NewStats: 3,264,561 , 8,184,109 topics. Date: Wednesday, 11 June 2025 at 02:42 PM 1n1f2w

@silly

Whoever that babe is that hurt you in the past must have hurt you very bad. You need to heal ok. You are anti women. Are you off women? or are you gay now?

Try and date a grown woman and you will see the difference. Ask those who have. .

o my God!!!!!!!! am so sorry this has to happen to you. I do think about it happening to me. My dear, do not feel so bad. It could have been the other way round. I know she never told you most of the things you got to find out on Nairaland, its not everything the eyes sees that the mouth must say. Like you said, her past, just let it be her past. For the present, you can work something out. If she has cheated did she say why on the thread? learn and know her better. Make her comfortable to always tell you things rather than the world. Mind you not everything you read here is true. I feel your dissapiontment. Sorry luv.

sillyboy:

@ baby2007. It's a pity you wouldn't accept my offer, I was already dreaming about it! . But any how sha. since am too young for you, my greatgrand pa is still alive, he's just 110 years old. Guess you'll find that appealing, sexy and delicious

Very funny!!! Your Greatgrand dad is 110 (still too young) i do older sorry

Got this mail from a friend.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make
plans.Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he
fits.


Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown women know that if he's
truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.


Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy to realize
you hadn't.


Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it-using it as a time
for personal growth.


Girls ignore the good guys. Grown women ignore the bad guys.


Girls make you come home. Grown women make you want to come home.


Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man. Grown
women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.



Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging
with his friends). Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the
'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.


Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate
without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man.


Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection,
ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you
back-and move on, without bitterness.


Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and it on to other Grown women and their
male friends.


Do not go where the path may lead, go instead, where there is no path and
leave a trail."


WHICH ARE YOU? A Girl or GROWN WOMAN

poor woman!! must have been devasted.

@silly

Babes are different you know. Am sensible enough to know that  not all gift offers from guys are just gifts. Most of the gifts are simply investments. No man wants to make an empty investment. So i know not to receive all gifts. Some ladies on the other hand, do grab as much as the guy is offering. Nothing spoil!!!!  I really do not know how to receive you see, am a GIVER!!! i would rather give to the guy than collect. Thats what i do, and most times it back fires but thats just me. Besides i never meet men who flaunt cash at my face, they always think i have. Instead i meet the ones who want to collect from me.

Mr. Silly na so e bi o! I nor go collect your offer, you too young ok.

Sammy, be careful with the kind of advise you take. Some people are the devil himself, they would advise you to do things they cannot even do and at the end you will have yourself to blame.

Look at this case scenario: You go to her and end up sleeping with her all in the name of paying her back. You use a condom quite alright but in the heat of the moment the condom breaks, you don't notice immediate. Later on you find out that you have HIV/SHE GETS PREGNANT. WHAT HAPPENS THEN? WHO WOULD BE PAYING WHO?

My advise: Brother! let the past be. You offered the gifts she accepted. You never said the gifts were conditional i.e upon her acceptance of your proposed love. SHE SIMPLY TOOK WHAT YOU OFFERED. In my opinion she has done nothing wrong. I blame you for trying to use money to buy her love, personally i see it as an insult (seriously). You went about the chase the wrong way.

As for the present, i think she has no business wanting you cuz you are now an oil worker. Its too late for the both of you. Just move on with your life, God has blessed you with a good job now do not do what will take your blessings away. On the contrary, she just might be genuine she just might be more matured now to handle such things. BUT WHO KNOWS?
I rest my case.

ogbdcm:

@babe
your mum has several husbands i guess because that why you have so much beef. and you know what your foolish, crazy and mad i bet you silly boy was right.
girls generally are carried away by what they hear. and girls always like having back ups.

YOU JUST PULLED THE STRINGS. STAND AND FACE IT

Who d Hell is this guy? You must be retarded!!!! My mum and sisters and all the women in my life, including myself are married and are dating one guy at a time. That explains why i cannot reason like you. My orientation is different. Like they say charity begins at home its what you experience at home that you exhibit here. Am sorry for you mate, thats all i can say to you. Its a pity you have been with gutter women thats why you think all women are the same. Step up your game mate, get to the other class if your porous brain would let you.

