NewStats: 3,259,843 , 8,170,957 topics. Date: Monday, 26 May 2025 at 06:03 AM 372w1z

stanliwise:

REDPILL DOESN'T MEAN A SINGLE THING BRO

Then u are new to nairaland

wirinet:

So sex is a measure of discipline? Is it a measure of discipline only in the pre-virgin years or throughout your lifetime
Discipline in what exactly? Sexual issues only or also in other spheres of life like career, marriage, goals, etc.

Which doctor recommends absteinance? Maybe academic doctors (in theology ), but definitely not medical doctors. Medical doctors recommend a healthy sex life for good psychological anf physiological health. At worst doctors recommend use of condoms, birth control and single sex partners to reduce sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.



If you want to be celebrate or abstain from sex, that's your own business. You have no right to poke your nose into other people's sex lives.

It hard to dialogue with people like u....first u make assumption and build up on the on it.... I never said sex is a measure of discipline, that’s a very general statement...I only asked u are u if you are invalidating the place of discipline when it comes to sex..?? And u never responded..

Two, medical doctors preach absteinance as the best solution to avoiding stds and also add that if you can’t abstain till marriage, which is where people are expected to be faithful....,use protection...so again, I don’t get your point here.

Finally.... u sound like u are angry or have authority issues...How did poke into people’s sex lives?? Or did I poke into urs?? Again I don’t get u... u seem to be good at making assumption...

maisams01:
so what's your point?
You guys are making it seems all virgins have bad characters while the non virgins have good characters

This should not surprise you...??when we have like 1 virgin out of 10,000 girls..the non-virgins that have thrown theirs away over a indomie, asùn, pepper soup and Smirnoff naturally beef the virgins..
.the guys too hate the virgins becos they just believe they are arrogant and forming since they won’t allow them chop and clean mouth..

.can’t U see the thread is full of people trying to make being a Virgin look like a crime.....

iamyemiakins:


Rahama is no stranger to such controversy

Her cup of tea anyways....she can face her Muslim brother’s and sisters

iamyemiakins:


Ontop wetin?

Hypocrites everywhere

She’s a Muslim naaa.... she’s knows it’s not allowed in their religion....

Babe is looking for who will behead her... I pity her

adesoro80595:
I'd rather raise pets than have such a son.

MrTAnonymous:


Nobody is saying you shouldn't fuckkk as many girls as you want but never let the love of pusssyy make a woman manipulate you into doing something that you don't want. Shikena.


Incase you don't know na me talk

The guy doesn’t even know what red pill mean..

alexisbaby:


No when a man or woman abhors sexual sin until marriage it is in keeping to God's principle. I don't think it's any gift to any spouse.

#absteinance is not a religious matter only, don’t make it look like that.... doctors preach it, many culture before religion came uphold it...

Some women become desolate much later in their marriage when their husband starts committing adultery, you will hear them lamenting how they where virgins until the wedding night, I find such women amusing at their ignorance.....

# this ur point is funny... so if a woman has like 10-20 body counts, she won’t feel desolate when her husband cheats?? Men cheat, it’s has nothing to do with marrying a virgin or non-virgin
it has to do with discipline...

Keeping ones body pure is a call to both young men and women not only women, fornication is a sin and God did not give any one a free on sexual sin.....

# yes.. u are correct from a religious angle...but this thread is simply asking men what kind women they want....no one is saying it’s okay for men to have a community pen!s

Please enough of all this nonsense that the best thing that can happen to any woman is marriage, the best thing that can happen to any body on this earth be it a man or woman is having a relationship with Christ.

# “marriage is the best thing that can happen to woman” is an old saying back when women don’t have a life and all they are waiting in their father’s house is for a man to give them everything through marriage...example, regina daniels...as old as that saying is....some lazy and good digging women still make that fallacious statement valid till today...

A marriage can only be termed a good one when both parties involved put in their 100% to make it work. When a man is busy roaming around committing adultery it is a failed marriage, that his wife is still living with him does not make it a successful one, that his wife is stupidly condoning it doesn't mean that God has condoned it. If that man does not repent he will definitely find himself in hell after death.

