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Emaboss:



😳 Wow,

Surprised a bit, but here's my question.

How do I develop confidence?.
Confidence to even talk

Hey, I've been meaning to write you a response, it's just that I haven't the time or motivation to write a long ass response but I'll give you this.

When you say "Confidence to even talk" I'm assuming you mean talk to girls.
Before I started approach girls, I had to let go of this ego/pride mindset that approaching a girl puts you at the risk of inflating a girl's self esteem/ego at the expense of yours.

Which is a coping mechanism by the way and one that's seemingly wrong because your self esteem shouldn't come from external sources. Stoicism helped me realise that.

Another thing it helped me with is discovering the definition of confidence which is:

Confidence is knowing that even if the outcome doesn't go the way you wanted, you are okay.

Asin nothing spoil. She didn't respond well? Fine, you didn't die. It didn't take anything from you. And that's what you need to train your brain and your mind to understand.

Most guys that have anxiety talking to women have it because they think too much about the outcome. They see a fine girl, their minds immediately brings different scenarios of the girl rejecting them and they end up not approaching or saying what they want to say. Which means they just put their brain through episodes of brutal rejections just for nothing. Meaning they suffer more in imagination than in reality.

Trust me, bro, understanding this mindset takes time but you need to uninstall whatever operating system your mind is working on now and install this.

Confidence is a state where you trust yourself that no matter the outcome you will be able to handle it because you have been handling all uncertainty that life has thrown at you since the day you were born.

There are a lot of things I want to say about this and when I explain things, I like to break down the process bit by bit. I don't like giving half answers. I like to pour out all that's in my mind and it makes me understand my thinking process better.

Plus I wish someone had explained this to me when I was just starting out. That's why I said I was going to make a thread but I don't think I can at the moment. Hope you can make something out of this response.

I really need to congratulate redpillers that are wealthy and are still redpillers.
I've been a member for like 3 years now or since the time ubunja was still very active and I always thought being redpilled was really easy. Even last year I was just comfortable and didn't really see the need for a girlfriend. I was like an example to other guys. Always giving them redpill advise and more. Now I'm earning 3 times of what I earned last December and decided to spin plates. All of a sudden, the feelings started appearing again😂. Now I have a "babe" and I think I'm beginning to simp again. I've tried abundance mentality and everything but it doesn't seem to work.

Now my question is,how do I keep it in check?

SpencerForbes:
I really need to congratulate redpillers that are wealthy and are still redpillers.
I've been a member for like 3 years now or since the time ubunja was still very active and I always thought being redpilled was really easy. Even last year I was just comfortable and didn't really see the need for a girlfriend. I was like an example to other guys. Always giving them redpill advise and more. Now I'm earning 3 times of what I earned last December and decided to spin plates. All of a sudden, the feelings started appearing again😂. Now I have a "babe" and I think I'm beginning to simp again. I've tried abundance mentality and everything but it doesn't seem to work.

Now my question is,how do I keep it in check?

...

When a man makes more money,he will wanna stay single(like I mean not committing to a woman).

You weren't redpilled ,you were just broke then..
Cos when you were broke,you would have seen vvomen for who they are...

Did they love you wjen you were broke?
Now youve started making money,you've now fallen in love😹..

Your primal desires have overwhelmed your Sense of reasoning 😹..

I think,only experience/hardway makes men to be smart..


Actually,to know a simp or someone capable of being a simp is to ask him if he can love a woman..
If he says YES,then he is capable of being a simp.
If he says NO,then he is aware.

Cos I swear,you cant be conversant with female nature and still smile with them✌️

Nyascobar1414:
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When a man makes more money,he will wanna stay single(like I mean not committing to a woman).

You weren't redpilled ,you were just broke then..
Cos when you were broke,you would have seen vvomen for who they are...

Did they love you wjen you were broke?
Now youve started making money,you've now fallen in love😹..

Your primal desires have overwhelmed your Sense of reasoning 😹..

I think,only experience/hardway makes men to be smart..


Actually,to know a simp or someone capable of being a simp is to ask him if he can love a woman..
If he says YES,then he is capable of being a simp.
If he says NO,then he is aware.

