NewStats: 3,263,813 , 8,181,483 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 June 2025 at 03:58 AM 64l6

purples25:


Please marry your spec and let her go. I don’t want that girl to suffer.

You're getting too invested in the matter bruv

I've taken my time to go through all the comments and I really want to say I appreciate everyone who took time out of their busy schedules to talk to me like a brother.

The married men, those in relationships and the singles, your advises all meant a lot to me.

I learnt alot and I realised so many things I never knew.

Thank you all so much , I have been equipped with knowledge and the experiences you all shared and I really appreciate.

Thanks family.

Is like I go marry the girl, na better woman.
Is like na ashawo de my eyes true true

Oracleee:
Why do you think married folks feel more attracted to a complete stranger than a wife of years? I guess you experimented that answer even whilst single.


The issue is to discipline yourself as truth is you're kinda married to the lady since you cohabit etc, and you're suffering the same thing married folks does (see finish).

I swear Bro

MikeofKd:
Yellow skin with big yansh lmaooo.

Listen bro , sex is tiring , it doesn't matter who you do it with , it's natural to feel that way. You would always get tired at some point.

I once banged the most prettiest girl in campus one time and believe me bro it was the most boring sex of my life but people thought I was enjoying lol.

I would advise you to open up to your girl , discuss this with her with an open heart. I would also recommend you both see a sex therapist, sha don't lose a good woman pls , good women these days are rare to find.

God bless you bro

koning:




I don't usually respond on this section, but your post seems real and relatable. Sex is the least criteria you should consider when it comes to marriage and long term relationship. A woman who gives you peace of mind and takes very good care of you is all you need. It does not matter if she is doing it out of need, or that she has no other option. That should actually work in your favour. Keep her dependant on you.

I have been there and actually still in it. Those fair skin girls with big yansh you can chop from time to time. But keep your current girlfriend at home.

You will also get tired of sex with that fair skin, big yansh girls after 10 to 15 years. There's a reason most Run's girls(olosho) survive on married men. And 98% of those men never leave their wives.

Anyway, from the comment above, i can see that you've come to your senses. Nothing beats coming back to a peaceful home after hustling all day.

Thank you so much for this I appreciate 🙏🏿

eastOFwest:


You are not an ingrate. You are asking the right questions, no matter how ridiculous the questions might sound. Only a very small percentage of marriages fail because of infidelity. Most fail because of those small insignificant things that build up over the years

Thank you Boss

akube34:
marry her, have side chick outside for sex. No go lose good woman Cus of sex wey go later tire u

Thanks Bro.

I'm sorry for being an ingrate. Thanks I'll work on myself.

AllBlack:


One of the most annoying things about topics of such nature which start by making a clarion call for the need for advise is that it doesn't come with any statement that shows the will to pay for the advice especially when the responder would have to leave whatever he/she is doing in order to pay rapt attention to every word and detail so as to efficiently deliver well tailored and sincer advice especially in a public place like nairaland where the pool of intellect is already filled with derailers and other assorted psychos who just want to catch that thing they term as CRUISE.

I would have preferred having a face to face conversation with you, not because I want to have a conversation but because I actually saw the burden you bear in the way you narrated your ordeal. The sincerity of your heart trauma was felt and I appreciate your maturity in being articulate about the areas of concern.

My submission:
Permit me to start with questions which you should pose to yourself.
- If this your girl was the last woman on earth, would you marry her?
- If there were two women left on earth and she just happened to be one of them ; would you stick with her that has accorded you all respect without dumping you in your lowest moments for better options and still serving you hot sex even when you don't show any desire for her? OR would you take a chance on the other woman?
- Why do you want to get married? For sex? Peaceful coexistence? Eye candy?

- If after spending over 730 days (2 years) with her and you are still with her, with all the qualities you yourself has mentioned, will you sincerely say you can afford to do away with her just for your own inability to bring yourself to see beyond your own selfish desires for someone whose skin just happens to be of different complexion and flesh that protrudes at the back?

- Before I rest my keypad, I have to congratulate you for finding a babe with big ass and yellow skin that has all the wonderful characteristics which can be found in this babe you are now thinking of dumping. In this world full of annoying and disrespectful women, It is not easy to find such a female but you managed to achieve that and this is what is fanning the embers of confusion that is burning in your mind. If I am wrong and you have not found such a magnificent yellow pawpaw in 2 years, then what exactly is your reason for instigating the demise of your relationship with this current unfortunate babe?

Thanks alot for this advice, you gave me so much to appreciate and think about and I really appreciate. Thanks Man.

Biqsahm:
apologies bro, but if ur story z real bro, Neva leave that girl unless she cheat on u. or move er self. peace of mind is the most important thing u need in marriage.

