NewStats: 3,262,687 , 8,177,876 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 09:49 AM j55f

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ashala you don't even know where your problem is from; you dont really know what you need
first you can't fall in-love and next you're saying you have two girlfriends?
please sort yourself out first with the ladies before you'll know where you stand,
Hey do it carefully before someone places a curse on you and the other commits suicide
goodluck

I sincerely think you need to take a step back and be by yourself for a while.

I was like that couldnt date beyond the three month barrier, but then i found someone that really took my fancy, he wasnt the most handsome but he seemed like someone that we could spend our lives together, could be responsible and hold his home.

We actually dated for like 2years, thats my longest till date.

Sometimes its not about love per say, sometimes we just blend and we like each other enough and we see each other being together for a long while.
So maybe you are looking for the fireworks but maybe its just about being compatible.

lol.this is kind of funny because am a victim too but it takes me a week maximum 2weeks to loose interest.I guess you have just not met a girl strong enough to hold you down.Maybe you need to meet a girl that would give you some tough time and not fall for you in one day and show it right there.I guess you would appreciate them more.
As much as we try hard to make them fall for us,if they fall too soon,we loose interest and that maybe what is happening to you

hey bro i think u should seek a spiritual help,maybe u talk to ur pastor or ur imam dere should be smwhere.

you havent met anyone you love, most people take time to fall in love, most people who think they are in love are either infatuated or love for some othr reasons, life goes on, love will come when it will come, dont hurry to fall in love, let it come naturally, you aint loosing anything.

Agree with adeboo, sometimes it not about the fireworks, sometimes it just blending and being compatible that love gradually grows. Don't force/rush it, just chill

Am just tired of the whole issiue.

you don't have other better things on your mind thats why you are disturbing yourself ba,

ive been through that exact same thing, but it takes time, don't rush, i know you are tired of it, so do yourself and those girls a favor and take a step back to evaluate yourself. know what you want before you jump into the next relationship. see what you have in common with that person and don't make any promises. you force yourself to fall in love you will be most unhappy, just take your time and in time you will find the girl that is right for you.

A girl advicing a guy on how to fall in love

yes advising, been through it, it works both ways you know

I think you are suffering from discombobsia,well you don't need to understand that.

You are in love with yourself, nothing wrong with that you say, but can you marry yourself?

Just keep searching,there will be a gurl that will melt your heart,and before you move into another relationship,look for the things u ire or like about the chic and ask yourself how long those qualities will last.Best of luck.

i know exactly where you're coming from,the bad news is that there's no cure for it. it might be in your genes. one minute you like em the next you never wanna set eyes on them again( they haven't even done anything wrong). don't fake it anymore, just be on your own or at least make it clear that you don't want a long term relationship. so there won't be pressure from the girls to hold you down

hey poster,

the problem with ya palava is that when u finally fall in love;

na u go wan commit suicide when the babe resist u.

Just be careful sha, ladies can be desperate when they are in love

u need prayers

@Poster
just go to RCCG camp and confess ur sins to the Lord and ask him for the power to love the opposite sex.
Der is nothing God cannot do
so ti gbo

@ Poster,

Which kain name you get here? Which woman you go tell that kind name to, go wan look you for the second time. Ashala

Orisirisi.

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A girl advicing a guy on how to fall in love

eh en? is there a crime in that?

You bi Aproko? why must you tell everyone who i am?

sweetheart, for u to love someone, u must know what love is. And knowing God is the first step as God is love.Seriously, when u let the lord work on you, loving your self and others will be easy. As for loosing interest after 2 weeks, u should learn to abstain from sex with these ladies , this way, u get to know more about them than the physical attraction.

I think you must be suffering from what is known as commitment phobia. According to Paul Douglass MIAH Acc. D.Hyp Adv. - Anxiety specialist specialising in pure Hypnoanalysis in London, England, Commitment Phobia is where someone has a fear of committing to relationships, this may happen at the very start of the relationship (or even before), or may develop once the relationship is established

Commitment phobia symptoms often appear as a sudden feeling of uncertainty, and sometimes the feeling of being trapped in the relationship.

In this situation (where the commitment phobic feels the emotional feelings of fear and entrapment), it is often as the result of the partner in the relationship saying that they want to progress the relationship to the next level… “Let’s move in together”, “let’s get engaged”, “why don’t we try for a baby?”

As already mentioned, there are many, many different ways that commitment phobia can manifest itself, so when we talk about symptoms of commitment phobia, do bear in mind that these are only an indication of the most typical symptoms.

Someone with commitment phobia may exhibit behavior very similar to that of someone with ‘social phobia’, and appear scared to be noticed.

This can mean that the person doesn’t go out much, avoids social situations, avoids eye , or simply appears ‘shy’.

The unconscious motivation behind this of course, is that if the person doesn’t meet many people, and then doesn’t ‘engage’ with the people that they do meet, then they are much less likely to fall into the dreaded ‘relationship’ scenario.

If approached, the person with commitment phobia will often just reject the advances of the other person, so that any potential relationship never really has much of a chance to get going in the first place.

They just protect themselves from others getting too close.

Somebody Help: I Am Unable To Fall In Love
« on: April 14, 2007, 04:19 PM »

All through my life i have never been able to fall in luv.I have had scores of girl friends in the past and present yet i have never been emotionally attached.i fear this might delay my getting married.I have dated beauty queens,fair,dark, and any type of girl you could ever imagine yet to no avail and its not as if i am hard hearted.I just pretend as if something is there,while there is nothing.To even make it worse,women has always been attracted to me.I will meet a girl 2day,spend some goodtime with her and before i know it,i will completely lose interest in her.The most worrisome part now is the 2 girls i have on my neck.They so much want commitment from me.One said she would curse me if i ever leave her and the other one is saying that if i ever leave her,she would commit suicide.i dont have any atom of feeling for any of them but has been playing along all this while and i think they ve started noticing my unseriousness.So what do i do 2 maself?.

lol!!!! ur royally bleeped! if it's any consolation, welcome to the club. i faced the same dilemma early last year, i fought tooth and nail to leave both of them, finally i did. if u don't like any one of 'em, stick to ur guns and break up with 'em if they threaten u, just continue to stick to ur guns. thats wat i did.

Guy you don't just meet a girl in one  go pounding the same or few days later and expect it to work. What you have repeatedly with those ladies is referred to as a fling.

Starting a relationship with sex works for some while it doesn't for others.

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You need to review your life, note your errs and rectify it.

It is plain simple just do the opposite of most of the things you do when you are with a girl.

You don't have any problem.