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correctbae: 9:00am On Jun 13, 2018
Many relationships today are centered on sex, money, good food, beauty, Trips and lots, however, relationships should be more than that. An ardent Facebook , Olumide Glowville posted on his timeline about what should be looked out for in a relationship. In his post he pointed out that sex, food, trips and beauty are the basics of a relationship. He said relationship is an exchange of values, your partner ought to motivate you, impart something positive in your life, give you inner peace, gives you something extraordinary and uncommon.

He writes:

Until your partner offers something more than the basics - Sex, money, movie dates, getaways - your relationship hasn't exactly started!

I had this discussion with a colleague at work today, and this struck me.

A relationship is an exchange of value, not an exchange of basics.

So you are getting the best sex in the world; many other people can and will do that, if given a chance. That's basic!

He is taking you on vacations and giving you the expensive things; so many rich guys will do the same on a higher scale, if they get a chance. It's basic.

She cooks great meals, so what? A lot of women can cook better. He helps in the kitchen, great! But there are many guys who can do that as well. That's basic too.

Most of the things we fawn about and pay more attention to in relationships are basic. We tend to undermine the more important things that require our attention.

Things like, does he/she motivate you to get better? Do they influence your life positively? Do they go out of their way to help you? Do they stand up for you anywhere? Do they protect you?

Most people are in a relationship where they enjoy things they can already do for themselves.

If your partner can't talk sense to you, call a friend to help you when you need it, give you inner peace, freedom to aspire or just impact value into your life, you don't have a serious relationship. You are just playmates!

Get you a partner that can offer something more than ordinary, something quite uncommon.

Sex, food, trips, and others are nice, but they aren't invaluable, are they?

#Glowville

Source: https://correct.com.ng/get-a-partner-that-can-offer-you-something-extraordinary-and-uncommon-it-is-not-all-about-money-food-trips-and-love-making/

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okachie1(m): 9:22am On Jun 13, 2018
#word #preach bro! So so spot on!! I once dated a leech who only finds joy in sleeping and creeping around until I founds out and kick her sorry ass! Guys never take back a cheating girlfriend or a cheating boyfriend they ain't got nothing new to offer u. Be bold in maintaining ur stand and never fall back to have a momentary pleasure that can distort the decision u took to rid them from ur life. Use ur head to reason and never ur d.i.c.*.

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Headlesschicken(m): 9:36am On Jun 13, 2018
undecided Leaches everywhere,give me i give u, most Nigerian gals whenever u call n ask if they've eaten dia reply would always be Nah,nothing to eat.... That's why most n!ggas would knock em up n forget dia names... SMH...

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pocohantas(f): 9:45am On Jun 13, 2018
Headlesschicken:
undecided Leaches everywhere,give me i give u, most Nigerian gals whenever u call n ask if they've eaten dia reply would always be Nah,nothing to eat.... That's why most n!ggas would knock em up n forget dia names... SMH...

LOL grin grin
There is famine in the land. We need some manna

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Re: "Get A Partner That Offer You Values, It Is Not About Money"- Facebook by Nobody: 10:05am On Jun 13, 2018
relationship these days are something else, sometimes in order for you to measure where your relationship is heading to takeaway sex and money from for sometime and see if its still worth it.
aboki perfume lasts longer than some relationship these days sef

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Re: "Get A Partner That Offer You Values, It Is Not About Money"- Facebook by Nobody: 10:07am On Jun 13, 2018
pocohantas:

LOL grin grin There is famine in the land. We need some manna

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bamasite(m): 2:06pm On Jun 13, 2018
Na so
BigSarah(f): 2:07pm On Jun 13, 2018
Who cares about all that it's dating not marriage sad.

Money above motivation
Money is my motivation grin

Quote me and get B U Haried angry

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midehi2(f): 2:07pm On Jun 13, 2018
its true
Bossontop(m): 2:08pm On Jun 13, 2018
undecided
Slay queens be lyk.....oga u don dey crase abii?? Who wee now pay for hair, buy the iphone x, buy me bra buy, me pant pay house rent buy, my subscription etc

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jessejagga(m): 2:08pm On Jun 13, 2018
relationship post full NL dis days o undecided

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Centcanada: 2:08pm On Jun 13, 2018
May be the guy get good paying job now na him make the English when him say speak day sweet to hear but when money finish as regards say him no get work, him and the lady go day use pigin English day insult their selves.

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Shortyy(f): 2:08pm On Jun 13, 2018
Yea we know. Thing is, with money comes value, comfort, and the rest.

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collinsbaba1: 2:08pm On Jun 13, 2018
Okay ..next!
Maximinenabila: 2:09pm On Jun 13, 2018
jessejagga:
relationship post full NL dis days o undecided

I'm telling you.
LazyNairalander(m): 2:10pm On Jun 13, 2018
Ajoke Shade Kehinde Jumoke Yemi iya come and her this ooo. it not all about the money.


See my signature
tomdon(m): 2:10pm On Jun 13, 2018
Mcheew
Olalan(m): 2:10pm On Jun 13, 2018
This is what most girls wouldn't want to hear
Mayydayy(m): 2:11pm On Jun 13, 2018
Is there really a relationship perfected and based on a universally acceptable criterion?
There is none my brother.
What it is for you might be exactly what it is not for me.
There is no manual for collectively judging relationships.

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fitinwell: 2:11pm On Jun 13, 2018
Do me.. I Do you... Relationship everywhere..

You don't like it..

Use the lagoon..
Re: "Get A Partner That Offer You Values, It Is Not About Money"- Facebook by Nobody: 2:12pm On Jun 13, 2018
True. If u are in a relationship and still feel a void, then you need a rethink.

If people follow this write-up eh, we'll have so many breakups and peeps wailing on NL.

So let them be with those that make them happy.

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BlissB(f): 2:12pm On Jun 13, 2018
Very sensible!
teemanbastos(m): 2:13pm On Jun 13, 2018
True...

Relationship that binds the soul lasts that relationship bound by perishables
slawomir: 2:13pm On Jun 13, 2018
isoright
Dagaya(m): 2:14pm On Jun 13, 2018
in as much as I hate to it it..I think the op is right.
However we must not under estimate the power of money in a relationship.
Relationships have grown beyond those things listed above by the op.
In our society all I look for in a relationship is compatibility, maturity and the ability to turn a blind eye to things.

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naijacentric(m): 2:14pm On Jun 13, 2018
True dat but our sociey is corrupt it would take time before it resets

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