NewStats: 3,265,064 , 8,185,517 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 10:39 AM 34o71

stag:
Is the only problem here losing his job, money?

- No stories of infidelity on her part?
- Had there been relative peace since the marriage?
- Can we then say that, apart from her love of money, she was a good wife?

Bro, how can your brother be in a contract job but fixed two of his in-laws in ‘well-paying’ Federal Government jobs with job security while he worked in a place without job security?

Isn't it obvious the contract job pays more than the federal job, his focus was the money not the security, his mumuism is certified.

More "make money to get women" crew coming.

Biglittlelois:

Isn't it obvious the contract job pays more than the federal job, his focus was the money not the security, his mumuism is certified.

I’d agree with you. Also, he may not have had the required qualifications into a level with decent pay in Federal civil service structure.

akinade28:
The lady is a golddigger sha, she didnt know he was short the first five years of the marriage when there was money? even if she was persuaded to marry him, was she forced? She could have said no and insisted she not marrying him. I think it is just a flimsy excuse to leave the marriage
I feel for your bro, It is so obvious the woman only married him out of pity because of his money and in order to repay the assistance render to her not because she loved him.
My opinion is that life is so unpredictable, that why careful consideration needs to be taken when choosing a spouse. Marriage is more than i have money or beauty.

U hav said everything, and u said it well, all these stories upandan self, to get ordinary gf na problem for me talk more of wife.


why must u force a woman to marry u, u dont need to persuade a lady on and on before u knw if she's interested in u or nt, d moment u notice she's nt interested just liv her alone. same tin hapens to women as well

egopersonified:
Make money crew, una see una life outside?

we try to make money see wetin una dey talk, if we no try make money una no go gree date us,
hmm Lord i tire oo.

akinade28:
The lady is a golddigger sha, she didnt know he was short the first five years of the marriage when there was money? even if she was persuaded to marry him, was she forced? She could have said no and insisted she not marrying him. I think it is just a flimsy excuse to leave the marriage
I feel for your bro, It is so obvious the woman only married him out of pity because of his money and in order to repay the assistance render to her not because she loved him.
My opinion is that life is so unpredictable, that why careful consideration needs to be taken when choosing a spouse. Marriage is more than i have money or beauty.

Can we be careful enough?? People even change after marriage. It's a crazy world out there

zeb04:


“Your family sent a letter by court asking for divorce “ is the problem here. After 2 quarrels?okay oh.

Who is depressed now, abi are you guys sharing in the depression abi it is only to issue letter y’all know.

His family received a letter apparently from the woman.

It seems this is a case for Ubunja

The lesson you try to is not to spoil a girlfriend with money.

But again, your brother did nothing wrong, he was just unlucky.

stag:
Is the only problem here losing his job, money?

- No stories of infidelity on her part?
- Had there been relative peace since the marriage?
- Can we then say that, apart from her love of money, she was a good wife?

Bro, how can your brother be in a contract job but fixed two of his in-laws in ‘well-paying’ Federal Government jobs with job security while he worked in a place without job security?

You can say that again.

Marriages fail all over the world amd marriages will continue to fail. There is no moral here. To stay marriage no be by force

The lesson is that You can't force a lady with your wealth.

Once she complains about anything irresversible in you, just give up.

When you pay a lady salary, u already lost her. When it is time to quit, she will wait becos of the salary not becos of love.

stag:
Is the only problem here losing his job, money?

- No stories of infidelity on her part?
- Had there been relative peace since the marriage?
- Can we then say that, apart from her love of money, she was a good wife?

Bro, how can your brother be in a contract job but fixed two of his in-laws in ‘well-paying’ Federal Government jobs with job security while he worked in a place without job security?

exactly my taught! some ppl can exaggerate things ehn

This story get as e be. But above all na ur broda I blame .

And come to think of it, he got his inlaws a federal job, and he was a bloody contract staff. Is this love or juju?

Your brother didn't think before making his moves.

To make matters worse, he didn't invest.

Where ur brother dey, make we flog am 50lashes of koboko.

I don't even blame the wife at all. Till we hear her own side of the story.

zeb04:


“Your family sent a letter by court asking for divorce “ is the problem here. After 2 quarrels?okay oh.

Who is depressed now, abi are you guys sharing in the depression abi it is only to issue letter y’all know.