Cos I swear,you cant be conversant with female nature and still smile with them✌️

The redpill is just too strong that sometimes you'll feel.going back to the bluepill is gonna solve everything. But ignorance is really bliss. Relationships as a redpillers is quite different from relationship as a bluepiller✌️✌️

When a girl start telling you when others are flirting with her. What does it mean?
Going back to the mentors

SpencerForbes:
When a girl start telling you when others are flirting with her. What does it mean?
Going back to the mentors

She is letting you know that other men want her kitty cat, and if you don't behave well, they might get it.
"Behaving well" here may mean:
- pandering to her
- giving her stuff
- doing what she says
- compromising one way or another
- simping for her
- putting her on a pedestal
- etc.



I believe that the best thing to do is to simply ignore it and to not fold (i.e, not "behave well". Otherwise, she will lose respect for you, if she hasn't already.
But if she keeps telling you about other guys, the best thing to do in my opinion is to tell her to stop pestering you about other men. See, she is a woman, of course guys will try to flirt with her. That's not a big event. That's nothing to worry about. If she wants to stay faithful, she'll stay.

The thread has served it purpose 🫡 now it’s silent😣

Can someone please educate us on Stockholm syndrome in relationships?

I’ve been doing some research but has quite add up.

SpencerForbes:
I really need to congratulate redpillers that are wealthy and are still redpillers.
I've been a member for like 3 years now or since the time ubunja was still very active and I always thought being redpilled was really easy. Even last year I was just comfortable and didn't really see the need for a girlfriend. I was like an example to other guys. Always giving them redpill advise and more. Now I'm earning 3 times of what I earned last December and decided to spin plates. All of a sudden, the feelings started appearing again😂. Now I have a "babe" and I think I'm beginning to simp again. I've tried abundance mentality and everything but it doesn't seem to work.

Now my question is,how do I keep it in check?

You can't know the nature of women and you will still be simping. Probably you are yet to learn a real life lesson about the nature of women. Never feel different about a particular lady, all girls are the same, old or young, so you mUst deal with them discreetly. No compromising your core believes and values. It might be easy for me because I am also a Stoic, I don't share weak religion with most people which effeminate most men.

Quote of the day -

I don't care if it's lonely at the top, it is lonely at the bottom too.
At least at the top, I can pay my own bills.

emmaodet:
Quote of the day -

I don't care if it's lonely at the top, it is lonely at the bottom too.
At least at the top, I can pay my own bills.

So moral of the story:

As a man, it is lonely everywhere.

OluwatobiJoshua:



You can't know the nature of women and you will still be simping. Probably you are yet to learn a real life lesson about the nature of women. Never feel different about a particular lady, all girls are the same, old or young, so you mUst deal with them discreetly. No compromising your core believes and values. It might be easy for me because I am also a Stoic, I don't share weak religion with most people which effeminate most men.

You nailed it!!!

emmaodet:
Quote of the day -

I don't care if it's lonely at the top, it is lonely at the bottom too.
At least at the top, I can pay my own bills.

Great quote.

Nyascobar1414:
...

When a man makes more money,he will wanna stay single(like I mean not committing to a woman).

You weren't redpilled ,you were just broke then..
Cos when you were broke,you would have seen vvomen for who they are...

Did they love you wjen you were broke?
Now youve started making money,you've now fallen in love😹..

Your primal desires have overwhelmed your Sense of reasoning 😹..

I think,only experience/hardway makes men to be smart..


Actually,to know a simp or someone capable of being a simp is to ask him if he can love a woman..
If he says YES,then he is capable of being a simp.
If he says NO,then he is aware.

Cos I swear,you cant be conversant with female nature and still smile with them✌️

Bro is in one-itis mode .
It never gets old😂
Some just hear about the Redpill and want to feel among.
Not that they have come to with reality.
Anyways everyone will be fine one way or the other.

SpencerForbes:
I really need to congratulate redpillers that are wealthy and are still redpillers.
I've been a member for like 3 years now or since the time ubunja was still very active and I always thought being redpilled was really easy. Even last year I was just comfortable and didn't really see the need for a girlfriend. I was like an example to other guys. Always giving them redpill advise and more. Now I'm earning 3 times of what I earned last December and decided to spin plates. All of a sudden, the feelings started appearing again😂. Now I have a "babe" and I think I'm beginning to simp again. I've tried abundance mentality and everything but it doesn't seem to work.

Now my question is,how do I keep it in check?

We don't need to teach you how to keep it in check. If you can't be serious and stand on business with the red pill insights you've amassed from this thread, then we can only leave effective instructing to red pill's biggest agents and recruiters: life and women.

