NewStats: 3,264,408 , 8,183,638 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 11:07 PM 75s34

CaveAdullam:


There is nothing much to say here.

Call her.

You don't know what must have happened to her. It can be anything. She is your friend by the way. So I don't see how that robs you of your masculine frame.

Being stoic doesn't mean you should check out emotionally. It means being able to handle your emotions appropriately at all times.

If it rings when you call, and no response, fine. You've done your part.

You can only be friends with a woman from afar.

You can only be friends with a woman from afar.

And it has been said frequently that a man and woman can't be friends. Once proximity is established testosterone hormone will want a bite of oxytocin hormone. Thereby stimulating flesh to meet flesh.

Double problem if that woman first appears in the cloaks of a student.

Man, you're infatuated with her. You can deny it from now till infinity. And there is no big deal about that.

Call her. Tell her you just checking on her. If she returns with a bad energy you cut her off, if she flows with positive vibes you can both move from there.

As a reminder: Guys, never hesitate to make moves with a woman you like. Throw sexual innuendos. Touch her. Play with her. Make fun of her.

Thanks.

Thanks for your insight bro.

I'm just thinking about this now, I can think of all of the girls I've been friends with, is either we are having secs or I'm having repressed secsual desires for them, it's hard to just have a platonic relationship with the females the way I do with my fellow guys.

Smartb0y:

Yeah possibly.

But you know you got oneitis right
Try to limit the interaction from your end to help curb the oneitis a bit.

Let her invest more but don't make it look like you're not trying.

You get the drift.

Unless you want something from her, you should disengage in order to protect your mental state.

,her heart is between her legs. If you truly want to get her hooked and invested ,you gotta do the needful because her emotional state is always in a flux.

This window of her chasing you won't last for too long so capitalize on it while the iron is still hot.

Then, I'll have to disengage because I'm not ready to date now.

Donsheddy:


If you dont have a capital of at least 3000$ you have no reason quiting your job oh...
At least if you're good it can get you a guarantee payout of 150$ monthly....

We've all been here and it didn't end well

bro, 3k$? Whooops

Smartb0y:


Sorry bro,I totally understand how you're feeling.

What she did was a matter of emotional warfare. She got you invested emotionally.

She ghosted you because she wanted to see if you'll take the bait by calling her.

It's a good thing you didn't become possie obsessed.

She'll still you,give it time.

But I reckon not to dwell on her matter.

You've got to kill that oneitis syndrome by getting other girls to distract you (mind you,I didn't say a girl)

Stay sharp
Stay Taliban

Thanks man, thing is I'm busy right now working on something really important so I can't afford to hang out, also it's a new city, I just got to my Whatsapp now and I saw her messages.

could it be an overreaction from my end?

What's up my guyssss.

I was the guy that wanted to quit his job to trade full time, after reading all of you guys submissions, I decided to test the waters first, so I went live this week, I funded around 10$ around 16K Nigerian Naira, my goal as I stated in my first post was to make around 2 to 3k a day trading Gold, and I succeeded.

I grew my to over 31k this week.

I'm I still going to quit my Job? yes, but I'll wait till probably mid of the year.

I'm I overconfident about my skills? No, but I'm pretty confident I can make money consistently in the Gold market.

Do I think FTA rocks? Hell yeah.

here's a screenshot of my P/L bloater.

What's up guys, trust you're doing fine.

There's this lady(27yo, virgin) in my School, I'm a Teacher by the way(23yo), that became very obsessed with me, we once met at a Tech event where I was part of the Speakers, we didn't talk then, till she came to my School for an assignment, she saw me and reintroduced herself to me, I was like 'oh okay, what's up?' you know trying to be friendly, we got talking about stuffs, she told me she wants to learn how to code and if I can help her out, I said Yes, because I have free time on my hands, so she started coming around and I started teaching her the basics, she collected my Mobile Number and chatted me up, at a point she kind of become obsessed with me, she's always the one to chat me up first, calls me and give me chocolate during our lessons and all, bro i started having feelings for her, but I keep them in check and just flow with her.

She then travelled to Abuja at a point and things slowed down, I wasn't invested in her that much so it didn't bother me much, after she came back we continued our lessons and all, mind you, these lessons are more like 30% lessons and 70% gists(Relationships, Sex, Marriage, Life in general), I'm a good conversationalist so I got her to open up to me and all.

