NewStats: 3,264,792 , 8,184,719 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 11:42 AM 1c1m21

Kobicove:


So because he's the head of the family you want to fold your arms and leave the whole burden to him so you can have time to spend the whole day watching Telemundo abi?

Yes it is his duty to provide 99% even if I was working he still have to provide 99% , me as his helper I can help only help him with 1%. My duty is to stay at home and take care of his children while he is out there hustling hard to provide for me and our children

GboyegaD:


Which law states that. I wonder how men date ladies like you though.

Even myself I wonder how women date irresponsible men like you , didn't you read your bible where it stated the man is the head of a woman?

ahnie:

It's a very lucrative business, that's one of my side hustles.
It gives you some sense of independence monetary,

Yes it is very lucrative for my mum too, thanks to the business my mum is able 2 train my 2 brothers in the university and my daughter to school , she is also feeding me and my irresponsible guy and his children. May she live long to reap the fruit of her labour in Jesus name amen

Owologbo:


Why not open another akara selling place to continue your akara business after moving in with him?

He didn't give me the money to open one

He has spoken well

So sad

Sweetvie:
Lol
You guys need to talk seriously
Atleast he should provide for his own child

Children second daughter and the unborn child

Sweetvie:
No
Am saying instead of the implant.
That's it... Baby are blessings
Just take good care of them

It was my mum fault she choose implant , of course i I will take care of them along with their father by the time I take him to welfare they will deal with well well and he will provide by fire by force

dobnina:
You people should take it easy with Op na. She has made the mistake already. Pls easy on her. She needs a solution not bashing.
The lady you guys are bashing is currently 8months pregnant and she has seen a lot of shege already.
Pls you guys should consider her mental health. She has learnt her lesson already.
Just drop your advise and stop insulting her.
Don't raise her bp, she is in a critical stage.

God bless you sis . The ones insulting me are the irresponsible ones just like him.

Sweetvie:
Hmmm I understand
I get ur point
It good you av plans
I just wanna say... It not until you av millions that you can start something for ur self and kids. Well, God will provide for you.
Yeah, I do know mistake happen but forget implant, there are pills you can take within that 24hr of sex. Anyway, Baby is a blessing

Wish you good luck
Cheers

How can I be taking pills while I was on implant who does that, it is not my fault implant has failed me and I don't regret having my girls because they are my future

NemoDatQuod:
Head of which family? You are boyfriend and girlfriend. You are not married and it is obvious that the guy does not want you and is probably already in another relationship.
Moreover, did you consult him before getting pregnant?
How a woman will open her legs and start dropping babies in that shithole of a country amazes me.

Before you have even one child, you must have a combined family income of at least N10M annually. Just to effectively one child. That is, if you want to give that one child the same competitive advantage his peers have who attend schools where the fees are at least N3M a year. Else, you have condemned your own child to a life of challenging circumstances and you may have most likely given birth to an armed robber and criminal, straight from your own womb.

Why the craze to have children? Why the craze to give birth to criminals and armed robbers just to be called a mother? Married women who live in developed and wealthy countries think thrice before they will birth even one child, because they look at things from the perspective of the unborn child. No child wants to be inferior to others because of the circumstances of his/her birth.

This craziness should stop. Maybe it is time a government regulation is in place to prevent women from giving birth unless they can show that they have the requisite resources to provide effectively for those kids and give them the same opportunities as every other child. No wonder children are killing their parents in greater number, in our generation. My parents would have been in serious jeopardy if they had given birth to me in such a thoughtless, selfish and foolish manner.

You ask if i consult him before getting pregnant ? You are a lowlife irresponsible fool just like him. I am pretty sure your dad abandoned your mum and she had to raise you alone. Thunder strike you wherever you are.

Sweetvie:
Hmm babe
As lady to lady
Shey you know it not fair for that woman bah?
You can't expect her to raise you and still raise ur kids... You made a mistake with the first guys and you still repeat same mistake with the second guy. That woman need rest, you're the one that is suppose to be taking care of her not the other way around. Babe, I don't care if my husband is otedola I'll still work
My own money is different from our money. There's even pride sef in making money for yourself... Forget about he is not doing his responsibility and stand on your own. He will be the one coming back to beg sef, he sees you as a liability and no guy want that especially in this economy. But wait, when you know he is not doing his work why do you allow urself to get pregnant again? See ehn it not abt giving birth it about taking care of them. And you av no source apart from ur mom. Mind you, am not blaming nor condemning... Am just trying to say why do allow same situation to happen twice. Anyway, if you leave him you're going to be on your mom neck again and she will be trying to cater for you guys... That's mother love for you but you seriously need to do something for yourself dear. Like I said try to av a heart to heart conversation with ur husband. For a relationship to work communication is important.

I know it is not fair for my mum but she had no choice but to help me at my lowest point, it is not permanent one day I will pay her back for everything she has done for me and my children. As for the pregnancy it wasn't plan my mum took me to the hospital for jadelle implant still I got pregnant it is not my fault naa

Ayinke93:


lolz. There's something called hunger and it's a punishment for lazy people like you. I only feel bad for the babies that'll suffer the consequences of both you and your husband's irresponsibility. You are an adult, and you don't have the right to demand to be catered for like you are handicapped. Get an abortion, a freaking job and a tubal ligation and stop stressing netizens that did not know when you were having sex.

