NewStats: 3,263,805 , 8,181,451 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 June 2025 at 12:57 AM 2l4j2w

Agbegbaorogboye:
How many of them are 4% projects

whether 4% or 0.0004%, what matters is if it impacts people. The 4% argument may make sense, if the 30km road is not going to serve people until everything is completed. In actual fact, someone else might decide in the future to extend the 750km road to 1500km and connect from Calabar to the core North.

The road is now put to use. If a road that will take you 20 mins drive at continous 100km/hr speed is giving you so much sadness, then check yourself. Imagine the development that will be fast tracked along the communities by virtue of the road. Can you?

Just looking for everything but nothing to convince yourself Tinubu is rejected....🤭🤭🤭

Can you even identify the Abdullah if lined up amongst 5 men.

RandomFellow:
Same strategy. I laugh when these guys don't know who they are fighting.

The people you are fighting with are not your regular ragtag armies. They have seasoned Generals and Commanders among their leaders. They know about strategies, military strategies.

The army have been loosing battles to them because those guys are more strategic! They know you and your weapons, do you know them? They are ready and willing to eliminate you and your people...are you ready to eliminate them? Get smart; only then can you compete against them!!!

it is not all this you are spewing, it is because it is guerilla warfare, which is go to a village and start killing soft targets at sporadic interval. Those suckeeeers pick a village and starts killing anything in site, and run back in to s "safe zone' possibly another neighboring state. it is a ploy to chase them out of their ancestral land. what makes the bloood suckiiing demons more strategic?

The way girls/ladies/women now sexualise themselves is now alarming. Very tacky and annoying.

They think they are getting attention, which is true.

Were dun wo ko se bi lomo. ( It is convenient to observe the display of a mad person, but no one prays that is their child) .

There is an unending supply of nudity and i noticed ladies struggle so hard with setting limits once they enjoy an attention.

I agree with the OP when it comes to southern governors who tends to get more mainstream press coverage than their northern counterparts.

I was wondering recently, how come a southern governor rarely gets talked about, at least his predecessor was known for his ridiculous budget christening and white elephant projects

Why does the front page comments look phony? It is toi smooth and appears like paid actor comments or the same individual with multiple id commenting

mrvitalis:

Have you taken any poll to determine that?
What exactly should the coalition have done that they haven't done

APC is just scared they don't know the next move of the coalition... They don't know the party they want to use.. The configuration of the candidates

APC is scared ke, more like it is observing while stacking its armoury with more opposition decamping to it. It is about 20 months to election, and sadly for the coalition there are at least 2 strong candidates that cant concede for the other. Obi knows he will get in to political oblivion if he accepts a VP slot. Atiku cant take a vp slot. Obi has come out to publicly say he will context under labour party in 2027 indicating he knows the futility in the coalition. The closest chance
Is if they agree to conduct a primary and whoever wins they all .

In all of these, APC is the party to beat, this time it is not only the incumbent party, it has an incumbent president candidate with a master political strategist hat. It is a done deal btw. Heavy sickness or death are the only 2 candidates that can stop Tinubu in 2027.

I maintain that Government should sell all the refineries , it is not worth running.

Greatmec:


My dear, at almost 50 years you think I have time for kids plays.

Our people says that when other people's corpse is carried across the street it looks like firewood to you until the corpse is your family member then you feel it deeply.

You insinuated that am not a man in my house - I guess you are the kid here without life experience.

Over the years there is no style I have not used to make our sex life to become great. I have taken all the good gentle man advises, I have also taken strict measures, I have disciplined, I have applied sanctions, all to no avail.

I also came to realize that the move that hardly succeeds is force or too much manning up. Why? When I decree things or force it, most times she ends up complying, but you won't like the outcome. Have you ever tried to romance a dead wood? Ever tried kissing someone who allows you but can't kiss back? Ever tried making love to someone who refuses to participate at all but has submitted her body to you to do as you like?

If it's a new girl you might not .mind and just go on to do your do. But when it is your wife my dear you won't find it funny. It's like taking a horse to the stream and trying to force it to drink.

I'm one of those guys that girls love and fall for naturally. So her attitude messes up with my head. I am incapable of raping someone simply because once a lady manifests her unwillingness or resistance for the sex act with me, my manhood falls, I can't proceed. I only make love when it is mutual. So when I use man of the house tactics on my wife, believe me the result is never good. Reason why I do everything to get proper consent.

I use "almost 20 years of marriage" and "almost 50 years old" Just so that someone who knows me very well won't just fall on this post and be 100% sure that's it's me. But even these are very true. 46 to 49 is almost 50. 16 to 19 is almost 20.

I am able to write everything here because it's sort of a faceless forum. If not you and I know that I couldn't be able to open up this much.

