NewStats: 3,264,188 , 8,182,906 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 05:56 AM 6x4m5k

stag:

Bro, how can your brother be in a contract job but fixed two of his in-laws in ‘well-paying’ Federal Government jobs with job security while he worked in a place without job security?

See brother.

Brother wey

I want to hear from the other side
bet it will be a different story

This occurrence is a perfect representation of the figure of speech (phrase) "when the chips are down." It's only when the chips are down like this that one will accept the reality that only ethical class is the real class and that there's no need for marriage where interest isn't mutually altruistic between both parties directly involved. Altruism isn't just the soul of love/friendship/oneness, it's equally the hallmark of good ethics. The inconsequential immaterial thing that matters the most - the best of attributes.

Only an altruistic person (a selfless woman/thoughtful man) can give another (person) faithfulness which is required in a situation like this. Loyalty will always end where self-serving benefits stop or become unappealing - the evil of prioritizing social/economic class and consideration mainly/solely based on physical beauty/handsomeness - but faithfulness will not because it's the major hallmark of altruism, it doesn't expect/depend on self-serving benefit. Faithfulness remains superior to loyalty, so immaterial things (good attributes) over material things (money/physical possessions) as first/main consideration, any day and any time.

Your brother married a woman who had no altruistic interest towards him. It's possible that he too didn't have altruistic interest towards her. Any marriage that material and/or physical thing is the bond that brought/holds the couple can't be a peaceful and happy one mutually, whether it lasts or not is irrelevant.

Materialism is as bad as parasitism - say no to parasitism, say no to materialism.

Go and make money, hustle my brother once you make money any woman of your choice you can have.. this is the anthem of most young men these days.


una see una life bah,if you like make money and go for the woman of your choice if you are not her choice too she will just use your money as compensation.

Most men these days have extremely low self esteem, their worth is tied to money and when the money dwindles down their wives also disappear too.

Abo123:
I purposely ed a new name because of this story so that many people especially potential husbands can learn from this. I'll like to narrate the story in details so I want you to follow me.
It all started in 2011 when my brother got a contract job in Abuja. Then he met this lady when he went to our home town during a leave but she told him immediately that she can't date him because she's short but he kept persuading her as usual.
As time goes on she started crying that she is unable to pay her 300k school fees because her father is dead and her mum is not buoyant enough to continue the payment and she may withdraw as a result of this. So he offered to sponsor her education from 200level till she graduated and she agreed to date and later married her in 2014.
To make the long story short, he later got her and her two siblings well paid federal government job through his office and later got her a car. Less I forget that their marriage produced two children (a boy and a girl) in five years.
Unfortunately for him his contract job was terminated three months ago and he decided to give her 200k so that they can manage it for four months for food stuff and house keep but she told him that the money has been exhausted after two weeks. This caused a little quarrel and she decided to leave the house with both children and went to spend the week in a hotel.
This spark an annoyance of my family and we decided to send two of our elderly brothers to her mum in our home town but the woman started sparking that she didn't wanted to marry him in the first place because he's short but she was the one that persuaded her to marry him.
They later had another quarrel last month and the lady took the children to her mum in the home town through a flat without informing the husband and any of our family member. So we decided not to call her and a court letter was issued to him for request of termination of the marriage.
Now the marriage is terminated and my brother is seriously depressed.
I really learnt alot of lesson from this.

naija women are group of useless species

The day I made up my mind that never to associate myself with naija women! Things that working better for me!

If you are looking for love, our black women can't give it to you except you add money into it and when that money is gone, the ape will leave you

Find a foreign woman and your life will be wonderful

womenareapes:
naija women are group of useless species

The day I made up my mind that never to associate myself with naija women! Things that working better for me!

If you are looking for love, our black women can't give it to you except you add money into it and when that money is gone, the ape will leave you

Find a foreign woman and your life will be wonderful

and you think foreign women will tolerate your joblessness?

desvi:


and you think foreign women will tolerate your joblessness?

is joblessness a permanent stage of life?

When the going is rough! A foreign woman will you both emotional and physical still you rise up again

ubunja:
this goes out to all the guys who think having money will end their problems with women.

But still they won't Listen...How are they even certain the guy Really fathered those kids... Smh

womenareapes:
is joblessness a permanent stage of life?

no woman will tolerate permanent joblessness
there is more to this story your brothers are not telling

LordKO:
This occurrence is a perfect representation of the phrase "when the chips are down." It's only when the chips are down like this that one will accept the reality that only ethical class is the real class and that there's no need for marriage where interest isn't mutually altruistic between both parties directly involved. Altruism isn't just the soul of love/friendship/oneness, it's equally the hallmark of good ethics. The inconsequential immaterial thing that matters the most - the best of attributes.

