NewStats: 3,261,344 , 8,173,730 topics. Date: Wednesday, 28 May 2025 at 09:47 PM 3n6m6z

Hello pals.

Please i need your honest and sincere advice advice please and i will be very happy if you help me out of this silent desire of mine. i attend a church with this woman. She is a lecturer and a widow. She lost her husband some years back and she has two beautiful children a girl and a boy. since i started worshiping in this church my desire is always towards her most of the time i will be staring at her she knows am always do that.

Sometime she will lock her eyes with mine she is older than me a Phd holder and working in a federal university. Please it seems i like this woman. but i don;t want to mess up myself and get disgraced. So please how do get my intention known to her, i asked the Pastor about the pastor said she is free and seriously needs a companion but my pastor is not someone to discuses the intention with from my observation he is not good in that aspect.

So please my fellow nairalander help me out please i am dying in silence, i am not married but i have kids from a woman that has remarried she left when i have nothing then. I am of age too but not as old as her Honest advice please

Trust me, she knows. Just man up and be close to her: be friends for a start and let your behavior do the rest...be nice to her and the kids also.
Widows sharp em em u know them na.

Modified: don't mind all these posters below, na envy.
And don't go 'kwarfing' the poor woman and runaway o!
We now have e-thunder!

Nothing wey Amaka no go hear for salon...

You asked your pastor, he said she is free and seriously needs companion and you are still thinking your pastor is not the right person to discuss your intentions with cos he is not good in that aspect?..who told you he is not good in that aspect? Or what more do you need to say before the pastor will understand you want to have sex and make more babies with the widow?

I am not mocking your situation o! but man, you never ready. If you are ready, with all what you have narrated here, the woman knows you are "cumming" and has been expecting you...Don't be like Atiku who has failed to "cum" for a long time now...

Take your shot...worst case scenario, she go tell you say she no do...I won't advise you to go for a fresh babe as I will be spoiling market for the widow who must have been calling on God to send her a 'helper'..

Go get yourself a fresh one. Leave secondhand goods

Go clean her house every morning.
See your head,lazy youth,na
her money you wan chop

Move close.

Help her out with some stuffs.

Ask about her well being.

Show interests and care for her children.

Call and chat her from time to time.

You will know if u need to cross the line or not from there.

Everybody responds to care unless they can't stand u at all

AntiWailer:
Move close.

Help her out with some stuffs.

Ask about her well being.

Call and chat her from time to time.

You will know if u need to cross the line or not from there.

Everybody responds to care unless they can't stand u at all

Correct man!

midolian:
Nothing wey Amaka no go hear for salon...

You asked your pastor, he said she is free and seriously needs companion and you are still thinking your pastor is not the right person to discuss your intentions with cos he is not good in that aspect..who told you he is not good in that aspect? Or what more do you need to say before the pastor will understand you want to have sex and make more babies with the widow?

Come o! so you've been in mx all along?

I’m yet to buy a car, but, the day I will buy, I must buy tear rubber!!

On a consideration, I may buy Tokunbo, direct from USA. But as for Nigerian used, God forbid!!

galadima77:


Come o why is your comment hidden save emoji? And so you've been in mx all along?

I started the comment with an emoji actually.. modified it to my thoughts just now

Your pastor that knows the both of you is what you said is not good in that area. Is it me and my fellow Nairalanders that don't even know any of you will be good in that aspect. I think nwamaikpe advice is needed coz as for me, Mann up, be brave and approach her. Start with greetings and being nice. Get close to her kids and care for them. Soon enough, the kids will be asking for you and that would naturally draw their mum towards you. Win the hearts of her kids coz they are all she have now.

You could ask your Pastor who gave you tangible information about her to help break the ice and introduce you. But I think you should be man enough to approach her yourself; if your intentions are good, you should be able to. I'm guessing your lack of confidence is b|c she's more well-to-do than you.

Approach kindly. Try to be her friend first. Be caring loving, gentle. If it's meant to be, it will be.

Just be bold. Say what you have to say politely. She can't beat you. Na only insult she go insult you at all at all and that's part of the baggages in ladies proposal rejection.

