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As President Tinubu continues the full experimentation of his ‘weight loss programme’ on Nigerians, those abroad are also feeling the heat. In the past couple of months, the practice of begging people for financial favours known by the local parlance as ‘billing’ has increased astronomically. While there are no official statistics to back the level of increase, I have decided to explain how to stay safe amid billing darts flying in the sky like Israeli missiles.

Sit down, grab a bottle of coke and some popcorn, let’s roll!

(1) Controlled usage of social media:

When you are new abroad, the initial fever of taking pictures, making videos, and sharing them on social media hits you. It is a normal feeling but you need to control it. These contents are usually misleading in the sense that they give people the impression that you are ‘balling’. As soon as they become broke, they will put your phone number on speed dial because they believe you now have the financial muscle to shoulder it. The less information they have about your progress, the lesser their faith in you to them financially.

(2) First Attack:

Attack is the best form of defense, they say. When you sense someone is trying to ask you for money, you could go into protective mode. You do this by either complaining bitterly to the person about your financial challenges or even asking the person directly for help. This is like when you throw a good jab to distort the rhythm of your opponent in boxing. This strategy was in vogue during my first-degree days in O.A.U.

(3) Be Truthful:

Life abroad isn’t easy. Like I always say, “the pictures don’t tell the full story”. Don’t let your family and friends get lost in the beautiful pictures you share on social media about your life outside Nigeria. Fully orientate them about the financial pressure that living abroad entails. This prevents the reasonable ones from over-relying on you.

(4) Personal Information Management:

Learn to keep your big news to yourself. You bought a house, stay quiet; you bought a car, moved house, went on holiday, got promoted, bought designer shoes & clothes - keep them secret. Always control the excitement to share the news with the outside world because, in the real sense, nobody really cares. there is always a price to pay for any information you share about yourself, be it good or bad. China knows this and this is why they are ever gathering information and restricting what people know.

(5) Measured Conversations:

When you are conversing with someone who could potentially ask you for money, even when they are not in actual need of it, it is better to keep the conversation short and structured. This gives the conversation direction and purpose. It also gives you the room to control it, before the other party sneaks in a cheeky demand.

(6) Total Blackout:

When all the above strategies fail, the inevitable is the ‘total blackout’ technique. Some people will never stop making demands regardless of how often you them. The Total Blackout approach might entail you blocking the regular ‘biller’, deleting their phone numbers, deactivating your social media s, or changing your phone numbers.

I know God blesses a cheerful giver. But if you decide to initiate a transfer of money for every ‘touching’ story you hear from Nigeria, your life might end up being the next touching story.

If one of the richest rappers in the world - Jay-Z (worth S2.5 billion) could purportedly rebuff the loan request of his cousin who asked him for S4800, then who are you to attempt to meet all demands?

Written by Osahon George Osayimwen

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Abroad don cast.

When we were little, those abroad build Duplexes and send cars back home like it's nothing.

Make your Uncle enter Yankee or , before 2 years dollars and Deutsche mark (before they adopted Euro) respectively don dey flow.

Nowadays, na abroad people dey tax those at home.

Hmmm

I know someone who spends 90% of his online time defending the Aso Rock Baba druggie on Nairaland, and uses the remaining 10% online time to beg people for financial citing hunger and deprivation.

Agbado miscreants won't be happy about this thread.

Bill who?

Those wey still dey find school fees?

You can only reduce it. If you completely avoid billing from your brothers and sisters, you're a useless fellow.

If u like no use phone Dem go still find way bill you

Hmmn.. that's the truth. Moreover, it's not even reasonable seeking for assistance often from someone in abroad, even back here at home... People will keep avoiding you, even when you have some thing important to say that's not financial

When your lots become wealthy you look down on others as if you own tomorrow.

It takes total humility to beg for anything... should everyone has...no one would ever ask others for help cos it's shameful thing to be begging and we all have ego in us.


The best thing is to do your best and leave the rest.


It you eventually close your eyes till eternity today...all that you try hard to conceal and not share would belong to others that never laboured for it.



Oun ti ko to si ma po.

