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The same thing happen to me bro, she is said she will kill herself if I leave her I just don't know what to do
Please advise

daewoorazer:

Here’s the deal.

1. ‘Unlove’ her totally and seek for a new girl

2. Accept her apologies and start treating her like a sex object. Just have her to bang and bang alone. No emotions and no feelings.

3. Someday, she’d be the one to bid you farewell; but you won!

Are you human atall? Why subject her to such an inhumane act? It's fine if you don't want her no more but taking revenge on her by subjecting her to a sex object is totally uncalled for. Forgive and move on!

my friend get lost and go look for money forget girlfriend for now wetin these useless girls go do for you

Break up.
Collect your car back

Collect your bride price


Collect your house.


If you have not done any of that, FCK off.

She is just 21. You will still end up wasting her years and forming u are not compatible

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I , I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

See this one

What are you feeling like

Have you paid her bride price or married her

Abeg free that girl abeg

You need a wedding photography discount, check my signature

Aysnoopy, She's not sorry she cheated on you, she's sorry she got caught.

Beware of the advice that ladies here would give you. Most of them would tell you to accept her back. If you fall for that, you're finished.

Talk true u never cheat on her before?

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I , I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

ozuor if she slept with him will she write it on her phone to gehs sex is just like going to toilet to poo no emotion is attached thats why they have multiple sex partners in fact new gbola excites them more than the one they used to she sees as one she can lean on when shes done with other kpoyon

OP, how do you expect another person (a stranger on NL who hardly knows you two) to answer this for you?

pfadom:
Follow your mind, not your heart!

aysnoopy:


I don't understand Sir.. I'm confused at this stage.
what will u do Sir if you're d one?
I just need people's view on this
sometimes I'll pet her and told her everything will be fine again, but each time I , I just got fed-up and want breakup.

I think you need to forgive her and warn her never to try this anymore..
Giver her a second chance sir and if she tries it again break up with her..

olu77:
4 give &
4 get

Forgiveness is real but forget isn't real. No one forgets things

Forgive her then break up with her. She will certainly give you HIV is u don't quit.

Hi Op. Your girl is 21yrs old what do you expect from a young las? Shes living her age here. Shes just 3 years old extra from 18teen.. common man, didnt you do more stupid stuffs when you were about her age? Did it kill you? Now listen up, yoire either gonna accept yoi have a 21yr old babe or get the hell out of her life.. Has she not begged you enough? Dude chill..

Youre even gonna exprrience more, she might even try taking a puff or two.. she might even sneak out to club.. its just her age yo.. its just the way it is..


I know we all want a girl that would be virgin Mary'ish but common, were you Jesus'ish?

She has begged. You want her to stab herself for you?

Get over it dude.. move on or enjoy her childhood with her.


Any RAM meat?

I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..



It’s always easy for a ex for Phock a girl than the current boyfriend sometimes. I be Ex to some girls & I know wetin I dey talk!

akinyemi0103:
dn't let any girl tied u dwn wit disflowerin poo,she wil always find a way to cheat on u again,they ar wire lyk dat,bt if u feel u wanna giv her a chance,no prob cos no 1 z perfect bt a candid advice frm a local man z dat kip choppin d kpekus while it last nd dn't rely on her totally.

Best advice from u bro

Michelle55:

Are you human atall? Why subject her to such an inhumane act? It's fine if you don't want her no more but taking revenge on her by subjecting her to a sex object is totally uncalled for. Forgive and move on!

Haq haq haq
You don know woz going on
He wants to take her for a vanishing.

She can beg him to remain in the relationship, she can't beg him to love her.

Let her spare herself heartbreak and move on. She's only postponing the heartbreak.

you break up with your ex because she cheat, now this you're thinking of the same thing


we should ask you why you keep meeting ladies that cheat. as bad as you might paint Nigerian ladies, they're still loyal ladies in this country who will stick with you no matter what


you need to put your date on examination rather than on mere emotions before going deep. my wife to be is 9yrs with me now and I have never caught her with any cheat, despite testing her with many things and ways

kaziblake:
I think you need to forgive her and warn her never to try this anymore..
Giver her a second chance sir and if she tries it again break up with her..

