NewStats: 3,264,648 , 8,184,329 topics. Date: Wednesday, 11 June 2025 at 08:46 PM 3p2q2p

Its extremely annoying, but Im growing used to it. You soon will too.

Men blaming women, Women blaming men...blah blah blah

[/quote] 42. Men are big babies and need to be mothered. Na wa!

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They totally are.

Because of Why?

Lmao!

Really, I've always blamed married men that cheat especially the ones with really nice, faithful and good looking wives at home. I don't understand why they can't just be faithful to their wives and why they have to go after single girls. When I talk to the opposite sex, they justify it by saying it is acceptable because they are men and it can't be avoided. This has really made me scared of marriage cos its everywhere now, wives are even accepting it as a norm.

I have however seen the way single girls chase after married men. Its alarming, I have friends that do it and there's this particular one that does basically married men. She even takes pride in the fact that their wives chase her or call her to warn her. They do it with no conscience at all and when I ask them how they would feel if they were in the shoes of those women the say "God Forbid".

It goes both ways. Both Married Men and Single girls that date them are to blame.

Funny thing is Karma is no longer fair. The fact that you didn't date a married man as a single girl doesn't mean one girl won't date ur husband.

Timbuktou:
Erm, till then na. Make I own am first.

LoL

Timbuktou:
Feel beautiful all you want, if you're ugly your chances are limited. . Me sef I want to feel like I own a yacht or something.

The mind of man is very strong. What the mind can conceive it can achieve. Believe you own a yacht, and you will own one.

crackhaus:

Of course you don't.

I have nothing against her but her words do her a great injustice.


Actually, what she now feels about herself is dependent on how a man should treat her - false confidence and self-esteem.


So because she is beautiful, she deserves to be treated like a queen?
Do you not see the narcissism in that?

If she's truly confident in herself, she wouldn't need a 'future husband' to remind her how beautiful she is every night.
Like I said above, false confidence.


Well she said this right?
"You got that 9 to 5 but baby, so do I.
So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies"

That right there is a woman towing the line of strong independent 'working' woman who has a problem coming home to cook for her man, the same man whom she wants reminding her how beautiful she is every night BTW - hence I said she's also quite confused in addition to being a self-absorbed narcissist.

Lol.

Duh

Timbuktou:
my sister, anyone can believe anything, doesn't make it reality. Ok, let's you and me believe we are as rich as Dangote, how's that working out for you? A fat, ugly wench is just that, fat and ugly. No amount of self-believe, positive reinforcement and projection will change that. Ugly is ugly and beautiful is beautiful. Monique can try to project that she's beautiful but if you left a red-blooded male in a room with Monique and Heidi Klum and told him to choose, Monique would know how really beautiful or not she is. Just saying

You're so mean! Lol

Believing in oneself is a good thing, it helps you overcome a lot of things. Even if you are in fact ugly, believing you're not makes you feel beautiful and that's a good thing.

*humming Meghan Trainor' Close your eyes*

crackhaus:

The pipe dreams of a self-absorbed narcissist who believes the world should revolve around her.

Meghan Trainor wants to be cared for like a puppy, and at the same time desires to be seen as a strong independent woman.
Worse than being a narcissist who seems to get a high feeding off any attention that reinforces her vanity, Meghan Trainor is also dumb and quite confused.

If her happiness and complete satisfaction is dependent only these dreams, it's advisable that she remain single.
Unless of course she plans to commit suicide before her twentieth year anniversary...that's if she doesn't go through a divorce before then.

I don't see her that way

She's someone who accepts herself the way she is, if the society won't make her feel good about herself, she will and she does. She believes she's beautiful despite what the society definition of "beautiful" is and she deserves to be treated like a Queen. Considering her environment where being skinny is the main thing, imagine how growing up being the fat kid would have been. She's right to be confident in herself and if that makes her a narcissist, its fine.

I'm not sure she claims to be independent...she likes "boys"

torchwave:
Op, u said you never learnt to cook. Hmm. Then you don't have the map to your future man's heart. Food is the fastest way to a man's heart. Weren't you told?

That aside, your affection and wifely duties towards him, your future husband, are conditional, dependent on specified actions that he must take which, in my opinion, is rather selfish. You never mentioned what you'd do for him just for the love of him. I doubt there is, you know why? Everything you said you'd do for him is only a reward for his actions that please you. In the event he does anything contrary to your expectations or when he wrongs you, it is clear you will not 'reward' him with the unconditional love he deserves as your husband.


Anyway, wish you luck in finding your man.

Thanks, my future husband is not a Nigerian man. He loves me, I love me too.

Tallesty1:
Will you allow him to be leader in every other thing?I was taught to do what I know is good without waiting for anybody to start because that same person could be waiting for me to start.

A good husband or wife do not wait for the other to start, he or she does what is right because they are wired that way.

Only pretenders wait to be treated right first.

Wired? We are wired to do what we like but are required to do what is right. Since women are usually the weak ones, we have to look carefully and make sure he is the type that treats us right.

Tallesty1:
Why He?

Aren't husbands the leaders?

kendrick9:
No.. u tell me

Aint nothing wrong in wanting to be spoilt, doesn't mean I don't have my money. No gold digging bro.

Tallesty1:
You are truly not a perfect wife if you wait for him to treat you right first.

Someone has to do it first - He

kendrick9:
sounds lyk a gold digger

Do you know what "gold digger" means?

Tallesty1:
IF YOU TREAT ME RIGHT i will be the perfect wife




sometimes, treating a woman right brings out the demon in her.

So its best to treat her wrong?

steppin:

Op, wake up abeg.

What happened to "I'll do anything for you"?

Dear future husband, Here's a few things you'll need to know if you wanna be my one and only all my life;

Take me on a date, I deserve it, babe
And don't forget the flowers every anniversary
'Cause if you'll treat me right I'll be the perfect wife
Buying groceries, buying what you need
You got that 9 to 5 but baby, so do I
So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies
I never learned to cook but I can write a hook..
You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Even when I'm acting crazy, tell me everything's alright
If you wanna get that special loving
Tell me I'm beautiful each and every night
After every fight just apologize
And maybe then I'll let you try and rock my body right
Even if I was wrong, you know I'm never wrong
Why disagree?
Make time for me, don't leave me lonely
And know we'll never see your family more than mine
I'll be sleeping on the left side of the bed
Open doors for me and you might get some kisses
Don't have a dirty mind, just be a classy guy
Buy me a ring
Future husband, better love me right.

- Meghan Trainor

OP,

I completely understand you and know how you feel. I'm almost in the same situation as you (religious differences tho) and I know its best to let go. I'm doing that right now and I can assure you it gets better everyday. Be good.

Katdaddy:





That's beauty.