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Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

Firstly, tell them clearly but respectfully/privately that you do not appreciate these extreme jokes. If they persist, report to HR.

Secondly, these women will only destroy your life. Women know how to (and won't hesitate to) throw every other person under the bus when things go south. They are aware of this so every woman is always cautious around other women. That's why women hate women. Unfortunately, many men are either too naive or too blinded by their libido to realise this.

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

please how can I apply in your company

Puss360:
Lol... Since you know full well it's jokes, then reply them back in thesame vein....
It's sexual harassment, we all know, but the fact is, a cockroach can't be innocent in gathering of fowls...
No one will believe you when you claim victim...
Just joke about it back...
But why are females around you always teasing you? From Ur corper days, Ur former working place and now Ur new place...
Check on urself

Maybe the guy look gentle, didn't talk much and not seen as a religious person. Normally most averagely naughty women do feel free talking what's in Thier minds at work more than when with their family. He himself should be free and try to be naughty for the jokes to sweet.

So men are also ing through this! I suffer the same from male colleagues, honestly it’s quite embarrassing. And when you show that you don’t really flow with such talks the person can get offended.

Gboom:
You don't need to bother yourself; they are just teasing you and if you want to scatter them so move closer to one of them as if you are dating her, you will see jealousy and hatred big time

women dey like to dey jealous demself Wella. Dem go be friends for a while and later becomes enemy because of small issue. Fear that gender

Olalekanbanky1:
I joke my own back
Simple!

Two can play

When I started working I was always mute when it comes to sexual jokes but some times
You need to be emotionally balanced at work place play joke and set boundaries. You must play to enter some corridors and get info.
It doesn't mean you will sleep with them or touch but be responsive and friendly

Guy your full picture I wan check something, then comment

LordIsaac:

Begin first by talking about Jesus. Talk about Paul's missionary journey to Antioch, amongst others! Trust me, they will avoid your company.

What a randy naughty boy you are.

ObalendeCMS:
Wèrè!

Na your money dem wan collect.

You better "tètè yadàànù" before...

If na only money e for better. Dem wan collect your destiny

Work place, work place, where is talk place? Or sh1t place, you learn to man up not until you're married before you start commanding respect, the way you placed yourself is the way they will carry you... nobi to fight or quarrel, just show them how you wanna be treated, like the main Boss or the main just... you can be a "just" if you hold no tangible value or role...

Theopneustos:
Good day nairalanders

I have this thing disturbing me and I just want your honest opinion. I work in a place currently that my female colleagues are something else.
What I mean is that they discuss and make sexual jokes and say saucy and obscene things when they come around me,both married and unmarried.

One of them was bold enough to ask me if I had ever had sex or have a girlfriend, she was so keen on that. The married ones also come around me and try to get me like give them money,asking me if I have a girlfriend and has 'knacked' before, they say all manner of sexual stuff around me waiting for my reply which I don't reply in that same vein,I either scold them or leave their midst,but to me that isn't the first time I am having women talk so boldly about sex around me.

I one showing me even sex positions on her phone and asking which one do I like and have I done, and this lady can hardly let me be,though engaged to another man who is outside the country, this was in my former workplace.

In my service year as I corper,I have to intentionally lock my door from allowing my female neighbours and Corpers come into my room because I have two in my compound then discuss about sex brazenly and asking me if I had ever had it.

I don't know women could be so bold this way,I am still surprised that there are women who can make such randy jokes and have no qualms, I used to think that it is men that does it more,but from my experience I can say that most women are. I don't feel comfortable when I hear women make such jokes or say such things around me and to me I see such women as loose.

Please how can I handle these persons in my workplace without sounding abrasive or holier than thou.

Is like you're dodoyo.... You dey do like amala, that's how they see you... Carry one enter one day and f***k the hell out of her, she go tell others

slimmax:
Guy your full picture I wan check something, then comment

Seriously, his appearance go tell all

It's basically called flirting ..



It's not that much of a big deal

jubrilELsudan:
YOU ARE REALLY VERY STUPID AND IMMATURE

OBVIOUSLY YOU NO KNOW WETIN GOD DO FOR YOU

YOU CAN HANDLE THEM BY FVCKING THEM

ABI YOU DEY FEAR TO FVCK?

E DEY VERY OBVIOUS SEY YOU BE VIRGIN

even virgins no dey fear to fvck

Sapasenator:
One even hit me in the bum once at work. I have been seriously harrassed my people.

Nothing wey eyes never see.

