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Hello everyone,
Please I am in dire need of an accommodation in Glasgow, preferably shared apartment. Single lady with no dependents

Hello everyone, I am in dire need of an accommodation in Glasgow preferably shared apartment . Single lady with no dependents.

Please, is anyone to plymouth university for January 2022 intake? Asking for my brother

Aikayval:
I have , and many others.

please your details? How many days did it take for them to issue you CAS

E4goodies:

What campus are you heading to?
London or Glasgow campus?

Glasgow campus, please can I have your details

Please ooo, who has gotten CAS from Glasgow Caledonian University ( GCU)

Aikayval:

Me

please can I have your contract details

Please ooo who is going to Glasgow Caledonian University oo this January o?

E4goodies:

What campus are you heading to?
London or Glasgow campus?

Glasgow campus

Please oo, who is going to Glasgow Caledonian University January intake oo??

Has anyone gotten CAS from Glasgow Caledonian University?

Please how much is visa fee and IHS fee, do I fund my bank with black market rate

Hello just wise and other gurus in the house, when printing out my statement of for my proof of funds, do I print out from the very first day the money was deposited into the or the next day. Thank you

AirBay:
@Amakaoyekachi1 Please kindly stop littering the thread with same response to different posts.

I believe you can sort this issue within the family either through reconciliation or Divorce.

All these advisers cannot help you o. I never see where a judge hears from A and proceeding to judgment without B stating their own part. Your hubby is not here to tell us his own side of the story.

Go on a family meeting and if it's not resolved,file for divorce.. guyman dy flex hm life.

Okay thank you Nairaland family

signature2012:


No sane man will abandoned his lovely wife and not put a call through for 4 months.
Deep down in you heart,you know what's is happening between you both.
All this back and forth trying to seek adevice from peeps who dont know what really transpired between you both wont work.

You were both married,I believe his parents are aware he married you.
So you want to tell me none of your own family have put a call through to your hubby or you will say they don't have his number?You dad,mum or siblings!
Your husband's family all denied you?Common now!!!!
There is more to your story...Your last conversation with me,reflect more on it..
From your story,he was already a student before he married you,he came to naija,got married to you and went back to Canada,then suddenly ghosted you...Just like that.
You claim to have his supervisor's number,how did you get it?How man diasporan will their superior number to relatives back home.
Now call the supervisor and ask about your hubby from him.You dragging this story too much.
Sincerely,I am tired of reading your story here.Make a move and know where you stand.

Other option,look for someone matured here,send the person your hubby's number.The person will reach out to him and hear his side of the story.
You did not mention if you have kids yet.If it happen you dont have yet,return his bride price,divorce him and move on.
You cant be dying in silence while the dude is living his dream life.

Please,enough of your comment here,make move,take action.This thread has been derailed enough.

Some of my message might be harsh,but the truth is always bitter!!!!

Let me say it again,no man that love you will not reach out to you for 4 months,kojo!.
You said he told you to remove his pictures from facebook or so.The writing is on the wall there.Very very bold.

We were very good, all up till this year, if something had transpired between us would I come to Nairaland to be seeking for advice? I waited for 4months before I came here when a friend advised me to seek opinions on Nairaland, he gave me his supervisor number by himself and some other details which I could use this trying period. When I say family are not saying anything, the last time I spoke to them which was yesterday they told me to move down to their house( family house), that I should not be worried or overthink anything that my husband is fine, I should just relax. Same thing they told my family but I do relax without been agitated. I won’t do anything bad to him, I just want to see the limit I can push him to make him talk and know what’s in dark, even if it’s a divorce. How do you file a divorce with someone that in incommunicado? Family will now say I am not a virtuous wife( African mentality) they might even say I have someone I want to runaway with. The only thing his family have been screaming in my ears is to be patient and yesterday they told me to move my load and come and live with them.

Lagbaja88:
you need to go off Nairaland and solve the issue. Go to his parents house with your parents to discuss. All this one you are typing here wont help you

I have been going to the family house alone but this time around I might have to go with my parents. I just want to see how things unfolds this June before making a move.

ankaravillageng:


If only you have someone that can approach him one on one there. Cause I have racked by brain for a thousand and one reasons why this is happening and the only logical explanation is death and we know for a fact he is alive. Me I don't know the reason for this wickedness.

He is very much alive, I think he is in a relationship with someone over there and trying to kick me out of the way painful but that’s the honest truth probably because of papers or money I really can’t fathom. But I know I will pull through

lobell:


The criteria for a post graduate work permit is plentiful.

See here https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/study-canada/work/after-graduation/eligibility.html

Try and see if he meets all the requirements. If he does, then I see no reason to be shifty because the process is straightforward.

He does, I know he was working full time( doing two jobs) and I asked him then that hope it won’t get him into trouble with immigration, he said no that there is a way they do it without immigration finding out. Except he wants to fast track everything and doesn’t want to be patient cause I see no reason with the game he is playing and to what end? When the truth will eventually come out sooner or later.

nowhere:
To get that NOC 0, A or B job no be here oo. Other factors can hinder too.

please I don’t understand. I thought they give post graduate work permit immediately someone graduates. Whatever the case maybe I just feel I should be carried along, even if he wants a divorce he should have told me

lobell:


This implies (I may be wrong though) that he is most likely considering marriage route as he won't be qualified for the CEC route.