Toh. By your explanation, it is not spiritual. Her attitude is what switched you off. The bigger issue is communication in my estimation. I have heard women not wanting sex, but a woman continually turned off by the touch of her man that she loves need help. Maybe seek a TRAINED counselor, most likely not pastor oooo. Hope she consents to you both seeing one.

Terrible politician. Knowing fully well that Wike installed majority of the house and they were / are loyal to him. He needed to win over half of them before attempting a revolt. He had only 4 by his side and started a foolish fight. There was nothing Wike could have done if at least 50% of the house was with the Fubara guy, at least first term would be won and finished Obaseki had a similar template but he had about 60-70% of the house of assembly behind him and even failed to let the others sit for about 3yrs.

It is a fight of thief vs thief.

Greatmec:


My wife is a very very responsible woman. I can leave her and travel for 2 straight years and never be perturbed about her cheating on me. She has never given me any reason to even imagine that she is capable of such. Ironically that faithfulness is actually what ultimately lured me into this incompatible union.

As for your other suggestions:
Hmm my wife hates anything stress and I guess she almost sees sex as stress. So she would prefer we get on with the "do" instead of 'wasting time' on romance.

So our typical love making has zero romance, zero kissing, zero spicing. Just get your erection and get on with the act. Oh there must be Vaseline or lubricant else no show. In these 20 years together I can't making love with her once without lubricant. No moaning, never. Most ladies I have made love with I am always aware at least when 8 out of 10 of them reach orgasm on a regular basis. But in these 20 years I can't being aware if my wife has ever reached orgasm once. She can't handle my microphone, she doesn't know how to do such things and don't wanna learn either.

However in spite of her colorless attitude towards sex I have always been super attracted to my wife and once we are doing the do I actually enjoy my wife so very much. All she needs do is agree for us to do the do and automatically I will get a great erection that will last us for 30 to 45 minutes one round duration. That is why I can't understand how all of a sudden - 8 years ago this nightmare started - I can't get an erection for my wife again no matter how I try. Even if I force it inside slightly erect or semi erect it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds and instantly dies.

It's very possible though that her frigidity might have affected me. To what extent I wouldn't know ...

i think you are catching cruise or you are not a man in your home. So you have a sex problem and in an attempt to get a fix that may help, your wife wont even allow romance because it is "stress". Stop
playing bro, you either have an enemy in the home or you both are living a lie. The issue you have in your marriage is not romance or sex, it is deeper than that

I suspect this is one of the tales by moonlight from the round 20 years you mentioned you have been married.

sisisioge:
Hmmmmm

*She doesn't like sexx
*You force her to do the do
*You don't get election with her except with enhancement but you're perfectly ok with others.
*You found one enhancer but you had to work with her timetable to use it.
*You read her the riot act about sex availability and suddenly after she had a talk with you regarding sustainable solution, the drug that has been working stopped working
*Now you are back to nothing working again.....hmm


Oga, I hope you've not been spending money on finding solutions....cos madam knows the solution o. Meanwhile, as you knew from start that she doesn't like sexxx, biko no stress her fa. As for your needs.....

It amazes me how men call women fish brain when they are.....

@ op, if it is truely spiritual, listen to this op.

I am not always in a hurry to jump to spiritual issues, but it may truely be spiritual.

There are too many concerns about a woman whose husband has barely slept with her for 8 years, even if menopausal,, but not worried for the husband. It has all the signs of self centeredness. She needs to be at the clinic seeking help and has not shown she truly love you or does not understand how love works.

If spiritual , my theory is that when op was not around for 2 years,, she felt at peace and desperate to keep the "peace" took some steps.

I will recommend they start with romance, thathas failed from the op's , and makes me wonder how sexual attraction can even last long for couples in the neigbourhood of 50 's year by my estimation. It is not unusual for a drop in sexual attraction between couple of 20 years, but to not able to even bring yourself to touch one another suggest deep seated issues. Start from romancing for now, it may not be spiritual.

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

May be try masturbating when she is beside you and see if you have an erection. Have you been to the clinic? what if her "frigidity" also affected you. Sex starts from the mind, it is more intense as a mind thing for some men. Have her naked for at least 3 consecutive days with no intention of having sex but just to romance her, while doing this imagine how loving a wife she is, just only the great things she may have done for you.

While away, did you nurse the idea she may be cheating on you? That may also have messed up your mind.

Dpsychologist:
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.

“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri? 🤨

Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.


🧠 The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real

Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.

They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”

It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.


📌 Presence ≠ Participation

There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.

Ask yourself:

Did she contribute to your hustle?

Did she with money, ideas, motivation?

Or did she just sit there… waiting?


Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.


💭 Real Loyalty is Silent

The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.

Loyalty is:

Showing up consistently.

Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).

Praying, planning, building with you.


But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as .


⚠️ Men, Stop Rewarding ive Loyalty

Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.