What works for Mr A may not work for Mr B. What matters most is use your brain the way the situation at hand requires. But it’s not all assistance that you rendered that are vain. In some cases, you are the saving grace and such person may never forget you. All you need is use your instinct. Dnt over do and don’t do if your mind is not ing the billing.

Where is the lie?
9ja has become so bad that everyone over there will always think we will forever be at their mercy. God abeg lift me & my family amidst this hyper inflation for 9ja. I know say one day the table will turn! Na dem go dey beg us to send something. 9ja is a beautiful place but our leaders don maya

Lol. No be lie.

Them don marry, buy landed properties, build house yet still dey task you 50k, while you never even start your own foundation.

Just change your line and avoid unnecessary stress

B

Abroad people

Good write up I have been off what's app for almost 7years my mind rest abeg I no wan here story that touch.....abeg send me....bros help me.... I don't want nobody know my business I don't care about yours ....stay in my lane stay in yours....

Bastards
Dem go beg for help for area,family and friends go render assistance
Dem go reach obodoyibo turn to motivational speaker.
U no know wetin be Family?
Why u no fall from heaven or germinate like crop since u fit do am on your own.

When I was abroad, the billings didn't make sense. What did they need money for?

(1) Brand new phone (90% of requests).

(2) New clothes

(3) Transport

(4) Flexing (club, pamper women or their side men)

(5) marketing (what does that even mean).

(6) Brazilian hair. No future ambition.

I realized these people didn't have any problems and decided they had no more value to add. I left them.

The big problem is that loneliness can push the abroadians to talk to people they should ordinarily not talk to. According to verydarkblackman, you gonna learn and you gonna learn the hard way.

Why I left is that the abroad system is rigged to make people "poor". You earn a lot and pay heavy taxes. If you could be taxed for the air you breath, you'd be taxed for it. Then you go through the grind and one silly fellow would send a message to ask you for money to buy fuel inside generator.

Do not blame them.....na renewed shege government cause am 🙄

The best way is to assist with what ever little.. the economy is hard.. some days those abroad would want to come home,only those u assisted would welcome you . Be wise, there is an unseen reward which would be repaid some time in the future.

We wey no get money to travel nko?

Op is right the begging is becoming irritating. In fact, to avoid it. You will need to hide from Facebook completely. Its funny staying on your lane just on Facebook even though you don't post. Some people will creep into your messenger and beg. The most stupid is when you don't even know somebody in person, and they will send you a friend request and the next thing is begging as if you don't have your family to Carter for.

Good point bro. I calculated how much I have sent to Nigeria in 10 years. Over 400k U.S dollars.

I wept.

I have adopted no billing mode. No more!! It doesn't matter who is dying. I'm not sending money to Nigeria anymore.

NokiaN8:
The best way is to assist with what ever little.. the economy is hard.. some days those abroad would want to come home,only those u assisted would welcome you . Be wise, there is an unseen reward which would be repaid some time in the future.

cho cho cho. Assist till you go broke yourself . Is economy not hard abroad too

Newborn27:
When your lots become wealthy you look down on others as if you own tomorrow.

It takes total humility to beg for anything... should everyone has...no one would ever ask others for help cos it's shameful thing to be begging and we all have ego in us.


The best thing is to do your best and leave the rest.


It you eventually close your eyes till eternity today...all that you try hard to conceal and not share would belong to others that never laboured for it.



Oun ti ko to si ma po.

Madam, some see begging as a way of life. There is no humility there. They call the beggee a fool by asking for things that are simply ridiculous. Do you know what it means that someone who doesn't care about you suddenly sends you a message to beg for something ridiculous he can afford? Do you know what it means that you send some people and they totally blackout without even saying "thank you"?

There was a story here on nairaland about a guy in the US who laboured and was sending money home. He couldn't marry because he was carrying responsibilities. He died and none of those he helped attended his funeral even when his body was brought home. Someone there lamented that the guy had done a lot for people than himself and they didn't even regard him as anything.

My observation is that majority of those who see billing as a way of life actually do not need the money. Without you, they had been surviving. You'd be a fool to think they still won't survive without you.

Focus on yourself and render help ONLY when it is absolutely necessary and ONLY to those who genuinely need help.