NewStats: 3,265,314 , 8,186,350 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 11:43 AM 6y4041

My sister, the previous posters have said it all.

If you really have an opportunity to study in the UK, please in the name of all that is holy, take it.

At this stage, be pragmatic and not sentimental about this.

All the best with however you decide. Just my tuppence.

As Omogidi234 aptly noted, the OP's query lacks clarity. I suggest you articulate your point better and I might be able to give you some general advice. To guide you for instance, could you answer the following questions:

1. Is this an individual contractor or a corporate one? I noticed your use of the pronoun "his" but I still want to be sure.
2. What specific issues did CBN have with the foreign bank?
3. Did the contractor have any dispute (s) with his employer that necessitated, presumably, the employer recalling his payment?

The issue of going to the the Supreme Court is pretty immature at this stage.

This is a great initiative by Ohaneze. We Igbos must build from the ground up and a good place to start is to give befitting burials to these Ibo men, women and children who perished in the war. In the Igbo belief system, where an Igbo is not given proper burial all sorts of bad things starts to befall the family or the community as the case may be. This may sound like moonshine but it is not. Igboland must be cleansed by reburying the fallen so that any curse associated with the present state of affairs would be lifted. There is nothing fetish about it.

I really am impressed with the Ohaneze leadership and The Aka-Ikenga leadership led by Amb. Raph Uwechue and Dr. Ebigwei respectively. I think it is more than a mere coincidence that Igbo affairs seem to have become better articulated since these gentlemen from the ANIOMA area assumed the helm of Ibo affairs.

As for the non-Igbos making disparaging comments on this thread, it is really sad that you would come here to desecrate the memory of the dead even if they are not your own. The best you could do is to ignore this thread and move on. I know your thinking do not represent the majority in your various groups and I am glad for that alone. As the Igbos would say, "When another man's corpse is borne by the pallbearers, it looks like a mere trunk of wood to an unconcerned bystander"

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Abagworo:

I think you misunderstood my comment.What I wrote was that we don't have "fu" in any Southern Igbo apart from Ngwa and you were calling it Imo/Abia translation.I am not Ngwa but wanted to correct you

There was no place I made any reference to Abia/Imo translation. You are mixing up my comments with that of Ify. I do not know much of Southern Igbo dialects to make conclusive statement about them. I only know more of Northern and Western Igbo dialects. Anyways, I see your point now. My bad.

Abagworo:

You guys are wrong."Fu" does not exist in Southern Igbo apart from Ngwa and it means something else."O difu hwe g'ime ngara" means "Nothing is going to happen here" and I doubt if an Anambrarian could ordinarily understand that dialect.The other "fu" only exists as "hu" like "Ifunanya" and "Ihulanya".

Dude how can you make such an unfounded statement when possibly you are not even from these parts. Are you telling Ifyalways and I that we do not know our dialects again? It is funny how someone who is not from the parts in issue can baldly tell those who are from there that they are wrong. So pray explain the name Chukwudifu to me. According to your Ngwa dialect it means "There is no God" which explains why Ngwa people do not bear the name cause the suffix connotes absence. In my dialect it connotes certainty and presence. Its not a matter of right or wrong. Explain the sentence "Etua ka odi fu" to me. If you apply your Ngwa dialect it makes no sense but if you apply the meaning in my dialect the sentence comes alive.

It is common knowledge that same words could mean different things in different parts of Iboland. Did you even bother to read my narrative and that of Ifyalways? I do not understand Ngwa and you could be right but that those not make me wrong. Anambra people and most Ibos I know call yesterday "Unyahu" or "Nyahu" depending on the dialect but Ngwa and most Imo people call Yesterday "Echi gara aga" which literally means "Tomorrow that is past". Echi means tomorrow in the entire Iboland. How do you explain that? Another instance is this, most Ibos call a widow "ajadu" or "nwanyi isi mkpe" but in Ibusa a widow is called nwanyi isi mkpe while an ajadu means an adulterous wife.

