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Abeg if you have experience let me know I need tips

I will keep adding context to this as you guys keep contributing and asking questions and discussing.

So Yh we have been together for over a year now, her sister thought we were good together and “cute” so she sent our pictures to their family group and that was the beginning of the end.

They told her to leave me, they all kept calling and crying and begging and all that, recently though the mother started coming around.

But her relationship with her mom is not the best, so her dad’s relationship with her is the best so even if her mom says yes that yes doesn’t carry half the weight as her dad because she is much closer to her dad than mom.

And her dad has been sick everyone traveled to go see him including the elder sister who shared our pictures with them. But she didn’t go because we especially me know that if she goes they’ll probably not let her come back, but the sisters have assured us that if she goes back and she won’t be forced into an arranged marriage which is what her parents have always wanted for her.

For context both her elder sisters refused to do arranged marriages and their marriages failed so they are strongly against her going through the same love marriage route as her sisters.

The pressure lately has been too much and I can feel it, she cries almost every night.
And we have arranged for her to travel back so this is going to be the ultimate test.

I do not want to break up tho I want her to do it, if the pressure is too much for her then fine I’ll understand but on my path I’ve got no issues.

This isn’t our first test by the way, the other one (first test) is story for another day. Or when I have more time on my hand to type.

DuBLINGreenb:
Abeg if you have experience let me know I need tips

Difficult parents on the Indian side or the Nigerian side? Either ways, Indians are very selective when it comes to their choice of marriage partner, especially the Hindus, most likely for religious reasons. If you're dating a Christian or Muslim, it might be much easier to understand each other.

Another issue on the Indian side is colorism. A lot of people may not know but Indians (mostly old generation) could be racist and color (skin complexion) plays a role in their relationship...

Personally, I wouldn't date any Indian person that falls into the above category, except she's a Christian with enough international exposure.

The Uttarakhand and Jammu & Kashmir tribe are the ones that are most beautiful I think and the parents aren't that difficult

santaclaws:


Difficult parents on the Indian side or the Nigerian side? Either ways, Indians are very selective when it comes to their choice of marriage partner, especially the Hindus, most likely for religious reasons. If you're dating a Christian or Muslim, it might be much easier to understand each other.

Another issue on the Indian side is colorism. A lot of people may not know but Indians (mostly old generation) could be racist and color (skin complexion) plays a role in their relationship...

Personally, I wouldn't date any Indian person that falls into the above category, except she's a Christian with enough international exposure.

They are Hindus from Maharashtra and yes they are colorist it’s extremely common in that part of the world

RealityKings:
The Uttarakhand and Jammu & Kashmir tribe are the ones that are most beautiful I think and the parents aren't that difficult

The parents are difficult the father even called crying begging her to break up and using some racist “unkind words” (to put it mildly).
She is beautiful but she isn’t from Uttarakhand or Jammu and Kashmir.

I have videos and pictures on Tik Tok
@ Biobele 10 (it’s all one word no space)

O boy, why do you want to date Indians na? The Kenyan guy with an Indian wife and a son for my church about 10 years ago, the parents eventually convinced her to divorce the black guy and take the child away.

They are too cultural with their families always involved in their marriages. I can never date an Indian.

Sapasenator:
O boy, why do you want to date Indians na? The Kenyan guy with an Indian wife and a son for my church about 10 years ago, the parents eventually convinced her to divorce the black guy and take the child away.

They are too cultural with their families always involved in their marriages. I can never date an Indian.

Even in the US, they have a close kinship.

LordIsaac:

Even in the US, they have a close kinship.

I hate those close kinships.

If you want to date Asians, go for the Filipinas, Vietnamese, Hong Kong, and Taiwanese, They are traditional like Africans, hard-working, and loyal to the core. Indian ladies can be dirty as well.

Black men and always begging for acceptance.

Sapasenator:


I hate that close kinship.

If you want to date Asians, go for the Filipinas, Vietnamese, Hong Kong, and Taiwanese, They are traditional like Africans, hard-working, and loyal to the core. Indian ladies can be dirty as well.

You know a lot

Yahoo boy don land

DuBLINGreenb:


You know a lot

I have lots of Indian lady friends who always complain to me about their marriages and the control of family . This lady, her MIL asked her husband to divorce her and listened to his mum. The parents are everything in the Indian culture and they like to live together with their children.

The Asian ladies are the cleanest in the world from my experience. The Fillipinas can be a little bit deceptive but, the top on the list for me is, the Vietnamese. They are too traditional, honest, and very humble

Sapasenator:
O boy, why do you want to date Indians na? The Kenyan guy with an Indian wife and a son for my church about 10 years ago, the parents eventually convinced her to divorce the black guy and take the child away.

They are too cultural with their families always involved in their marriages. I can never date an Indian.

I just like the babe she’s beautiful and understanding especially for financial aspect.

But like every human being she also has her down sides she gets very jealous for example but I can live with that.

