NewStats: 3,262,808 , 8,178,216 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 04:22 PM 3m4d5l

Merry100:

Which forefathers are you referring to? Are you talking about the ones who referred to people with sickle cell anemia as "Abiku"? We have advanced significantly beyond our forefathers, and our understanding has evolved.

Most women aged 35 and older have healthy pregnancies and give birth to healthy children; however, the risks associated with childbearing do increase significantly for women aged 40 and above. Fortunately, advancements in technology have enabled women to take proactive steps to ensure healthy pregnancies or to preserve their eggs for future use. This approach is a better option than unplanned pregnancies.

It is ideal to wait until you are capable of caring for children before having them. The welfare of children should always be a priority. In fact, the government needs to take steps to address the issue of irresponsible parenting, as this could even help reduce the crime rate in the country. Many children from low-income families face malnutrition; some live on the streets, and some are even introduced to crime at an early age as a means of survival. In sane societies, children have the right to a safe and healthy upbringing.

Your thread was more sentimental than rational. Scientifically, it is not advised for a woman to wait till 35 for childbirth.

Furthermore, is there any law that says that woman at 35 must have been made? What about ladies who are not able to make enough money at 35? Maybe they should wait till whenever they make money, perhaps at 60 or marry at 35 since they did not make the money; marrying broke and old. That is the real problem.

Villa12:
but you're also single

Nope I'm. Not.

Happily about to be divorced 😎

kingbee90:

It's either you are still a teenager or your body-count is not more than 7.
Guy,if you have actually bedded a good number of women regardless of their age bracket but not more than 49 yrs, you'll descover that some ladies of 35 have tighter and creamer pussies than some 19 yr Olds.
Age is not a yardstick for pussy measurement.

Marriage is not about pussy.

advanceDNA:
.women don start to dey advise their fellow women to be celibate and make their own money??


I never thought this day would come on nairaland....

Nlfpmod come and see something

Some sane women came to nairaland that is why the topic came up. Nyash brain women like Candylady can't cone up with any reasonable thread.

Yes, I do.

malcom1X:



You said last borns this is not their first child. Don't play.

Which freezing of eggs. Do you know the country that you are in?

Merry100:

Which forefathers are you referring to? Are you talking about the ones who referred to people with sickle cell anemia as "Abiku"? We have advanced significantly beyond our forefathers, and our understanding has evolved.

Most women aged 35 and older have healthy pregnancies and give birth to healthy children; however, the risks associated with childbearing do increase significantly for women aged 40 and above. Fortunately, advancements in technology have enabled women to take proactive steps to ensure healthy pregnancies or to preserve their eggs for future use. This approach is a better option than unplanned pregnancies.

It is ideal to wait until you are capable of caring for children before having them. The welfare of children should always be a priority. In fact, the government needs to take steps to address the issue of irresponsible parenting, as this could even help reduce the crime rate in the country. Many children from low-income families face malnutrition; some live on the streets, and some are even introduced to crime at an early age as a means of survival. In sane societies, children have the right to a safe and healthy upbringing.

Starz825:


You and the 114 people that liked your comment are so foolish....

Jeez.... just take a look at your comments...

Nobody should listen to him oooo

If foolishness was a person....demmm....rotten knowledge...

mumu, just dey play, untill it happened to you.

At this age you guys are still believing in assumptions, without taking note of other people experience..

MsIjeoma:


Hahaha abeg who tell you this one oo
Oya show us your proof, let's see

Learn from other people experience sweetheart.

EMIOMOADEOYE:


I'm starting to think Nairalanders just enjoy typing rubbish just for the fun of it.

Where the hell did you get this from?

this is 80 percent chance of truth of what I have seen and observe.

Take precautions

Until you get to that age and discover that pressure is real.

I wonder how many girls and Ladies will believe this rubbish

cococandy:


It’s male old age that causes deformity in children not female old age.

That fact that you have over 200 likes for this comment shows that a lot of people still have some learning to do.

That is your business, better learn as soon as possible!!

Angy55:


Na you be God na...

to some extent we are made to understand things in the unique way of God.

koladata:
we are not ooo o, my brother . we are not wiser than them at all. I've been reading history books and how those our fore fathers were able to solve complex problems without chat gpt .

It takes one or two experience to believe what I wrote above there.

Villa12:
see as you calm down dey write rubbish. If you write this for exam your failure go loud. Women still give birth in their 40s.

Dey play..you need experiences man, stop living in sentiment and assumptions?!!

Difrent:


At this age, most women of child bearing age not already giving birth is developing fibroid already, 35 is late for a woman.
I will encourage my daughter to start giving birth early

You're blessed my brother

LEGALSER:


Bushman mentality

Don't learn from your mistakes, rather learn from other people experience..

