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Op, be wise.


Family matter count me out!, 🤠

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

Hope she isn't dead...cos no parent would do that. Except the couldn't cater for her again and gave her off or she was sick and they couldn't afford medical bill and she died

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

Maybe they used your child for ritual.
Involve the police if you are a serious mother.
In this case, you must be ready to disrespect anyone and everyone because this your child we are talking about!

She is still hiding many facts from us.

TemplarLandry:
Involve the law enforcement agents.
Dad and mum will start singing like a canary.
But please, don't lay hands on your parents.

Against her father and siblings? What will she tell the police? Why did she left the kid as young as three years and go, she will make the case worst

Greener pasture in Togo,the handwriting is clear on the wall. Imagine asking for a child she abandoned like she really cares. If she had found gold there and move on from Lome to Rome or Paris,I am sure she would
have moved on with her life till her old age when it will dawn on her she has a child somewhere.

decatalyst:
Hmmm...seems you are irresponsible and simply want to free yourself of the little girl at age 3...you travelled and abandoned her.


However, they owe you ability. They need to show you the child you abandoned, dead or alive. They owe you that.

I would suggest you calm down, meet the most respected man/woman in your extended family, to come into the situation.

If this doesn't work out as expected, you can get them arrested.

Note: I hope you have concrete evidence that you 'abandoned' your child with them. Otherwise, they can turn the table and have you rot in jail for false accusations.

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

Do you want to know the bitter truth? Your daughter is no more..

portplus:
Involve welfare...
If that fails....involve police

For a child she abandoned? If I'm her father I will teach her a lesson of her life if she involved any other person

inoki247:
Lol Togo sef get Greener Pasture....

Yes nah, ashawo work

Answer these few questions madam:
1: How long did you stay in togo as to the current age of the baby
2: was it out of wedlock? If no, were is the father?
3: what's your position in the family and your relationship with your parents before you ran away from home, first, or last child?
4: Did you know the family of the irresponsible man that impregnated you or just a roadside love

With the above I can step in to assist you on no charges

Nazgul:
Your parents owe you the whereabouts of your daughter. You gave birth to that child, and left her under their care, so regardless of whether you're responsible enough to cater for her or not, they owe you her whereabouts.

I'll suggest that you sit them down and ask them one last time. If they try to shut you down, tell them that you'll involve the police and other human rights groups.

This isn't money you gave them to keep, we're talking about a human being here. How can a human being just disappear and you feel keeping shut is the best approach because they're your parents. My dear take action and take it now. If she's dead let them show you where they buried her.

Before you spit trash you think, she abandoned that child against her parents wish, they ask her not to travel in fact they are against her leaving the child to travel

Oloso no be work. Togo of all places. Tueeeh

Foodqueen:
Involve the police.

Maybe they've given her to her dad's family.

Involved police on a child she abandoned?

The day you come back and you no see your daughter, you suppose Don involve police.... Only God know wetin you dey wait for.....

Too bad

I just have a feeling she is late and they are hiding it from you, knowing what you are capable of doing if the news is broken.

TemplarLandry:
Involve the law enforcement agents.
Dad and mum will start singing like a canary.
But please, don't lay hands on your parents.

if she goes that route her relationship with her parents will never be the same again and you know How sentimental we are as Africans whenever it comes to family related issues

All your counsins,aunties,nephews etc will look at you as a bad person that if she can do that to her own parents, they're not safe when they have issues.everyone will start avoiding her in the family

A more diplomatic solution is that she should go and meet with the olori Ebi aka family head and talk to him to talk to your parents.if there are no changes,then she can threaten her parents to involve the police (but she should get ready for messy drama and to spend money on police case)

Above all she should employ the holy spirit to expose whatever is hidden

Chizzy7890:
I traveled to Togo against my parents wish in the year 2021 for a greener pasture I left behind my 3 years old daughter with my parents , although the reality I have seen in Togo was not as expected, but I was at least working and sending something home to my parents.

