NewStats: 3,263,874 , 8,181,702 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 June 2025 at 01:12 PM 6v43v

IamReallyboy:
Help a brother,
If I touch my wife she frown, and complain she doesn't like it.

We have s*x only when she's in the mood, even if I romance her she complain of pain or give useless excuse to stop it.

My problem is, she no dey go out, no friends. Please any advice or help to this.

Since u said she doesn't go out then the issue of cheating on you is out of it.

4 things are responsible for her behavior

1. She must have gotten info of your cheating escapades

2. She is not happy with you

3. She is not finding happiness in the marriage.

4. You are not meeting her needs.

If you pay attention and calm down, you will get answers you seek from her.

When things like this happen, you need to have a gentle conversation with her and try not to see her as your wife only but as your girlfriend

you know how you use to woo her during courtship stage, that is the baby girl treatment she needs now to rekindle the fire but what do we men know?

Stupid govt.

When did RTEAN and NURTW began to represent Nigerian organized Labour?

The two main groups we know are TUC and NLC. Those are the two unions every other unions fall under.

Ode wan use MC Oluomo boys and Yoruba urchins claim kangaroo agreement.

Bastards

Back then as an undergraduate I used to use my little upkeep to play it. Though only once I won 67k but my N100 and N1000 daily sometimes if combined exceeds that 67k I won.

After graduation I started seeing money and began to play 2 odds 5k, 10k, 20k and losing was consistent then I stopped.

I am glad that it's 3yrs now and I don't think I how to book games.

I am better with my finances but then I have brothers and a friend who are addicted to it and hoping to win millions one day.

I pray they win their millions because it's already ruining their lives and relationships. They will Be broke but will use last cash to play hoping to win. Their lives is going in circles.

I am glad I was able to overcome the addiction but sad for my brothers and friends

Wujio:
Lagos state is simply making life unbearable for igbos so that they will all leave in a bid to claim the glory of the state alone. Lagos since far back as 15th century was a cosmopolitan state developed through every nationatiy coming together to build and work. Lagos isnt a development that stemmed out of ethnic ability

I am not igbo and i have never stepped foot on igbo land, but the brazen actions of the yorubas on a consistent basis seems like the yorubas are begging for a war. If we are in a war many of us have said it severally let us know plain amd square

Mr keep kwiet and say what you know.

Those shanties in computer village and inhabited by Yoruba people. That road leads to national and when you there you will understand.

Igbos rent shops and pay rent but you see those shanties, na Yoruba get am and they sell shekpe and asun there.

When you that route you see them smoking any how. It's a criminal den

accordadoga30:
Hehehehe

Good!!

Who wan cry blood should relocate back to the SE oyinbo kuku say NO PLACE LIKE HOME

Ode. Those shanties na your people full there selling shekpe and asun. 😂

Try to before you spill hate.

aylagos:
Let no one cry Yoruba hate them here oooo

Mumu those shanties are occupied by mostly yorubas. Igbos pay and rent shops while your people are too broke to afford one

JohnnA1:
Exactly!

Personally I think two or four commercial skyscrapers or high rise buildings would be a better use of the space.

Ikeja is the commercial centre of Lagos after all.

Skyscrapers around an airport? You want make Dana crash 2.0 happen again?

Kestolove:
Remove everything, the shanties ND illegal shops are own by the nuisance iyamiri's..

Fool... Goto every market igbos rent shops while your lazy and broke tribe stay by the corners because they are too broke to afford rent

okerekingsley90:


Honestly I felt this!!!! Pray then position yourself to look for a responsible lady. It is your sole responsibility search for a good lady. Work and put efforts you would be blessed with a good lady if you do what is right. There are still marriageble ladies in Nigeria. Be responsible!!!. Good luck

Thanks for this. Yes I am on it, in no time it will be settled

Kobojunkie:
1. You have more time on your hand at 31, meaning you have more time to explore interests you may have had even during your younger years.