No problem Boss I understand, thanks.

whatmoreng:
Don't marry out of pity.
Bro don't let anybody advise you other wise. Man up and do what is right for you.


If you don't want her, please send me her

Idiot

YoungBTCxchange:
As I am right now, no matter how woman take fine reach, I will always be tired of her
That's my main problem now" I can't even spend a week with my girlfriend without getting tired of the sex, sometimes I think I have a problem somewhere because how am I going to stay with my wife for years in marriage.
I always tell any girl I like so much to always cover her body and we should not be having sex almost very day when she comes visiting so that my sex urge towards her won't die

Bro you understand my predicament, how person wan take marry like this when woman de quick tire person😭

Biqsahm:
Bro, dis ur case no b hard nut jare. u b confirm ingrate just own dis ur personality with ur full chest n chase er away, stop worrying about er she will b fine. since ur peace of mind no really dey dat important to u no worry boss u go learn n na d hardest way e go b. Shey oni o stupid ni

I didn't ask for insults but thank you.

emillysmigael:
You're really confused my brother!!!

Please, don't just waste her time

Thank you.

Hello House, please help I need advice.

I have a girlfriend who's been with me for 2 years, she's a very good girl, respects me to the core, she is beautiful and has no faults, she loves me so much and has also suffered with me even when there was no money and we've been through it all, she's every man's dream and a complete wife material in of character and also a great chef.

Problem is I am not sexually attracted to her, I can be in same room with her for a week and not touch her, even when she's totally naked running around the house.

I'm only attracted to light skin girls with big ass but she's chocolate and average ass, I don't want a sexually boring marriage.

She's good in bed and knows how to make love, but I just don't feel sexually attracted to her, is it because we've been having sex for 2 years? am I tired of her? I don't even know, she has never insulted me, she s me and we hardly have disputes.

Married men in the house should I go ahead and marry her? Can lack of sexual attraction to your spouse be a big problem?

I don't want to break up with a good woman just because of sex.

She loves me so much and I know breaking up with her will hurt her so much, I know how much she cries anytime we have issues, most times over minor issues. I love her too. But this sexual attraction thing is a problem.

She no de hungry me to fvck at all. How person wan take marry woman wey no de hungry am to fvck.

Is it see finish? Will I get sexually attracted to her if we give each other space? Or is it because she's not my spec physically? But I love her so much and I'm just confused.

I don't even know if it's love, because she has no one, I'm her everything, her family is poor and I always feel pity for her whenever I want to break up.

Of recent we had issues and she went to discuss it with her ex and that made me so angry. I don't tolerate women that still keep in touch with their ex and I considered breaking up but she cried so much and was apologising, she even fell sick and was begging.

I have a soft spot for her because I know she doesn't have anything or anyone, I'm the person that s her financially and everything, so whenever I want to break up, I think about those things and I feel so much pity for her like if I chase her away where will she go? and this is a girl that has been there for me few times when I was low.

I'm just confused.

zanieike:
I have been unable to since yesterday due to the drop down menu of the LGA section and Academic qualifications not working.

Same here what do we do.

Good news guys!!!

New ministers have been appointed, including the minister of humanitarian affairs. Lets hope this is positive news and they us for christmas.

Your wife used tears to lure you into marrying her....
Refused to change her name to your surname after marriage...
Gave birth to your first son and your name appears nowhere on your son's birth cert...
Used tears to manipulate you into allowing her name the child with the name she chooses, not yours.
Forcing you with years to allow her pastor officiate the naming ceremony, in her church.

Sorry my guy, but you be big mu.mu

For 9ja to pay poor man wetin dem owe poor man, e go take lie lie investigation of 6 months and counting 😂

But to buy cars for already rich politicians and to approve money for nonsense, e no go take one minute.

I have a theory, I believe Edu Betta was sacked because she tried to do the right thing, in a short time after being appointed minister, at least we got one month, they were never ready to pay us and she didn't follow the planned agenda.

Because if truly she tried to steal and she's been caught and money recovered, why not pay Beneficiaries? Which other investigation is taking over 6 months now?

Nigerians learn from Kenya and take over your country, can't wait for the revolution to start.

ezenwaez:
Npower News Today Wednesday 26th June 2024

According to Npower News today Wednesday 26th June 2024, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu made an important decision to lift the suspension on the Conditional Cash Transfer (CCT) program. This announcement, made during President Bola Ahmed Tinubu's one year in office address, depicts the federal government’s ongoing dedication to providing financial and assistance to poor and vulnerable households through the Conditional Cash Transfer (CCT) Programme. The NASSPS-SU Stepdown Training Orientation is currently taking place in various states across the federation. This training aims to educate desk officers, enumerators and enrollment officers on the new changes in the Conditional Cash Transfer Programme, making sure that the Conditional Cash Transfer Programme meets its set objectives of providing financial to the poor and vulnerable to cushion the effect of inflation on these individuals.

