NewStats: 3,262,857 , 8,178,385 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 08:25 PM 1420w

So sorry..it's either you don't sex her to orgasm or your deek is not filling ..there is nothing to look forward to in poor sex.is either you make it a prayer point or get a babe outside to service you before you end of with prostrate..May God heal your home..Iree o

Love Machine has taken your place bro..Take heart

fafambo:
Go and do a DNA test on that your SON,he might not be yours.the truth is that your wife never loved you,she just wanted to answer the "MRS" of a woman and nothing else, your wife loves someone else probably the person is not financially buoyant to marry her as at the time you came to marry her. YOU CAN FORCE THE HORSE TO THE RIVER,BUT U CAN'T FORCE IT TO DRINK THE WATER. I'm out

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NNEWIsuper:

But the guy told you he has been Masturbating

Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

It is sad we have weaklings all over the place lamenting about matters that are easy to solve.
You have 2 options.
Divorce her and marry another wife. It is that simple.
A lady that has modicum of respect for you will not treat you that way.
You will soon learn a random guy is fucking your wife in the toilet and other unsanitary places, but because she has no regard for you, she believes she can treat you like thrash.
It annoys me to hear men lament how their wives deny them sex.
No boasting, no lady can try such nonsense with me.
There are billions of ladies in the world, and getting one to live in peace with is not rocket science. The problem starts when you believe it is only one lady in the world that can be your wife. That makes you tolerate nonsense

Stop those flimsy things or perks you give to her.

Any woman who denies a man sex and food is a big witch! You’re too calm that’s why she Dey misbehave!

Starz825:
this your experience dey make me think Esther go wan deny me sex if I eventually marry her

but how far, for now try dey give Esther back to back ooo so that you eventually marry her, you no go too dey reason her pussy like that even if she no give you

If you like her try to make sure say the pussy don wornout so that later you no go even reason am if she no give you Bleep.

I have 4 good advices for you.

I have experience this with my wife, and I have romantically changed her bad attitude towards the sex

1) report her to her both parents at d same time
2) report her to her pastor's wife.
3) be creating a good time together with her in house
4) yourself have to improve your sexual technique, it's very odds to be requesting for sex from wife every times, sometimes just creat a good atmosphere and romance environment, be gently touching her, caressing her body and sweet talk her, romance her by touching her weak point, it's herself that would beg you to sex her.

Sambab:
I have 4 good advices for you.

I have experience this with my wife, and I have romantically changed her bad attitude towards the sex

1) report her to her both parents at d same time
2) report her to her pastor's wife.
3) be creating a good time together with her in house
4) yourself have to improve your sexual technique, it's very odds to be requesting for sex from wife every times, sometimes just creat a good atmosphere and romance environment, be gently touching her, caressing her body and sweet talk her, romance her by touching her weak point, it's herself that would beg you to sex her.

while I agree with number 1, 2, and 4, abeg abeg, u see that number 3 is a no no.. which one is report to her pastors wife? Do u no how many pastors are suffering silently at home due to lack of sex and they can no T really do much cos of the “pastor” tag on their head?

Sometimes it’s okay to Fi weyrey pot” . If u are taking care of your home, paying school fees, rent, feeding allowance and the like, omo if u enter mad overdrive when she doesn’t comply nobody to blame u.

Make una stop this reporting and reporting upandan.

When my wife was doing that nonsense, giving sex once a month or sometime 90cm in two months, I told her one night after she turned me down for the umpteenth time, “babe, u see this your marriage that looks good in the presence of your people, one day you’d use your own vet hand to scatter it” when she saw how serious I was, she used her own hands to remove all she was putting on.. Wo, na madness level we dey use enter zone now, no repor to anybody wey no even sabi how e dey go reach person.

Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

know your worth as a man. What you are experiencing is a serious issue that you should never joke with. My advice is that you shouldn't demand sex from her again. Once you have started masturbating, she has pushed you to sin against your faith. However, you still need to act fast to preserve your sanity, whichever way you choose to do that is left to you but please do not ask her again.

Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

I get surprised reading such stories from men sha..Omoh go outside sharp but with protection sha o,if you want to get a side chick you can as well get her to run some tests to know if she is healthy too..leave your wife ALONE since she has refused to change,when she notices you don't care anymore and don't ask her for sex she will reset her brain and if she doesn't then continue.

You can also get a second wife too if you can afford it,I have NEVER seen a man in a polygamous marriage complain that his wife is denying him sex..cos they compete to impress him..Also she doesn't cook for you anymore?chief you should only cater for your child at this moment because obviously that woman doesn't value you anymore..is she earning more?