| jaxxy(m): 5:13pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.
She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.
Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.
I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.
She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of ing their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.
B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep ing what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.
Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
Hmmm I can understand ur wife is largely unforgiving or maybe she forgives bt doesn't forget. It who she is and u can only manage it untill she learns for herself it's not the best.
As for no sex after a 3months old baby I do t think u should be rushing a woman into intimacy or sex. To some women it makes u look emotionally weak when u beg for sex. U can induce sex without begging or forcing it.
I know as a Man and husband u are truly trying despite ur imperfections which u it u do wrong ur wife, I advice u work more on ur self as u are the leader of the home not just In money bt in character.
U also seem to lack emotional intelligence cos how to win over ur wifes affection should be the easiest thing for u to do. U, toasted, dated and successfully married her, use some sense to know what she likes and start from there without making it look like ure overly begging. Too much begging isn't good.
Once she warms up abit talk about the good memories u had if At all u guys had any. And don't rush her too much she will come around when she feels like it or feels better about u.
Marriage is a journey and alot of work to sustain that's why commitment and love is important.
The mistake people make is thinking once u are married u stop working on urself and trying to be the best u can be for urself and ur partner.
Happiness in marriage is not automatic u have to invest and create the type of marriage u want.
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| abuhusna1: 5:14pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.
She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.
Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.
I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.
She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of ing their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.
B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep ing what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.
Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
What you are suppose to be doing to a woman cos you have married her she is doing to you. Nawaooo na man you be so or woman
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| Bamzyriches451: 5:14pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Damn!
Ogbeni op free that h*e Asap, it's obvious she's not tired of h**ing around 
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| Re: Help! My Wife Says She Doesn't Love Me Again & No More Sex From Her.... by Nobody: 5:15pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
aklion:
Mine told mi twice... As in I shocked. This is some weeks after she gave birth. Omo nothing I do pleases her. Like say na pikin she just want from mi. Just no understand. It was hell. Infact make I paused. True be told. As she talk so believe her o....
If you guys didn't have issues before then, it could be post partum depression. Read on it.
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| shantti(m): 5:18pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Candidlady:
Was the bolded necessary
Pretty sure you would have rubbed this same sentence all over her face...
You are not complaining but yet you stated it in your post
Because of the bolded some won't even give you the advice you seek, they will end up insulting your wife
Good luck finding solution to your problem
U've taken sides with the woman already, wow, that was fast. U are pretty sure he rubbed her lack of financial contribution to her face. Are u just assuming or were you really there when he rubbed it to her face.
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| cutedharmee: 5:18pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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| angelfallz(m): 5:19pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Why not suggest some red pill books for him. That way he wouldn't fall into the hands of fake red pillers.
The Rational Male series of books by Rollo Tomassi are good red pill books.
iLegendd:
I didn't read the post, but the title.
The problem is: you didn't read redpill books before marrying, so you will hardly know how to handle a woman.
The solution is: read redpill books to be wiser, but don't be abusive.
The end.
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| Sweeetheart(m): 5:19pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Hezzyluv:
Na wao...
Na your fault. You saw all the red flags during courtship, but you neglected it. Your only concern was...
she carry back
she carry front.
She too package
I can't leave
The more reason why I can't leave her..
Now, see where it has landed you to. Barely one year marriage heading for divorce
Any advise people gives you here may not work again, since you had tried all you could to restore peace to no avail. And from the beginning, nothing like Peace @all. Because, 30% peace is not Worth it. Report it to God. perhaps, "him go dey merciful 2u help you arrange your marriage back". Then, even God warned you by showing you red flags, but you choose to turn deaf ears.
See to be honest with you, humanly speaking or from human point of view, it appears it's done and dusted. She has even told you to go and have sex outside if you wish, which means she can go and have sex elsewhere too if she so desire. That's if she never start having sex outside. The one that breaks the camel's back is that, "her parents are fully in of her".
Maybe them don see one bigman way wan marry their daughter wey don start to dey shower them money.
Cheers...