Kaczynski:
Yahoo boy don land

I’m not a yahoo boy oh abeg, I dey Canada my papa na judge my mama na Police we get small money abeg.

Sapasenator:


I have lots of Indian lady friends who always complain to me about their marriages and the control of family . This lady, her MIL asked her husband to divorce her and listened to his mum. The parents are everything in the Indian culture and they like to live together with their children.

The Asian ladies are the cleanest in the world from my experience.

Brooooooo you know a looooottttt she WORSHIPS her dad and they are using that against her SERIOUSLY.

But for house work honestly she’s lazy, she has her days when it enters her head she’ll do a lot but on a normal average day she’s lazy.
But I assumed it’s because she was raised with silver spoon. They have lots of maids at home 1 for cooking another for cleaning etc. And she’s the last born of 3 girls.

1Sharon:
Black men and always begging for acceptance.

I am not begging for acceptance oh na she dey cry, dey fight she wants me, her parents don’t.

Person wey dey sleep next to me dey cry almost every night make I no find solution ? No be human being she be? No be human being I be? I get conscience abeg.
Even if it was an animal, my pet crying almost every night will I not try to find solution?

modify: Relationship of over 1 year in a first world free country. How can you say I am begging. lol anyway she has gone this is the later/card she left for me to open after the flight takes off.

Sapasenator:


I hate that close kinship.

If you want to date Asians, go for the Filipinas, Vietnamese, Hong Kong, and Taiwanese, They are traditional like Africans, hard-working, and loyal to the core. Indian ladies can be dirty as well.

I hate that kinship too honestly it’s irritating and it’s too much I have stories on that

DuBLINGreenb:


I just like the babe she’s beautiful and understanding especially for financial aspect.

But like every human being she also has her down sides she gets very jealous for example but I can live with that.

That is good, culturally she does not have a say in her relationships and even after you guys are married and have kids together, she will be getting strong persuasions from her family to leave you behind. indian has a strong caste system with the black skin being at the lowest rung in society.

I once saw an Igbo guy in Canada who traveled to a rural village in India to marry a wife and brought her to Canada.

DuBLINGreenb:


I am not begging for acceptance oh na she dey cry, dey fight she wants me, her parents don’t.

Then she should be able to stand up to her family, if she truly wants you.

DuBLINGreenb:


Brooooooo you know a looooottttt she WORSHIPS her dad and they are using that against her SERIOUSLY.

But for house work honestly she’s lazy, she has her days when it enters her head she’ll do a lot but on a normal average day she’s lazy.
But I assumed it’s because she was raised with silver spoon. They have lots of maids at home 1 for cooking another for cleaning etc.

O boy! You have to tread carefully O. My experience with a Chinese lady was so sweet. She was so hard working, loving, and even prepared food and bring to my office. she taught me how to eat delicious dumplings.

I do not like lazy ladies as the stress of chores will be too much for you. They will try very hard to stop her from marrying you if you guys are serious and if you eventually marry, every slight disagreement or conflict will be used to take her and your children away from you.

I actively avoid Indian ladies but I love their food sha I no go lie.

DuBLINGreenb:


I just like the babe she’s beautiful and understanding especially for financial aspect.

But like every human being she also has her down sides she gets very jealous for example but I can live with that.

Does she stays over seas? Like in UK, Canada etc? Is she well internationally exposed? If no, then keep milking her dry, that's if she has money 💰

However, Indians are culturally inclined. They don't play with their culture at all esp that arrange marriage of a thing. they don't joke with their caste system and zodiac signs to know if it matches. Indians are naturally weirdos. Also they all live in the same house both with their cousins, niece, parents, sisters, grandparents etc. Their families esp their parents plays a very vital role in their lives as regards who to marry (arrange marriage)

Indians are naturally racist among themselves (black and colour India) let alone a black man from Nigeria. I am surprised the parents haven't even labeled you a scammer or a fraudster yet

Sapasenator:


O boy! You have to tread carefully O. My experience with a Chinese lady was so sweet. She was so hard working, loving, and even prepared food and bring to my office. she taught me how to eat delicious dumplings.

I do not like lazy ladies as the stress of chores will be too much for you. They will try very hard to stop her from marrying you if you guys are serious and if you eventually marry, every slight disagreement or conflict will be used to take her and your children away from you.

I actively avoid Indian ladies but I love their food sha I no go lie.

Guy she dey come work come pick me at close of work, she also brings lunch and all that. She’s genuinely nice and sweet.

1Sharon:


Then she should be able to stand up to her family, if she truly wants you.

Her family is all she’s got asides me, for an Indian she’s from a comparatively small family and they have no sons so…. They are almost like Naija in those aspects you know what that means for a family with only girls

They do all that “I born before you”, “my children sabi book your children”, “I born boy, you no born”, “my children married high caste yours didn’t” etc

DuBLINGreenb:


Her family is all she’s got asides me, for an Indian she’s from a comparatively small family and they have no sons so…. They are almost like Naija in those aspects you know what that means for a family with only girls

They do all that “I born before you”, “my children sabi book your children”, “I born boy, you no born”, “my children married high caste yours didn’t” etc

Well in other words you're saying she can't pick between you and her family?