# ok....I guess u are right here

All together, it’s hard to truly know somebody... people can be pretending... u could meet a man that’s a wife beater and u won’t know...a man can meet slut or prost!tute and he won’t know...so life is a risk....going to marriage is a risk too.
when men say they want virgins, it’s not about breaking hymen...men belive it takes discipline to be a Virgin in today’s world. discipline is rare quality...a person that can be sexually disciplined may likely be disciplined in many other areas of life.....for men... choosing a Virgin is a calculated risk...

Greatzeus:

This is how bitter a lady always sounds when virginity topics comes up and she re she lost hers over indomie and a bottle of coke. You will always live with that memory if you like write an epistle to paint all virgins as evil, mannerless and with evil character.

You are wicked...lol...
you are a natural Nigerian politician....

unmask:
definitely a non virgin....

Because??

unmask:
lol....and what is spreading legs any how.....the emphasis we put on sex.
Sex is for procreation and pleasure

And as difficult as it may sound, some people actually enjoy having sex for the pleasure they get

What’s your point exactly..??

Yes, sex is meant for procreation and pleasure...
Are u trying to invalidate the role of discipline because I hear doctors preach absteinance all the time

U ended up saying something “ having sex for pleasure may sound difficult” may sound difficult, I don’t get how that sounds difficult to you...

So once again, i get ur English.. but I don’t really get your point...

JastSiryin:


First off, no one is forcing you to be happy with that sort of thing, and i mean NO ONE. It's your choice. My main grouse is with insisting that there's something wrong with people who'd think and act otherwise.

Like u said no one is forcing anyone to be happy if his girl has slept with tons of men, equally no one said there’s something wrong with people who think otherwise either... I don’t know how u arrived at this notion..

But if this were the case, I strongly believe promiscuous men should be looked at in that regard if not, that's a severe double standard.

[b]Now, promiscuity is not exclusive to women. No one wants a promiscuous partner....doctors preach against it, many cultures are against it, and yes religion has its own say too... that’s becos religion is all about discipline.... it isn't just about sex...smoking, alcohol, love of money.. etc...u hear abstainance from doctors all the time, but when u hear it from religious people, it becomes a problem...
Still on double standards, now when virginity is being discussed, I agree the load is naturally on the female side....but the truth is, it’s not a double standard, it’s simply nature’s design... men and women are not the same..I cannot over emphasize this fact...
I tell my little niece that’s just clocked 14 this year ....you are not the same with a man, you should be more responsible, men only think of cumming, we never think about getting pregnant, and that’s becos we are not biologically designed to experience such process.
Men don’t commit abortion, there’s no anatomical difference between a non-virgin male and a virgin male...nature is based against women when it comes to sex...it’s not a double standard issue...the earlier we tell our girls this, the better...The other day, a man snapped a picture with his 6 packs, and a lady came to comment that it’s double standard since we castigate women for opening their boobs .... this is irrational ...and stupid...nature is rigged against women naturally, but if any women thinks it’s double standard, it’s a free world.. she can go ahead and take off her top and also sleep with several men[/b]..


With that being said, I'd like to show you a counter argument that may likely point to Religion as the culprit, other than Porn and Hollywood.

Here we go again with blaming religion for our problems.... now let me share a fact with u that’s staring us in the face but we don’t know..the entertainment/ movie industry is a tool of social engineering....Anything that is to be infused into the world is ed through media. It makes things settle with us so when we see it real life we get used to it... if u don’t belive keep blaming religion for why the world simply want to just fvck irresponsibly....the other day there was a news about a guy who assaulted his friend for not exchanging the girl they were have an orgy with.. since when is to cool to have an orgy...for two women to fvck one man at the same time, or Vice Vera, since when did it become cool for 14 year 14-15 year olds to have random sex... since holly wood made it cool for girls to loose their virginity on prom night..... but hey, religion is there.. let’s blame religion..