Bottom line, commonality of words does not necessarily translate to commonality of meanings.

ifyalways:

^Welu nwanyo ebe afu.I bu nwa onye na otu?A bu m Igwe Nwanyi.Ogbe abo for lyf.lol

I think for "Chukwudifu",I used Imo/Abia translation;di ifu(2 words) and urs(Onicha) is difu(a word).
Ndi Imo na asi:anyi ga-ifu/ihu(we would meet/see)

Aye! Ada mmadu, ikpele o! Aburom onye Onicha ma enwelum oyi ndi onicha nnukwu. Abum onye Awka, nnem mulum bu onye Ogidi, nne nnem ochie onye Ibusa.

You are right on the Imo/Abia translation sha

ifyalways:

@Bolded,really
BeluOlisa . . .If not for God
Awele . . .Safe Journey/trip(literal) God has granted me a safe journey(meaning)
Jid[b]e[/b]nma . . .Hold on to Good.
[b]Chi[/b]dinma . . .God is good.
Chukwudifu . . .God sees all(Omni presence)

Ofcourse,I could be wrong

Get my name right Ada mmadu

BeluOlisa-It can mean both depending on the context. You can say: Belu Olisa, alu aka eme meaning But for God, a tragedy would have occurred. Or you can say, EbielimOlisa meaning I take refuge in God. These are the two contexts in which I have heard my people use the name.

Jidenmma-I think you are splitting hairs here. Hold on to Good and Hold onto the Good same difference really.

Awele-This depends on the context too. I can say Ijeawele meaning Safe Journey. Or I can say Onwelu iru awele, meaning he or she is favoured. Again one can say, ebe awele m di kam na acho (There is in fact a popular Ibo tune by the Old Police Band by this title) meaning I am searching for where my progress is. I have even heard my grandpa refer to awele as destiny. For instance, awele ya amaka meaning he/she has a good destiny.

Chukwudifu-If you remove the suffix "fu" you are left with Chukwudi meaning God is. How can adding the prefix "fu" now transform the name to God sees all? "Difu" is normally used by Western Ibos and part of Anambra like Onitsha, Obosi, Ogbaru, Ogidi, Nsugbe to denote certainty. For instance, rather than say Etua ka odi (meaning, This is how it is), One can say Etua ka odi fu (meaning this is how it is surely). Hence, the name Chukwudifu is but an affirmation of Chukwudi. So if you are in doubt whether Chukwu di, rest assured that Chukwu di fu!

Ka oram nofu. Ekwusiokwom nwelu

Oseloka (Olisaeloka)-God is so thoughtful
Osemeka (Olisaemeka/Osemeke/Chukwuemeka/Chukwuemeke)- God has done very well
Akosa (Akaolisa/Akachukwu)-God's hand
Odiakosa (OdinakaOlisa/Odinakachukwu)-It is in God's hand
Osajindu (Olisajindu/Chukwujindu)-God holds life
Chukwudumebi-God leads me in living
Chinedu (Chiedu)-God leads
Chinedum-God leads me
Osanugo (Olisanugo) God has heard
Ifechukwude-What God has written
Bosah (BeluOlisa)-Refuge in God
Isioma-Favour
Awele-Favour/Progress
Nkiruka-The future is greater
Ekwutosi-Do not slander
Jidenmma-Hold onto the good
Emefiene-Do not transgress
Esonaonuwa-Do not listen to the world
Munonye- I and who. This is an abridged name. It usually is Munonyeso meaning Who is my company. The answer is also the name Munachim meaning Me and God or fully, Munachimso meaning God is my company
Chukwudifu: There is God surely
Achike (Achunike)-Do not pursue by any means necessary
Nwosa (Nwaolisa/Nwaolise/Nwachukwu)-Child of God

kabukabu:

You know what, not a darn thingggg .
All other tribes sbhould say somthing positive about Delta Igbos first only then will I respond.We are first in everything and never take a back seat to anyone, so all the haters line up and take your shots and they better be good.

Loving this thread!

Delta Igbos- For me they are the best of the Ibo stock (Please Ibo and Igbo are interchangeable. I don't want to be drawn into the Ibo, Igbo argument). They are meek, easy-going and very philosophical. Little wonder that since they assumed the leadership of the Ohaneze and Aka-Ikenga, the Ibos seem to have a sense of direction politically again.

Isokos-I love this people. Lived among them in Delta State during my NYSC and they were cool. They are very receptive of strangers too.