It saddens me for some guys to think galz are generally money freaks. Its sad. I guess its not their fault its the way some ladies have chosen to give us bad name. We really need to change!!!

Ans to Poster:

Same way she will know you really love her.
Love in a relationship should be a 50/50 thinggy. If she reciprocates your kindness, love, joy, feelings and so on then you will know."I WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU TREAT ME"

uchetobi:

Why are Nigerians like this. Why should she be lying because you lost yours at birth does not mean someone else did. HAba

i guess thats true for some people. The way they are criticizing the Big V na wa o! what has the world turned into?? MUST WE ALL DO BEFORE MARRIAGE? Like i earlier said i congratulate you its not easy. Some attributed it to not finding a man Imagine!!!!!

Some people are principled for those of us who compromised , we should take cue from her. Its not an impossibility cuz many people out there are waiting for the right time. Wait on the Lord babes cuz you will reap it big time do not follow the bandwagon.

Frankies:

@ Bebe

I don't think the poster was wrong. From experience, I know some girls whose hobby is to jump from one guy and they were tellin me that another name for men is '' GET THEIR MONEY''

So don't be rude.

Am not being rude, only stating the obvious.

sillyboy:

@ babe2007. Hope you weren't refering to me? You bet I could be very silly and nasty! but am just a friend and won't even be abusive as you were on the internet because anyone could be following it including kids like you are.

Is that a threat bring it on brotha!! Why did you think i was referring to you? guess your immature brain cannot take anorther persons line of arguement, sillyboy!!!

Where in heaven's name will people in Naija get the vaccine? do you just go to any hospital and ask them for it? with the advent of fake drugs how possible is it not to get fake vaccine. If you have taken it in Naija before state where and how let others know. this place is a jungle i tell you. I can see it spreading everywhere, hygiene is the last thing on their minds here. People live and breath polluted air, drink dirty water, food you name it.

Was told the vaccine lasts for 3years is that true?

What sort of question is this? where are you from? Sodom or what? or maybe its just your orientation. Is your mum or sisters married or dating more than a guy? if yes then i understand where you are coming from. If no, then i guess you have answered yourself. Same goes to the other guys on this thread saying its impossible for a woman to date one guy.

how thoughtful of them to make such. What about girlfriend pillow

I ask this question cuz i just learnt that some married men use their infants as next of kin when they have a mature wife at home. Why? i asked i got the shock of my life. One man in particular said his wife after his death may run off and marry someonelse leaving his kids to suffer. Imagine that!!! this particular trend has created alot of problems in Nigeria today. When the deceased is buried his extended family come knocking to claim all his benefits. They would say the next of kin is an infant, that everything would be kept for him till he is of age. I was told of an igbo(somewhere in Ebonyi state) custom where everything goes to the deceased brother not his immediate family. If no brother then to his sister's sons. can you beat that!!!!!!!!!
if you use your wife, i believe she can fight this fight in court and do away with these bad practices. they wouldnt have a case in the first place. Some men use their mothers, i have really heard a lot today.

Guys, what do you think should be the proper thing

Am content not being married at my age, infact i dont even feel any pressure. Why? must everyone be married? am not saying i dont want to get married, am saying till i find the right one , till i get the conviction. You will and should only marry when you find the right person. If he is not coming my way yet, am not going to go in search for him. Where do i go looking? he could be anywhere in the world. Ladies, its not your fault he has not found you and guys its not your fault you have not found her. It will all happen in HIS very chosen time and place. Do not frett for he is your LORD he made you specially, you are unique, your time is not Jane's time neither is it Peter's ok.

Take this time and work on yourself, your career etc in preparation for him/her. Who knows as you get better your stake might even increase. God will give you a better offer since you are improved

Bassey231:

Whatever happened to marriage vows.I agree with you.A married man who gives money to his mother to keep for him is not a man,he is still aboy.Marriage is not meant for boys

correct!!! marriage is between two people not three. When you are married you become one. I see no point in going back home.

