NewStats: 3,262,857 , 8,178,385 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 08:25 PM 1420w

NovusHomo:


You are the company you keep.

Naa bro. I don’t keep this company. Infact, I get people try to derade me for kind of staying away. It is what brought me wondering why they are like that.

valentineuwakwe:
If you have been hurt by a Nigerian abroad doesn't mean the Nigerian community abroad is toxic......here in niaja we all learn to live by our neighbours and despite all the govt sufferings on the masses we are still smilling!

They say life abroad is "boring and "mind-your business ", so why wont a Nigerian be happy to see a fellow abroad? Why cant they mingle n discuss how to survive in "obodo oyibo "?

To me Nigerian community abroad is the best n full of fun.....

Bro Legit yes should be how to survive in the town. I recommend 100 percent.

But you know what I have found. Person wey you dey reason together go enter your marriage wan nack your babe. Drama drama drama . I think people don’t usually know when to separate the negative drama from the positive uplifting bits

sheldonbbt:
I am trying to avoid Nigerians as much as I can. It is really annoying.

I housed someone for a year abroad without them contributing to rent, but it appeared as if I did them wrong by asking them for their plans to get a place.

The individual prefers speaking to mutual friends in language I don't understand. Infact 99% of his phone calls are in his local dialect which I do not understand.

I have every reason to suspect the individual was already gossiping about to people and it is quiet painful cos I don't know the lies that has been told.

What I have realized in this abroad is that no matter how much you help anyone even if you did it out of a communuaal embrace. Some people just don’t like when you help them. The problem is that you don’t know if you are helping a friend or competitor anytime you do so

elasticlala:




This is hasty generalization!
That might be your own experience. I wonder the country and Nigerian community you are referring to.

To be honest, the Nigerian community in the state where I live in the USA here is nicer than even my family in Nigeria.

Ofcourse it cannot be everywhere. I can’t disclose my location but i ve also noticed it in adjacent locations

busomma:
U're in the wrong crowd. Look 4 progressive associations & .

What I am trying to do. Although last one i got close to wanted to nack my babe. Legit between us, there was no such conversation. I found out in secret

Tflex01:
I can say for Canada 💯
Many carry their toxicity in Nigeria fully down here.

In fact, many stop associating with you immediately they know you are not from their tribe. But I no send anybody papa.

The whole thing confuse me my brother. Before I came here, I’ve had friends from mixed ethnicities. Coming here made it seem like there are “issues” with different ethnicities

faceland:
How can a stranger come into your personal life just because you share thesame nationality?

You provided them with too much info.

Dude, just what I was thinking. I think the issue happens when you are a novice and you don’t know much so you are quite open in your first days. Unfortunately for you, you don’t know that you are open to a snake. Heck even toxic people are in well dressed attires

I was talking with a friend and not long in I got to know about girls I have never met and the guys sleeping with them. Same guys are getting married and this friend too wants to sleep with the girl and they work together. Mehn. I thought that was too much personal info to know. I never got that level of depth to people’s lives when I was in Nigeria

ycat:
I believe it’s true, though I don’t hang around people who talk about other people because I know they will talk about me too. I believe you though because one day I walked with my sister to an African store where the first thing we heard was “one man sleeping with another man’s wife” they didn’t know that we understand the language. They were speechless when my sister asked for the price of yam in their language.

Talking about people who haven’t done anything to you is insecurity. They use topics about others to cover up the plenty subjects on their own lives, they need to put other people down to feel better about who they are.

I don't know where we get the culture of sleeping with other people's wives from and it is very rampant among the Nigerian society.
It is a very very bad way of life

madjune:


But...if you want to bury someone? You can count on their assistance.
I don't know what it is but, from experience; they like burying people than resurrecting them.

Sometimes too there may not be anything between two people but because they are close, people think there was something between them. There was a guy some of my family will swear that I had a romantic relationship with but it didn’t happen. The guy was the best looking guy around and was rich, we hung out many times, he took me to his friends, his house and spent money on me but he never hit on me. I was dying to give him some and lock him down but he never asked me and I never saw him with another girl, so I was confused till I left Nigeria.

emmaodet:


I don't know where we get the culture of sleeping with other people's wives from and it is very rampant among the Nigerian society.
It is a very very bad way of life

ycat:
Sometimes too there may not be anything between two people but because they are close, people think there was something between them. There was a guy some of my family will swear that I had a romantic relationship with but it didn’t happen. The guy was the best looking guy around and was rich, we hung out many times, he took me to his friends, his house and spent money on me but he never hit on me. I was dying to give him some and lock him down but he never asked me and I never saw him with another girl, so I was confused till I left Nigeria.

