In a podcast video that has gone viral, a young lady commented that she broke a 4yr relationship with a "faultless" man for no reason. The story flips as she concludes that she's better than the woman her ex later married.
I blame you, if you were busy cheating on her, sleep with her sister, friends , cousins …I can assure you she would have been at Shiloh from January to December praying for you to change because she for no get chance for that rubbish. [quote author=Newton2024 post=122598526][/quote]
I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.
She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents ing with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.
Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be ed in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.
But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.
A time now came, our mum got itted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even any of her siblings to come abroad too.
My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to the parents who ed you all through.
Don’t allow her. Your wife needs to learn a very important lesson. If you forgive her and let it slide just go and pee on your mother grave. That her action follow make your mother died.
ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.
However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.
Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum ed on after a few years.
Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.
What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?
He is in America , people on the street here says it is OBi.
Racoon:
I totally disagree with this last paragraph Prof. There is no gain saying your biases towards Peter Obi is glaring. However, the traumatised Nigerian electorate will do the needful.
I think he is going through some form of mental depression and identity issues. If you truly love him you can show him more love , be intentional about loving and ing him ,pay attention to details of your surroundings. you will see the difference
piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.
I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.
Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.
My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.
I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.
I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.
I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.
All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i ed him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.
We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.
By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I ed him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.
IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.
3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.
Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.
This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN
I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.
My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.
I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.
She doesn’t have a womb. That is why. She must have lost it in an abortion years back
udede:
YES i have been married for about 10 years and my wife is in his early 30s. She doesn't want kids but I want them,and we have non. She refuses every medical test and diagnosis with flimsy excuses.
I need a second wife as soon as possible, some one that love kids and want to have them, I'm a Christian and an Igbo from Anambra but my denomination dosent oppose polygamy (polygny)
kingthreat:
Obidients are tribalists.
They want their brother in by every means necessary.
IF you are Yoruba and you choose a mediocre thief over a great Yoruba elder statesman because of age, then you should be ashamed of yourself.
They can campaign their candidates in your land but you cannot campaign a Yoruba candidate in their land over fear of killings.
Yorubas don't be silly. your own.
Let him go and ask how much Wizkid got paid for his performance at Indian royal wedding
Even if Davido stops singing today Burna Boy can't be as rich as Davido even if he uses all his entire household for money rituals or he starts selling drugs
As a Shareholder of Pacific holdings owners of Omotosho and Olorunsogo Electricity power plant, several projects in Banana island, Shares in Adeleke University ... Davido's sister is actually worth more cash, asset and stocks than Burna boys entire Generation combined
You got too relaxed as a girlfriend and probably living in the same house with him
Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���
Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.
He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him
Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.
I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.
Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?
I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him
My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''
phidipe:
Please Fellow Nairalnder
Greetings to the elders in the house please I need your advice. How do I treat a wife that opens up everything that goes on in her family to her mum and siblings
She holds their advice higher than her husband .please advice
I think you should really go to that her mom house to be sure she is there. Try to see her there with your 2eyes. Final advice. 1. Get a good maid. 2. Ensure your kids are well fed by the maid at all times, the kids won’t be dependent on her. 3. Get enough money 4. Enjoy your life to the fullest with enough side chicks outside… finally 5. Before you eat any food. The maid must taste the food. Be consistent about it
Normal level. For my time I bin Waka with 3 military escort on mufti. All with Ak 47 rival. And I Dey come from town. So when the bastards come And see ak47. Nobody tell me. Them give themselves brain
Because a thief doesn’t know when to stop stealing until he meets his waterloo
Elsueno:
if I had dis kind of tinubu money & connection s plus protégés. omoh...na to retire, be the king maker & just travel d world, play with my grandkids. At his age, with all these ailments, surgeries etc..I just wonder if even presidency go sweet am.
LegendHero:
Welcome back to Asiwaju Jagaban then if the chronic liar Sowore gets it right this time.
Sowore should continue with his sensationalist reports. Most of those that will wail on here have no voters card so gnashing of teeth is allowed.
While you were gone Asiwaju, we learnt Obi Pandora is a criminal that violated Nigeria law and he might be on his way to the deepest part of Kirikiri if Nigeria government wants to take it up.
Changethechain: 1:08pm On Apr 21, 2023 