I used to get that at work too ... After series of threat of me hitting my own back in which I actually almost did, she backed off ...

She now said I wasn't a gentle man that I wasn't suppose to attempt to hit her own bum back ..

My brother run for your dear life, there are glory that you carrying, if you want to achieve your expectations in this world, keep on resisting them as you have been doing, but if you now start feeling weak, you can ask God for direction to follow, believe me he'll direct you.

Good luck.


Abigera cares

Very relatable. Girls/Ladies/Women taunt guz they believe are still virgins & if you're kinda good looking... We don't know how they can tell from a mile! They just know. I tell you, if the reverse is the case, they wouldn't dare.

Just ignore. Mind your business. Remain focused. It's a phase; it will . Don't budge shah. U can't report anybody, no evidence.

Bro inside all of them look for the on that’s fine that also have yansh, then knack her thoroughly, na she go give the rest story

Just joke with them,Run your mouth the same way they run theirs and try to jokingly use one of them for example,they will stay clear of you.Many people tend to manipulate gentle people and also bully them but if you play along with them and also throw back what they throw at you in a joking manner you will be surprised how they will stay off Randy topic about you.

Sapasenator:
One even hit me in the bum once at work. I have been seriously harrassed my people.

Nothing wey eyes never see.

wahala

It's obvious you're a church boy and they're taking advantage of your gentleman nature to torment you.


They can't try that nonsense with me.

Let me tell u the honest truth..so u stop feeling fly as though ur one hot ass for them daughter of jazeebels to be drooling on u........my friend ur not shot of a novice,femboy,a simple,and inexperienced looking guy to the women that's y they keep asking u if uve ever had or have any girl friend.........they feel ur vibes to be a shy, introverted,reserved,gay looking simple minded lack of exposure type of guy.....no woman will look at a grown up
And begin to ask if ...u have a girlfriend,have u had sex before, showing sex position on phone.......guy u better man and act like a man before women......don't think they are making es at u .....they are teasing and mocking u

Adaisback:
wahala

Iwu go nu nsogbu umu wanyi ibegi nne yem!

"Strike the Shepherd and the flocks will disappear."

ravensckar:
Sounds more like my previous workplace. The ladies there were so badt that they always talk about se.x, gbo.la and the likes whenever we're meeting amongst ourselves. Funny enough, most of them are decent ladies. They only like to run their mouths and tempt we the guys.

Personally, I hate discussing stuffs like that in public. But since it's workplace, one can't be seen as being too righteous. I'll just play along and act like I'm also a BADOO.

However, whenever I've had enough and want to chase them away. I'll tell them that we've been discussing THEORY since morning, how about we PRACTICALIZE it? The moment I grab one person closer, the rest will run away.

OP, the solution to your problem is quite simple. You gotta act like you're also a BADOO lest they will continue to trouble you. You're giving them the "MUGU VIBE" hence the reason they are trying to whyne you. All those talk and talk might be a way to empty your wallet, butter you up for manipulations or probably make you their bitc* at work.

If you try to act defensive by chasing them away or reporting them, they will make the workplace a living hell for you. As you already know, the workplace is the worst place to make enemies. Just play along for some minutes, then you should excuse yourself from their midst.

There's a particular LAW OF POWER (in Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power) that says; "think as you like, but behave like others". Read and digest that law, the solution to your problem is contained therein.

Sapasenator:


Iwu go nu nsogbu umu wanyi ibegi nne yem!

story! For you to even think that I believe that women do pat you.on the butt

GindoX:



Seriously, his appearance go tell all

It surely would

You don't have any iota of humour and one day you will want a woman to like you or fall in love with you.... you are boring abeg

Ladies are after one thing, your money

Puss360:
Lol... Since you know full well it's jokes, then reply them back in thesame vein....
It's sexual harassment, we all know, but the fact is, a cockroach can't be innocent in gathering of fowls...
No one will believe you when you claim victim...
Just joke about it back...
But why are females around you always teasing you? From Ur corper days, Ur former working place and now Ur new place...
Check on urself

Nit trying to ask a rhetorical question tho, but what do u mean when u said he should check himself


Could there be anything in one that can embolden others to keep doing that to them?

What are those

I back in my secondary school days,one guy I always hang out with on top a Melina tree was also shouting to.to in a loud voice on top tree....I almost fell down.....I was embarrassed bc women will thing we are shouting it together

Adaisback:
story! For you to even think that I believe that women do pat you.on the butt

You don't believe me? I am so disappointed I feel like crying right now.

Ada, why na?