But you would have if he had taken the steps according to you which boils down to creating distance in the first place to avoid rumours and stories that tell

Ouchbabe:
You are generalizing. FYI I'm a lady, I'm on Nairaland but I'm definitely not toxic

Generally all of Una are toxic. But human nature in some people are nice. That's 2% but the rest 98% are toxic.

grommet:


Naa bro. I don’t keep this company. Infact, I get people try to derade me for kind of staying away. It is what brought me wondering why they are like that.

Okay, they are the company they keep. Stay away from them.

Who wouldn’t? He was breathtaking! At least 6.2 feet dark skin and got money too. The problem now is anytime we catch up on good old days, I have a hard time convincing anybody that we never shared a bed. I think he was searching for a wife then but very disciplined. Within a year I left I heard he got married.

emmaodet:


But you would have if he had taken the steps according to you which boils down to creating distance in the first place to avoid rumours and stories that tell

Bashiii:


Bros abeg no vex,help us share the long story so we can learn.

I dey around "kotokolli" girls and you know sey dem dey enter eye. Dem no too fine for face but dem get big nyash and breast.

Abeg tell us everything so man go dey careful.

They are know for Disappearing with your kids if you have children with them ! For reasons best known to them !
So if you are dating them dey like getting pregnant for you especially if you are a Nigerian because they are very comfortable with Nigerians. But you will just wakeup one day and find out she ran away with the kid or kids ! Kotokolis hmmmmm ! Just ask the Hausa man in Togo and he will tell you One million reason why you shouldn't waste your time dating a kotokolis girl .
NOTE. If a kotokoli girl introduced a guy to you as her brother! Forget about it ! The guy na her side Nacks boy ! She can even allow him to be frequenting your hause or even sleep over some times

It’s not about Nigeria community in diaspora, the way of life of Nigerians abroad is a replica of how they live in Nigeria, their lifestyle back home.

Why it’s noticeable in abroad is because we cluster around each other and not much, but in Nigeria a lot of shit happens and we aren’t privy to know.

[quote author=Real2088 post=129871762][/quote] Bros !! If you travel any where on at ! Make sure you update your Nacking skills on the locals 😁😁😁

ycat:
Who wouldn’t? He was breathtaking! At least 6.2 feet dark skin and got money too. The problem now is anytime we catch up on good old days, I have a hard time convincing anybody that we never shared a bed. I think he was searching for a wife then but very disciplined. Within a year I left I heard he got married.

How old was he before you left?

Nwaikpe:
May Israel totally obliterate Hamas and every muslim terrorist in this world. May Christian America rise to realize that their kids in college are being brainwashed to believe the propaganda of wicked Islamist. May they understand that the muslims are not only after Israel but also after Christian America and all Christians as well.

Anyone who is against the people of Saturday, will surely come after the people of Sunday too.


Totally Obliterate Hamas in Gaza and return Gaza to a serene community like that of Christians.


In the name of Allah I pray, Amin.









NB: Never come here to tell me how Jews hate Christians. I am safer with a wicked Jew than a kind muslim.

Impressive.

You are guided.

Macdeey:

They are know for Disappearing with your kids if you have children with them ! For reasons best known to them !
So if you are dating them dey like getting pregnant for you especially if you are a Nigerian because they are very comfortable with Nigerians. But you will just wakeup one day and find out she ran away with the kid or kids ! Kotokolis hmmmmm ! Just ask the Hausa man in Togo and he will tell you One million reason why you shouldn't waste your time dating a kotokolis girl .
NOTE. If a kotokoli girl introduced a guy to you as her brother! Forget about it ! The guy na her side Nacks boy ! She can even allow him to be frequenting your hause or even sleep over some times

Thanks for the heads up bros. I don hear say dem dey use one strong kayan mata wey if you sleep with them you go become mumu for them.

