NewStats: 3,262,805 , 8,178,203 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 04:06 PM n6l5e

Lol
If it crash let it crash abeg my own is that no partner should dagger the other because it isn't worth it

Romanoff:
A lot of people don't know what marriage is about.

Societal pressure force people who know next to nothing about marriage to marry.

Some men think it's only to provide, have sex and have a woman to birth and raise kids that marriage is all about.

Many women get married just to be Mrs. No preparation for the journey ahead.

I before I got married, I attended marriage seminar, read books, listened to messages from seasoned counsellors like Bimbo Odukoya, marriage counsellors from my church and pastors whose marriages I ire.

These days, how many young people will even read books about marriage and it's preparation or listen to messages or go to seminars for intending couples?

You didn't mention hook up
Wny

Fiscus105:
Number one problem is that people wants to married and still wants to enjoy luxury freedom of single.

(Some guys married,yet still want to sleeping with different girls like single, meanwhile, no room available in his house to carry them to sex and to get hotel, it will take additional spending, before you know it will turn it to fight, and for girls, they married yet still want attention/chatting with exes, still dressing like harlot which can make them fall for another guys)

Number two problem is finances, marriage comes with whole lot of responsibilities.

(Money you spend during single, will now multiple and to carry on, it's big problem)

Wise wise wise

femo86:



Let me know If you don see one abeg

I get 12 for my DM on Facebook. And 3 on Twitter.
Good girls dey town na you dey date ashaw0 street girls.

How you go see girl remove tongue for her profile picture and you go still marry am? No be foolishness be that?

guobe:
If they had dated properly I think that won't have arose as they already know themselves properly.

they didn’t date properly

guobe:
If they had dated properly I think that won't have arose as they already know themselves properly.

Doesnt work that way.

Ebubu:
they didn’t date properly

yes all those 4 to 5 months rush rush to get married

Natbrowny:


Doesnt work that way.

it does

guobe:
yes all those 4 to 5 months rush rush to get married

4-5 months? imagine. my own, i’ll first date you for like 8 months, study you very well, if i see any red flag, i won’t propose marriage.

in that 8 months i’ll check if you still have emotions for your ex, if you’ve gotten over your ex, etc

Romanoff:
A lot of people don't know what marriage is about.

Societal pressure force people who know next to nothing about marriage to marry.

Some men think it's only to provide, have sex and have a woman to birth and raise kids that marriage is all about.

Many women get married just to be Mrs. No preparation for the journey ahead.

I before I got married, I attended marriage seminar, read books, listened to messages from seasoned counsellors like Bimbo Odukoya, marriage counsellors from my church and pastors whose marriages I ire.

These days, how many young people will even read books about marriage and it's preparation or listen to messages or go to seminars for intending couples?

I didn't go for counselling, didn't read any books and didn't even wed in a church. Been married 10 years now and I can't having issues with my wife. Never reported each other to anybody. We don't even raise our voices on each other. My sister went for marriage counselling, church programmes, wed in the church and yet, I keep settling issues.

I guess I'm lucky or maybe not. What I did was to carefully screen my partner and go for personality instead of just appearance alone. Yes, my wife is good looking but good looking isn't enough.

Anyway, my submission is that a successful marriage is between two people who click. All the counselling and prayers wouldn't do much if both parties don't know what they want and don't click.

zed7:


I didn't go for counselling, didn't read any books and didn't even wed in a church. Been married 10 years now and I can't having issues with my wife. Never reported each other to anybody. We don't even raise our voices on each other. My sister went for marriage counselling, church programmes, wed in the church and yet, I keep settling issues.

I guess I'm lucky or maybe not. What I did was to carefully screen my partner and go for personality instead of just appearance alone. Yes, my wife is good looking but good looking isn't enough.

Anyway, my submission is that a successful marriage is between two people who click. All the counselling and prayers wouldn't do much if both parties don't know what they want and don't click.

People click and still divorce.