Then something happened last week, which is the main reason I'm writing this, she came to my office and I was sent on errand, I told her to wait for me that I'll be back and all, she said she promised she will, I didn't even ask her to swear lols, but when I came back, I found out that she had left already, it hurt me so bad, I was surprised at myself like why I'm I hurt like this because of this little stuffs.

And from that day till today, she haven't call me, I didn't check my Whatsapp either from that day, because I decide to switch my Whatsapp line due to disturbance of other low value people on my list, but the point is, she ghosted me, and she didn't come to work(she's not a Teacher, kind of working with an NGO, so their work isn't obligatory like mine), I didn't call her either because there's no reason to.

Now, the problem is I can't get her out of my mind, I'm a big fan of Stoicism and I've got help from applying some of its concepts in my life, but this time around it's just difficult, my mind will just be wandering towards all the good times we had and the 'Stupid' mental projections I was having in my brain , I'll forever not gonna call her or text her though, but I want to forget about all of that and get back to work, like I was before she came into my life.

Also, I've never kissed or touched her, because I've got some principles I live by and I'm currently working on some stuffs that will put me out in public soon, I'm very careful about my reputation, I've also never spend a dime on her, she's even the one that was begging on buying me stuffs when she came back from Abuja the other time, had to decline the offer.

Is it scarcity mindset? I don't know, but I've never been the one to chase girls right out of secondary school, they always come to me, just that right now, I don't have an active social life and I'm all by myself so I don't have any girls around that I talk to.

What do y'all have to say about this.

I'll tag my favorite posters here: Pansophist, Karlifate, luminouz, smartb0y, reminderz, caveadullam, olamoses75, please I could use some of your help, thanks.

PIPSMARSHALL:


I understand you. The market offers us all freedom. We just have to be wise about it because trading itself is like doing nothing, most times we just dey wait like tiger finding the next trade.

You can be the new gucci teacher riding a Mercedes benz. You need a life outside of trading so you don't transfer the faustration into the market. Being a teacher is not bad if you love impacting ur students.

Forex is our main business but since its majorly online, find something offline doing. So boredom wont affect ur trading.

yeah, I'm mostly done trading by 12noon because I only take one position mostly and call it a day.

I don't like the job to be honest I just had to take it because I want to save some cash, I didn't know it's way harder than I thought.

And for offline business, you need some bookoo bucks for that.

nzechu:

Save more, work while u trade, do u teach 24 hours while at work, u can be working and trading. Gabsonfx2 does that, u can do it.

I don't teach 24/7, I teach Computer Science, so my period is mostly in the afternoon or towards closing.

Working and Trading seems so slow for me, I'll do what I've planned and see how it goes, I'll keep y'all posted though.

PIPSMARSHALL:


Welcome to d.club. Now you can quit the job when u making consistent monthly profits.
PIPS pays our bills.

I'd wait if I'm earning some big money, I won't bother at all, but mann, if you see the distance I cover everyday to reach the school and back, you'd think I'm some refugee.

kellybently:


Currently are you profitable from trading, if yes.
Is your job distracting you from trading.

If you quitting your job make sure you venture into another hustling aside from trading.

Profitable? Yes.

My job isn't distracting me from trading at all since I trade mostly in the morning.

There isn't much hustling going on here though, also I don't think 60K will start anything tangible.

Jashub:
I'll suggest you hold on a bit and gather enough capital to fund your . Using your teaching salary wont be sufficient to stay profitable ...especially when the markets dont move in your favor

I started the Job in Jan, I've saved 30K out of Jan Salary, when they pay us this month probably next week it'll be 60K, I'm planning on opening a Naira not $ though.

Also, I've achieved some consistency paper trading Gold.

I'm just tired of the back breaking work with nothing to show for it.

PIPSMARSHALL:

Be prepared to drink garri.

Drinking Garri is not new to me

I'm quitting my teaching job this month end and I'll put all of my Salary in my exness , I'm better off trading than earning minimum wage and spending more than half of it on Food and Transport.

I'll be aiming at 3-4k a day trading Gold, I'm all in.

obiekunie01:


its good enough.

Thanks

done

pearl1910, I've sent you an email

Pearl1910:

DM on nairaland

Sent, thanks

@Pearl1910 I'm new here, please how can I get in touch with you, thanks