I light this candle for my Dad,

Daddy you are unfrogettable in every way. Your ever green memory remains with us your children always. I miss you so much, i miss your ways, laughter, jokes your talks, your presence, your approval, i think of you everyday even though you have been gone 10 years now it still feels like yesterday. You have failed to see how well we are doing now after all your struggles for us all. I know you will be proud of us definately and i still feel your disapproval when am doing something wrong cuz i know and will never forget what you stand for. I thank God for giving you to me cuz i wouldnt have asked for one better than you. I love you daddy and will always will. May your peaceful soul rest in perfect peace Amen.

This candle is for my Niece, Chrisy who died some weeks ago! babes, i never really got to see you but i knew you somehow, i named you even before you were born. You would have made us all very happy especially your little brother. Not to worry, we will meet up and get to know you in heaven. Heard you were a beauty!!!! not surprised i knew you were my babe. rest in peace babes till we meet.

This last candle is for my grand parents, uncles, aunties and friends, may your gentle souls rest in peace. Miss you guys in your individual capacities. One way or the other you have made your mark in my life. Rest in peace all, rest in peace.

For holding on for that long i will definately applaud the person. Its not easy!!!!!! I pray the person ends up giving it to the right person or else, na die be that o!!

UPRISING:

how many naija girls have time for
all these and how many men are
willing to,
well we are growing.

i disagree with you on this. What exactly is too much for the men to do here? maybe the women do not know their worth anymore cuz if they do they would not expect less from any man.

@sillyboy, i dont need to teach you anything you know the right things to do already but instead you have chosen to be silly(like ur name suggest). the choice is entirely yours. evil begets evil, so lies to a woman will get you a lying babe too.

sillyboy:

@ topic. Just attach some cool pounds to the end of your hook and keep swinging it all around your area. Make sure you tell good smart lies, like you just lent Bill Gates some money.

Girls love lies and deciet! make sure you tell 'em all that.
Like Adura suggested, keep firing them hard. Sillyboy's theory of women states that; "the harder you fire a woman, the harder she falls for you"

@moneymail. Since you have your foolish way of going about the topic, why are you bothering us again

you really do not know women. Learn my brother learn!!!!

sillyboy:

@bebe2007 and blachnbold. Why won't the two of you ask him. I pity you ladies. Instead of asking and killing the guy with saliva, just make him feel good. Advise to the two of you; action speaks louder than word. Fire your guy back to his senses and you can bet he will store your names with Sweeter than thou!

Everything is not about SEX o!!!!! cool down sillyboy.

Babes, you are even lucky he made it obvious, maybe there is nothing to worry about. i used to know a guy like this,  he would save his numbers with codes like xyz, eef,ggh, hyh etc now that is what i call a serial cheat. You would not even know whose number it is. Very frustrating! But somehow you would know when he is talking to a babe, the body language and all.

If the number is not that of a family member of his, i will be very suspicious o!! i would ask him straight up, make i know where i stand.

@moneymail,

Your method will definately work on me, nice one
(you will definately get my attention not necessarily dating you cuz it takes much more to date a guy)

for the other males who do not know, learn now o! or never. Dont go and meet a babe with dirty nails,bad breathe, rugged outfit thinking if you have money the lady will drop at your feet. Am sorry, u will die with your money cuz galz like me will give you no audience.

some babes can be really desperate. Whatever you do, do not sleep with her ok. I guess its the boredom in the town that is getting her nutts. I must commend your effort so far. You cant be friends with her since she wants much more and will always do. Best to avoid her. She will get bored with the chase and probably chill.

Nicely put Eniola I personally think if its not flat do not flaunt it. Keep it covered.

@poster, this forum is for romance not health related issues. Try the health forum may be you will get help there. I dont understand what you wrote though try and express yourself better. You seemed embarrassed already.

is that a love song!!!!! na wa o! i hate that song so much, i think its all noise and " Baby konga" very raz. Worst songs ever!

When a man loves a women- Michael Bolton
I call it love-Lionel Richie
If u're not the one-Daniel Beddingfield
I can change-John Legend

And many others.

Why would i let him bring in a second wife, never!!!! When my name is not Sarah. I would try all the reproductive technologies available today and even adoption. If IVF fails, then surrogacy it is, with his sperm of course. If they all fail, then adoption. If that doe not work out still then i would know it was never meant to be and rest my case. Afterall we married for better for worse. If it was the other way round would he allow me take a second Hubby? of course not!!!!