Only an altruistic person (a selfless woman/thoughtful man) can give another (person) faithfulness which is required in a situation like this. Loyalty will always end where benefits stop - the evil of social/economic class and consideration - but faithfulness will not because it's the major hallmark of altruism, it doesn't expect benefit. Faithfulness remains superior to loyalty, so immaterial things (good attributes) over material things (money/physical possessions) any day and any time.

welcome to la la land

desvi:


no woman will tolerate permanent joblessness
there is more to this story your brothers are not telling

A man will fall 1000 times and still rose back up again!
There is no such thing as permanent joblessness except you refuse to get back up!

A fish have more reasoning capacity than you!

womenareapes:


A man will fall 1000 times and still rose back up again!
There is no such thing as permanent joblessness except you refuse to get back up!

A fish have more reasoning capacity than you!

you have made zero sense

He paid her school fees when him never marry her ..Awon 2nd daddy

The dangers of a one sided story...

stag:
Is the only problem here losing his job, money?

- No stories of infidelity on her part?
- Had there been relative peace since the marriage?
- Can we then say that, apart from her love of money, she was a good wife?

Bro, how can your brother be in a contract job but fixed two of his in-laws in ‘well-paying’ Federal Government jobs with job security while he worked in a place without job security?

The thing surprise me too o.

LordKO:
This occurrence is a perfect representation of the Figure of Speech (phrase) "when the chips are down." It's only when the chips are down like this that one will accept the reality that only ethical class is the real class and that there's no need for marriage where interest isn't mutually altruistic between both parties directly involved. Altruism isn't just the soul of love/friendship/oneness, it's equally the hallmark of good ethics. The inconsequential immaterial thing that matters the most - the best of attributes.

Only an altruistic person (a selfless woman/thoughtful man) can give another (person) faithfulness which is required in a situation like this. Loyalty will always end where self-serving benefits stop or become unappealing - the evil of prioritizing social/economic class and consideration mainly/solely based on physical beauty/handsomeness - but faithfulness will not because it's the major hallmark of altruism, it doesn't expect self-serving benefit. Faithfulness remains superior to loyalty, so immaterial things (good attributes) over material things (money/physical possessions) as first/main consideration, any day and any time.

I know you are wise and mature, but kindly tone down on the grammar please.

So what or where's the lesson in this nonsense narration of yours, guy?

See JAMB qweshion...

OKOATA:
Please my question is how was the marriage terminated? Did both parties appear in court or what's the procedure to terminate a marriage? I want to know about this so it will be easy for me if things go south

Gloriagee:
See JAMB qweshion...

You should have answered that madam instead of saying Jamb question. In his story it was never stated if both parties went to court to formalize a divorce.

virgoquin:
Go and make money, hustle my brother once you make money any woman of your choice you can have.. this is the anthem of most young men these days.


una see una life bah,if you like make money and go for the woman of your choice if you are not her choice too she will just use your money as compensation.

Most men these days have extremely low self esteem, their worth is tied to money and when the money dwindles down their wives also disappear too.

Will they listen? Forget all the attacks on ladies online, the men are same and worse than the women they so denigrate.

The dating dynamics in Nigeria is so fcked up and parasitic from both sides.

I said it the other day that if not for ego and god complex, I do not see why lots of Nigerian men will be looking for one small girl to confuse with money. Marry within your social class and stop disturbing SM. They wanted to blow up my mentions.

They see no need to work on any aspect of their lives. They just convince themselves that they can make money and get any woman they WANT. But as with any human devoid of common sense, they forgot the difference between a WANT and a NEED.

Money will sure get you the woman you want in a 3rd World Country where food is still a problem. Would it get the woman you NEED?

Raalsalghul:


I know you are wise and mature, but kindly tone down on the grammar please.

No mind me, na my weird way of recharging and/or unwinding.

AntiBrutus:



Money will sure get you the woman you want in a 3rd World Country where food is still a problem. Would it get the woman you NEED?

+1

While the lady was complaining about his height, dude was flaunting ego (money) and more ego. Your money is the last thing you should flaunt when it comes to marriage. Allow the woman fall in love with YOU, your persona, your worldview, and those things that are hard to depreciate in value. Unlike money, your character and your worldview hardly depreciate.

Am Learning

AntiBrutus:


Will they listen? Forget all the attacks on ladies online, the men are same and worse than the women they so denigrate.

