NewStats: 3,262,623 , 8,177,718 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 05:35 AM 1j6q6s

Sincerely, even though I would have been able to advise someone else outrightly on what to do in this situation, I find it very difficult to decide what's the best thing to do now that I find myself in it.
Guess its because I'm on the hot seat now and not thinking straight. So before one makes a mistake, I need someone with a clearer head and straight thoughts to advise me before I make a decision based on my emotions, which may not be right as I'm in a total mess right now +Medication messing with my system.

So, is it advisable for a girl to do the first visit to another state to see a boo? Especially when she doesn't know anyone there she can put up with during her visit? Or the guy should do the first and maybe subsequent visits pending when the coast is clear and safe enough for the girl to return such visits?

Sorry if this sounds silly. But honestly, I'm stuck right in the middle on what to do.

Gracias.

I was the one who visited her first, not because I cannot bring her to the state i reside, but because I wanted her to feel relaxed and secured.... It was a neutral venue and everything went smoothly....

She felt so secured and relax and was really grateful i made such a long trip just to see her.

Now, if i want her here after the whole Covid-19 stuff, she'll waste no seconds to jump into the next Agofure bus.


I'll advise he visit first.


Take good care of your health Jewessgratitudd.

I think the guy should visit first, gives the lady a sense of security... It doesn't have to be indoors, you both could meet in a restaurant then after everything he retires to his hotel room and probably leaves the next day.

Why are the guys above me smiling and just observing?

I'm serious here na.
If its me now, I'll quickly render advice without hesitating.
Ok.

Jewessgratitudd:
Sincerely, even though I would have been able to advise someone else outrightly on what to do in this situation, I find it very difficult to decide what's the best thing to do now that I find myself in it.
Guess its because I'm on the hot seat now and not thinking straight. So before one makes a mistake, I need someone with a clearer head and straight thoughts to advise me before I make a decision based on my emotions, which may not be right as I'm in a total mess right now +Medication messing with my system.

So, is it advisable for a girl to do the first visit to another state to see a boo? Especially when she doesn't know anyone there she can put up with during her visit? Or the guy should do the first and maybe subsequent visits pending when the coast is clear and safe enough for the girl to return such visits?

Sorry if this sounds silly. But honestly, I'm stuck right in the middle on what to do.

Gracias.

It doesn't matter. She can choose to go first. I'd prefer a lady coming to me first, as a guy.

missimelda01:
I think the guy should visit first, gives the lady a sense of security... It doesn't have to be indoors, you both could meet in a restaurant then after everything he retires to his hotel room and probably leaves the next day.

Ok.
Thank you so much. Was thinking that would be selfish and too demanding of me to ask him to do.

Thanks.

justnock:

It doesn't matter. She can choose to go first. I'd prefer a lady coming to me first, as a guy.

And security?

No difference with the ones I read online....

Aunty,when will you marry?

it really confusing.... in my own perspective, I prefer she come over than going to her place, if she would be the one to come to ur place, make sure u send her more than enough tfare.

Jewessgratitudd:
Sincerely, even though I would have been able to advise someone else outrightly on what to do in this situation, I find it very difficult to decide what's the best thing to do now that I find myself in it.
Guess its because I'm on the hot seat now and not thinking straight. So before one makes a mistake, I need someone with a clearer head and straight thoughts to advise me before I make a decision based on my emotions, which may not be right as I'm in a total mess right now +Medication messing with my system.

So, is it advisable for a girl to do the first visit to another state to see a boo? Especially when she doesn't know anyone there she can put up with during her visit? Or the guy should do the first and maybe subsequent visits pending when the coast is clear and safe enough for the girl to return such visits?

Sorry if this sounds silly. But honestly, I'm stuck right in the middle on what to do.

Gracias.

So you don't have any experienced person in your much touted church whom you could ask this question?

Do you even have a life outside this forum?

Erediauwa:
I was the one who visited her first, not because I cannot bring her to the state i reside, but because I wanted her to feel relaxed and secured.... It was a neutral venue and everything went smoothly....