Despite the resumption of the Conditional Cash Transfer (CCT) Programme, President Bola Ahmed Tinubu did not provide any update with respect to Npower program. As the moment, Npower remains suspended.

According to Npower News, beneficiaries of Npower batch c should kindly note that Npower payment can still be made despite the fact that Npower is still suspended. These Npower payments are considered debts owed to beneficiaries of Npower batch c, and it is up to the NASIMS to decide when to pay beneficiaries of Npower batch c.

In conclusion the final decision with respect to the continuation of Npower rest solely on President Bola Ahmed Tinubu. Until President Bola Ahmed Tinubu makes a decision on the lifting of the suspension of Npower, Npower will remain suspended.

Source: https://goldennewsng.com/latest-npower-news-for-june-2024-backlog-payments-and-program-updates/

I swear Nigeria happened to us. And it's so painful.

Abrian550:
Nobody is talking anymore. People are farming airdrops haha.
Tapswap is going to disappoint but Hamster Kombat seems legit enough. This is from someone that got $44 from Notcoin. Yescoin is legit too.

Npower do people strong thing but what to do?

True, nobody hopes on the nonsense NPOWER anymore, guys who are serious with their life know with a Smart phone and Internet, you can make more than the 270k they owe us.

To hell with them and shame on politicians who don't care about their people.

Crypto, tech, Bombing and sporty steady taking boys out of trenches.

Wait, you guys were really hoping they would pay?

McjMike:
I believe Npower will not end like this. There's still hope.

I believe I believe I believe. Hope hope hope.

That's what they've managed to do to us, false hopes and belief.

Always at the mercy of their decisions, we cannot demand good government or demand what they owe us.

We are masters of endurance and adaptation.

Wherever they push us, we go like zombie

Fela was right. Zombie o zombie!

I was born and brought up in Nigeria, but my children will never forgive me if I raise them here.

I spit on our leaders.

AntiTerrorist:
In Nigeria if you are not among the first batch, forget it. If any policy will favour the masses, politicians won't let it last. As far as they are concerned, anything that will make the masses smile is not good for the "country."

See how beautiful the NPOWER program was, it wasn't perfect but it was effective, a good number benefited and I know people who invested their NPOWER money and doing well today.

But will the VULTURES we have in power let it continue? NO

They keep acting like they are untouchable, that's why a whooping 30 billion meant for the poor hungry masses can be embezzled without fear or consequences.

I keep saying this, the day NIGERIA WILL BURN, The fire will start from the people at the TOP

Make dem continue, it's their time,I hope all the money will save them when fire starts.

4 years if ing for this program since 2020, every year from one story to another.

You see this level of atrocity, it's not making headlines yet, wait till fire starts.

kot1917:


If you are sure about your plug please give it a trial.... all the best

Alright thanks Boss

Musty112:


Unless your connect has another connect at the headquarters ( preferably in HR or other high position) don't bank on being able to tender your degree or HND easily ooo.

Okay thanks Boss

I have a sure plug for FIRE SERVICE level 3. That's Ssce level. Although I'm a graduate, My connect said I can upgrade with my degree result when I'm already in the system, please how true is this? Is it worth it?

I just like the way we've all accepted our fate and moved on. We can't do anything, we just leave am for God.

Good News guys

mrprince01:


That's because they ie Politicians view everyone else as pawns, believing we can be swayed by small rewards. Despite the chance for change in the last election, naija remains far from salvation. When the time comes, people from all regions will unite for positive transformation. For now, we have to pay dearly for our wrong choices.

I concur comrade.

Imagine not paying Nigerian politicians for over a year

But as it doesn't affect them, they won't know what those affected are going through. And they won't speak up or agitate for the beneficiaries.

I just de laugh.

You know why?

I know one day this country will burn down, form Abuja, to Lagos, North South East and West. And I pray to God to witness it when it happens.

The poor will be fed up of all these bullshit and they will set the country ablaze so there will be no country to loot anymore, make everybody find where them go run go as we've shown we're incapable of Leadership.

Let the Chinese or white men take over and show us how it's done, we don't love each other nor care about each other and how decisions and policies from those in power affects the common man.

Since we're not ready to be a country. Let the country burn down.

Coz this can't continue.

Giant of Africa for mouth. See our mates, and other younger countries, making strides and innovating.

To pay salaries wahala, good road wahala, education, wahala, we can't even get our elections right.

Make Dem no worry, it a time bomb