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We are wiser than our forefathers...

naijapikin2:
The cycle doesn't suit women.

Omoh... The number of girls I dated that are still unmarried gives me the heeby geebies. Many of them are around that age range.

Chai



Korraf mercy.. (in calabar tongue)

but you're also single

Samantha125:
I know two women who naturally had their last born children while in their 50s and the children are healthy.

So having children over the age of 40 might be risky, but it's still possible.

Or the woman can decide to have her eggs frozen until she's found the right man and then have a surrogate carry the children for her... We are far more wiser than our forefathers with the kind of technology we have today.

What percentage of Nigeria's population are rich enough to afford all these?

Offpoint1:

There's time for everything, don't start giving birth at the age you're supposed to be resting from birth... Or taking care of kids at the age you're supposed to rest, either as a man or a woman.

this is what birth POVERTY. You can have children full house but poor while your friend has 1 or 2 small kids and very conformable. That your friend is better than you

ThaThinka:


So, what if the person hadn't been lucky to find someone suitable at a younger age? I know at least a couple of such.

And another thing: God has the final say! We've heard of middle-aged women giving birth to healthy children, even back in those days.

Everyone don't always get what they want at their desired time. That's life and God knows best.

Well, the story might be different for people who kept marriage on hold when presented with perfect opportunities sha.

if you have a good character as a woman, men will be running to you. Nah bad character keep plenty women single

Miramonica:
I cannot even marry a 35 year old woman, either knowingly or unknowingly, consciously or unconsciously.

A woman nearing menopause.

When 18 to 25 litter everywhere like sand. Nawa oo, eh get some kind thing guy man like me no fit do

Bros me i no dey 18 sef,dem swear for me ni?

If i plan to get married,then it's definitely sweet-16 or nothing above the age of 18.

I be mallam so this is a normal thing for us. Even ned marry regina when she dey 18 because na wise man.

Any idiot that want to marry a girl looking like his aunt have my approval to go ahead.

AngelicDamsel:
Advice don too plenty nowadays

Everybody wants everybody to be like them to feel better. Meanwhile,

Wow. You know this too?

I’ve always said every unsolicited advice does not come from a place of care of concern. It’s a wicked and manipulative act meant to:

1. Get people to be like you so that you can justify your own choices and feel like you did the right thing.


2. Make people feel like you are ahead of them especially if the advice is meant to get people to do what you’ve done.

3. Protect your own worldview and choices by projecting it on others.

If that person takes your advice and becomes better than you, jealousy would kick in, meaning you were never truly interested in their progress.

DAramis:

Sure bro. There is an advice which have gotten repeatedly said but which most people never applied. It is Make sure the woman you are seeing loves you more than you do.



Anyway, I also prays it works out better for you.

unfortunately this your mentality is wrong and dead on arrival. Women are not meant to love but respect and be submissive. Men are meant to love unconditionally which supercedes respect.

Franzinni:
men settle down with women to build a home and raise a family not sex .... I won't be surprised you are not yet married based off your comment.

Op is advising women but secretly she is consoling her old self . At 35 woman is useless to a man, she is definitely going to be a bag of red flags, with Daddy issues, mental problems and hyper masculinity. I mean why else would she not be able to attract a husband when she was useful to humanity ...? At 35 she is a man already.

my cousin sister got married at 37 to her guy who's 41. Only on social media men don't want single mothers, 35+ women, divorcee etc not in real life

Fact 👍

kingbee90:

It's either you are still a teenager or your body-count is not more than 7.
Guy,if you have actually bedded a good number of women regardless of their age bracket but not more than 49 yrs, you'll descover that some ladies of 35 have tighter and creamer pussies than some 19 yr Olds.
Age is not a yardstick for pussy measurement.

But which man in his right senses will want to get married to a 35year old woman when he can get a 20year old girl who is guaranteed to be much more physically attractive and sexually appealing?

God forbid BAT thing

Miramonica:
I cannot even marry a 35 year old woman, either knowingly or unknowingly, consciously or unconsciously.

A woman nearing menopause.

