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As in legally married and they only expect the husband to go first even when they are craving for it. Why?

Is it that men from other tribe's do not cheat or they are more discrete with it?

The single ones do not want to be second wife.
The married ones would not accept their husband to take a second wife.
why?

Great God.

These pastors are really telling their followers and all Christians what the religion is about.

#Thinknow.

The law was made in 2011, CAN and other Christian leaders went to court to fight it but lost out. I think the final verdict came last year.

Copied from a great man
*AGONY OF MONOGAMY*

by *Chief Tola Adeniyi,*
A Former MD Of Daily Times.

It was at the Church service for the 90th birthday of the legendary Matriarch of the Awo dynasty Chief Dr Hannah Dideolu Awolowo in Ikenne that the thoughts that prompted this article began.

Some well known highly placed gentlemen and their wives were called upon to partake in the wine sipping, bread breaking ritual called Holy Communion. As soon as these respectable ladies and gentlemen, all of them past age 70, and amongst whom were renowned professors, high court judges, legal luminaries and business moguls, finished their spiritual blessing and were returning to their seats, they caught a pitiable sight in their over-flowing garb of hypocrisy.
They wore forlorn mien plastered with furrowed frowned faces like some one afflicted with putrid smell of heavy dose of fart. They looked as if they were mourning a three-year-old boy mistakenly killed by his own father, or the ing of a poor woman who has just succumbed to excruciatingly painful cancer.
They clung to their wives as if they were newly wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy Church, the spiritual enclave of Christians.

I almost laughed my head off because I knew each of the ‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men intimately and by Jove, I knew of their second, third or fourth wives/liaisons/mistresses with whom they had sired several children.
To the whole world they were champions of monogamy, but to their hearts and conscience they were celebrated polygamists, or at best, serial monogamists. Pshaw!
I saw pain written all over them, the agony of living a lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the shame of going through life pretending to be what you are not.

This is the sort of agony a lot of the so-called monogamists go through all their lives. The series of lies they sell to their wives, and the double life they present to their pastors and church leaders, most of whom are actually equally guilty of hypocrisy and double life living.

This piece is not set out to condemn or criticize monogamy. Monogamy is perfect for those who believe in its concept and can genuinely keep to it. I too have been married to one lovely woman for almost 45 years and it has been like a marriage made in heaven. I happen also to be the promoter along with some friends the 35-year-old Family Club of Nigeria which is dedicated to the upliftment and celebration of marriage and family values.

The article is designed to expose the hypocrisy and pain associated with embracing false notions which are really not observed by any culture in the world, and to advise those who erroneously sentence themselves to a life of sadness and emptiness because they were deceived to believe that there is some utopia somewhere called monogamy.

I am very much aware that this article will generate a lot of controversy most especially from those who live holier-than-thou life and have continued to deceive the world that they are upholders of a doctrine that is not ed by true and enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine. The white men, I am yet to see any human being whose skin colour is like that of chalk, came and told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such lands were rubbish, and instead indoctrinated them with values which they themselves never believed in or truly practiced. We know of King Henry Vlll, and several major historical figures in ‘Christian’Europe who had more than one wife in addition of a string of wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to address as wives but who nonetheless perform all the functions of wife minus name.

God bless President Mitterrand who openly confessed to having two women in his life, with the one in the other house with whom he fathered an 18-year-old daughter at the time he ed on.

I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all the continents of the world and I make bold to say with all emphasis at my disposal that no culture on planet earth truly practices monogamy.
My Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and other Caucasians routinely visit their other wives [called by other names] with whom they have children. But back in the homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are monogamists!

If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous He or She would not have made the pigeon the only monogamous creature. The cultures that practice polygamy had always known that at any given time, the number of available marriageable women far out number available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old man, if he has money, is still very much in the market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not be that lucky. The biological limitation to a woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why should a woman therefore remain on the shelf till age 45 when she could jolly well get married as second or sixth wife to a man who can afford to share life’s responsibilities with her? Why should a woman leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply because he took a second wife and end up being numberless in the hands of several men with whom she naturally shares bed just because of some doctrine she hardly understands?

All the women who should go and marry but are saying they do not want to share their man with another woman in a polygamous setting, are sharing current boyfriends with several other women. Where is the logic?
The argument that children in a polygamous house are always at each other’s throat does not hold water. Many siblings of monogamous families are known to have had worse and irresolvable, irreconcilable squabble, with dirty bitterness over inheritance than children from different mothers.

The agony suffered by both men and women in the hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling for comfort. In 2002, five hundred and two Reverend mothers were reported to have died while procuring abortion in Rome. Nigerian Tribune wrote an editorial on the unfortunate incident. And stories of Reverend fathers having children and sodomising young men in their care are legion! Why the hypocrisy? Why should the world continue to live the life of Ostrich?

A well known Nigerian journalist hid his other wives from his wife because his religion would not permit of it and his wife, living in monogamy should not hear of it. At his funeral, 9 Funeral Service programmes by his 9 wives surfaced and the woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the grace of God that prevented double interment that day!