Communication was less because I couldn't afford to calls more often. I returned back home this august the 7th and my daughter was nowhere to be found.

My parents first lied to me that she was with my mum's sister that they will send someone to pick her up but to no avail. So myself I went to my mum sister house and my daughter wasn't there and she doesn't know where she was.

I asked my parents over and over again all I could get is insults from my dad , he is angry whenever i bring the subject and my siblings are not cooperating and they've refusing to tell me the truth.

I am sick and tired of asking and no getting any answers I am trying to be calm to avoid disrespecting my parents but I am loosing patience.

So many things is going throught my head I will have no option but to take things into my own hands and hurt my dad the outcome may be deadly ,

Please no insult how do I handle the situation without disrespecting my parents or do you think I should take the matter to the police ?

from your monica, you are a female.

question 1. Where is the father of this your daughter ?

question 2. Whose custody did you place your daughter before leaving for Togo ?

Question 2. Since you were in Togo, when was the last time you spoke to your daughter either phone, whatspp, facebook or any other means ?

decatalyst:
Hmmm...seems you are irresponsible and simply want to free yourself of the little girl at age 3...you travelled and abandoned her.


However, they owe you ability. They need to show you the child you abandoned, dead or alive. They owe you that.

I would suggest you calm down, meet the most respected man/woman in your extended family, to come into the situation.

If this doesn't work out as expected, you can get them arrested.

Note: I hope you have concrete evidence that you 'abandoned' your child with them. Otherwise, they can turn the table and have you rot in jail for false accusations.

How did she abandon her? Didn't you read the part that said she was sending something home every month? She didn't abandon her daughter; her parents owe her every explanation.

Greener pasture in Togo of all places

Nigerians just travel anywhere without plans and become a nuisance in their new locations. Pathetic

Foodqueen:
Involve the police.

Maybe they've given her to her dad's family.

you are wise

Human life is involved here. Involve the police asap.

Look for NAPTIP.

If they don't produce your daughter in 30 Mins, come back and insult me.

You’ll spoil the child with your irresponsibility that’s why they’re keeping her away

If she’s dead they’ll certainly tell you

Bennysam:

Against her father and siblings? What will she tell the police? Why did she left the kid as young as three years and go, she will make the case worst

Because your father and siblings are above the law where even the welfare of another human --- the 3-year-old-- is concerned?

Involve the police.
R
They probably sold your daughter.

Go to brekete family, answers will pour

GEEBITE:
Greener pasture in Togo,the handwriting is clear on the wall. Imagine asking for a child she abandoned like she really cares. If she had found gold there and move on from Lome to Rome or Paris,I am sure she would
have moved on with her life till her old age when it will dawn on her she has a child somewhere.

So because he abandoned the child, he has no right to ask after it's welfare? Basically all should simply move on like it never existed?

jaeyking:
This one na small matter na

Police never finish na
Human rights never end na

For those that will mention me for being disrespectful

I believe the parents had it coming

Who go dey insult you for dropping your own advise? The pesin no we'll be that.

And I'll agree with your thoughts on the matter. If there was an accident and the child's no more, they should at least have the sense to let the mother know (they should've even called her when the unfortunate incident happened in the first place, unless their hand no clean on the matter), not this nonsense of lambasting her just for asking for her child. Imagine, pesin wey dey even manage send small small tin for dem... smh
Some parents can disappoint like Nigerian Government.

Olam09:
■ Do you want to know the bitter truth? Your daughter is no more..

Since you know, please inform the police of this.

Bennysam:

Before you spit trash you think, she abandoned that child against her parents wish, they ask her not to travel in fact they are against her leaving the child to travel

And you've never disobeyed your parents in your entire life. Congratulations.

This is a human being we're talking about here. Whether or not she disobeyed them, she deserves to know the whereabouts of her child.