NewStats: 3,263,794 , 8,181,432 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 11:41 PM 5t54i

Honchoslim16:

You reason like a Bedbug!

He is a bedbug

Racoon:

https://www.thecable.ng/security-situation-not-bad-enough-to-warrant-terror-alert-says-nsa/amp

Bunch of corrupt idiots without regard for human life except their own

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, ability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends details, since she has not opened an yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being able, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo tly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor , she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

Sorry bro, this girl is fucking around. All the signs are as good as getting caught red handed.

You need to weigh your circumstance in Nigeria with the promise of the good life but unfaithful wife in the UK. This girl has been cheating on you even from right here in Nigeria. Not be today she start her game. I know her type gooooon

You may want to consider DNA tests for your 3 children

broan20:
Jonathan was simply a FOOL!

A leader who was always pushed around without knowing really what to do.

He was a fool then and he is a fool now. To think he actually wanted to come back for the 2023 election is incredible

etrouble:
Great.

Let them meet Arakunrin Rotimi Akeredolu (SAN) in Court with their senseless lawyers. If they are not bastards, then they should get only Almajari lawyers to represent them and not Southern lawyers. Any Southern lawyer that represents the Almajaris in Court will be seen as a traitor and betrayer and will be treated as such

Buhari has packed our Supreme court full of northern Muslims

He has no respect for people of the south and middle belt. He knows they can do nothing. He has populated the Army with his kin and ensured southerners do not command troops

The sight of a woman like this can kill any erection -even the most stubborn one

My friend was told exact same thing only to find that she actually had 4 children after marriage. Anyway the whole thing lasted no more than 6mths

Magnoliaa:
@Groovedaddy, how easily convenient it is for you to ignore all the points I raised.

Sure thang. Meaning of words in the Bible has been lost in translation, but somehow you insinuated that you know which words means what in some sense.

OK.

Do have a blessed Sunday.

Deductions drawn on a wrong or false premise cannot be right

Jovialjune1:



Lol so there are men that look for husband material in a woman, refreshing and interesting

So therefore, submission doesn't only apply to women then, good to know.

These men are not looking for husband material in a woman it's about economic survival. They want women that will provide for them so they can submit in return

In other words they are prepared to be the woman in the marriage or relationship

Jovialjune1:



Lol ok.

Sorry if that sounds a bit rude

Magnoliaa:


I am guessing you are basing this your opinion on the Bible? So when Paul we should submit one to another, you're basically saying Paul is calling the children of God "witches?" I can also recall Jesus Christ, if my brain did not fail me, telling his disciples that whoever wants to be the first should become last, and anyone hustling for the first position, you know, o fe fi gongon fa oun ti owo o de, he shall be demoted and disgraced faster before you could say Jack Robinson.

If you want to lead, serve.

The above might be an English statement, and if you are just some ordinary person you will think exactly in the order of that statement, but in the spiritual language and in application, the latter will come before the first. A number of people seem to miss that that whole puffing 5-word phrase is hinged on a single-word independent clause - serve. Stop seeking for people to serve you, stop looking for who ti Lord over or who will make you the be all in their lives...

How much of Jesus Christ's preaching and teachings centered on this whole marriage, submission and sexual cohabitation lifestyle?? How much of it did it talk about for this particular part of marriage to be the only one so blown out of proportion and hammered on most of the time?

The unfortunate thing is that the Bible was written or interpreted at time that the English language was still undergoing evolution where one one like submit can mean different things like true submission, respect etc. This has resulted in many varied translations of the scripture. In the circumstances none discerning people are being easily misled.

If you asking the husband to submit to the wife, you are assuming without doubt that the wife is the head of the family and there is no where at anytime in Christiandom that this has accepted. Therefore any argument arising from this deduction is a fallacy and an attempt to ridicule the religion of Christianity

Jovialjune1:



There is a thread yesterday where your fellow men said they can only submit to white women

The guys there were literally drooling spiittle about at the mention of white women

So going by your comment, does it mean white women are witches and not normal because Nigerian men desire to submit to them?

You have to draw a line between a man looking for a wife and a man looking for a husband. The ones you refered to are men looking for husband to submit to.

placeofallure:


Why will you see road and choose to enter bush? Bros you can read na. She never said submit to women. She said you should respect women too. Respect is reciprocal Ogbeni!

I am not a feminist. I don't want any man to submit to me. A man is the head of the family. He deserves submission and respect as the leader. Now, he should not deny me my respect too. We owe each other that. A man doesn't get lesser when he respects his wife rather, it shows strength of character.

True. He has a duty to respect you but you have to submit to his Authority because a ship cannot have two captains

Jovialjune1:



Toh this comment has cancelled your first one oga, submission doesn't matter as long as there is stability in the home abi? Noted.

Ok. You can turn your home into a small volcano because he wouldn't submit to you.