When 18 to 25 litter everywhere like sand. Nawa oo, eh get some kind thing guy man like me no fit do

I shall want you to know that men plenty women in of population.

Starz825:


You and the 114 people that liked your comment are so foolish....

Jeez.... just take a look at your comments...

Nobody should listen to him oooo

If foolishness was a person....demmm....rotten knowledge...

The guy na confirm mumu and na one woman go marry that kind man. Chai

Jughead29:
What if at 35 all suitors are gone?

The problem we have this days is woman not even ready to assist thier man so both can be rich. All they want is a man who has everything which is nowhere until you enter and know the truth.

Now Men also are now looking for women who have everything 😂

Confused generation, we'll see how it will end

which men dey find woman wey get everything? You go wait tire. No go make money you hear. Society judge men by their financial status o

I don't know.

JuanDeDios:

What percentage of Nigeria's population are rich enough to afford all these?

tete7000:


I am the last in my house and my mum gave birth to me when she was over 40 and thought she was done with childbearing and I am not deformed. I have a sister who had spinal cord injury, she had her last child with her condition after she was 40 and the child is a big graduate and employed now. I have seen people who were young and gave birth to deformed children. So where do all these your assertion come into my experience? How does someone like me relate to it? They are simply some of those baseless biases some of you decide to build around life. God should be allowed to guide people individually in their choices in life. There will be so many who marries early and won't have children until late in their marriages, infact there has been many like that without deformed children. If your life is ruled by such fears, you can keep them to yourself and your immediate families,.no need to stop spreading panics and your paranoia to others.

You are just exhibiting typical blackman's traits - emotions over reason. No one has said older women can't give birth to perfectly normal babies, what doctors are saying is that empirical data suggests that the propabllility (note the word probability) of having complicated pregnancies and babies with genetic diseases increases with age. That does not mean that a 50 year old woman cannot birth a normal child.
The reasons are obvious. A female is born with all the eggs she will ever have. The eggs mature at puberty and from there begins to degrade slowly until menopause. Of course you will expect that by 50 most of the eggs would have degraded and so the chances of genetic diseases from such eggs are quite high.

adedayoa2:
ground ko, ceiling ni.

cry more please

incogni2o:


Problem with you guys is that you lack good Home management skills.

It's normal for a Man to be frugal with spending money in the house cos that's one of the ways to achieve a sustainable spending at home.

Wjy not rather cultivate habits and skills that the Man would appreciate in you as a wife who can cope in any financial situation, You prefer to be an independent woman who isn't virtuous enough to take direction from the husband about money management

The fact is that waiting till 35 doesn't make you enjoy your home any better.

It might just increase your conceited attitude as a person.

The Man is the Head and should always be in the position to direct the home.

This applies to reasonable men that love and had the interest of their wives at heart. Not a man who feel he has the final say. He can decide anything (good or bad) that pleases him without the wife interest. In that situation, you're not the head. This is 2024 not 1957 that our mothers take every dick and Harry thrown at them

Saidfx:


If I marry woman and she get money nah for her pocket, because nah me suppose take care of am and give her unconditional love. All this rubbish about women considering thier financial status before marriage nah bull shiiiit. If woman wan marry make she just respect her husband and the people at large... Make she just see herself as woman and nah Nature[/color] set am like that...Men, pls women need you more than you need them. Just live according to your conscience and capacity. No forget the Equatorial Guinea[color=#990000] shit. E still dey for minds o...Men don take am as deep excuse to treaaaaat any potential woman as just lust mate. E deep well!

how many men has the capacity to take good care of their wives and kids in Nigeria today?

we are not ooo o, my brother . we are not wiser than them at all. I've been reading history books and how those our fore fathers were able to solve complex problems without chat gpt .

Lonestar124:
35years is too far for women to get married oo, to avoid bearing disformed and hormonal imbalance children..

Let's stop misleading our younger generation, we are not wiser than our fore fathers.

princeabdul:
Thirty five is the age a woman should be expecting her grand children

35 is the age a man should be at least a billionaire in $$$$

ThaThinka:


So, what if the person hadn't been lucky to find someone suitable at a younger age? I know at least a couple of such.