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ubunja:
Go get yourself a fresh one. Leave secondhand goods

What the hell is wrong with you? Who damaged you like this?

Davash222:
I’m yet to buy a car, but, the day I will buy, I must buy tear rubber!!

On a consideration, I may buy Tokunbo, direct from USA. But as for Nigerian used, God forbid!!

Pretty sure you are a damaged volkswagen not fit for the road at all.

Fountainofyouth:



Pretty sure you are a damaged volkswagen not fit for the road at all.

A damaged Volkswagen is still valuable and better than a Nigerian used evening newspaper.

Davash222:

A damaged Volkswagen is still valuable and better than a Nigerian used evening newspaper.

How? Do you know what it means to be a damaged volkswagen, it had been used, reused, died, resurrected, died again and again, then they decided to patch it up so that they can use it small, even the color is worn out from too much usage, imagine being a dead volkwagen, even you will have pity for yourself.

Matured love.....awwwww

am so grateful to you all the little i have here has given me a boldness Thanks. I will be nairalander for live

phidipe:
hello pals.
please i need your honest and sincere advice advice please and i will be very happy if you help me out of this silent desire of mine. i attend a church with this woman. She is a lecturer and a widow. She lost her husband some years back and she has two beautiful children a girl and a boy. since i started worshiping in this church my desire is always towards her most of the time i will be staring at her she knows am always do that.
Sometime she will lock her eyes with mine she is older than me a Phd holder and working in a federal university. Please it seems i like this woman. but i don;t want to mess up myself and get disgraced. So please how do get my intention known to her, i asked the Pastor about the pastor said she is free and seriously needs a companion but my pastor is not someone to discuses the intention with from my observation he is not good in that aspect.
So please my fellow nairalander help me out please i am dying in silence, i am not married but i have kids from a woman that has remarried she left when i have nothing then.I am of age too but not as old as her Honest advice please

If you know her Facebook name just sent her a friend request on Facebook, start a friendly conversation with her, give her that daily attention of chatting her up, step by step as you progress you will know the type of lady she is , making it easy for you to finally open up to her about your feelings

Or you can approach her in a friendly manner in church and ask for her number from there start chatting her on WhatsApp, keep sending her text, and calling her time to time she will naturally fall in love with you, making it easy for you to finally open up

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In my momma words...

"Son... the only way not to mess things up is to mess things up"

pops words:
You'll never know until you make a move

Fountainofyouth:



How? Do you know what it means to be a damaged volkswagen, it had been used, reused, died, resurrected, died again and again, then they decided to patch it up so that they can use it small, even the color is worn out from too much usage, imagine being a dead volkwagen, even you will have pity for yourself.

Okay.
Now, let’s talk about Nigerian used old newspaper.

It’s worthless, used mainly to wrap corn and suya.

Di's op is a gold digger ....is she d only widow in d church ...y must u go for d rich one




Anyway get her number from your pastor then send her porn videos and ur nude pix....sit relax and watch d magic.....u can thank me now

Fountainofyouth:



What the hell is wrong with you? Who damaged you like this?

I'm spoiling the market for you?

no freshness no commitment

ubunja:
I'm spoiling the market for you?

no freshness no commitment

How fresh are you? Maggot infested right? Rubbish.

Davash222:

Okay.
Now, let’s talk about Nigerian used old newspaper.

It’s worthless, used mainly to wrap corn and suya.

Compared to damaged screeching volkswagen, it's still useful,

It's no more evening newspaper? Wonder where y'all get that from? Bunch of unintelligent folks.

Fountainofyouth:



How fresh are you? Maggot infested right? Rubbish.

Han! Han! Hanty fountainofyouth. That was too muish

Fountainofyouth, wetin happen? Calm down You just dey throw jab since.....

Skmoda:
Fountainofyouth, wetin happen? Calm down You just dey throw jab since.....

Fountainofyouth:



How fresh are you? Maggot infested right? Rubbish.

not rubbish.

Men are learning. They're slowly having standards