I have the full right to demand him to cater for me and our children especially in my condition who will hire me in my condition, I think you had so many abortion in the past it has made you barren that's why you are not ashamed to tell me to abort a 8 months pregnancy heartless woman

LuvsBeautifl:


Sorry to hear this. Like someone advised, you aren't actually married. You should leave if you think that's the right thing to do.
Right now, you need to work on yourself. You need to start a business or acquire a skill.
I understand a man is the provider, but as a woman you need to be able to hold your end.
I wish you good luck.

Ok thanks I will leave after I put to bed so he can pay the hospital bill , if I leave now he will not pay for it.

dominique:


You're an adult, you're no longer your mother's responsibility. It's this over dependent nature of yours that is probably pushing this man away from you. It seems you didn't have any plans for yourself going into adulthood, all you wanted was to look for a man to take care of you while you pop out kids. Your plan failed with baby daddy 1, it's looking like it's about to fail with baby daddy 2 also. You need to check yourself. You strike as the type that hardly appreciates the man's efforts and kept demanding for more till he got fed up.

Also why is your older child your mother's responsibility? Where is her father? Why are you not pressuring him to pick up his responsibility like you're doing for this present baby daddy?

I had better plans for my life but lust has destroyed it. Am only 21 it is not over or too late for me to become a better person in the coming years.

Sweetvie:
Why are you waiting for a guy?
Yeah, it's his responsibility but you don't need to wait for a guy before you can eat... I don't know y you get pregnant for him again when he is not doing his work.
Anyway, in a relationship communication matters most

I don't wait for him before eat because if I waited for him before I eat I wouldn't be alive to tell the story , my mum is feeding us but it's not fair because it is not her responsibility, he should man up and take care of his offsprings

Pacesetter2021:
see your mouth. It's easy to advise someone to kill a child who did nothing wrong.

It's selfishness that make people suffer because they always sow in the flesh and reap curruptions.change your ways.

Op,you got it all wrong in the beginning but nothing wrong with turning to God and saying Lord I missed it. Discipline me till I get it right. It will take a lot but at least you will align with His will and He will help you.

Amen

Mindlog:


You are not your mum's responsibility because you are a full blown adult, who have decided to be sexually active and become a mother.

You share responsibility of care with the baby daddy of your first child and it is your responsibility to get him to be involved in providing for the child you share with him. You also share responsibility for the second child and the third, about to be born with their father. Get the welfare service to get the 2 fathers actively involved in their children' lives.

You have to concentrate on repurposing your life, 3 children from 2 fathers who you were never married to and neglectful is not of the best interest of the innocent children.

Marriage should not be in your horizon for now and for some years to come, focus on acquiring skills and opportunities to earn steady income to care for yourself and add to whatever your children' fathers contribute.

Burdening your mother with financial responsibilities that shouldn't be hers, is so very unfair.

I know I am a adult and not her responsibility but I am at the lowest point in my life right now , she must me until I get back on my feet , pregnancy is not a disability I will put to bed soon and will find a job or comtinue selling akara with her . My first child daddy is in prison am waiting for him to be release so I can take him to welfare the same way I am going do for this irresponsable guy am staying with. He must take care of his children by fire by force I cannot kill myself taking care of them alone only for him to comes claiming them when they become very successful in life

ahnie:
It's so I obvious this madam likes suffering.who depends on a man in this generation.

Am not depending on him but it is his responsibility to provide for me and the children even if i starts working he must still have to provide 99% for us. I want him to do his duty because it is not my mum duty to be taking care of his children when he is working I am my mum responsibility but his children are not my mum responsibility

TheboyGhost:
Leave him then!!!

If he has chosen to neglect his responsibilities then let everything blow up and leave him....

But first get a welfare team to help you so he doesn't leave the burden of the children on you alone....

If that happens sweetheart you are fu*ked for life

Ok thanks for my own sanity I have to leave first then I will take the matter to welfare ,my mum will not carry his responsibility he must take care of his 2 children while she will continue taking care of my elder daughter

Mindlog:


What were you doing for a living before you met him?

Get one thing clear, he is not your husband.

I was selling akara with my mum , I know he is not my husband cos he hasn't pay my bride price

eyinjuege:
1.Get an abortion if you're not too far gone
2. Move out of his home to your mum's place
3. Find a job to yourself and your 2 children
4. You can also report their fathers to relevant authorities to get you some financial for the children.

Sadly I am 8 months gone too late for abortion

Victoria938:
What gave u the audacity to get pregnant again for him without being properly married to him, women are the cause of their own problems Aunty carry ur cross

This pregnancy was not planned family planning has failed me

Jashub:
You better get yourself a job and stop being a lazy bìtch waiting for a man's money

He is the Head of the family it's his responsibility to provide for me and our children

He met me with 1 child who is 3 years 10 months we only did introduction ,I have 1 child for him 1 years 5 months and I am pregnant with another one, he is working but he won't provide for me and our children I am tired of begging my mum everyday for foods and money she doesn't have much but she is trying her best to provide for me and my children she is paying for my first daughter school fee which it is not her duty to do so. I am tired of the marriage and I want to leave him please I need advice no insult if you insult me I will insult you back

Congratulations to her

She is a evil soul , divorce her and take custody of your kids

3000 can cook Christmas food for me and my kids

I want to venture into food stuff business to help my children but no capital. God bless you.

Good morning ma. Thank you so so so much I got the 10k credit
Alert ... May God bless and replenish your purse IJN

Jennyfha:

Pls send your number and proof to this email [email protected]

Wow wow ma am speechless . Thank you so much you put my enemies to shame . God bless you and your family will never lack good things IJN