Let’s break it down clearly:

If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, ed, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence 😐


💬 Final Thoughts

Let this sink in:

🧾 Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.

So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:

“Did you buy am for me?”

Because sitting on the sideline doesn't make you a teammate.

What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder. 🧠🔥

haha. Possibly even cheating and keeping a side nigga in the name of " i was with him"

All the fraudulent yahoo yahoo and family are out baring their fangs and claiming whataboutism.

Before any oyinbo will ask about a Nigerian politician, they have heard the proverbial "Nigerian prince" a thousand times you sons and daughters of perdition.

Yaya Bello is a big thief, but yahoo yahoos are criminals of international proportion plying the disgrace of Nigeria in a Pan continent way

NigerianAngelo:


How old is Singapore?

Singapore? Remind me the population of that country. It is not even as populated as Akwa Ibom. Are you also ready for a full fledged dictator, a smart one like Lee kuan Yew. I said it earlier on such dictators tend to bring fast change. Although Singapore is a tiny country and a wrong country to try to compare Nigeria with.

she wants to go back? She said he is a good man. I doubt he is a good man if he got someone pregnant while dating you and dumped you to marry her.

"we discovered". This girl wants the guy back, only God knows what she misses in a seeming dysfunctional man.

dettolgel:


Tell me how believing that we can provide the basic things we need and not necessarily at the level provided by the western country a contradictions that warrants your defence?

Secondly, are you saying with the amount we are generating we can't afford to clear our streets of refuse dump?

That we can't afford to provide a decent public school and that we cant afford a decent healthcare system?

Are you telling me that majority of our public funds that are being stolen if put into its intended use that we won't have at a decent country?

I observed that you guys don't read to understand but to attack anything that seems like a political text. What you failed to understand is that I am not only referring to funds being stolen in this istration but since the existence of Nigeria. Development is like a step you build on it over time. With what we have generated since 1960 till date should at least have the basic necessity of life not necessarily European or US standards. But every household should be able to have flushing toilet, our waste management system should be functional so is our public schools and hospitals. Whether we have speed train, space ship or the best military is not necessarily required.

what defence ? I speak reality and not theory solution to our problem. Nigerias growth will be gradual, may be annoyingly slow and steady. If you want fast , maybe a smart benevolent dictator. The issues are multidimensional. If i indulge you with waste management, you will agree that challenges with WM varies across states and more prominent in highly populated states, Lagos is a good case study. How many Lagosians even pay approved waste managers to dispose waste? How many have designated waste thrash can? How many do not throw refuse out of their car or public vehicles? The people who contribute to the problem in no small ways ironically the cheap complain bandwagon. I see someone write here of some good old days, it is mostly nostalgic imagination or tales you were informed. Lagos was ranked dirtiest capital city in the world in 1973, go figure.

Baxilexi:


This is non sequitur friend.

The person who charts the way takes a longer time than the person who follows the way. Everything in life follows this principle. Once a hypothesis becomes theory, it can be replicated.

Nigeria has no excuse not to be doing better than its present quagmire. Where we are was where many countries where years back and today, many have taken a bullet train to catch up with their contemporaries, ex India.

We can choose to wallow in our misery or become intentional about creating a new Nigeria, and put an end to recycling of impotent politicians.

i have no doubt that we can be better, however i dislike those who travel and starts whining about how Nigeria should be like US. I am also a diasporan and believe Nigeria will get there . Nigeroa has nothing to benefit from Nigerians who whine all day and begin to talk down on the country that raised them just because they crossed the sea. Its growth has to be deliberate and collective. A boy who eats the rice of the neighbor and begins to castigate his mother thinks he has the full picture.

dettolgel:


Rwanda is not like the US or UK but have a semblance of a government that cares for the masses. Our infrastructures don't have to be in the same level as theirs but some basic needs should be provided for.

For instance, every household should have access to good plumbing system eg functional bathrooms and toilets. Secondly, waste disposal shouldn't be an issue at least in this present day. Thirdly, our schools should be well funded and regulated. Not the disparity that exists between public schools in the villages, where there are neither teachers nor chairs for students, and the public schools in the cities that are barely getting bye. Juxtaposition it with good private schools and you will understand the failure of the system.

Furthermore, our hospitals do not have to be as massive as Johns Hopkins and the likes but we should be able to get good health care and treat with respect both the patients and healthcare providers. I doubt if in of structures if Cuba can match the US but their healthcare system is open to be emulated. There are big hospitals in the Netherlands but not in the same league as the ones in the US yet healthcare services in the Netherlands is world class.

I can go on and on in every sectors. The idea is to use what we can afford efficiently not pissing it away through embezzlement.

Rwanda a one city country that was forced via brutal dictatorship in the name of Kigali that at best you only visited and stayed for 2 weeks. I likened that country to a 2 bedroom flat households owners try so hard to facelift the living room, but the kitchen and 2 bedrooms paint a different picture.