Igalas- I love the Igala girls. I met lots of them during my law school year and they were very nice girls in a good way o!

Yorubas-Their love of parties!

Hausa- Their transparency. What you see is what you get either way. No cloak and dagger business with them.

chaircover:

What bothers me is the non discussion of issues even when things have simmered down. Permanently sweeping things under the carpet will eventually break the relationship.

I agree. Playing the ostrich never solved anything. I know some people think if they ignored the elephant long enough it would eventually leave the room.

I have noticed that household chores seem to be the province of women alone in Nigeria. Maybe in the old days yes, but these days of working class spouses I believe men should try as much as possible to help out in chores around the house.
I have seen cases where a husband would come back from work before the wife and stretch out on the sofa flipping TV channels waiting for the wife to come in to do the chores and still prepare meals.
This practice seem to be prevalent and I don't think it is fair.

Contrary opinions with reasons are welcome.

I think this is an intriguing topic. My mum (God rest her soul) always dressed up in front of us (my brothers and I) and we couldn't be bothered. At some innate level, we knew that even though she was dres in front of us, it was no license to gawk so I saw my mum's nudity but never really saw it.

I believe it all depends on the parents and the kind of bond they feel they have with their kids. I believe if I had a sister my mum would probably not dress up before us guys. Since she had no daughter, she raised us both as boys and girls at the same time.

I am not married so may not be in the best of positions to comment but I have been in relationships, so I believe I can draw an analogy from those.

I think Mrs. Chima and Kokoye are both on the money in this matter. Personally, I dislike any form of confrontation with a lady and when my ex (es) and I had issues, I preferred to clam up and process what had just taken place. Eventually, I would raise the issue when we have all simmered down. I think this is the way most men are built.

However, the ladies would always want to thrash it out there and then. I do not think they do this from a place of belligerence but I think women want issues cleared up as soon as they come up, at least most do . But the pitfall in this is that issues cannot really be cleared up successfully when tempers are still high and egos still feeling bruised. The only outcome would be more recriminations.

Boyloaf:

if any girl tries dis wit me! I will so come back d next mornin to tender a very FAKE apology for us to move on in peace (ices), thereafter i will unleash d dragon on her! i mean, i will cause her emotional damage and wreckage! i will vandalise,dualise,and bisect her heart! i will so mess her up emotionally by everymeans possible. Dis am sure will teach her nt to be so heartless to anybody again!

Boyloaf nawa o!

M M M:

op
why should a big boy sleep in a girl's house.

D boy na ashawo.

Dude are you saying that you have never slept over in a girl's house? Even if it is a one-off? It has nothing to do with being a big boy.

slimyem:

this thread is pointless!mtcheeeeeeeeew

Then you should not comment, simples!

tpia@:

if the apartment is "her" apartment then it's assumed the man has his own apartment somewhere.

does he not?

Yea he does, but he came a very long way to her apartment. It is not like his was just around the block.

deniyor:

Ladies that kick their dudes out of their apartment are probably the type that will try to kick the guy out of their matrimonial home when there is a fight. Red flag to me. If while fighting or quarelling, we can't treat each other with respect, then nothing will change when the relationship gets serious or marriage is in the works?

Good point bro. Anyways, it is her apartment and she is well within her rights to bounce in strict sense. But matters of relationships are hardly that cut and dried. For those who would readily hurl their man onto the streets, you would be the first to accuse a fellow of insensitivity and ungentlemanly conduct if the roles were reversed. I can understand if the chap got abusive in which case shooing him out would be better for all concerned but it is so hair-trigger to do that at the slightest beef.

This question na for the babes. You fit tell your bobo make im comot for your house for midnight because say you and am get small quarrel? I never see am before for Naija sha but e be like say that practice dey common for Obodo oyibo here.

For homeboys, wetin you go do if your babe tell you say make you comot for her house for midnight because say una quarrel and no be say you beat am or anything like that?

NB: Abeg make una no crucify me say I write for pidgin. You fit answer for oyibo or use pidgin anyone wey you like.

swagalish:

NZUZU u just open your elephant mouth to talk any how . can't u offer your opinion rather than picking on some other person's quote. then wht is ENUANI. I believe u can't read well, otherwise u would ve seen the slash sign ( \ ) between ANIOMA & ENUANI. bingo.