Let's live and let live abeg

No one is stopping you from living, it’s you promiscuity apologist that always tackle people when they say they prefer a virgin... u start to make it look like it’s becos of religion....which was why I told u..leave religion aside,ain’t nothing cool about high body counts and several abortions...its one of the reasons people have impaired judgement in their marriage..

We don’t have a problem with it if your choice is a lady with 10-15 body counts and several abortaions to match.....U are the one that should let us live with our choice ....

Agritech:
Being a virgin lady in this present world shows there is a high probability the lady has other good attributes like :
1. The lady most likely has self control, the urge is there, but controlling sexual urge isn't easy. It is very easy for a lady to have s_x.

2. She is most likely not gullible. guys would try to convince her, non virgins girls would try to convince her, and she still didn't listen. Fews ladies are like that.

3. She is most likely not greedy. Money opens many girls legs.

4. She is most likely a careful person as she must have been avoiding places where there is highly likelihood that her viginity would be forcefully taken.

5. She is more likely to be God fearing. Keeping virginity is very dificulty, the fear of God is most likely what is making her do it.

That is not to say a nonvirgin can't have these attributes, but if you have 10 virgin girls and 10 nonvirgin girls, and you randomly sellect one girl each from the two groups, the girl sellected from the virgin group is most likely to be a better person.

U will not die young jarè......

plessis:

Virginity is my first criteria for marriage.
I have met a few virgins and I'm studying them to know their true characters.

The bible warned against marrying a harlot. The issue is, how do you know if a woman is a harlot or not? You don't. So I refuse to play a game that is rigged against me.

I'd rather not get married than marry a non-virgin who's most likely a refurbished LovePeddler.

A “game rigged against me” got me laughing hard

Eryckah:
For some people, watching porn stimulates them and puts them more in the mood for intercourse. Pls drop your comments and opinions about christian couples watching pornography. No insults pls, everyone is here to learn

Leave religion first...Why would two normal human being need the visual memory of other naked people to stimulate themselves...Sex is two people enjoying each other, if possible loving each other... it’s about being excited and explorinng one another’s body......it’s becoming a weird scenario if you need to be seeing the d!ck and boobs of other people....that’s Rewiring your mind...and creating unhealthy standard ... your partner’s body should be enough excitement and stimulation..otherwise that’s how looking for more dey start which leads to adultery...


Considering religion: porn actors are committing sexual immorality....I don’t think Christians should be entertaining themselves, or getting pleasure from other people committing sin..

Lalasticlala....you need to come and see sumthing...

JastSiryin:
If there's anything I've learnt so far from all the discussions about virginity and so on... Is that people would do anything to feel good about themselves or justify their actions. And this is mostly the case with or without a Law Giver(Religion or God).

Most people validate their actions through other people's guilt and misfortune, not because they want to please God.

I don't understand why what people choose to do or not do with their sexually organs is such a big issue. It's not like it's ever mentioned amongst the credentials of great men and women. E.g "Margaret Thatcher was a great leader who did so and so... She also didn't get some dick until she got married" WTF

Wait.....let’s be real.... for once, let’s forget the picture Hollywood and pornn has fed this generation with, including religion or whateva...

Am I supposed to be happy the woman I’m going to marry has been drilled by 10 other men with a couple of abortions to match....??
There’s nothing nice about it....so I don’t get why you people try to paint the picture that there’s nothing wrong with not having bodily discipline.

That picture is a hollywood script...walk into a bar or club ... have sex with random strangers spontaneously ( have u noticed Hollywood acts movies like condoms don’t exist, arbortion don’t exist, like sex is always magical and everything is cool after wards)

over the years people have just come to overlook these things...largely becos u can’t even get 1 virgin out of 100 girls anymore... so the available has become the desired.....that doesn’t mean we should now make chastity an old school thing.

Sex is not food...this our generation treats sex like they need it for breathing...

anochuko01:


Have you seen a hoe that is humble
Hoes are usually arrogant and proud, especially when they meet with the people who are below their customers class.
if you tell me of a virgin that has the other fruit of the spirit, sweet! but i would always take a girl who is generally good in character than a saucy girl who carries the status of a vrigin.

