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Okeytech:
I went to greet my mother in-law and along the way i separated the money i wanted giving her from the money i kept for myself, so when i was leaving i deepdip my hand into my pocket and removed the money which i just gave her... So immediately she collected it, i realized it was the wrong money i gave her but i couldn't collect it due to shame, i felt so bad and angry. What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

SpatialKing:
It all depends on the kind of relationship you have established between you and your mother in law

Even if it's your own mother sef, you'd find it difficult to ask for the money back, after the way she'd rejoice.
You know mothers like money a lot.

You have made no mistake by giving your in law money. The mistake you made is not being bold enough to request and explain to your inlaw in the most polite way that you have made a mistake.

WantsandMore:
Collect it back Bro! Money given with grudges places no blessings on the giver and the receiver. Just simply tell her “Mama, I’m sorry, I handed you cash I was given to purchase items for a project mistaken it for the one I intended to give you. I’m sorry. Ps: this is most effective if you do it almost immediately, no shame oh. Just attack. Except na money you can afford to part with.

Won’t even lie. Will just explain straight.

Always count the money you want to gift someone in their presence to prevent situations like this.

Okeytech:
my brother, if anyone told me I'll ever make this mistake, I'll say it's impossible. I'm really pained.

Don't worry, ehn?
GOD will bless you with plenty money, so much so that you wouldn't even mind if such happened again.

HitRun:
What una de assume say she give the MIL the big one? What if na the small one she mistakenly give the MIL instead of the intended big one?

It can never be!
If it was the small one, op for confidently tell her..."Ma have this one, that one is a smaller sum from what I had prepared to give you."

And the mother in-law seeing the bulk difference, would be smiling from both cheek.

1metre:
You have made no mistake by giving your in law money. The mistake you made is not being bold enough to request and explain to your inlaw in the most polite way that you have made a mistake.

Sometimes, you'd have to sacrifice some things to preserve your dignity.

If he had asked for it back, the mother-in-law might never see him the same again.
That moment will remain in her memory.

Next time, do transfer..... 😜⌚🤣

Her luck,
Your loss

Firebox123:
read before you type 😂

There was no point in the write-up where he stated he gave the mother in-law the bigger or smaller sum.
You didn't read well.

vikstandon:


There was no point in the write-up where he stated he gave the mother in-law the bigger or smaller sum.
You didn't read well.

why was he pained

Firebox123:
why was he pained

Is possible he felt ashamed he gave a smaller sum to her mother in-law. That could be his pain point.

EmmyMaestro:
Next time, wear boxers wey get pocket so that you go fit hide your own after the separation

Lol

Don't worry, God will bless you in a different way please

vikstandon:


Is possible he felt ashamed he gave a smaller sum to her mother in-law. That could be his pain point.

lol 😂

He wan give him mother in law 5k but mistakenly give her 20k 😂

This rubbish came to fp

sfinkzslot:
My mom once came visiting me in school and gave me money like that , it was during holis she told she had given me what she wanted to use for house keep
Back then phone no dey, and my school far, she couldn't return to collect it me sef just dey wonder then why she dey so generous I never give me that kin money before

I know say that money suffer for your hand. You go don use over spending worry that money

Okeytech:
I went to greet my mother in-law and along the way i separated the money i wanted giving her from the money i kept for myself, so when i was leaving i deep my hand into my pocket and removed the money which i just gave her... So immediately she collected it, i realized it was the wrong money i gave her but i couldn't collect it due to shame, i felt so bad and angry. What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

You are paying for her daughter kpekus wey you dey knack.

Okhuadams:
Two things are involved. No.1 tell her directly you made a mistake with all boldness without shame. No 2.Remove it from whatever you want to give your wife

That's the secretary, Stingy Men Association Of Nigeria (Nairaland district)! Ahailo 🤓!!!

seunny4lif:
Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you, but my Father who is in heaven

Buy wallet next time.

Honorably bring out your wallet and count the amount you want to give anybody and put the rest back in your pocket. No one will force you to see the amount left in your wallet.

How are you comfortable squeezing money in your pocket

My type of mother would advise you immediately to buy a wallet and if you refused, you will be receiving a wallet gift the next time you visit

Okay. I do this also but what I do is, I put the money I want to give out in the right pocket of my tros while the one reserved for myself or other expenses in the left pocket.

I do this because I understand that you must give with your right hand so I simply just dip my right hand into my right pocket and give it out.

That has been my logic.

Mariangeles:


Even if it's your own mother sef, you'd find it difficult to ask for the money back, after the way she'd rejoice.
You know mothers like money a lot.

Nope especially if the money is very important... She will definitely understand

HitRun:
What una de assume say she give the MIL the big one? What if na the small one she mistakenly give the MIL instead of the intended big one?

U be toddler wey no fit use imagination to get the gist?

SpatialKing:


Nope especially if the money is very important... She will definitely understand

Not easy

WantsandMore:
Collect it back Bro! Money given with grudges places no blessings on the giver and the receiver. Just simply tell her “Mama, I’m sorry, I handed you cash I was given to purchase items for a project mistaken it for the one I intended to give you. I’m sorry. Ps: this is most effective if you do it almost immediately, no shame oh. Just attack. Except na money you can afford to part with.

Blessings
Give and move on, bless people and move on.

HitRun:
What una de assume say she give the MIL the big one? What if na the small one she mistakenly give the MIL instead of the intended big one?

If na the small one, he for just comot money from the other one add on top. That way, the woman go believe say her son in law dey generous and get steeze.

But na the big one he gives out that is why he no fit collect am back.

Na simple logic.

Okeytech:
I went to greet my mother in-law and along the way i separated the money i wanted giving her from the money i kept for myself, so when i was leaving i deep my hand into my pocket and removed the money which i just gave her... So immediately she collected it, i realized it was the wrong money i gave her but i couldn't collect it due to shame, i felt so bad and angry. What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

What happens if you keep the whole money in same pocket and at the time of leaving you bring out your money and count out the exact amount you intend giving her and hand it over to her? Or will she grab the whole money from you? That's maturity and being in control.
Since you're not mature enough I'll advice next time you buttoned the pocket you put the one you kept for yourself and the one for her or any other person will be accessed easily that way even if you erroneously want to bring out yours by the time you are struggling to open the pocket you will .

Okeytech:
I went to greet my mother in-law and along the way i separated the money i wanted giving her from the money i kept for myself, so when i was leaving i deep my hand into my pocket and removed the money which i just gave her... So immediately she collected it, i realized it was the wrong money i gave her but i couldn't collect it due to shame, i felt so bad and angry. What would you have done if you were in my shoes?

Always put money as gift in an envelope. It's a sign of respect. That way mistake won't arise