The dating dynamics in Nigeria is so fcked up and parasitic from both sides.

I said it the other day that if not for ego and god complex, I do not see why lots of Nigerian men will be looking for one small girl to confuse with money. Marry within your social class and stop disturbing SM. They wanted to blow up my mentions.

They see no need to work on any aspect of their lives. They just convince themselves that they can make money and get any woman they WANT. But as with any human devoid of common sense, they forgot the difference between a WANT and a NEED.

Money will sure get you the woman you want in a 3rd World Country where food is still a problem. Would it get the woman you NEED?

Are you minding them,these days it hurts to see how young guys are being advised wrongly especially on Nairaland.

He narrates the problem he is having with his girlfriend and the replies will be as follows
"my brother go and make money jor and you can have the pleasure of choosing any hoè you like"

Their brain has now been formatted to think that money is the only thing they need to attract and keep a woman neglecting other qualities they are supposed to work on to make the equation balance.
And as for the lady sef how can money be the only driving factor that made you go into marriage with the man,the both of them complements each other sef
Never you trust the loyalty and submission of a broke girl or woman

AntiBrutus:


Such disrespect and insult. She never loved him, she married him out of pity and for poverty alleviation. She needed the marriage more than she needs him.

My heart goes out to your brother. The loyalty and submissiveness of a broke woman can never be trusted, except when tested with money.

This is one of the reason I encourage marriage among same social class. Not like it is always perfect, but I prefer that to commensalism.

yeah I feel u my person
no matter how u understand estimate it marriage between equal social call is the best,
my own little short story, my mom also quite her marriage exactly like dis, after my p man don sponsor her tru school, she got a job and started working na so she move out, thank God we still stood with my old man,till date,few weeks ago I got angry and asked my mom watin make her leave she said man father was treating her like a slave, and I asked but he sponsored u tru school and my mom said I quote he should tell me how much he spent and I will pay him back, my dear I weak, I only now understand she was actually looking for freedom,
I pray for her to have a long life and a prosperity career my brother but she messed up

2 lessons I learnt,
never marry a lady outside ur social class,
ur family first before u sponsor anybody,
if it's a female pls hustle to assist ur family, and not after getting married u will start diverting ur husband money to ur family ,

I wouldn't b surprise if the op wife don buy land already

PatrickOkunima:


The thing surprise me too o.

me self weak o

and the op day there, am not sure if e even get better paying job, some guys sha really think with their dick not their head,
my family first o,
the op brother even try, he sponsored the girl tru university, con give am car, con give e two brothers job,
bro the moment a lady rejects me, I just move on with my life, that's me o,,,i kw sabi day beg up and down, becus u go still continue to beg her even on top bed, which is irritating, it's a pity, a lady tells u openly u are too short, meaning u can't walk with me in public, and she is the one who is even broke to sponsor herself tru education, and d best compliment to give the guy way help her career is he is too short,
women sha are really ungrateful elements

desvi:


and you think foreign women will tolerate your joblessness?

and who told u a 9ja man is lazy, ask south Africa's, ask the foreigners, we do anything to make money, though I am not in of crimes,

u ladies over here in 9ja don't just appreciate,
many of u are broke to even get a body Cream but still wants mr perfectionist, ,keep on searching while menopause rings it's coming bell

Acidosis:
While the lady was complaining about his height, dude was flaunting ego (money) and more ego. Your money is the last thing you should flaunt when it comes to marriage. Allow the woman fall in love with YOU, your persona, your worldview, and those things that are hard to depreciate in value. Unlike money, your character and your worldview hardly depreciate.

most times u just need to hide ur money, spend little and watch their reaction for the next couple of weeks or month, the inpatient ones will definitely break up with u,

no b our boys fault,when most of our money is ill gotten wealth, u never sweated for u, u go wan shoe ur self, (poverty metality)

...

larryking540:

and who told u a 9ja man is lazy, ask south Africa's, ask the foreigners, we do anything to make money, though I am not in of crimes,

u ladies over here in 9ja don't just appreciate,
many of u are broke to even get a body Cream but still wants mr perfectionist, ,keep on searching while menopause rings it's coming bell

God bless your hustle

larryking540:

and who told u a 9ja man is lazy, ask south Africa's, ask the foreigners, we do anything to make money, though I am not in of crimes,

u ladies over here in 9ja don't just appreciate,
many of u are broke to even get a body Cream but still wants mr perfectionist, ,keep on searching while menopause rings it's coming bell

abeg tell those fish brain!

As you said! Hid your money and watch those low profile girls running away from you!