She felt so secured and relax and was really grateful i made such a long trip just to see her.

Wow nice.

Now, if i want her here after the whole Covid-19 stuff, she'll waste no seconds to jump into the next Agofure bus.


I'll advise he visit first. OK. Thanks very much.




Take good care of your health Jewessgratitudd.

. Yeah sure I will.
Thanks.
God bless.

It doesn't really matter....
Doh I perfer d lady coming first... Make I no go now enter one chance.... Girls dey get brain shake atimes

Jewessgratitudd:
. Yeah sure I will.
Thanks.
God bless.

Enjoy.

nrexzy:
It doesn't really matter....
Doh I perfer d lady coming first... Make I no go now enter one chance.... Girls dey get brain shake atimes

*laughs* which one is brain shake again?
Hmm...OK.

Jewessgratitudd:


*laughs* which one is brain shake again?
Hmm...OK.

Woman neva do u strong thing before

horpigee1:
it really confusing.... in my own perspective, I prefer she come over than going to her place, if she would be the one to come to ur place, make sure u send her more than enough tfare.

Bus fare is not the issue here. I'm talking about security and safety.

Just view it this way, if I were your sister, what would you advise me to do?

Jewessgratitudd:


And security?

in their case,security is not matter, she is not going there to meet a stranger, they av been dating for a while.
.
u can only talk about security if they av not met b4, am talking about a total stranger, I would advice him to go first....

Raalsalghul:


So you don't have any experienced person in your much touted church whom you could ask this question?

Do you even have a life outside this forum?

Says someone whose entire being is centered around Nairaland and has distinction in trolling. If not, how come you get to know anytime I make a post or tell whose behind a new moniker?
Nairaland detective officer.

I don't have the energy to waste on you and your fellow Sergeant troll this morning. So I'll suggest you go to your bits, at the nairaland gates to welcome newbies. That will be your station throughout this lockdown. OK? Alert your comrades. Over!

horpigee1:
in their case,security is not matter, she is not going there to meet a stranger, they av been dating for a while.
.
u can only talk about security if they av not met b4, am talking about a total stranger, I would advice him to go first....

OK.
Thanks.

Jewessgratitudd:


[s]Says someone whose entire being is centered around Nairaland and has distinction in trolling. If not, how come you get to know anytime I make a post or tell whose behind a new moniker?
Nairaland detective officer.

I don't have the energy to waste on you and your fellow Sergeant troll this morning. So I'll suggest you go to your bits, at the nairaland gates to welcome newbies. That will be your station throughout this lockdown. OK? Alert your comrades. Over![/s]

The truth hurts, doesn't it.

Because it’s Palm Sunday, I won’t type what’s on my mind

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Raalsalghul:


The truth hurts, doesn't it.

Yes cos I see it just hurt you badly. Ouch!

Jewessgratitudd:

Yes cos I see it just hurt you badly. Ouch!

Nah, I mean you, darling because I'm sure your reality must be that cold.

During 2go days...

I preferred doing the visiting...
Never liked ladies visiting me. I hated spending unnecessarily.
Though I had been disappointed a couple of times, the same way I disappointed ladies a couple of times.

And now...
I don't do visitation no more

Raalsalghul:


Nah, I mean you, darling because I'm sure your reality must be that cold.

Can you stop mentioning about? I'm not interested. please go get a life.
I won't warn you again.

Jewessgratitudd:


Can you stop mentioning about? I'm not interested. please go get a life.
I won't warn you again.

"You're not interested kee you dia. "

Bluezy13:
During 2go days...

I preferred doing the visiting...
Never liked ladies visiting me. I hated spending unnecessarily.
Though I had been disappointed a couple of times, the same way I disappointed ladies a couple of times.

And now...
I don't do visitation no more

O...really... Okies.
Thanks.

The guy should visit first... Don't attempt to visit first, I repeat dont attempt it. All the best...

Jewessgratitudd:


And security?

Elaborate pls