Na so.
Most of you ladies want him to take her back.

aysnoopy:


I swear, not that I'm looking for excuse. for me to break a 4yrs relationship coz of similar issue, u should know I've principle abt that. and I've told her dis is what I can't take for her not to Bleep up but still went ahead....

once a cheat, always a cheat, you break up once and for all and you thanks yourself later in 8 months because you wouldn't have the worrying mins of what's going on with her. If you let her in, you will always suspect her if she didn't pick calls on time or traveling either she tell you or not, you won't give yourself rest of mind, even if her brother pick her calls , you will keep suspecting she is cheating

Ikpeazukerosene:


Na so.
Most of you ladies want him to take her back.

Give your own advice then

Breakup with her Asap but before that pls send me her number . My friend u should be grateful and protect what u have .

The same thing happen to me bro, but mine is telling me that she will kill herself if I breakup with her, this is the second time this year in a roll, pls what do I do?

She did that

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I , I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

Just romance, u acting this way.


Mr this world is a free place.

You want to break up because of mere romance. Smh

fullofgrace:
Bro I salute ur courage!
To be realistic, the kind of trusted woman u wish to have no longer exist. They are found in the first heavens not in this sinful planet. It is very difficult for Ladies to be faithful if u are not ready to marry them. Because of the nightmare of being dumped.
Bro my solemn advice to you is if you know u are not ready for marriage don't date any Lady to avoid another heartbreak similar to the case of Samadina vs Regina Daniel. My advice to you is remained focused and uninterrupted in ur dreams and aspirations. Let them go wen u are ready to settled down then you prayerfully make ur choice.

cenaman:
No lady that doesn't cheat maybe if u leave her now the next one will be worst. tell her to cut off communication with her ex. calls and social media (that is if you have her in mine to marry) if possible change her phone number.

Best advice. All girls are cheats, u are even lucky u met this one virgin. Don’t leave her, cause ur next girl might be worse.

Time will tell if you will break up with her

If she drives you crazy in bed, forgive her. If otherwise japaa

Indomie generation, don't u know u re into rebound relationship,Google rebound relationship.Then u know what to do.

aysnoopy:
Good morning good people of Nairaland. please don't mind my grammatical errors coz I'm not that good.

I'm 28yrs, working and I had a gf of 21yrs. we are very good together and I love her so much. we started dating a year ago and I told her what can make me breakup with her which is cheating. she swear never to cheat on me coz she loves me. (she's a virgin when I met her).

But after 6months of dating, I suspect she's still attached to her ex.. they are very close. I warned her but she said she'll rather break up with me than to cheat. she swear never to do that. I accepted but I keep watching and been sensitive.

Fast-forward to last month, I checked her fone for the 1st time. she don't expect it. I notice she's eager to get her fone back but I don't care. I checked and I notice she and her ex are having romantic affairs (no sex though) ..

I confronted her but ever since den she kept begging. her friends keep begging.

I'm a type that if u cheat on me, no matter how much I love u, d love will dropped totally. one of my ex did same, despite our relationship is 4 years, I broke up with her.

She's so afraid and keep saying she can't leave me Coz I'm d one that disvirgin her, but I wish to leave.

She said she never mean to do all those bull'shit with her ex, but I let her know that she still have feelings for him.

Each time I , I felt hurt and wish to quit. whenever she come to my place, she'll beg from morning till evening but that doesn't move me.

Please good people of Nairaland. what can I do?
if you're on my shoe, what will be ur judgment.
I've never accept cheat with any of my ex but this particular girl keep apologizing.

What's all this nitori Olurun! Utter rubbish, go get a life nigga. "Am the type....." Mscheewww.

People are thinking of how to make the world better, babe yi dey yarn dust for NL