2. Then consider going out to clubs, and making new friends with interests that may Meld with yours or eve meet up so you can partner with like-minded individuals. If you are a loner, there are online hangouts to explore, book clubs to help get you inspired, etc.

3. Creating a family is not the solution to boredom or loneliness. Ask your many friends who you claim are in marriage to be honest with you about this. There are many in marriage who are lonely and bored. Many resort to taking on sidechicks and visiting prostitutes for that very reason but that hole is harder to fill with pleasures that are external to the mind of the individual experiencing them. You need to discover you and what you are for if you plan to beat boredom and loneliness. Else, like majority, you only go on ing the buck until they both overwhelm you for good.

I. Understand what you are saying. For clubs, I hate noisy places, even in church most times I stay faraway from the speakers. Smell of a beer makes me throw up so club is out of it.

My issue now is not about hanging out, my mind and soul is prepared for marriage. I don't know if you get.

You know that burning desire you get when you cross to next phase of life. That is the phase I am in now

Laurene:
Then why are you still single?

You won't understand

Mexyz:

This is me here, you even have work to go to on weekends, I don't because we are not given access to the Office on weekends unless with the approval of your head of unit or a higher authority.(Due to the nature of the sector am in)

The only thing helping me now is that my job involves lots of traveling (one month in Lagos, one month in another state) but you see that month am in Lagos, na boredom everywhere.
Not easy.

The thing is depressing. Me I am so tired.

I seriously want to settle down but...

Bluearrow:

So what is holding u back?
You already got a job & an apartment.
Just intensify your search, you will find a wife.

I am searching

See ehhh for me personally at this stage of my life I don't think there is any benefit for me being single.

I'm 31yrs old and my life cycle is only work, church and house. Most times weekend I just find reasons to go to work so that I don't feel bored.

I have friends who are married so it shrinks my cycle because they spend more time with their family.

My case is even worse because I don't even go out, I neither drink, club or even go anywhere.

It's just me moving from room to parlour like that all day.

I crave for a family, I am sick and tired of being a bachelor, I want to see my kids like e dey hungry me.

I have been single for too long and see no benefit of being single anymore.

MufasaLion:
You really want him to groom that child? This is disgusting.

You obviously have comprehension problem. Please read again

GO0DHardDick:


Which kind rough play be this? Las las it'll end in tears.

We Have told you SIMPs several times to avoid training a woman in school let alone uni. Oga should that girl find a more richer Dude that can give her far more than what you're giving her, she'll dump you ASAP. I can bet my balls that there's a guy kancking her in sch. Guys don knack her tire for school and na you dey train her.

Have you trained your brothers and sisters in sch yet? What about your mother? What business did you Open for her, your sisters and female relatives? Or they're highly irrelevant? Your Simpson madness deserve to be treated as urgent medical condition.

Shut up! People like you forming redpills online are the worst weaklings in real life.

Go get a life and pray to meet a human being called woman and not the prostitutes you make out with.

Tenrack:
you're a lucky man.

Thanks boss. I am happy that I made the decision to go for her and keep her.

It wasn't an issue journey because too many negative words kept flying like ode you are dating a girl that hasn't opened eyes, once her eye tear she will dump you... You want to use and dump that small girl abi.... You are waiting for a girl in school that they will eat and remain for you.... Too many negative words but we remained steadfast....


Those that doubted now praise us for how far we've come.

I must confess she made me a better man and brought me many blessings

Wedding go loud

If you are a good person with no intent of exploiting her then tell her that she has not yet come of legal age and she will put you in trouble.

I was in a similar position 7yrs ago. I was 24yrs and just finished my youth service, she was 17yrs preparing for jamb.

I was taking her private lessons for the jamb and feelings started flying. In my case she didn't say it but I could see that the girl was Catching Feelings but pretended like I wasn't noticing.