IamANigerianMan:

Mumu, how old is Yul and Judy before they gave birth last year

Please stop assuming bro.

You said am a "mumu" but wise people don't live with assumptions as you does!!

Get sense boy!!!

Solcampbell:



Bro. Thanks for your this. I've seen many comments saying " statistics that have proven that getting pregnant over 35 years is risky" and blablabla and I'm kinda confused. Here in the north, some women will get married at their late teens or early twenties and continue to give birth till the day they stop seeing her menses, 45, 50 or 55. Giving birth to 12, sometimes 14, or 17 children. Infact I've even seen a woman who dropped 21 children and there was no twins o. All na single births. What's more intriguing, southerners no dey born plenty. I guess the average children amongst households over there is 2 kids, especially in this economy. But a average hausa woman at age 35 might still go ahead and add like 3 to 5 children to the kids she already have. Here in the north, it is very common to see a woman whose first grandchildren are same age as her own last borns or even older sef.

Mind you, quite a number of northern women still give birth successfully at home rather than opting for the hospitals, even the ones that are above 30 years. No surrogacy or IVF no nothing and the baby very healthy. Are these commenters saying that women in the southern part of Nigeria were built differently since they are prone to a higher risk pregnancy due to age according to "statistics?"

An interesting observation you have made there. This is the kind of study I would put my money into: the study into the supposed divergence between Northern Nigerian women and their counterparts in the south during late childbearing. Or phrased as: "Are there more childbirth deformities as a result of late childbearing in the south than in the north? If yes, why?"

As for birth rates, yes, the birth rate is higher in the north than in the south. I recalled when I stated so a few months ago but was rebuffed. lol.

Link (free-to-read): https://archive.md/3UMVL

EMIOMOADEOYE:



Sometimes, I wonder where these ideologies stem from.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman striving for financial independence—it’s commendable. But the real question is: what’s the motive?

Take a moment to reflect on this.

A financially independent woman faces her own set of challenges. The reality is, as a woman gets older, her pool of viable options in the dating and marriage market tends to shrink. Add significant wealth into the equation, and the options narrow even further. Men in higher socioeconomic classes typically have their own choices, and this dynamic can complicate relationships.

After dedicating so much time to building financial independence, time may no longer be on her side. Unfortunately, this often places her lower in the proverbial pecking order.

Moreover, many men naturally assess their steps carefully when they find themselves with a partner who is wealthier than they are. While some women might dismiss this as insecurity, let’s be honest—every man wants to feel secure and respected in his own home. He’s not looking for potential conflicts rooted in ego clashes with an “independent” woman.

A real man faces immense challenges daily, negotiating a demanding world to provide and protect. When he returns home, he seeks peace—a sanctuary to recharge for the next battle, not a battleground where his position is questioned or his worth diminished.

Ultimately, the essence of a fulfilling partnership is balance, understanding, and respect—not dominance or competition. Financial independence is a great tool, but without the right perspective and intentions, it can easily become a barrier rather than a blessing.

You write very well.

Enjoyed reading through.

Villa12:
which men dey find woman wey get everything? You go wait tire. No go make money you hear. Society judge men by their financial status o

Me am a married man gegely... Just an advice

Lonestar124:
Learn from other people experience sweetheart.

Abi it's you that should learn how to back up your statement with facts instead of spreading misinformation.

You said if women get married in their 30s, they risk giving birth to disformed [sic] children or children with hormonal imbalance. Now I asked you for proof, you just want to waffle.

You don't have a case. Your statement is not backed by facts, so rest.

Merry100:
I advise you to strive for your own financial independence as a woman. Even if you plan to marry a wealthy man, you may still face several disadvantages, as a man can be wealthy yet uncaring and stingy.

Here are a few steps to take:

1. Avoid all forms of distractions during your youth; success should be your only goal. In fact, don't start dating until you are twenty-four or twenty-five, unless you achieve success before then.

2. Either remain celibate or use very effective contraceptives to avoid pregnancy. No matter what you do, try as much as possible to prevent unplanned pregnancies.

3. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you; wait until you are established and successful enough to get married.

Here are a few disadvantages of rushing into marriage as a woman:

1. While you should be comfortably managing your responsibilities, you will end up viewing them as burdens.

2. Your children will not receive the best care.

3. Your husband might perceive you as a burden.

I hope number 2 doesn't insinuate "terminate " pregnancy?