Nwaikpe:
May Israel totally obliterate Hamas and every muslim terrorist in this world. May Christian America rise to realize that their kids in college are being brainwashed to believe the propaganda of wicked Islamist. May they understand that the muslims are not only after Israel but also after Christian America and all Christians as well.

Anyone who is against the people of Saturday, will surely come after the people of Sunday too.


Totally Obliterate Hamas in Gaza and return Gaza to a serene community like that of Christians.


In the name of Allah I pray, Amin.









NB: Never come here to tell me how Jews hate Christians. I am safer with a wicked Jew than a kind muslim.

u fuckn narcisist. U better check in on an asylum before u start biting people on the road. Werey ikeji aja. I'm not muslim but christian by practice and although Christians suffer a lot from muslims does not make me lose my humanity. If all palestinians die because of majority muslims, what will be the gain besides there's beauty in diversity of all kinds. That's how god designs things

quite sensible.

emkz:
This is too generic.

My reading of it applies to Nigerians and everyone else everywhere.

Most people are looking after their own interests. Once you find out their interests would require too much sacrifice from you, why not stay away?

There are pastors who claim they were called and collect money from struggling Nigerians both in Nigeria and abroad who follow them.

There are some Nigerians who get close and start getting jealous of you: wanting what you have including your network, your money, your wife and even your life. Why do you keep such relationships if something is not wrong with you?

Then there are Nigerians too. Professionals who always show up for one another. They help each other genuinely. When I was abroad many years ago, there was one. A woman. She showed me the way to settle and held my hand to avoid pitfalls. I returned the favour to others.

it on.

Avoid needless competition. It is exhausting. Cooperate to advance each other. That is how the Indians and Chinese get ahead of blacks.

AuschwitzPrefec:
Anytime I am abroad , I try as much to avoid Nigerians.

The reason for me leaving Nigeria in the first place is to get away as far as possible from Nigerians so why should I be in the US or UK and mingle with same people I am fleeing from when I can interact with virtually any other nationality from across the planet.

sheldonbbt:
I am trying to avoid Nigerians as much as I can. It is really annoying.

I housed someone for a year abroad without them contributing to rent, but it appeared as if I did them wrong by asking them for their plans to get a place.

The individual prefers speaking to mutual friends in language I don't understand. Infact 99% of his phone calls are in his local dialect which I do not understand.

I have every reason to suspect the individual was already gossiping about to people and it is quiet painful cos I don't know the lies that has been told.

GambaOsaka:
The reason why some Nigerians avoid famzing is that we know ourselves.😀
I met a guy like 3 months ago at Nigerian association meeting , next thing he’s asking me for $5k loan to get another apartment. Everytime we are together, he is bombarding me with his problems from home and shit.
I had to start avoiding him because my own dey my body.

I helped other Nigerians famiarize, I think somebody has to show that kindness, I hope you show such to others.

Tflex01:


Other nationalities can be far more useful to you than Nigerians in this regard.

Fact!

It fine, just be careful with other nationalities too.

007Marvel:


I keep my distance from anything black, those people are filled with hate and malice, very irrational set of people

Exactly

Goodman247:
Every country has nice people and also toxic people, it is still your people that will assist you when you just land, just associate with the right ones

That makes it easy to spot and avoid them.

They will have high BP sooner.

icedbreez:


Africans, especially west Africans are generally very aggressive people when u find them abroad, always shouting and in heated arguments.

East/South Africans not so much.

They like burials than resurrection

I did not regret avoiding Nigerians once i realized i can have good friends from other countries.

madjune:
If you want to stay sane abroad, do your best and keep more to yourself.

Regardless of nationality etc, if you want to mingle; chose your friends wisely and of course, chose like.minded individuals like yourself.

If you're a noisy person, go to nightclubs or the stadium; you will find your people there.

If you're a nerd, go to the library more or IT clubs.

One of the worst expectations you'd have is to expect peace and serenity in the company of 70% Nigerians abroad.
Drama. Major drama comes with the package.

Nigerians can't help you much with information needed for your growth or help you when you're down or help you keep some sh.t off in advance etc

But...if you want to bury someone? You can count on their assistance.
I don't know what it is but, from experience; they like burying people than resurrecting them.

SeriouslySense:


They like burials than resurrection

I did not regret avoiding Nigerians once i realized i can have good friends from other countries.

My brother, na valid observation I make o. Lol.