I guess you dont sincerely and genuinely read the op post
this babe had been in a verbal abusive relationship that she manage to marriage but regretted perhaps the verbal abuse continues
ladies heart are flexible, I don't mean the Op should turn her to idol but respect is reciprocal, ladies generally have a one-way thinking, not like men that think up and down. the verbal abuse had really gotten her somewhat that it reduce her love for you
on the process of verbal abuse you still apologize which means you're not consistent, even ladies that their husband beat them steadily dont tell their men they're done, why? because they stood their ground. when you started to apologized to a lady steadily you're reducing your Ctrl and on the process hand it over to them
for now stop reporting her to her parents or any third party, you're immature to be quick in reporting your woman to her family, she's now your property when you paid her bride price not theirs again. stop reporting her to third party, so far she had not move from your house, she can still feel love again
Solution: give her space, find a way to get your Ctrl back, resist ways of satisfying her at the detriment of your convenience, if she asked you of something act as if you dont hear and do some late entering the house for now, you can be close to your street but make yourself scarce in that house deliberately, no gift, no hanging, just keeping mom for now and allowed her get back to herself. believe me she will be fine in no matter of time
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| abimic(m): 5:20pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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I just feel at this point, there's a need to involve a third party, especially a pastor if you both attend a Bible believing church which I believe you both should. Since her family s her recklessness towards her marriage, talk to the most senior pastor in your church, I'm sure she's keeping lots things from you. Most women who resort to silent treatment, be careful, they keep lots in their mind, and keep secrets alot so you really need to be patient, be adventurous in treating them. Don't go harsh on her yet, see if you can win her back if you genuinely still love her. If you see all fails, and she's still offering you maximum disrespects, you're in charge of your house, you're in the driver seat, you're the head of the house, if she's going to be in your house, then she must be and act like your wife reminding her again of what it takes to be your wife and if she wants the marriage to break, without fear, ask her, better out than be in a marriage where only one partner is the one interested in making it work, it drains.
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| thunderbabs: 5:20pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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Love someone else na...in this present world, don't you stress yourself on who reciprocates love and affection. If your wife is tired, get tired of her too and pick a new love interest..... Don't develop high BP over emotions and sex, abeg.
Life is too short.
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| nick50(m): 5:21pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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Oga u have a nice sacrifice on ur table stop simping and use her for money ritual before she slips out of ur fingers
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| HajiaNotu: 5:22pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
People r funny on this thread sha.
Make he divorce the wife : how long will the process take?
Make he go do DNA Test :do you guys know the cost
Make he go lodge for hotel for 2-3 months abadoning the wife and baby: isnt that a punishable offence under the law.
Can his salary accomodate all these?
Nuff said.
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| Hezzyluv: 5:23pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Sweeetheart:
I guess you dont sincerely and genuinely read the op post
I had read it very well, and that is my on rational thought.
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| iLegendd(m): 5:24pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
angelfallz:
Why not suggest some red pill books for him. That way he wouldn't fall into the hands of fake red pillers.
The Rational Male series of books by Rollo Tomassi are good red pill books.
If I'm to suggest, I will end up suggesting my own books. I just want him to do the research on his own and read what resonates with him.
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| seyz91(m): 5:24pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
You said it all
Penguin2:
The problem is that you don’t have money
No Nigerian in-law s his/her daughter against a rich in-law.
They thought you had prospects.
They thought things will turn out for good for you so you will be wiring them with money but it seems the reverse has been the case.
About your wife, she has divorced you psychologically and I suggest you do same physically by putting pen to papers and granting her the freedom she seeks.
Stop allowing her be in the driver’s seat in the whole fracas, she has occupied it for too long, take up the driver’s seat, go on offensive, sit her down and tell her that you have decided to grant her the divorce she’s looking for and if her attitude doesn’t change, sincerely, then go ahead with the divorce and let her go and focus on yourself and making money.
10 years from today she will look back and regret treating you like shit.
My 2 cents!
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| kaymart: 5:25pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
obiekunie01:
Bros dont worry we know you are not a woman. 
She is
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| Nitch99(m): 5:25pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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| codeME: 5:25pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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you are doing something that is triggering her mood swing. find out that thing and you will enjoy her. secondly when women are angry they can say anything they don't really mean it. Look for what you can be doing to trigger an unending joy in her. And lastly don't forget God, He can change all things.
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| miqos02(m): 5:28pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Philip94:
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
a jobless woman should not control the home. E get why
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| franchasng: 5:29pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Penguin2:
The problem is that you don’t have money
No Nigerian in-law s his/her daughter against a rich in-law.
They thought you had prospects.
They thought things will turn out for good for you so you will be wiring them with money but it seems the reverse has been the case.
About your wife, she has divorced you psychologically and I suggest you do same physically by putting pen to papers and granting her the freedom she seeks.
Stop allowing her be in the driver’s seat in the whole fracas, she has occupied it for too long, take up the driver’s seat, go on offensive, sit her down and tell her that you have decided to grant her the divorce she’s looking for and if her attitude doesn’t change, sincerely, then go ahead with the divorce and let her go and focus on yourself and making money.
10 years from today she will look back and regret treating you like shit.
My 2 cents!
 
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| studentofTruth: 5:30pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.