While Nigeria is gradually improving her budget to make clearly noticeably impact aside the looting by politicians and civil servants, its budget is abysmal low to get most things needed done and even maintain it. We are always quick to compare with countries with over 20 times budget per capita.

How old is Nigeria?


Just 70years ago, many states barely had 10% literacy rate, half of the population were almost naked and living like early man, but we suddenly think Nigeria should be US when we travel to US. We fail to see our role in the "failings" of Nigeria. There is no magic bullet, we will grow slowly and steadily at least in the next 15 years.

Zico5:
2027 is going to be brutal. It's going to be battle between APC and the masses. Let Tinubu continue to rule anyway he like. No condition is permanent and that's what he fails to understand. Everyone knows all this nonsense is an act to silent the opposition but he is playing to the gallery. He is not bigger than the masses.

all these empty threats because people are asked to do the right thing He is winning sha. Dont have HBP o.

hisexcellency34:
FCT Minister, Nyesom Wike looking fit, muscular and macho. Nice one sir.

There is nothing fit in "pot belly". I assume this is a distorted picture, however Wike's recent pictures shows he is currently looking more fit than he was many years ago.

To all those who think a man is healthy when he is rotund, obese and fat in the cheeks, it is Nigerias media showing unhealthy politicians and rich men that created that false image on your head.

Justnation:







When you were clapping for zelensky to destroy his nation you never knew the consequences.

Don't blame the great Donald J Trump for your stupidity.
You take Russia for a joke

oh yes, i clapping in year 2099 for Zelensky invading Ukraine in a war as a russian spy.

Trump will end the war in the first few days he said @ campaign. Oops, it is 5months already.

Lanretoye:
The only news that give some people joy is when they read Lagos is smelling.funny thing is that they are so quick to key into and take advantage of opportunities in Lagos,they will still come back and tell you that jakande made Lagos the fastest growing tech city

Jakande and Ambode .....lol

Nahunger:


We understand cause and effect!!!

But Nigeria is bereft of economic laws, we all know the oil licence has already being shared to cronies..



How is it possible Nigerian government can't build a bigger and functional refinery than that of Dangote do the maths...

Nothing will change, it's just a circus trip.

Even if we produce 50 million barrels per day, nothing will change.

The poor leaders of before are were even better in of welfare and investment than the present crop of luuters 😁😁😁🤗

Talk is cheap. Mention the licences that have been shared to cronies in ogoni land. I guess it is the same easy loose talk . Nigerians are all a reflection of the leaders. Although some are worse than the other. In 2016 at the height of low oil price and vandalism, by a group called avengers, many states were owing over 6 month of salaries to civil servant due to very low states allocation. It took a 20yr repayment period BAIL OUT to almost 30 states to save the day. The overwhelming majority of Nigerians are not different than the "luuters". Dey play.

Nahunger:


I used to doubt when they said bots comments and APC 30k crew comment on this platform.

But with this thread my eye clear 🤣🤣🤣🤣


Nigeria has been drilling oil for more than 30 years yet.
1. Food cost
2. House rent cost
3. Transport cost
4. No pipe borne water
5. High unemployment
6. Heavy tax to foot the bill from excess borrowing
7. Very poor electricity

And yet those bots up there are saying, drilling oil in ogoni lane is a good thing and will improve Nigeria, like how? In what way 🤣🤣
Delusions 🤣🤣🤣

That cheap money from oil production was what made majority of Nigerians benefited from highly subsidised tertiary education , fuel subsidy for many years and even cheaper cost of living compared to many west african counterpar. E.t.c. It is the failure of civil servants and politicians to use that cheap money from oil to diversify to other production to improve our income base that led us to where we are right now. Our population was increasing in great measure, yet our biggest earner which used to be about 2.3million barrels per day of oil production reduced to 1 million barrels per day. Most Nigerians don't understand cause and effect. An increase in oil production will improve the country. The question is to what extent? Many politicians, civil servants as well are planning to steal though, the reason why wealth is not distributed.

Dtruthspeaker:


Ah. Story

She deceived him to marry her. So now that she is married, she has gone back to her former ways.

simplistic view. Are you even married? Who knows if it is a pre teen behind this moniker.

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

Your immediate options will be try to get to bed early with her, no later than 10pm and possibly wake her for sex at 4am or thereabout. On the 2 weekends in month she is free, good time will be 6am, let the romance last longer, determine her highly erogeneous zones and play with that a lot. In fact on one of these weekends, romance her so well and refuse to have penetrative sex, by doing that you are manipulating her sexual desires towards you. A
womans vjay has its own brain. Lol . it re sexual encounters that makes her cum and wants to have more of that encounter. It also gets more stimulated when sexual encounters is rationed, it is a reverse psychology to increase her want for sex.


Set up a business or get her to school ASAP are your other options.