The reason many marriages fail is because people go into it without any preparation. They go in blind not knowing left from right.

One thing I learned in the course of preparing for marriage is to "pick my battles wisely". This way, you'll understand it's not everything that should lead to fight or quarrel.

Na you do the survey?


But this buhari economy isn't favourable for marriage relationship

Romanoff:
A lot of people don't know what marriage is about.

Societal pressure force people who know next to nothing about marriage to marry.

Some men think it's only to provide, have sex and have a woman to birth and raise kids that marriage is all about.

Many women get married just to be Mrs. No preparation for the journey ahead.

I before I got married, I attended marriage seminar, read books, listened to messages from seasoned counsellors like Bimbo Odukoya, marriage counsellors from my church and pastors whose marriages I ire.

These days, how many young people will even read books about marriage and it's preparation or listen to messages or go to seminars for intending couples?

Even all these doesn't guarantee good marriage. Just marry someone that have the same goals and ambition as you or someone willing to fuel your ambition.

The best marriage counseling I received was from my grandpa. The man told me "marry your friend".

Now I'm married to my best friend and I thank God everyday for the advice my grandpa gave me. I and my wife see ourselves more as friends rather than husband and wife.

Women will still keep with their sisterhood after the wedding. And that is where the pressure on thrman will start. She will be listening to them
Everything that her mother or her friend tells her is what she will be listening to and that is where the marriage will be having k legs.

Some couples will exonerate themselves from the wife s friends and the man gets the hold of the family.


And also many are not ready or matured enough to be in marital relationships with others.
Listening skill, talking skill, and sexual intercourse skills too matter alot in relationship.
Even before marriage, as a man you must have some qualities, if you can't kn.ack very well, you can't feed yourself talkless of feeding another person, how you go feed the family? Talkless of when you now have a baby? Wetin then go dey chop for this BUHARI regime

Those are some of the factors affecting marriage and divorce nowadays,

WEDDING NA BLING BLING,
AFTER THE WEDDING, EYE GO OPEN!

#itiswell!

They are supposed to crash!

A lot of those getting married today have no business in marriage... They lack the emotional intelligence, Leadership, morality, and maturity to manage relationships not to speak of marriage.

When I look at a lot of couples, even at the wedding receptions, I clearly see round pegs in square holes (no pun intended)!

Most young people are not even concerned about compatibility... They are merely concerned with how physically and financially appealing the other person is. They think everything else will fall into place after the wedding!

DaFuhrer:


Even all these doesn't guarantee good marriage. Just marry someone that have the same goals and ambition as you or someone willing to fuel your ambition.

The best marriage counseling I received was from my grandpa. The man told me "marry your friend".

Now I'm married to my best friend and I thank God everyday for the advice my grandpa gave me. I and my wife see ourselves more as friends rather than husband and wife.

Shebi you got counselling?

Some people don't. Some who get counselling just go there to fulfill all righteousness cause the church demanded it.

All what I mentioned there doesn't guarantee good marriage but they prepare you for possible things you'd experience.

It's best to go with some knowledge than to go in blind.

Most of what I use to make my marriage work is from the preparation I had before marriage.

It also helped me pick a suitable partner. Men plenty for town but not all can lead a woman sensibly and with kindness.

Marriage na scam
Y'all should know this and know peace

guobe:
If they had dated properly I think that won't have arose as they already know themselves properly.

Dating isn't a guarantee of happy blissful marriage. Else, those who cohabitated would make best homes but not so

Since time immemorial. Nothing’s changed.

It will crash before now. When it's runs girls and boys that are going into marriage these days ,what do you expect?

The kind of places they meet themselves will determine how long it will last.

Most of these couples come from dysfunctional homes where there was no proper home training and are launched into the society with no character and end up with birds of same feather.

Gone are the days a girls mother will call her before marriage and draw her ears telling her to respect and obey her husband. You know, giving her advice from her experience and how to manage the home. Even the men no longer sit their sons down to advise them on how to take care of their wife's and homes. Everyone is after, "my child is a graduate and they go ahead and bill the husbands huge sums for bride price. That's all!

