NewStats: 3,262,191 , 8,176,400 topics. Date: Sunday, 01 June 2025 at 09:29 AM 225q3y

Thank God I am from Edo state o.I would have swallowed this hook line and sinker....

Adeyanju, tell me any state in Nigeria where ALL the state owned schools are in perfect condition. Till then, stop fooling your life.

One year old, and his polo reads, "ladies man".

This one go be pussy destroyer.

#Change needs to begin with some people's brains...

Ibe kachuckwu... I sight you.

Monalisa185:
this one long river Nile

Please read.Your opinion will be appreciated.

KashyBaby:
If u really love her,forgive her and move on as if nothing happened but never ever raise this issue whenever u are both mad to each other again..


If u think she deserved a 2nd chance then give her enough time to change herself..


Everybody makes mistakes, nobody's perfect..so go on & have a blast...

I'm finding it difficult to convince her I won't use what happened against her in future. .

Suigeneris93:
I don't think you're being silly in accepting her back, she seems to be truly repentant abt what she did so if you're going to stay with her, you're going to forgive and forget whatever she did.



BTW @your topic, it should be 'dilemma', thank me later

Noted. Thanks

umehmj:
Good morning. booking space to learn more dating tips. i had similar experience years back and i did forgave her and bro, she became faithful to a fault. And yes, just like your woman said, i used her one mistake against her severally (one of my many mistakes while growing up).

chances are she will never go back to infidelity again. now a question for you: are you sure you won't it against her in the future?

I won't. I have tried making her understand that fact. She's still skeptical. I have promised to be a better man. I messed up and there's no hiding that fact.

obiorathesubtle:
you_fucked up


You know you_fucked up


You know how to correct your _fuck up..


So leave us alone

If you say so.

Good morning all.

Had to a new in order to be anonymous. I am in a serious fix at the moment and I hope to get matured advises from romance- landers especially the females.

Without much ado, I have a girlfriend(dunno if I can still lay claims to her) who I had plans on getting married to. We started dating 2013 and it was supposed to be a one off stuff but we both fell in love with each other. We shared so many things in common and she loved me wholeheartedly. It got to the point she was in my house most times. As a matter of fact, some of her things were in my house.

I zeroed my mind on being a faithful guy and had no time for other ladies.I shuttle between Ph and Benin because of work but I'm based in Ph so, she stays in my house whenever I am not around. Along the line, I became nonchalant. I stopped being the loving guy I used to be.My gf will cry most times telling me she misses the old me(the man she fell in love with),asking if I had found someone else. Deep inside of me,I knew I loved her but didn't wanna show too much because of my previous experiences. I guess that's where I messed up.

This lingered on for up to a year and I still didn't listen to her cries. About August last year, she changed. She no longer complained,she will always feel uneasy when I touch her and started giving me attitude. I also noticed a particular guy was always calling her which I was always uncomfortable with. But she always waved it aside.This has been going on.I complain always,we hardly made love and stuffs. The relationship began to suffer. I had a feeling she was cheating on me with that guy but she was always denying and I had no proofs.

A lot has happened since then but I can't type everything. Last week Thursday,she came for easter. Phcn restored power,so I told her to give me her phone torch to use in switching off the generator. While I was outside,I decided to check her messages, and I saw the most startling evidence. She sent the guy(the suspect) telling him she was done with the relationship,that the last time they had sex he fvcked her like a LovePeddler,that he should move on with his life and other stuffs.I felt like dying.I came back inside and gave her the phone with the text still on the screen.

She started crying, that I pushed her into it.I stopped caring,I changed for almost a year and all that. I accepted the blame but I felt she made herself vulnerable.Lest I forget, in the course of our problems, she called me sister and poured her heart out to her.My sister talked to me,but I still didn't heed to her advice. Moving on, I told her I still loved her and that I will continue the relationship. She wept uncontrollably and was saying things like,"what have I done". She left my house on Monday morning. All through the weekend,the other guy kept on calling and was sending text messages. She showed them to me.

Yesterday morning the guy drove to her place and demanded answers from her on why she has decided to shut him out completely. Why she stopped picking his calls and why she blocked him on WhatsApp. She told him she was done already and that I had also found out ,so there was no way she could continue. She said he told her he wasn't gonna let go off her and banged her door whilst leaving.

She came to my place yesterday evening after work and we had a lengthy discussion. She said she is confused and that she didn't know what to do. She said:

1) It's difficult to send that guy away because she was getting used to him.

2) She found a husband in me but I veered off course.

3) She can't choose the guy over me.

4) She is scared of coming back to me because she feels I will always use what happened against her in future.

5) She wants the guy to go but he is being stubborn.


I know some people will call me stupid, but I still love her and funny enough, I seem to love her more now. She will be coming to see me this evening after work.

Now my purpose of bringing this here is to seek other people's opinion on what to do. Am I being stupid? I'm finding it so difficult to move on because I genuinely love this lady. We shared so many moments together and it hurts starting over again. Please, I need advice moving forward especially from the ladies because they know better.

Lalasticlala, please help me move this to FP. Thank you