She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.
Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.
I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.
She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of ing their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.
B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep ing what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.
Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
You said she a 3-month old baby, so it's likely a case of postpartum mental health disorder (probably postpartum depression or PTSD). It happens in some 9-10% of women after childbirth. It can be treated though.
Encourage her to see her Ob-Gyn asap.
She will come around, and your marriage will be fine again. All the best.
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| Sweeetheart(m): 5:30pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Hezzyluv:
I had read it very well, and that is my on rational thought.
the marriage was full of verbal abusive although remorse even you will get tired of something that repeat itself concurrently
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| franchasng: 5:31pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
dawnomike:
Post partum trauma... Deficiency of DHA
She will come around
Nonsense talk.
Read what Penguin2 wrote, read it like 10 times
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| GoooodHardDick: 5:32pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
HarunaWest:
Its necessary to state it. She isn't bringing anything to the the table in anyway. No money, no honey now no sex and you saying is it necessary. The way you young ladies of nowadays thinks gets one worried. If she is tired of the marriage, she should divorce him and walk away not depending on him and she ain't giving anything in return. What nonsense... Is he United Nations?
Comrade. This is exactly how Nigeria girls behaves. They're broke and empty vessels filled with entitlement mentalities. Imagine what the idiot you responded to said.
However, I'll urge you to ignore the idiot. She's 18 years old and a teenager. She's a small girl. She jumps from thread to thread quoting and insulting every guy she sees as though we are all her age mate. I blame Seun for all these honestly.
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| DonCortino: 5:32pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.
She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.
Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.
I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.
She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of ing their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.
B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep ing what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.
Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.
NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.
Sorry bro, your marriage is over!
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| notmyrealmonika: 5:33pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Ajens1991:
It's okay bro... I understand how you feel. I've seen similar things from my wife.
Lemme ask you this, does your wife attend the same church with you? If yes, then the two of you have to go back to your pastor for counseling.
Second, don't ever report your wife to your family or even her own family. If she tells you to give her space, politely leave her to her wish. If she decides to leave the house on her own, don't force her to stay.
Before I forget, don't pity or pamper her anymore. Her kind of woman does not like a soft hearted man, it irritates them especially when it comes to being decisive. You have an obligation to control your home; your wife inclusive.
Too bad you married someone who's not ready for marriage.
BRO BE BRUTAL AND BLUNT WITH HER, SHE CANNOT GO ANYWHERE. YOU ARE AT AN ADVANTAGE NOW; SHEY YOU SAY SHE JUST BORN? SO NO WORRY, HER HEAD GO REACH HOUSE WHEN YOU STOP TO PET HER.
OP follow this man advice abeg
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| Candidlady: 5:34pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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GoooodHardDick:
Comrade. This is exactly how Nigeria girls behaves. They're broke and empty vessels filled with entitlement mentalities. Imagine what the idiot you responded to said.
However, I'll urge you to ignore the idiot. She's 18 years old and a teenager. She's a small girl. She jumps from thread to thread quoting and insulting every guy she sees as though we are all her age mate. I blame Seun for all these honestly.
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| tmoneyu: 5:34pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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Bros I've had that kind of issues, what I did is to let her go to her house and stop giving ING her a dime, I do my thing and I ignore her totally,I have to be the man of the house and told her that am ready for divorce, she can go and find her Mr right , brother it weighed me down and I nearly died but my firm resistance kept me going... This is there tactics to control you in future, go and make ur self happy if u want to live long...
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| franchasng: 5:34pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
LesbianBoy:
She is treating you like that because she knows you are a "good man" and you no too get money
Women will tell you they need a good man, but when you are a good man and treat them nice they would disrespect you
all of una enter op bank akant ni?
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| Elrafiki2(m): 5:35pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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You should count yourself lucky that she at least opened up to tell you she no longer has feelings towards you.
Fom what you said, the signs were there but you chose to ignore. Now her bottled up feelings have become unbearable hence she's venting. It is now up to you to wake up and smell the coffee, disolve the union cos apparently it's heading nowhere.
Failure to act now could prove disastrous as has been seen in the past. You don't want to end up poisoned to death or something. Leave while u still can as she's unwilling to engage in anything to sort things out.
Many couples are in a loveless union, which they try to manage, probably out of shame. It doesn't usually end well. A word is enough for the wise
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| InfinityFabric: 5:36pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
Vickyvice:
no mind the simp ass
I just hope they learn. Even till now I'm still detoxifying.
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| IMOH2020: 5:37pm On Mar 26, 2022 |
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Go for divorce, you don't need to seek for advice,and never you have sex with her else you give birth to a bastard
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