Its like taking a virgin man thats a wife beater over a non-virgin but calm and caring husband

Is this comment in response to my post?? I don’t think so

MRKLA123:
What keeps the virginity of a lady is a good character (moral), so there is nothing like mannerless virgin.

Simple

atoleybaba:
one sex takes Ur virginity away. people make mistake. imagine a good girl that followed bad friend to a party and lost her virginity. when she got home and became sober, she realised her mistake and regretted it for life and never did it again till marriage. did she marry has a virgin? NO. now imagine a righteous girl that doesn't go to party and doesn't hang out with boys(not because she doesn't want to but because her parents are over strict and check her hymen every month) but DX girl gives her male neighbour BJ ones a while and any fetish thing u can think of. she is always raw and to crown it up, she is rude, uncultured, disrespectful and doesn't know how to be submissive. which will you prefer, d virgin or the non virgin

U people like painting funny and weird scenarios to drive home ur point.

...the scenario the Op is painting too is hypothetical because it is almost impossible to see a lady discipline enough to not let men ravage her body and not have a balance of other good character....

Note: I never said girls that spread their legs every where don’t have good character... but going for a Virgin is a calculated risk....

PitexyBaba:
Can we call a lady that have sex through her anus but not pussy a virgin??
I'm confused...

I stand character though and if virgin is being added, who am I to reject?

U think a lady wild enough to take pen!s in the asss will not have taken it In the vag!na.....u people like painting funny scenarios

anochuko01:

i think i just quoted your other message with an answer to this.

so many people engages in all other sexual act asides penetration just so they could maintain the status of a "virgin"... whats the point??

also, virginity status would end one day, but character continues to define you till you die.

A Virgin is a Virgin..... not someone that has pressed, penetrated in the asss.... and all sort except the vag!na.....

See..it is almost impossible to find a woman discipline enough not to let men ravage her body with several abortions to match....and not have a good balance of other good characters...,.

U are trying to paint a hypothetical situation of a nasty virgin woman vs a hoe that is kind and humble with all the nice character in the world..,
The world hardly ever works this way...

anochuko01:


character embodies so many things, and "not spreading leg" is a minute fraction of it.

It takes lot of discipline not to spread legs anyhow...discipline is hard, discipline is not minute....

U don’t get it..... not spreading legs anyhow is good character

Desmond Elliot, come nd see Aboki from Kano better than you....,.


It’s not so hard to say the truth, once u have a conscience

Ykc2:
So you think you will just pack ur family and relocate?if is easy you wont meet anybody again in naija

Mysticwebb:

Access to hospital granted, but access to morgue where the real investigation is required denied.
Yet, supposed human beings still claimed nobody was killed.
What then is the military hiding?

Mayb they are hiding bubu.

Righteousness89:
Why can't We Forgive someone!
The young man has Begged!
The young Man has Cried!
The young man has Apologized!
Let's learn to Inculcate the virtue of Forgiveness..

If JESUS Should Do us all like this, Na Who go Make Heaven?

Don’t be naive....how can u take the crying of an actor serious.....

Mrscarter:


Wow. How can U do that to anyone when they're going thru loss n grief at that!
I couldn't be so heartless. I would let them keep it all if was me n my brother. So a man's family only matters when he's alive?

It’s their tradition....the woman ddnt have boys to make matters worse........they don’t even allow their own women inherit her father’s property late alone a Yoruba wife wey no born Ronaldo..

sylve11:


As A traveler and a dweller, all my life, i haven't seen anywhere where this stuff is so prevalent if not the Eastern part of this country. I always believe they have their reasons so i will not talk ill of them. I will not talk ill of any tribe..

The reason is simple and stupid at the same time though....it’s to keep the wealth in the family.

.... the widow will marry another man, that’s how the wealth eventually walks into another man’s hands
.. that’s the same reason they don’t allow their female inherit too, because she’ll eventually marry and change name...

Midas01:
That's disgusting...women who drink it are just stupid. Gosh !!!!

If you don’t , that’s an indication you are the one who killed your husband...double wahala!!!