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N'Landers, I am a man of 29 yrs of age, without sounding immodest, I belong to the upper middle class ( Global standard). Well the issue is that I am in need of a child I will call my own, but then, I am not yet ready for marriage commitment (to be tied down by a lady or family affairs) because I have got a lot of things that will take me up-to 3/4 yrs to put in place before I will consider my self free to settle down. Now I want to know, what is the best means to have my way in this regard, putting into consideration that I will want the child-to-be to have the best of teenage upbringing/nursing, this I will be involved in by providing the necessary financial . Please people , your advice is needed.

Thanks all

Wonderful place , gud people !

We looking at you like a fool that why we haven't responded but me being friendly just decided to give you the heads up!

@Mrs. Eve , you must be suffering from environmental delusion

Everything in you post screams out SELFISHNESS! ! ! ! !

Nice foundation for life you got there!

Then let him go an adopt a child , chikena!

@rokiatu,how many times will i tell you to stop stealing my thoughts?let this be the last o,if not i'll woundjure you o.lol.

@rokiatu , had it been u know what the word " advice" means , then you wouldn't have used the word selfishness on me .

freecocoa:

@rokiatu,how many times will i tell you to stop stealing my thoughts?let this be the last o,if not i'll woundjure you o.lol.

lol sorry ma'm it wouldn't repeat itself again

Cultured:

@rokiatu , had it been u know what the word " advice" means , then you wouldn't have used the word selfishness on me .

Sir, if you knew what an honest advice is then you probably would have understood what I said.

poster

There are a lot of orphans around the world you can try adopting. That will help out a child in need

Poster.

Are you 2face's disciple? It is either you are ready for a family or not.

If i may ask, which girl have you choosed to perpetrate this crime of yours?

@ Omega25red , thanks for your suggestion . Please expatiate, if I adopt a child from the orphanage home as you have stated , I want to know will they also take the responsibility to nurse him/her to  grow up to a certain age ,say 2/3 yrs ?

@specialist900 , I have not intentions to violate any girl , thus the reason why I am seeking for a holistic approach to the need .

Its possible ,1 million times in Nigeria check festus keyamo joo,he did it and did not marry the woman.Dont expect any good advise from the ladies,they like marriage.

Cultured:

@ Omega25red , thanks for your suggestion . Please expatiate, if I adopt a child from the orphanage home as you have stated , I want to know will they also take the responsibility to nurse him/her to  grow up to a certain age ,say 2/3 yrs ?

well since you just want a child to while being hands off you can go to an orphanage and make a commitment to a child there by supply for his/her needs financially and showing up to bring a smile to the childs face and i'm sure you can probably talk to someone there that you are interested in adopting the child but not right at this moment.

@tim2 , thanks bro, I appreciates you honest opinion .


@Omega25red , once more thanks , I am delighted having your lucid opinion

@poster, who would take care of the child since you dont want any commitments? Trust me, i fit do surrogate mother for ur unborn child but on one condition. since you say u get plenty money,  you go pay about N10million into my and secondly, i cannot subject myself to any Laboratory insermination and fertilisation as such, we do it the old fashion way. lastly, i would want to be a part of my child's formative years and thus, would opt to be a live-in surrogate for the first 10years. if he good for you make u hola me

You see thats the problem about our lady's, Ther are so desperate about this tin called marrage that ther can never reason wen a lead way comes.

@poster wat u want is very possible depending on how fat ur poket is?,

@iyatrustee , ur proposal is a fantastic one . But I am sensing that u are not serious , else u would have be more reasonable in ur thoughts . Anyways, u can still make something gud out from ur previous post , so I look forward reading from u . And besides ,who told u that I have money for frivolities, I couldn't making such statement .

I like the arrangement and i watching the tread closely ,its a better option if you are sacred of the Nigerian woman.I am planning along that line as well,Nzeribe does not have a wife at hom but as children.You will live longer my guy.

@tim2, thanks man . But permit me to remind u , the Arthur Nzeribe I knew has a homey wife .

Mrs. Eve:

We looking at you like a fool that why we haven't responded but me being friendly just decided to give you the heads up!