Dude stop splitting hairs jo! What is Anioma? It is an acronym for the Ibo groups that make up Delta State to wit Aniocha, Ndokwa, Ika, Oshimili. It was a term coined by Dennis Osadebay who incidentally was a founding father of Ohaneze. Maybe you should go and tell Raph Uwechue, the Ohaneze President or Joe Irukwu the erstwhile Ohaneze Sec-General that he is Anioma not Igbo. For your information both are not mutually exclusive. And what is Enuani? It is simply an Ibo dialect spoken in Aniocha and Oshimili areas of Delta state. It is also spoken by the Ogbaru in Anambra. It is like classifying the Izza or Izzi dialects of Ebonyi State as a separate ethnic group or classifying the WAWA people of Enugu State as a separate ethnic group. I don't know why Ibo people's stuffs will always end up in controversy.

@ OP: Igalas are found in Anambra State too but in very small numbers. The Ebu are also found in Delta State in very small numbers too.

OP, I appreciate your patriotism but you are way off the mark. There is no basis for comparison at all. When I schooled in Nigeria I was a rote-master. That is one basic problem with our education-the focus on rote learning rather than applied learning. Let us not even broach the dismal lack of facilities, equipment and materials needed for our science courses.

I got a reality check when I came to the US for my masters. The quality of the lecturers, the syllabi,  the lectures and overall interaction left me gaping in awe. The lecturers were renowned leaders in their fields who were constantly pushing themselves everyday to stay on top of their game. Coming to the issue of open book exams, nothing could be more deceptive. In all honestly, I preferred closed book exams to open book exams. I thought I was going to ace all my courses because 90% of the exams I sat were open books but that was another shocker. I have never seen that many number of B's on a transcript than I have on mine. I was brought hurtling down to earth. Our educational system needs complete retooling to bring it anywhere near decent standard.

Regarding Nigerians that excel in foreign schools after having their formative years of education in Nigeria, most of them have always been exceptional right from the outset in Nigeria. I look at my friends who have excelled in their studies here and I see folks who were very serious -minded from way back. These guys always went the extra mile back home in Nigeria when their mates where just content to read the tepid handouts the lecturers circulated just to the exam. It is this drive that has helped them to adapt and excel more than anything else.

In any event, I am sure that the number of elitist schools growing in Nigeria is trying to bridge this gap even though it is still designed for the benefits of the privileged few.

PS: Who knows the last time we had any form of syllabus review in any discipline whatsoever in Nigeria?

Gee Araboy! Thanks. You can send me an email. my address is already on the thread. I appreciate

@inkednerd: lol! You want to track me right No wahala. You are not asking 2 many questions. Actually I stay off Broadway close 2 d 1 train around Morning Heights. You can send me an email at [email protected]. Noticed you are from 042. Same here.

@inknerd: Yea I stay off campus. It is much cheaper than University Housing

@norrisman: I see no need for you to brand me a "loser". I just related my story and if you do not agree with me then civilly put your point across. If you read my post I took time to apologise to people like you who may be offended by my story. Do not say anything about anybody unless you walk in their shoes. I came up hard in life and I still have a long way to go but it has been a worthwhile journey. I have made very dumb decisions in my life which I was not proud of but they have been in the minority so far. Yes, I had a job in Nigeria and worked for three years before coming here. Being itted to an Ivy league school here was once in a lifetime opportunity for me. At least the school did not see me as a loser before itting me. I even said in my post that what I did was borne out of folly! Thank you.

@Drossy: I am in New York @ Columbia. I am doing okay now. Things are looking up. My email is [email protected]

Genius100: That is the plan. I already worked for 3 years in my field back home before coming here. What I have learned so far has real practical applications because of my work experience.

Inkednerd: Am at Columbia. Thanks for your kind words.

Hermosa: I agree with you. The buck stopped at my table. Though I had some relations that promised to co-sign a tuition loan and all that. It is all in the past now. I take all the blame and that is why I am advising others to look before they leap. The danger is that when people like us are out of the woods and finally make it, some people will look at us and want to take the kind of silly risk that we took not knowing that destiny can be very different.