She would chat on facebook, call me like 10 times a day even after closing the class. Lol

She failed the first jamb. When she clocked 18yrs and legal age, I made the proposal and she gladly agreed...

A perfect and decent girl I wouldn't want to exploit. As usual the relationship began as hide and seek for her parents not to know.

At 19yrs the mother discovered and called us for a private talk. A very understanding woman. I talked with her in the presence of her daughter explaining my feelings and plans for us. I could tell that my girl was impressed and the mom saw a gentle man. She only advised us to be careful and also she doesn't want her husband to know yet until when she feels her daughter is mature enough.


At 20yrs she gained ission, after year one her dad was laid off from work and she was supposed to drop from school but the same year, God blessed me and I could her in school too.

We are 7yrs together, we have never fought, still faithful to each other, never cheated, both families are themselves as in-laws, infact during holidays in school most times she spends her holiday at either with my own grandma in the village OR with my elder brother's wife in the state she schools.

My mom and her mom already refer to each other as in-laws.

We have grown together from two naive youths to soon become husband and wife.

Once she rounds off her final paper, marriage plans will be on the way.

So like I said earlier so long as u have no ulterior motives for that young girl, keep your feelings away till she clocks legal age. If she is homely and has sense, groom her

That is what US is good at.

Biden had a meeting with Tinubu in India and it is obvious he must have made a request for Tinubu to carry out and given an ultimatum to do that otherwise his secrets will be unveiled.

I guess it could be urging ecowas to invade Niger at all cost and restore a pro western leader that will protect their interest.

Niger has one of the largest deposit of uranium in the world which is a key ingredients for the making of nuclear bombs and so far Niger is tilting towards Russia which gives Russia privilege to control the uranium mining there in Niger.

Secondly, after giving 's ambassador 48hrs to leave Niger, the junta has extended that ultimatum to US ambassador which United States may see as an insult to them and coupled with their over $150m military based recently built in Niger.

I strongly believe it is connected to the Niger political situation and ecowas invasion.

US corrupt leaders in the world because they can easily get their dirty files and use it as a leverage to bend them to their rules. You fail to do what they what and they use that leverage against you. This is why they keep shut when democracy is abused in Africa.

Let's expect this Niger invasion talk to be revived again because that druggie in aso rock is desperate to protect his secrets

Same fool that was hailing Tinubu.

I am so pleased with this. He should go back to the streets

NLC, Nigeria Labour Congress begins two days warning strike to protest against the harsh economic situation in the country.

From eye witness report the major sea ports in Nigeria have been shut down and workers stranded outside.


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A friend and a former business partner is seeking a return to come back to Nigeria from UK to start life afresh because to him UK is too difficult to live.

This guy was doing well in his business in Nigeria, having sometimes turn over of 9million in 3 months. Like he was OK, he introduced me to this business, taught me everything I know and how to get goods, introduced me to some s sef.

I was still in the learning process under him when in less than 6months he told me his visa is ready for migration. I was confused, like how come? When you process visa? I was also scared because I just resigned My job to him in his business and in less than 6months my guy wants to leave me and japa.

He left ooo for UK on a student visa.

Since he already gave me s and links to get goods, I just continued pushing and have survived.

It was 2019 and since this year my guy has been complaining that he wants to return back to Nigeria, that he regrets his decision to leave, these and that.

His problem is how to come back and start from scratch.

I have told him that I am still available, with the savings he has, he can bounce back and moreover though I am still trying to find my feet but I am still in the system and we can push through together.

Truly japa is not for everyone. At a point I had the intention to japa but on a second note, I am not hungry, I am not suffering, I have a working business. I will. Just stay, work, invest and send my family there. When money comes I visit and return.

samsegs:
So u feel its all about Japa....i've got a sen bro that just japa,,this dude was making 450k/month where he works here in 9ja,,bro is now regretting y he even japa sef,,....japa is for those struggling in 9ja,,not those that ve made it here in 9ja

My brother na that thing dey fear me. Like this I get offer to japa to Canada through visit visa with the agent promising to get me job offer with lmia approval to convert the visa to working visa. Fee is 2.5m and I am not paying anything except 250k for visa processing which will be deducted from the 2.5m once visa shows but fear no gree me.