Read and understand, hanty

A lot of guys make their mistake. Stop being too desperate about getting a girl to the extent that you have to use money to please her. If she doesn't like you normally without you giving her money, just bone and move on with your life...Stop impressing women especially the one you want to marry with money. The moment you have small problems, they will start to frustrate you because you used money to woo them and they only married you for the money.

My uncle is going through something very similar

so pathetic! There is a serious lesson to learn here. that's dont force yourself or take advantage of a lady that is not interested in you. there are many gal out there. I pray thigs get better for you.

https://livelystones.com.ng/how-do-i-tell-her-that-i-do-not-believe-in-getting-married/

Abo123:
I purposely ed a new name because of this story so that many people especially potential husbands can learn from this. I'll like to narrate the story in details so I want you to follow me.

It all started in 2011 when my brother got a contract job in Abuja. Then he met this lady when he went to our home town during a leave but she told him immediately that she can't date him because she's short but he kept persuading her as usual.

As time goes on she started crying that she is unable to pay her 300k school fees because her father is dead and her mum is not buoyant enough to continue the payment and she may withdraw as a result of this. So he offered to sponsor her education from 200level till she graduated and she agreed to date and later married her in 2014.

To make the long story short, he later got her and her two siblings well paid federal government job through his office and later got her a car. Less I forget that their marriage produced two children (a boy and a girl) in five years.

Unfortunately for him his contract job was terminated three months ago and he decided to give her 200k so that they can manage it for four months for food stuff and house keep but she told him that the money has been exhausted after two weeks. This caused a little quarrel and she decided to leave the house with both children and went to spend the week in a hotel.

This spark an annoyance of my family and we decided to send two of our elderly brothers to her mum in our home town but the woman started sparking that she didn't wanted to marry him in the first place because he's short but she was the one that persuaded her to marry him.

They later had another quarrel last month and the lady took the children to her mum in the home town through a flat without informing the husband and any of our family member. So we decided not to call her and a court letter was issued to him for request of termination of the marriage.

Now the marriage is terminated and my brother is seriously depressed.

I really learnt a lot of lesson from this.

My elder bro learnt it the hard way too. Dude upgraded her without any concrete help for extended family but did for hers. Took her abroad with their househelp who is from her her place. Two have them connived to show my guy and his first daughter,which he had prior to marrying, pepper. First daughter got fed up and left home,and married to a white guy without letting him know. Now he has divorced,with the children in her custody. He is back to Nigeria depressed,with no family.

Morale of the story :
* Invest in yourself/properties/business before investing in hairy hole bank.
* Money can buy companion but not love.
* Don't depend on one source of income... especially paid/contract employment.

In Summary, keep making money, even if you don't spend much on women, the fact they know you are made will make them stay.

The real wife is known when her man has nothing but love.

Some family are devil themselves.

ivolt:
The lesson you try to is not to spoil a girlfriend with money.

But again, your brother did nothing wrong, he was just unlucky.

he made a mistake, when u hear that ur younger brother is begging a lady up and down make he date am or marry am, how u go feel, u will feel angry and pissed off,becus its irritating,that was where the op brother problem unknowingly started from,

Encourage your brother ......that is the most important thing....if she wants to leave him.....no wahala....its her call. How is he sure those kids are his own self?

Elliot2:
My elder bro learnt it the hard way too. Dude upgraded her without any concrete help for extended family but did for hers. Took her abroad with their househelp who is from her her place. Two have them connived to show my guy and his first daughter,which he had prior to marrying, pepper. First daughter got fed up and left home,and married to a white guy without letting him know. Now he has divorced,with the children in her custody. He is back to Nigeria depressed,with no family.

Things dey happen. And Some go dey put love for head. As long as she be woman, I love my sense fully operational. These women ain't loyal!

ipobarecriminals:
Some family are devil themselves.

now now the woman no day husband hux again how she wan do now, I don't understand some ladies o,
if u can't endure marriage abeg stay out, don't come and cook half beans and run away,

Marriage eh?





Lol

successmatters:
Moral of the story, never lose your job.

Eleribu

Your teachers and lecturers are the biggest scams of all time. Pukes!

zeb04:


“Your family sent a letter by court asking for divorce “ is the problem here. After 2 quarrels?okay oh.

Who is depressed now, abi are you guys sharing in the depression abi it is only to issue letter y’all know.

blesskewe:
Money can't buy love
Entrepreneurship is key.
Atleast have a side souvrce of income

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