Writing the Canadian embassy will get you what you want. But! I will suggest you inform his family that this will be your next move because if you do this, and he is actually doing something shady, he will be deported and probably banned for a really long time. Informing his family of you move, may make them and him open up.

Weigh your options and choose carefully.

But someone mentioned here that as a student after studies, you would be given post graduate work permit then can apply for PR afterwards. It’s hurt and I feel he should have carried me along with whatever plans as his wife.

Basalt:


Don't you have his Facebook ID or whatsapp?

I suggest you also try sending him email and LinkedIn message.
If he doesn't reply, then he is purposely ignoring you.

I have done all of the aforementioned

lobell:


Really sorry about your ordeal. Kudos for staying strong so far.

Some clarifications if you may please.
1. What sort of program is he running? Bachelor's, Certificate course, Diploma, masters, PhD?
2. How is he funding the program? Self-funded, scholarship etc.

These will inform my next communication.
Cheers.

1. Masters
2. Self- funded

SlowlybtSurely:
Wow! Just wow!

I really can not believe people's comments. She should "fight for her marriage"? She should "fast and pray"? She should know that "if the man is deported, he will not stay married to her"? Is this marriage? Someone even said the other lady "is just a girlfriend". What is wrong with people? How damaged can anyone be to try to rationalize this man's behaviour?? There is no reason for anyone to not speak with their spouse for 4 months. 4 good months! Even if he's in jail, he will be allowed to make calls every once in awhile. The only reason that makes sense to me is if he is dead.

Amakaoyekachi1, I've got to say; you have handled this with so much grace. I am pretty sure I would have lost my mind after 1 week. I'm so sorry you are going through this. This is not what marriage should look like, and it sucks even more that you were newly weds before his trip. This is the time you two should be building your future with each other. I don't know what the foundation of your marriage is, but sis, it does not look good. If he is indeed alive, then he does not want to be in that marriage and it is NOT your job to make him remain in it. Marriage requires two people's effort and commitment, only yours cannot sustain it. He must have told his family his plan and that is why they are not forthcoming with information. Even his close friends will know. You are nobody's fool and don't act like one. I repeat, this is not how marriage should be.

You asked if someone who is married in Nigeria can be allowed to get married again in Canada. . .It depends on his status when he did his application. If he came into Canada as a married man, then he would need to produce divorce papers or death certificate of the previous spouse to be allowed to get married again. But there is nothing stopping him from having a live-in-lover (and I suspect this is the case) and the authorities won't do anything if that's what is going on. It is not illegal to cheat on one's spouse.

You said you have the of his supervisor? Why haven't you called? How does calling his supervisor to ask his whereabouts put him in trouble? You need to reach him through any means possible. You deserve some closure. You are his WIFE. Thankfully, you two don't have kids yet. Start planning how to move on from this after you get the closure. It will take some time, but eventually, you will heal. Know that this is not your fault. Even if you are the worst wife in history, you do not deserve to be ghosted.

Good luck sis.

Thank you so much your words actually uplifted my spirit, most of the suggestions I have been getting has been making me feel like a bad wife and people telling me to over look things, like it is that easy. I can imagine how some would have reacted, no one deserves this kind of maltreatment from their spouse, I have been calm enough and deserves every form of closure I can get. I’ll watch his things unfolds till the end of June.

JennyKadry2:


Yep. It is easier said than done. Sometimes, there are two different types of advise from strangers.....
1. The one they give to fellow strangers
2. The one they give to family or people really close to them.

I cannot tell you to sit and pray and I also cannot tell you to hit him hard. You are the one living out this story in this present moment and only you know how much it hurts.

It doesn't matter which way you go (sit and pray or hit him hard), there will be consequences (emotional and/or physical and/or psychological) from your actions. The real question though is ........"are you prepared to own whatever fall out from this with your full chest?"

That’s why I want to see how things unfolds in the following months, without taking an irrational decision, by just been calm and stay mute. I know the truth will eventually come out

ankaravillageng:


I can't say I totally understand you but I do sympathise with you. Even when you find the truth and it hurts, you'll might feel like taking a pound of flesh but try to just resist, it would be hard I know, infact it might be impossible, but try you best to leave him to his cross. Trust me when I say life would deal with him if your hands are clean and he did do you wrong, he would definitely meet his Waterloo.
In the main time find your happiness again and see if you can move on.

Thank you

irijuola:


I know you are hurt and very angry but you have to be careful also. All these ways you are looking at will spell doom for you both. How? If he ends up being deported, he will never stay married to you. Try all amiable ways to fight for your marriage. Involving Canadian and school authority will be bad for him but what will you gain from it? Really, if the marriage can be saved, try and save it. If not, let it go. If you threaten him with all these, you don't know the extent him or his family will go. Don't lose your life my dear.
The only advice I have for you as a Christian is this: PRAY. The same way voodoo can be made to reset someone's mindset, prayer can do better. Pray that God should make him miss you terribly. Pray that God should withhold rest from him until he s you. In the midnight, cry out to God and he will surely answer you.