Vpersiee: You are right. I will mail you

@Justwise: Thanks. It has shown up finally. I guess it was too lengthy

The initiator of this thread and anyone on this thread who advised against haphazard plans of coming to the US need to be thanked. How I wish most Nigerian youths would have access to this thread. In my own case, I was already in the US (last year) before I saw this thread and my blood went cold. Almost everything that were warned about happened to me. I came depending on some relations for my tuition but they duly left me in the lurch. I only came with my living expenses which did not in any way meet the school's living expenses estimate. I went through hell and am only just getting out of it.

I thought that because I got an ission into an Ivy league school here in New York that I would be cut some slack by the school authorities. I had another think coming! The school asked me to withdraw and initiated the process! I could not believe what was happening to me. I kept coming back to this thread to see if there was any vestige of survival strategy I could find on here but there was none-because the advise on this thread is the cold hard fact. Most Nigerian youths think abroad is an Eldorado. Well, I learnt at my own cost.

Gratefully, a member of my church congregation came to my aid and lent me the tuition! Unbelievable, yes! There is nothing God cannot do but do not put God to test, he may just let you stew in your juice. The member and his wife told me to pay them back in 2 years after my graduation. It was an unprecedented miracle.

There remained the little matter of living expenses. I dare say it has been nothing short of a miracle how I have survived here so far. My friends in Nigeria who i did not expect has been sending me their widow's mite, nothing big but enough for me to stint on it. I also secured a part time job in the school but those of you who know will know that these part time jobs are nothing in the general scheme of things. Many students are in the slots so you only get a piece of the pie. Notwithstanding that you may want to work the full 20hours due to you as an international student, you will get a limited time slot (in my case 5 hours a week) in order to accommodate other students. An hour is $10. You do the math plus the tax and you see that the money is only for your phone bills and sparse feeding.

I will be done in a month's time with my masters program and I can only say am grateful to God for saving me from the effect of my folly. I will not advise anybody without his full tuition and living expenses to set out on this journey. This is a cold place and you may not get help like I did.

Coming here has made me appreciate Nigeria and how much I miss it. I have an opportunity to stay back here but am going back home. I have already got some handsome job offers thanks to my prospective ivy league certificate. Now I know that Nigeria is really the place to be despite all the ills and troubles. In 10 years from now, by God's grace, I think I will be better of in Nigeria achievement wise than I would be if I stayed back here.

Needless to say, most friends and wellwishers do not understand. They have been advising me to marry an Oyibo and get the green card and take advantage of this "once in a lifetime opportunity" of being in America. They mean well even though it is based on ignorance. I am not knocking anybody that decides to stay back here or even marry a citizen here. I am only talking from my own experience. I worked in Nigeria before coming here and I have had an opportunity to make an informed evaluation and projection and it is in my best interest to return home.

Coming here has been an eye opener also in many positive ways. I have become more enlightened and acquired a lot of knowledge and ideas that will sustain me back home. Coming here has also shown me that our political class are very cruel folks. They send their kids to the best schools in order to maintain their hegemony over us.

I really am glad I made this journey because I survived (only just). My advice to any Nigerian coming here for studies is to have a CONCRETE plan. Please ensure you have your full tuition and living expenses. You can have as living expenses half of what the school estimate is and eke it out. You may survive if it is only your living expenses you are worried about but it is almost impossible if the tuition is thrown into the equation.

Another point, do not embark on schooling here just as an excuse to escape Nigeria. It is a huge financial gamble to make. Ensure that you have an idea of what you intend to do with the education be it masters, undergraduate etc.

I want to apologise to anyone who may take an offence to any part of my write-up. It is not meant to disparage, insult or even preach. I just felt that I owed it to prospective Nigerians students to the US to let them know the reality on ground from my point of view.

Thank you

NB: When you are stranded in the US, the last people you can expect help from are your Nigerian country men. This is a fact. Not just from my own experience but from the stories of other people I met here. Nationals of other African countries here have more feeling of camaraderie than us.

Already skating the thin ice of sounding like a know-it-all, I will stop here.

Personally as a lawyer, I am in love with the jury system. It works so well in the U.S.A but unfortunately Nigeria is not ripe for such innovation. If our judges can be go at, how much more jury men who are mere lay people.