Naija hard but at least I dey see above 300k monthly, e no go anywhere but hunger no dey catch me. I just dey fear what if I go there and meet something different from what he said? What if that lmia approval job isn't as easy as he sounds? What If them even abandon me after getting there? Shey I fit survive a night for Canada's harsh weather?

Omo, I just pushed the offer to my friend. He said he is willing to take the risk. No problem he can go and make way

Mindlog:


If your are skilled and such skill is on the occupation shortage list (not those care jobs stuff), then you are good to go. I am on the UK skilled worker visa, a clinical role in child and adolescent mental health services, though I was already qualified to get a job that would grant me UK skilled worker visa with my B.A degree but I wanted to do a Msc in a specialty when I was still in the mood, reason I came to do the UK through study route.

From my findings, the easiest way to get job through visit visa is through truck driving


I can't drive trucks, as a matter of fact I am still not good enough driving saloon cars.

I have no skill, carpentry, barbing etc.

I used to write codes, build functional websites but Mehnnn I abandoned that to venture in business because my bills needed to be paid.

For now what I do and good at is business, I have eyes for it, know how to market and get my clients

YoshihideSuga:


It's good you cancelled it. LMIA is very hard for a Nigerian living in Nigeria with a Nigerian port to get clearance for. If it's not study visa, don't try it.

That's what I discovered and decided to abort the mission

Toks2008:


If you have the chance to leave please do but be ready to build your life from the scratch. Laslas you will be glad you did.

Nigeria does not provide job security or business security.

Politicians, yahoo boys, as well as very few fortunate ones make it in the long run through serious sweat.

I know but if it is not study route, I can't risk it

Thank God for nairaland, I could have fallen victim to this japa craze.

I really want to travel but my biggest fear has always been what if things are not as they say?

I am 30yrs old with HND. So far I am hustling on my own it's not easy but gradually I invest here and there to improve my income I get roughly 250 to 500k monthly but the economy and responsibilities drain it..

Recently my brothers came up with a Canada travel offer via conference.

After listening to the agent talk that after the conference they will seek lmia job for me. He sounded like its very easy.


I began my research and here discovered that it's not as easy as he painted it and also I followed chorkor millionaire on YouTube and learnt alot.

At my age I can't afford to make terrible decisions now and considering I would be selling everything and shutting down my business to fund the travel Omo I told my family that I won't be pushing through with the travel plans if it is not through study route and they are all looking at me like village pple have gotten me

UnfairLife7:
Shantti i guess this is also a woman.

I am a full blooded man... Unless you've lost a loved one to abusive marriage you won't understand

loricara:
I rented an apartment in March when I moved in I discovered the house was leaking water all over the places according to landlord he said more than 30 places but I think it was around 10 places.

We agreed he will refund me house rent and agreement and I left immediately in April.

This is 4 months he has rented the house still refused to refund me.

Every time from one story to another he has more than 6 shops he has 2 story building yet he said no money business is not moving.

I'm tired someone please help me we are both Igbos in this Lagos and I'm 22 I need my money back please help me.

Go-to office of public defender in surulere and report him. If it's not within their jurisdiction they will refer you to citizen mediation centre yaba to take up the case.


I did that to my mad landlord last year and he respected himself

You did right by arresting him


Seee I am a guy ooo but I detest men that do that. I never saw my dad hit my mom for one day and once of it all, we lost our sister to an abusive husband.

We kept begging her to leave that Bastard but she refused until he sucked the life out of her.

We couldn't do anything because his family is high and mighty.

So you did very well.

Inter Miami won their first trophy in their history after an intense penalty shoot out.

Lionel Messi was awarded the MVP of the tournament plus the golden boot.


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