Sapasenator:


That is good, culturally she does not have a say in her relationships and even after you guys are married and have kids together, she will be getting strong persuasions from her family to leave you behind. indian has a strong caste system with the black skin being at the lowest rung in society.

I once saw an Igbo guy in Canada who traveled to a rural village in India to marry a wife and brought her to Canada.

Bro I know all that even before I met her I had seen lots of documentaries about the caste system. She is from the warrior caste so her parents want to arrange her with guys from the 2 upper castes above theirs or theirs at worse. But I’m the problem to their plans.

Her parents have threatened to disown her if she continues and that’s not something she wants so I honestly feel our relationship is coming to an end

They are not individualistic at all, they have herd mentality. Person like me I don’t send what anyone is saying but she will be crying and I can’t stand it. I’m just tired.

But come how did that your guy run that package 🤣 traveled to India to marry wife and return to Canada that’s crazy what part of India is the girl from do you know? And is she S.C (caste).

1Sharon:


Well in other words you're saying she can't pick between you and her family?

I’ve only been with her for a year and some months, her uncles and aunts don’t like her parents because they chose to go to school and sent their daughters abroad and they feel they think they are better than them because in fact they have more money than them and their children are more well off.

Her cousins are already all married off, some were arranged married at the age of 14 and 16 so for them to leave their daughters unmarried till 24 and 26+ is already a big deal not to talk of sending them abroad unsupervised. So her parents are already looked down upon for being bougie and upper middle class.

Her dad’s health has also deteriorated and they were saying it’s because of our relationship that’s given him serious thinking and all that so he isn’t responding well to treatment and what not.

For her to be with me till this time with all that has happened and all that’s been said for an Indian is quite a big deal to us it may mean little and to white people it may mean nothing at all. But to them like I have said before they have this herd mentality they
LOVE to fit in. Standing out is taboo. So doing what everyone else is doing is the order of the day there.

Stay safe sha

Sapasenator:


O boy! You have to tread carefully O. My experience with a Chinese lady was so sweet. She was so hard working, loving, and even prepared food and bring to my office. she taught me how to eat delicious dumplings.

I do not like lazy ladies as the stress of chores will be too much for you. They will try very hard to stop her from marrying you if you guys are serious and if you eventually marry, every slight disagreement or conflict will be used to take her and your children away from you.

I actively avoid Indian ladies but I love their food sha I no go lie.

I’ve been to many Indian restaurants and eateries I’ve also tried almost every Indian food and snack available here.

DuBLINGreenb:


Bro I know all that even before I met her I had seen lots of documents about the caste system. She is from the warrior caste so her parents want to arrange her with guys from the 2 upper castes above theirs or theirs at worse. But I’m the problem to their plans.

Her parents have threatened to disown her if she continues and that’s not something she wants so I honestly feel our relationship is coming to an end

They are not individualistic at all, they have herd mentality. Person like me I don’t send what anyone is saying but she will be crying and I can’t stand it. I’m just tired.

But come how did that your guy run that package 🤣 traveled to India to marry wife and return to Canada that’s crazy what part of I do is the girl from do you know? And is she S.C (caste).

The thing surprise me, na one kind low caste Indian tribe him marry from. He went to one of their village in India and stayed for a while, the lady was pregnant when they came back to Canada. It's only the black low caste that an marry a black man.
That was long time ago though.

DuBLINGreenb:

I’ve been to many Indian restaurants and eateries I’ve also tried almost every Indian food and snack available here.

Those foods are delicouse, where is the Naan bread!

Not sure how old you are, but run run run AWAY

I dated an indian girl for a few years. Her dad HATED me, would stalk her and leave notes on her car when she visits me.. Don't ever ever settle/marry a girl whose family doesn't accept you. It will not work in the long run.. You guys will have problems in the future and she will go complain to her family and they will convince her to leave you.

Indians are extremely racist. You will never be accepted by people around her. My exgf was sweet, beautiful, but her uncles/aunties spent all day trying to hook her up with an indian boy even though she had a long term nigerian BF..

Also, my exgf was extremely jealous. This is fun initially but its not sustainable in a long term relationship or marriage. ASK any married person here, a jealous girlfriend will never change. She will eventually frustrate you to death. She will want to know who called, who you called, where you went, etc.. as a man you need to be relaxed and chill and not be stressed out.. I can talk to you more about this,

Im now happily married to a girl who is still from asia but her parents and family love me and she never ever gets jealous or checks what im doing.. amazing peace of mind bro.

Sapasenator:


Those foods are delicouse, where is the Naan bread!

Here it is
Butter garlic naan and plain naan