Akalia:
you are wrong about the part you said "tight pussy gone at 26. Women tastes different.
Take for example, my wife's pussy tastes better than that of my side chick's who happens to be just 21.

nigga why are you cheating on ur wife

tete7000:


You know everytime I open the Internet all I see are people spreading fears and paranoia calling it facts based on empirical data. If I may ask where are the data you have quoted to your white man assertions there? Mr. scientific whiteman, give me figures and statistics and I will listen to you.
Yes, there may be some bit of difficulties associated with children giving birth at advanced age but such difficulties still exist too for even some who chose to born early. To say deformities come with giving birth in advanced age is going too far to scare people into believing that once they don't give birth early, they are condemned into having deformed children. If you talk of bias, I believe that line of thought resonate more with emotions of people like you that see marriage as do or die and something people must do so fast and get over than emotions of people like me who tells people to take their time, find compatible partners and get into advances in science that makes giving birth easy even for those advanced in age.
I have read many so called scientific opinions these days and all I often see are people calling personal biases and fear scientific opinions.

My sister stop all the "shalayes" and excuses, if you are over 30 and without a partner, declare a state of emergency on your relationship status. Get a partner - husband, boyfriend or baby daddy fast
Time is running out - tick tock... tick tick.... tick tock.
Whether you accept accept reality or deceive yourself, fertility, conception and child bearing becomes increasingly difficult after 35 years of age.

Not only scientific data, but common sense would tell you that pregnancy and child bearing is an extremely energy demanding exercise, and the older the woman the more it takes a toll on the woman's body.

After 35 years of age na fibroid and cyst go take over your womb o.

Messages like these are why people enter into marriage out of pressure-- they see the signs but still rush in because they have to fulfil societal demands.

Aren't there children from young parents that have deformed children? So it has to be attributed to age.

Ladies have become desperate with these messages breaking people's homes and settling for baby mama out of fear.

Some when they have kids, they head off for divorce so making men primarily sperm donors.

You all should just stop with all these messages and let people live their lives. You have all done more harm than good.

Marriages isn't primarily about children but you all have made it so. So a woman dash into it despite her unhappiness.

Then, you are the same people who will come with headlines than ladies are oloshos when she cheats on the man because she isn't happy in the marriage.

It's truly sad. Life is lived once.

Allow people live and trust God to perfect everything in His time.

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

Ps: the truth is bitter, chew it!!!

I often don't check out people's profile when they comment, but I had to check yours.

I'm in awe that this comment emanated from a man.

It's indeed refreshing that there are still men who emphasize facts over sentiments.

Your comment nailed this thread.

Thank you, sir

tete7000:


You know everytime I open the Internet all I see are people spreading fears and paranoia calling it facts based on empirical data. If I may ask where are the data you have quoted to your white man assertions there? Mr. scientific whiteman, give me figures and statistics and I will listen to you.
Yes, there may be some bit of difficulties associated with children giving birth at advanced age but such difficulties still exist too for even some who chose to born early. To say deformities come with giving birth in advanced age is going too far to scare people into believing that once they don't give birth early, they are condemned into having deformed children. If you talk of bias, I believe that line of thought resonate more with emotions of people like you that see marriage as do or die and something people must do so fast and get over than emotions of people like me who tells people to take their time, find compatible partners and get into advances in science that makes giving birth easy even for those advanced in age.
I have read many so called scientific opinions these days and all I often see are people calling personal biases and fear scientific opinions.

wirinet:

My sister stop all the "shalayes" and excuses, if you are over 30 and without a partner, declare a state of emergency on your relationship status. Get a partner - husband, boyfriend or baby daddy fast
Time is running out - tick tock... tick tick.... tick tock.
Whether you accept accept reality or deceive yourself, fertility, conception and child bearing becomes increasingly difficult after 35 years of age.

Not only scientific data, but common sense would tell you that pregnancy and child bearing is an extremely energy demanding exercise, and the older the woman the more it takes a toll on the woman's body.

After 35 years of age na fibroid and cyst go take over your womb o.

By concluding that it is a female behind my post shows you are misogynist with a warped mind against women. No need to continue the discussion with you.

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

Ps: the truth is bitter, chew it!!!

So when a man comes at 35 she would Walk away?

Samantha125:
I know two women who naturally had their last born children while in their 50s and the children are healthy.

So having children over the age of 40 might be risky, but it's still possible.

Or the woman can decide to have her eggs frozen until she's found the right man and then have a surrogate carry the children for her... We are far more wiser than our forefathers with the kind of technology we have today.

Lol freeze eggs with which light?

Keep decieving yourself, at 35 the risk of miscarriage increases, menopause is at the corner and you ve hit the wall.

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

Ps: the truth is bitter, chew it!!!

You come across as someone who doesn't think before they talk.

Those who liked your comment obviously did not process it, so I doubt if they're any different.

Lonestar124:
Dey play..you need experiences man, stop living in sentiment and assumptions?!!

everybody don tell you. If you like learn.