Cultured:

@Mrs. Eve , you must be suffering from environmental delusion

Waiting for master to respond!

Cultured:

@tim2, thanks man . But permit me to remind u , the Arthur Nzeribe I knew has a homey wife .

He just got wedded again .he was not a family man before.in your old age there will be a need for a woman to do cookin g and massage your back.

Cultured:

@specialist900 , I have not intentions to violate any girl , thus the reason why I am seeking for a holistic approach to the nnairaland.unblockandhide.com/nigeria?action=post;topic=550671.0;num_replies=23#topeed .

i smell something fishy around cos there must be a reason for this thought of yours which you have not told us.

Were you promised a throne with the condition for getting it as a child?

Cultured:

N'Landers , I am a man of 29 yrs of age , without sounding immodest ,I belong to the upper middle class ( Nigeria standard ) . Well the issue is that I am in need of a child I will call my own , but then , I am not yet ready for marriage commitment ( to be tied down by a lady or family affairs ) because I have got allot of things that will take me up-to 3/4 yrs to put in place before I will consider my self free to settle down ( please , don't mistake me here , I am not a player  ). Now I want to know , what is the best means to have my way in this regard , putting into consideration that I will want the child-to-be to have the best of teenage upbringing/nursing , this I will be involved in by providing the necessary financial . Please people , your advise is needed.

Thanks all

guy go Bleep ashawo mak she born 4 u,,,,easy as ABC

@specialist900 , it is very obvious you are not good in comprehension else you would have noted that am not allergic to women , the issue at this juncture is that I am not yet fully free with time to commit my self into "true marriage". Or does it mean you do not know what a true marriage is all about ? Well let me educate you small in this , from my own perspective , marriage demands that you always be there for your wife and kids , not only in given monetary , also physical , emotional and what have u . So man , I come from a responsible home , I know what a true marriage is because I have responsible parents who strive in to their human best in given me a good upbringing , I will love to care for my kids and wife when am ready to settle down ,but then I don't see this free time any near less than in the 3/4 yrs coming , so the need of seeking the advice to know the best possible means outside marriage package because I need a child to call mine .

Meanwhile , if I didn't have a convincing advice here , then I will resort to my option B , which is to seek for a lady and marry , one who will agree to my and has the heart to be an independent wife , maybe having me around her ones in 8-10 days stay on every 3 months interval visit for the next 4 yrs , I know my self so , needless to engage in self deceit .

People sound advices are needed , please !

Well the issue is that I am in need of a child I will call my own , but then , I am not yet ready for marriage commitment

You must be a pedo-phile or a ritualist.
No child should be left unattended in your presence.

@Blayzay , I can see you are an imbecilic entity .

Yes.
But we have to report you to the police wherever you live in advance incase any child turns up missing or any pregnant woman is found ripped open, with a stolen child.

Cultured:

@specialist900 , it is very obvious you are not good in comprehension else you would have noted that am not allergic to women , the issue at this juncture is that I am not yet fully free with time to commit my self into "true marriage". Or does it mean you do not know what a true marriage is all about ? Well let me educate you small in this , from my own perspective , marriage demands that you always be there for your wife and kids , not only in given monetary , also physical , emotional and what have u . So man , I come from a responsible home , I know what a true marriage is because I have responsible parents who strive in to their human best in given me a good upbringing , I will love to care for my kids and wife when am ready to settle down ,but then I don't see this free time any near less than in the 3/4 yrs coming , so the need of seeking the advice to know the best possible means outside marriage package because I need a child to call mine .

Meanwhile , if I didn't have a convincing advice here , then I will resort to my option B , which is to seek for a lady and marry , one who will agree to my and has the heart to be an independent wife , maybe having me around her ones in 8-10 days stay on every 3 months interval visit for the next 4 yrs , I know my self so , needless to engage in self deceit .

i see who wants to be a father, you want your child to call a neighbour daddy for 4 yrs till you finish building a castle somewhere in the air. Nah man, you can't eat your cake and have it.

@specialist900 , seriously u need to upgrade your IQ , your sense of reasoning is below the standard of people I need advice from.