Clubers getting married. How e wan be? Tufia!

Well alot of factors contribute to crashing marriages

> Harsh economic realities
> Incompatibility of partners etc.

Hence, people should understand the concept of a marriage before getting into it.

Why won't women rush into marriages when you people will be the first to label them 'evening newspaper' if they decide to take their time to properly select a partner.

guobe:
A trend is now occurring in our society with most marriages crashing within 2 to 3 months of getting married.

All what most young couples care about is getting married but not staying married. They go about sharing asoebis and spending millions of naira to get married but will quickly run away from the marriage within a twinkle of an eye.

Most of the girls still have someone that they love more but choose to marry the guy that is ready to get married immediately.

Most guys get their fingers burnt out of desperation to just get married without properly dating.

I know a recent case study now as the new wife just left him as he complained to me that the wife was picking the calls of her ex boyfriend in their matrimonial home.

He said she even goes to visit her ex when he is at work.

It is such a shame what marriage is turning to nowadays.

You think marriages are crashing now? Wait till $1 is N5000 then you go confirm!

guobe:
A trend is now occurring in our society with most marriages crashing within 2 to 3 months of getting married.

All what most young couples care about is getting married but not staying married. They go about sharing asoebis and spending millions of naira to get married but will quickly run away from the marriage within a twinkle of an eye.

Most of the girls still have someone that they love more but choose to marry the guy that is ready to get married immediately.

Most guys get their fingers burnt out of desperation to just get married without properly dating.

I know a recent case study now as the new wife just left him as he complained to me that the wife was picking the calls of her ex boyfriend in their matrimonial home.

He said she even goes to visit her ex when he is at work.

It is such a shame what marriage is turning to nowadays.

Wahala

Because most women out of desperation are marrying who is available and who is ready rather than marrying who they love. Men too are overwhelmed by the physical features of women and paying a little or no attention to love, respect and the fear of God. Like i said earlier, i will never marry a broke woman, never!

Nonexisting1:
Why wouldn't marriages crash when women go into them for what they can get and not what they will give. You can't withdraw money from back if you don't first make a deposit.

why wouldn't it crash when men has refused to repent from cheating? Why wouldn't it crash when men has refused to censor their eyes and minds and focus on the women they took out of their parents houses? He who must come to equity must be clean

THE ONLY AND FUNDAMENTAL REASON IS BECAUSE, MOST LADIES OF THIS GENERATION HAVE BECOME HOES, SLÚTS AND HOOKUP GIRLS.

You can't expect a whóre with double digits bodycount to stay loyal and faithful with any man.
KNOW THIS AND KNOW PEACE.
Any girl with more than 2 bodycount (WHICH DEFINES A WHÓRE) will hardly stay focused, committed, contented and loyal in any marriage.

MOST OF THIS GIRLS HAVE SLEPT WITH MARRIED MEN THAT HAVE SPOILT THEM WITH CASH AND GIFTS, SO THEY WON'T BE OKAY WITH ANYTHING LESS OF SUCH TEMPORARY TREATMENT. UNFORTUNATELY FOR THEM, MANY OF THOSE MEN ONLY EXPRESS THOSE TREATMENTS WITH THEM JUST TO SLEEP WITH THEM.

Do you expect a girl you dated for five years, and in those years, you both cheated on each other, ESPECIALLY THE GIRL, to now get married and expect the marriage to last?

Marriage! To my mind, only two things can help couples stick together: Discipline and truth.

The main reason for this is the downturn in the economy of the country

But that's actually a fraud

You make people buy expensive asoebi to your wedding only to divorce in no time

Na wedding we dey do nowadays not marriage

Ireportlive:
But that's actually a fraud

You make people buy expensive asoebi to your wedding only to divorce in no time

shatap
Stop talking nonsense