The Western world which had not learnt the art of living amicably with more than one partner under the same roof has indulged in multiple serial marriages, divorcing innocent wives under flimsy excuses so that another woman can move in should not be measure of standard for the world. Thank God Mrs Hillary Clinton in the US and Mrs Cook in England were very much wiser. They refused to allow some indiscretion on the part of their husbands to ruin their marriages.

There was a well known American actor who ed on about a decade ago and all his 11 ex-wives with their numerous children attended his funeral. To ridicule the lie of their hypocritical existence, all the women were recognized and addressed as wives. As far as records show, the man had 11 wives!

Society must rethink this issue of pretentious monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-too-distant future we do not end up with millions of unmarried women whose life style would be worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.

Its no news that majority of married men date single ladies all over the world, even in the countries with the most dreaded laws against it.

What is most annoying is that these same species are the first to cast a stone against their fellow lady caught in the act.

Many of them are on these forum forming nun abi na mother Theresa.

All of you single ladies dating married men insulting your fellow partners in crime and hiding under a finger better mend your ways.

Change these new year and own up or quit the trade in its entirety.

#stopbeingdeceitful.

check the names of all the twitter handles that made a comment, they are all from SE.

On the internet no lady dates a married man.

But we keep hearing/seeing/reading many tales of single ladies dating married men.

Who is deceiving who?

Can a woman do same for a man.
where are the feminist?

fingers crossed.

Am sure the perpetrators will be caught.
When naija police wish to work, they will definitely work.

hhaa:
Is it advisable for a married women to have extra marital affair? If yes/no,reasons.

In a situation whereby your husband is denying you of sex whenever you are in mood. He only attend to you whenever he's in the mood.

Please don't be personal.

Woman, am a married man and will be sincere with you.

By answering the few question below, you may find solution to your challenge.

* How old is your marriage and how many kids involve - men tends to have less sex when they have the required number of kids he can cater for, you can manage these with family planning.

* what is his financial status now and before - Men thinks more about making more money than making love when married. Check if his having financial problem or struggling with finances and find way to help, he won't think of sex if he has financial issues.
* How sexual appealing are you, how do make advances when you need him - not all men understands signs, you may need to sit on his lap, hug/cuddle him in bed and even speak out by telling him to come have a good fight tonight.
* lastly, for you thinking about having extra marital affairs shows you are already considering if not into it. But be ready to separate from your husband cos he will find out one day. If you have not better for you, do you best to make your marriage work rather than allow you and your kids go through the challenge of a broken home.

@op
By their responces you shall know them.

barket:
Really, this is just my personal opinion.

Have seen many cases where working class wives collect food served them in offices only to take it home to their families as meal for the day.

Not just once, it has become an habit.

To me, i think its not right.

Its either laziness or she is a bad cook.

effisyman: Ladies, u shd realise men are reading these.
You are ignorantly creating hatred and giving wrong advise to wives.

We can make these world a better place if we dwell on more positive things.

You spoke my mind, someones wife may just be thinking something else because of these thread.

Reaping the fruits of their labour.

siddon look

uj_sizzle: At least she was honest, and her reasons are understandable. I think i've read something like that in a book some years ago. But it still doesn't excuse the fact that it is morally unjustified.

i was baffled with her honesty and sincerity.

and she pose for picture.

i go run....

Lumyboi: Diz life ehn! I was tlkin to a lady one day n she told me her bf is a married man. Shocked, I asked her y, she said she prefers married men cos they dnt 'overprotect'. I nw asked ow she wil feel if her husband is sleepin wt a young girl too, she said its nt a big deal n she wnt expect em nt to do so, bt e must knw ow to play his game n not let her knw.
Its so funny ow pple r proud of sm immoral tinz dez days

my broda if you see the lady in qst, so beautiful and soft spoken that if you come across her you will never imagine she indulges is such act.

Mynd_44: Bottomline is that she just wanna have fun and make some change (or not) while doing so. I blame the married men more though, why leave your wife at home to change skirt all over town?

your guess is as good as mine.

hrmkz: Just maybe.

pray it makes fp

I was a guest at a company end of year get-together held in the last weekend of last year.
There i met this lady that came with a man i knew, we got talking and i was shocked to know she actually knew the man she came with was married, and she was fine with it.

So, to satisfy my curiousity i asked her if i could meet one of her friends who will accept my marital status and she said why not.
She then gave reasons why a single lady will accept a married man.

Finance - That a married man will readily give what a single guy would never give his GF.

Maturity - Married men are more mature and know how to pamper young single ladies having learnt from being married.

Sexual Freedom - She claimed single ladies have freedom to explore sexually, that every lady who has tasted sex crave for it but are restricted due to use and dump syndrome and failed promises from single guys.

So, i asked about when will the single girl now get married and her responce was, things will fall in place with time but before then she has to survive.

hmmm....

Don't go near Hybrid...

later, someone will say Igbo marriage is expensive and the reason why the men cannot marry more wife like other tribe.
Abi, igbo amn wey never get better money.


Besides, shebi polygamy is not for christians? shioor...

video or it never happened.

wateva