the ovaries from dying.
Masturbation is murder!
What happens to the girls swallowing cum?(carnibals)
What about condoms, 'pull out game', using other methods of birth control is murder

illicit:
Abortion is dangerous mehn....

And having a grumbling and unwanted child that will now be termed a mistake and probably later loved by sentiment is more dangerous, not just to us, but to the society and enviroment.

xynerise:
I don't blame you though. I blame the Dumbo dating you

She is actually no dumbo!
I bet if you see her, you would want to snatch her or atleast taste it.

Joycekkh:
How is she yours? Have you paid her brideprice, what is the legal thing binding the both of you?

What is legal have to do with living ones life with someone you want to be with and both of you happy?
Is legal suppose to be another 2 persons life determinant?

Joycekkh:
You just dont know the curse that is following you and their girl up and down. You think abortion is child's play. Karma will hit you hard. wait for it.

Karma will be so fair to me due to the way i have treated her and the 'supposed child' wil understand that we want the best for him/her and this wasnt the best time him/her to come.
We will be expecting him/her soon but if the child cant wait in there, he/her should move to another womb that is capable and ready to do a better job than us.

paulolee:
u can start as soon as possible..as far as she av done abortion already u gat no fears...jus take bitter kola so dt sperm wud be very active and you last long...dont forget to pour all ur contents in her afterall if she get belle again, abortion de...attention seeking robot..

I wanted to respond aggresively to your post, but when i saw your profile and its picture, i decided against it.
I will just say "be mindful of how you share your opinion, since you are so opinionated and wander around nairaland sharing it, you may not know who is who, i might be the person to change that dirty towel on your head to a fancy cap".

Thank for this, it has all the infos i need.

'A man got to do what a man got to do'

Before bringing the topic here, you had already made up your mind on what to do, so the comment section is just people and opinions.
Na only you know here the thing dey pain.
So do what you have to do but with consideration.

Yungmil:
I like dis guuyyyy







very responsible and considerate

It is our problem and not hers.

Aboks:

Its never yours until you pay for it

Are they selling 'it'? I thought we are humans?

Balaxx:
BELLE GIVER,IMPREGNATOR

The positive i took away from the experince is that, we are both fertile. It would have been triplet.

Gentle0wavez:
For the one wey happen to my guy, na the girl still come back again for sex. My guy was dumb founded, I swear some girls no dey pity themselves.

Men!! Honestly para dey oh!
Not that we cant protect or prevent it, but what if there is another stubborn sperm that refuses to comply with our intentions and goes in to mate....again!

I cant see her through the pains again.

Balaxx:
U can start immediately so dat u give am another belle and the circle continues.

Do you mean i am sterile or incapable of having a gf?

How is the situation attention seeking?

maxjax:
marry her properly before u vandalise the place again

what am i vandalising? I thought people don't steal what is theirs?

So my GF just had an abortion which drained her, it made her afraid of sex because she now fears the consequences which was painful to her and to me too, because i watched and nortured her while she was in pains.
So please when can she get the fear and scare it caused?

Secondly when is the appropriate time to re-start coupulation? my semens are turning to matured tadpoles due to the wait and i also don't want to hurry or hurt/scare her.
Have you had this experince? Share and advice me.

MadelnNigeria:
if have heard about a particular bird that lays on other birds eggs and make the eggs it's own... I can't the name of the bird right now

Thank you for the hidden message.

fuckingAyaya:
chinua Achebe no see ur break light

Abeg oh!! Lol!! No start watin i no go fit finish.

I am just asking a descriptive question and gist.

Amotolongbo:
more like you are writing a novel

Patient my friend!
Cant i be descriptive and funny in the gist?