I mean what I say and I say what I mean. How you chose to interpret it is a matter of choice

Ebonygeek:


Submission doesn't necessarily mean a master- slave scenario or forfeiting all your authority. It's about making sacrifices and compromises, and doing what it takes to make your marriage work.

Fortunately I have never dated a woman like that but I often read and hear about them.

While such relationship may work for some men, it doesn't work for others even if it means forfeiting some of your authority like you said.

The most important thing is to understand your spouse to ensure there is stability in the home. Indeed the man has a duty to ensure she is protected and care for. A self centered and selfish man (and there are many among us) isn't worth the name and I don't think any woman should have to put up with them for reason of shortage of marriageable men

Ebonygeek:
You people are always preaching the importance of submitting, respecting, and practically worshiping men as a Nigerian woman.

But when it's time for a man to treat a woman in the same way, y'all start yelling simp. Why should women give respect when y'all can't return the favour?

Only a witch of a woman would desire a man that will submit to her. She is not a normal woman

Islie:
My achievement as EFCC chairman is increasing naira value against dollar: Abdulrasheed Bawa

“From well over N710 to the dollar, following the commission’s intervention, the naira has appreciated significantly against the dollar,” said Mr Bawa.



https://gazettengr.com/my-achievement-as-efcc-chairman-is-increasing-naira-value-against-dollar-abdulrasheed-bawa/

Does the boy understand the issues at all?

Biodun556:


https://www.instagram.com/p/CguLd_ItXQ7/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

If it was in other jurisdictions, Oshomole will be in jail for life for his theft of public funds

Childish mind games (if he doesnt call, I won't call kind of thing)- check
Promiscuity* - check
Hardcore Prostitution**- check
Arrogance and getting fresh (this came later)- check

She did apologize though and I would have forgiven as usual but it came too late and I got tired of policing Pu**y

References:


https://www.gmp.police.uk/news/greater-manchester/news/news/2022/july/former-oldham-doctor-jailed-for-killing-patient/

Isyaka Mamman probably one of those who entered medical school with Quota system

I am shocked Tinubu can actually utter the word corruption in public. Lol

Why are Police so efficient in the East but yet so helpless up north and in Abuja where ethnic cleansing, banditry, kidnapping and all sorts of crimes are taking place

Crypto don caste be that

How can this be true for a man who did nothing but pursue fundamentalist Muslim agenda all through his tenure to the utter embarrassment of moderate Muslims

Dubai is the new destination now for our runs girls. They save money locally to go international

I don't know who will be but I certainly know who will not be. Wike is way too toxic, unrefined for Atiku to make running mate

Wike is a wannabe thug forgetting age already left him behind

In relationship or in marriage, I have one treatment, one solution for an unreasonable partner-I kick her out. This one is unreasonable and is even saving OP the trouble

Nigerialabalaba:

Farida na from police. Abeg go look d law no dey compare apples to oranges abeg. I no get time for useless arguments joor.

Don't feel compelled to issues with those clearly above your pay grade. Look for your mates to argue with. You don't need to respond to every thread, every comment

Nigerialabalaba:
I don't think d efcc law allow service or retired armed forces pesin.Na police dem dey take for efcc.
If na Soldier dem no born Okorocha make e try d home video e do today. E no go hear say soldiers dey outside con dey do yeye instastories and fb live. shiorr

Farida Waziri was brought out of retirement to head EFCC.

No law prevents Marwa from being appointed into that position.

Corruption is killing this country. Institutions and securities are failing. EFCC needs a strong man with a strong voice

Nigeria has a lot of woes but by far the most important is the problem of Corruption. Nothing can work in this country unless a deliberate and purposeful attempt is made to curb corruption.

We do not have a serious drug problem therefore having Bubba Marwa head NDLEA is a complete waste of talent and resource. It didn't take him any lenght of time to Crush the few connected, powerful drug syndicate operating in the country.

Marwa has grit and he has spunk like the Americans will say. He will cut through any red tape and strike fear in the heart of these looters. This country needs someone like him to head EFCC.

EFCC was made to be an independent corruption fighting autonomous body but Abubakar Malami whittled it's power and has turned it more or less into a department in the Ministry of Justice.

Petitions are written, investigations done by the EFCC but the AGF office sits on the case file with nothing done. Can Malami or any AGF sit on Bubba Marwa?

Buhari has made so much mistakes in the 7yrs he has been President. This is the only chance he has to redeem himself before he goes into oblivion.[b][/b]

This Queen Cole septuagenarian has done a damn good job exposing the bad eggs in the trustees business.

But I am a little curious where are the family ? Why are they not speaking out?

Queen Cole said she was a Goddaughter to Bank Anthony. It seems to me she was more than that. I think she was more like a side chick who had privileged information and is intelligent and strong-willed enough to call these hyenas to order.

If she shakes the tree long and hard enough not only she but BA descendants will benefit as well.

There is a lesson involved in this- when chosing a side chick pick one with some brain because when all the sex and the attraction is gone, you might still need her to speak for you even when you are long gone like BA