Men easily get lost in the sauce.

SpencerForbes:
When a girl start telling you when others are flirting with her. What does it mean?
Going back to the mentors

Lol. You again?

Martinez39s:
We don't need to teach you how to keep it in check. If you can't be serious and stand on business with the red pill insights you've amassed from this thread, then we can only leave effective instructing to red pill's biggest agents and recruiters: life and women.

Men easily get lost in the sauce.

Sometimes you just wanna give your woman a chance. You wanna believe she different but reality don’t seems to agree. It just hit you hard. One reality I’ve come into agreement and have been preached on this thread is. There’s no unconditional love.

The lady that’s with when you’re down either sees a potential and is waiting for that your “behind every successful man, there’s a woman quote.” She already has a time frame and once there are signs it’s gonna take longer than expected. She’ll monkey branch asap.

While the ones with you when you have money suddenly forgets if the money ain’t there, they can’t be with you. They start claiming after all they’ve done for you.

What life has taught me is, flaunt the money but don’t give it. The kind of love-bombing ladies throw nowadays when they see a man to the top is alarming. But all that are distractions and the moment you lose track of your goal, you are out.

Men, let’s guide our M.E.A.T. With all our time. That’s the only thing that’s gonna keep us going at the end of the tunnel. No loving wife (except you’ve put everything in place to make it easier for them when you’re old) no insurance of loving children. Just you and your wealth.

You can’t change it, that’s the program. That’s the redpill😎

SpencerForbes:


Sometimes you just wanna give your woman a chance. You wanna believe she different but reality don’t seems to agree. It just hit you hard. One reality I’ve come into agreement and have been preached on this thread is. There’s no unconditional love.

The lady that’s with when you’re down either sees a potential and is waiting for that your “behind every successful man, there’s a woman quote.” She already has a time frame and once there are signs it’s gonna take longer than expected. She’ll monkey branch asap.

While the ones with you when you have money suddenly forgets if the money ain’t there, they can’t be with you. They start claiming after all they’ve done for you.

What life has taught me is, flaunt the money but don’t give it. The kind of love-bombing ladies throw nowadays when they see a man to the top is alarming. But all that are distractions and the moment you lose track of your goal, you are out.

Men, let’s guide our M.E.A.T. With all our time. That’s the only thing that’s gonna keep us going at the end of the tunnel. No loving wife (except you’ve put everything in place to make it easier for them when you’re old) no insurance of loving children. Just you and your wealth.

You can’t change it, that’s the program. That’s the redpill😎

🥲

SpencerForbes:


Sometimes you just wanna give your woman a chance. You wanna believe she different but reality don’t seems to agree. It just hit you hard. One reality I’ve come into agreement and have been preached on this thread is. There’s no unconditional love.

The lady that’s with when you’re down either sees a potential and is waiting for that your “behind every successful man, there’s a woman quote.” She already has a time frame and once there are signs it’s gonna take longer than expected. She’ll monkey branch asap.

While the ones with you when you have money suddenly forgets if the money ain’t there, they can’t be with you. They start claiming after all they’ve done for you.

What life has taught me is, flaunt the money but don’t give it. The kind of love-bombing ladies throw nowadays when they see a man to the top is alarming. But all that are distractions and the moment you lose track of your goal, you are out.

Men, let’s guide our M.E.A.T. With all our time. That’s the only thing that’s gonna keep us going at the end of the tunnel. No loving wife (except you’ve put everything in place to make it easier for them when you’re old) no insurance of loving children. Just you and your wealth.

You can’t change it, that’s the program. That’s the redpill😎

Lol!! But on a more serious note, nothing is wrong with draft. Both are just games used to entertain people they are just of different cultural background. But still games all the same but that doesn't mean I rooting for poverty at old age because "who does?"

A woman that does not like or want you will exhibit the following characteristics.
1) she will resist you and your attempts
2) she will give you a lot of excuses as to why she cannot meet up with you or have sex
3) she will start billing you or asking you for unnecessary favors
4) she will ignore your texts and calls or she will take a really long time to respond to you
5) she will not follow your instructions
6) she will begin telling you about how you should treat her or how she expects you to treat her.
simply put a woman that does not like you will show you several signs of disinterest and disrespect when you see any of these signs do not misinterpret them any other way other than disinterest. leave them alone and go find more women