My sister, try God when all hope seems lost. All is well with you.

Thank you �

ankaravillageng:


I can't say I totally understand you but I do sympathise with you. Even when you find the truth and it hurts, you'll might feel like taking a pound of flesh but try to just resist, it would be hard I know, infact it might be impossible, but try you best to leave him to his cross. Trust me when I say life would deal with him if your hands are clean and he did do you wrong, he would definitely meet his Waterloo.
In the main time find your happiness again and see if you can move on.

Thank you, I would keep updating the Nairaland family how it eventually turns out. I will be patient to see how this month unfolds�

kife:


The fact that his family is silent speaks volume.
Most of us out here do not value the mental health of our women back home, so far we are in Canada, nothing else matters.

Please my dear, guard your mental health jealously..do not let any of this get you into depression...

Stay strong and always that time reveals it all.

That’s exactly what I am doing because months back, I was in a terrible state almost lost my mind but ThankGod for the people I have around me who helped me to move past it. I know the truth will eventually come out, God is with those with clean hearts �

ankaravillageng:


I have been following your write up and somehow I feel compelled to talk.
In whatever you decide to do please try to make sure it would not have a negative effects on him, let karma take it's course especially if you don't have concrete proof against him. Even if you do just let him go peaceful, I don't know how long you guys have been together before getting married but if you can, just overlook it and move on.

It’s easier said than done, I’m pretty sure if you were in my shoes you won’t say this, it’s very painful cause I don’t deserve this happening. Imagine if it was the other way around, will you tell me to wait for karma? Or if I was your blood relation, won’t you want to get to the root of the matter? I just feel whatever is going on he should be man enough and feel me in, I wont kill him if he does.

impeccablerose:
To everyone saying she shouldn't report to authorities, not call his supervisor or be patient, I am sure you can't tolerate 1 month of being ghosted by your partner if you were in her shoes let alone months. So when will the patience end??

@Amakaoyekachi1, its your home and your marriage. There have been lots of advice in earlier posts, put them together and outline your next steps.

If you still have that patient and want to give him some benefit of doubt,  set a time LIMIT for your patience and keep trying to reach him within that timeline (through his supervisor, his school, peeps on nairaland attending same school willing to help and directly ing him).

If your patience has gotten to its limit, like someone said earlier,gather your evidence and reach out to him to let him know you're getting authorities involved. If no response from him, let your family and his know your next line of action. Then get a lawyer and ACT.

As regards being blocked from all communication channels with him. You can create a different a different or multiple emails addresses (do same on other communication channels with him). The aim is to make sure he gets all the messages and warnings you'll send to him before you escalate the situation.

Just know that any action you take or don't take will have consequences. Think about the consequences carefully before you decide on what to do. Whatever you do, don't lose yourself or your sanity for anything.

I will give a time frame and see how things unfolds in a month, so I don’t get blamed if I decide to act irrational everyone will know I have tried and exhausted all patience in me. Whatever the case is he should be man enough to let me know what the problem is, if it’s a relationship it’s much better but marriage( it takes two tango) because when things like this happens everyone blame the woman without understanding the in-depth of things. That’s why I came here to seek for advice.
But I know God will guide and see me through

Anndav:



My dear, the earliest you act the better...if you know his supervisor reach out to him/ her, it's just in a decent and calm tone to request about him as if u are worried if he is fine ....my husband boss In the office reach out to me times without no , if they cannot reach him expecially weekend there is nothing wrong with that ....as far as you don't that to discuss family issues with her.
Myself and my husband where apart for over 5 years but we were closer using all social media platforms...even with the time difference we have morning devotion together Nigeria time ...we also have serious quarrell as well including extramarital issue and we settle..
One thing I know about men is that they get easily distracted but a quick rejection or acceptance can save the day ....USE All CHANELLE to reach him....let him no you have reach your breaking limit ...if not you will lose everything las las he would have gone too far to come back from wherever he has wondered to

Yes absolutely, Men easily get distracted I think he is distracted by something/someone or trying to get married to someone based over there for papers, like some peeps of Nairaland suggested, which might be true. It just hurts that I am been ghosted at least if I aware of anything going on I can easily move past it not when worry becomes a daily routine of what could be wrong.

kife:



As far as I know, unless he is in Jail, there is absolutely no reason for him not to reach you.

This is not a case of "I want to be with my husband"

This is more of, does the man consider you his wife?

Of all things...communication is non-negotiable in a long distance affair...
Not being in communication for months is more than enough reason to love and protect yourself 1st...thats not marriage.

I pray you find courage to do right by yourself.

I just have a strong intuition that something is happening in the dark but I can’t just place my hands on it and it’s really hurts that I can’t get my answers on the questions I have asked myself several times. I’ll get to the root of the matter.