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Mophasa(m): 12:46pm On Dec 12, 2022
I’ve been seeing some marriage lists with insane requirements running into millions of naira on the internet lately and there’s something that actually interests me about it.

In the generations of our ancestors when this lists were curated, 99% of the brides then were virgins and have never known any man, in fact it was a taboo traditionally to give out a non virgin wvman as a bide then.

Over the years civilization have changed alot of things where wvmen feel they’re now more powerful and have grown beyond being able to their families and can literally do whatever they like with their lives and bodies.

At this point, I think it’s fraudulent for families to keep insisting that non virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the same traditional marriage benefits as older generational virtuous wvmen that kept their virginity for their husbands.

The government and traditional leaders need to look into this critical issues, non virgin wvmen should be given out in marriage for a token or for free, while virgin wvmen should keep enjoying the full traditional marriage rites of previous generations.

These is the only way we can hold our wvmen able and also encourage them to become like the biblical virtuous wvmen like Esther and Rebecca.

As a man, I will feel cheated if I have to pay millions of naira to marry a non virgin wvmen, exactly the same amount of money and expenses that my father paid for my mum as a young fresh virgin wvmen in the early 90s.

I know some persons will disagree with me but!

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Enoch07: 12:48pm On Dec 12, 2022
Nothing concern government for this matter,make traditional rulers try see wetin dem fit do because inflation, unemployment, insecurity etc already dey government head. But OP talk true e be like say e don Tay you see virgin last that's why you dey para like this. Lol

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Mophasa(m): 12:58pm On Dec 12, 2022
angry
YoungLionken(m): 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
The western system of government has no right over traditional rites in wedding and burial..

On the issue of chastisement, this generation has left the old, genuine ways of their forefathers. Hence, the drastic moral decadence..

I once read a book by Ola Rotimi; "the gods are not to blame"...

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JoeNL22(m): 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
Obi....hope you are taking note?

You must review these lists when you are sworn in by may, 2023.

Nigerians, obi is the only person that can review these marriage lists. Hence let's cum out en mass and vote d person that will effect this change immediately.

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oluwasegun007(m): 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
grin
RestructureNig3: 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
We need restructuring and decentralisation of power in Nigeria

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God1000(m): 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
This is outrageous

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Victorclean1: 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
Yes ed

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tk4radi: 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
Ok Oo
PrettyBolu(f): 11:42am On Dec 14, 2022
Some pride price do not make sense at all. One of my uncles met a woman who is from the east and wanted to marry her. This woman is a baby mama for one wayward guy o. She dated that guy and lived 6 years with the guy before they separated. I do not know what my uncle saw in that kind of woman.

He went to her place to marry her and they brought list running to N700,000. For what? For this expired thing? Our family that went with my uncle got angry. Argument here and there. The bride pride price wasn't paid. They agreed to meet again.

When they got back to Lagos, relatives did a good job at convincing him that she is not worth it. That was how the relationship start going down until they finally separated.

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Odunharry(m): 11:43am On Dec 14, 2022
Wahala no dey finish. I think the problem atimes does not come from the girls immediate family, but the extended family and village people who demand all sort of things from the husband to be.

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shantti(m): 11:43am On Dec 14, 2022
Hmmm
money121(m): 11:43am On Dec 14, 2022
Ok
mecuries(m): 11:43am On Dec 14, 2022
this is a family matter....why involve the government?

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grandstar(m): 11:44am On Dec 14, 2022
Isn't this greed? Greed is the problem. It isn't fair.

Who told you your mum was a virgin when she married?

I always take such statements with a pinch of salt. It's ideal and does happen more frequently than we imagine.

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Mightymanna(m): 11:44am On Dec 14, 2022
Gmm
timiade446(m): 11:44am On Dec 14, 2022
U like wahala

Why should the government interfere

If Dem interfere finish, na u go still come lament for this place

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TOPCRUISE(m): 11:44am On Dec 14, 2022
Even Religious Leaders will never you on this bro.

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HayB100(m): 11:45am On Dec 14, 2022
God bless you you for this bro. We should be paying millions for one borehole oh

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Mindlog: 11:45am On Dec 14, 2022
Be looking for virgins to marry, while you are presently sexually active with different women......who you wan whine? cheesy

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Fragility6: 11:45am On Dec 14, 2022
Sad development but there is nothing the government can do. If more people start challenging the lists then something might change until then

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havenz(m): 11:45am On Dec 14, 2022
No body force anybody to go marry for that kain family o, moreover na person way get money way with peace of mind the think of marriage.
ojun50(m): 11:45am On Dec 14, 2022
Pay and marry right simple
tollyboy5(m): 11:46am On Dec 14, 2022
Seconded! Marriage is not poverty alleviation scheme.

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nurric(m): 11:46am On Dec 14, 2022
Better to get her pregnant first then huge discount will follow. If you know you know

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hotblood001(m): 11:46am On Dec 14, 2022
Hmm..

I feel the table shaking oo

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shortIGBOman: 11:47am On Dec 14, 2022
IGBO People no go gree. As I propose to my IGBO Babe Amaka, the list they gave me was over 4 million. I just tell them say I dey come. Na so I run and never look back.

Amaka father still dey call me say, make I come. The man wan finish me kpatakpata. Me wey wise, I no gree go back. I just dey Fvck Amaka for free now.

See Amaka picture below. Is She worth 4 million?grin

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ShoeWorld2(m): 11:47am On Dec 14, 2022
There are more important things to be done by government than looking into individuals marriage lists.





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