And another thing: God has the final say! We've heard of middle-aged women giving birth to healthy children, even back in those days.

Everyone don't always get what they want at their desired time. That's life and God knows best.

Well, the story might be different for people who kept marriage on hold when presented with perfect opportunities sha.

If you don't get opportunities to marry at a younger age,you think it gets better with age?

I don't know what gender you are but men generally prefer to marry younger women..

And more importantly,your achievements as a lady is NOT going to make you more desirable to men..

Men don't generally care about a woman's wealth when he's still going to be footing the bills anyway..

Anyone telling a woman interested in marriage to wait till they are in their 30s, to start thinking of marriage doesn't have their best interests at heart..

Typically, 35 is way too late coz at that age, you have a serious decline in your health. Make una leave story, Nigeria situation can make one reason like a chicken

Samantha125:
I know two women who naturally had their last born children while in their 50s and the children are healthy.

So having children over the age of 40 might be risky, but it's still possible.

Or the woman can decide to have her eggs frozen until she's found the right man and then have a surrogate carry the children for her... We are far more wiser than our forefathers with the kind of technology we have today.

The exception doesn't make the rule, knowing a couple of 50 year olds who should have been in their menopause, with healthy babies doesn't invalidate the truth..

Women 35 years and older are at risk of various issues and that has been scientifically proven..

Anyone telling women to wait till their mid 30s to start child bearing is being unrealistic..

Men prefer younger women,they are more fertile with higher chances of having healthy babies..

Moreover your money as a woman gives you no added advantage in securing a quality mate..

Villa12:
first go make money first. 35 years old women are still getting married. It's a choice

The way you carry this matter for head so. Its like you have a sister who is 35 and unmarried.

Villa12:
35 is the age a man should be at least a billionaire in $$$$

If all men were billionaires, do you think the world will be a better place?

koladata:
we are not ooo o, my brother . we are not wiser than them at all. I've been reading history books and how those our fore fathers were able to solve complex problems without chat gpt .

But even you wise fore fathers would not allow their daughter to be unmarried at 35. They give out their daughters as early as 15. By 35 years of old the women were already grandmother's.

Villa12:
35 is the age a man should be at least a billionaire in $$$$

use dollars to wipe your tears

Hemanwel:
OP, 35 years isn't too old to marry o; but I'm sure you wouldn't want to imagine the mileage a 35-year-old pussy has gone. So, na you wan kor carry that kind 'bad market' put for house??

At least, if you wan chow kponmo, chow the one wey get levo.

...so levo is your problem?🙄

Villa12:
35 is the age a man should be at least a billionaire in $$$$

Abeg in which country are all 35 year old men billionaires in dollars? In fact how many billionaires in dollars are there in the entire globe? How many millionaires even?
What is the strength of the Nigerian economy thar will be producing billionaires and millionaires in dollars? What are we selling or producing - yahoo yahoo?

lightwind:


I'm a guy, and you just described what happened to me during my early years. Today I'm crying

If you are a guy and crying over a lost relationship then you have failed at being a man..

Nature gave you the leg up in relationships and marriage and you are misusing it..

You have the advantage of age, building yourself up to be a high value man and being the one to choose a mate and yet you are crying over some lost pvssy?

I won't call you a SIMP,but do better..

abbey621:
With the way the world is going, anything 30 and above is a dangerous age for women to get married, this is not because of age alone but because the marital pool becomes filthy and the best candidates are looking to pick up under 30 women. Let's now add the fact that after 30, a woman's eggs continue to decrease drastically in quantity and quality as confirmed by IVF specialists all over the world.

So as a guy, why would you want to marry a woman over 35 unless you yourself is second hand market with some type of defect or you've been married before?

For the woman, unless you've opened your mind to the possibility of being a life long single woman, it is better to learn the art of multitasking while still young. Who told you that you can't chase money and a man at the same time? Do not fall for the trap of women who wasted their youth being nonchalant and then trying to console themselves that it is okay not to be married at 35 as long as money dey......NA LIE!

Succinct 👌🏽