NewStats: 3,262,010 , 8,175,867 topics. Date: Saturday, 31 May 2025 at 02:20 PM 4c122

CYRIACUS IZUEKWE


It is the desire of most ladies to get hooked to a man at certain age brackets for , procreation and affection. But all around today, we have many single ladies with no suitors.

There are many single ladies and as well as bachelors who would want to get married, but the fear of uncertainty of the future of the union have really prevented many from doing so owing to unpredictable economic situation.

P.M.EXPRESS findings showed that there were enough women and men who really wanted to get married but it appeared both sides do not want to gamble into it to avoid devastating consequences and regrets in the future.

To some ladies, it was better to live with their parents and bear the societal stigma of being single than to marry a man with unpredictable future and also get deprived of some privileges they were getting from their family. And for some men, they preferred to remain single than to embark on the marriage journey without having the means to sustain it.

However, most women were more worried because of the period of their productivity stage which some said was between 45-50 years.

Some of the spinsters and bachelors who spoke to P.M.EXPRESS said indeed they may have wanted to marry but it was not possible due to certain factors.

Miss Karia Anumba, 41, lamented that she had lived and changed many cities in Nigeria looking for suitors but those she met were afraid because they were not sure of the future of the marriage. She revealed that she tried to convince and persuade the men she had with to make the move and even assured them that she would manage no matter the condition, but regretted that none of them agreed to marry her.

Anumba said she quickly relocated to Lagos from Abuja when she realized that she was gradually turning into prostitute because of the drive for marriage.

She explained that since she came to Lagos, she had engaged herself with a work and was still searching for interested men but yet to get one. She narrated that some men who were above 40 years still roamed about and do not want to get married; attributing it to fear and economic condition as most of them were jobless.

Another lady simply known as Doris, 39, (surname withheld) said that she had slept with some men in order to entice and persuade them to marry her, but of all the men she met none was ready for marriage.

They all gave the same reason that they will not be able to cope with keeping a family yet. She said that she has given up and lamented that probably she might not marry again and had left everything to fate.

Doris said she was ready to marry any man because of the pressure she was getting from her brothers’ wives who always abused her to leave the family and go and get married.

It was not only Anumba and Doris that had such experiences, some other women also expressed their frustration and blamed it on the economic situation where men were not getting jobs and were getting older without partners.

A 44-year old bachelor, Mr Tony Nweje explained that it was not that he wanted to remain single, but had to be very realistic with himself. He said he does not have a good job, accommodation and can barely feed himself. He explained that if he was to add his family , wife and probably children and extended family, he wondered how he would be able to cope with the situation.

He suggested that the only solution was for the government to provide for the young graduates roaming the streets. He added that if there were good jobs that the men will definitely think of marriage because they will be able to cope.

40-year old Mr. Uchenna Udogu, said he was not ready for marriage because he does not want any embarrassment from anybody and had no means to sustain any marriage. He said he was not perturbed by his age, adding he will only consider marriage when he had enough means to do so.

“We know what is happening between couples in various homes when there are no resources and no reasonable man will put his head in such situation because people will say he has not married” Udogu said.

However, a female Lagos Lawyer, Barrister Sherry Osakwe said it was a serious societal problem that the government needs to address urgently. She noted that there were no jobs for young graduates to take and wondered where they were expected to get money to marry.

She said that if the issue of employment was not tackled, the society will be wasting a lot of women between 35 and above because the women were now competing with the younger ones who may be stumbling blocks for them to get suitors.

http://pmexpressng.com/single-women-cry-scarcity-suitors/

The main reason our youths are not getting married is the poor economy as highlighted. Some men are ready to take this risk, but the woman they want to take this risk with, isn't willing to do same.

Some women are ready, but the men are not. The average Nigerian man is a provider, if he doesn't see himself playing that role well, he maintains his lane.

One NLder's girlfriend left him for a more eligible suitor. Some ladies are falling for the pressure and hopping on the next available bus in their prime. That's the cycle now. Many guys will be heartbroken in 2018

I am available.

Make them come marry me.

Best news of the day, I wish my crush this

See them

How will there be suitors when the economy is hard

Oh una dey find who una go kill before en time

I think it's common to a particular set of people, their guyz tend to remain single until they supposedly make enough cash. if they dont come for you, is it me that will come? gbagbe

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i will remain aloof to news like this untill the old-mother-hubbard ladies we have on romance section and even other sections of this forum start to cry and beg for suitors here.Not untill then,this news remains as fake as our online personalities.
BTW,the Bible made a prophecy in this regard;therefore praying against occurences as this makes you antichrist.
Women shall chase men in later times.

pocohantas:
The main reason our youths are not getting married is the poor economy as highlighted. Some men are ready to take this risk, but the woman they want to take this risk with, isn't willing to do same.

Some women are ready, but the men are not. The average Nigerian man is a provider, if he doesn't see himself playing that role well, he maintains his lane.

One NLder's girlfriend left him for a more eligible suitor. Some ladies are falling for the pressure and hopping on the next available bus in their prime. That's the cycle now. Many guys will be heartbroken in 2018

it's a new dawn in 2018. ye not the former things nor the things of old, for I will do a new thing says the Lord

slyng:
I think it's common to a particular set of people, their guyz tend to remain single until they supposedly make enough catch. if they dont come for you, is it me that will come? gbagbe

tribalism will do you strong thing one day

Hmm
Poor economy

Hmmm

slyng:
I think it's common to a particular set of people, their guyz tend to remain single until they supposedly make enough catch. if they dont come for you, is it me that will come? gbagbe

A particular set of people?
Smh.
Are u a graduate?..to be this myopic.

u won't wish n force me to marry when i still don't get the resources to start a home, simple

So many relationships have gone sour because of financial restraints. Today girls aren't cut for that Surulere bus like our moms did.

Make them reduce the bride price, create employment opportunities for the young men, maybe even release some men from the prison (those with minor offenses)

The major problem is the pride price, that is what is scaring most men out, even when u are earning 40k in naija u cn marry unless ur family u, cus imagin when u we spend half a million in paying pride price

Unneccessary high standards forgetting that there are more women dan men. Cost of marriage rites. Intro dat oyinbo does over dinner, we go sow cloth cook food. Do trad and white wedding con rent hall do reception. With every tins costing 1m or more. The babe will say dey hv to rent 2 bedroom flat and also get her a car. Na dem sabi o dey wont wanna spend der money too. Once saw d akkant balance of a babe at work looking for husband. I was shocked to my bones o. She no.get car, shes 31 and had 13m in her akkant. How many 31 year old guys hv 2m self.

This matter is very strong. Lord have mercy.

There are still matured and "ready to marry men around" but the main issue is getting a decent and responsible lady. If u are a lady ready for such men, Holla me

pocohantas:
The main reason our youths are not getting married is the poor economy as highlighted. Some men are ready to take this risk, but the woman they want to take this risk with, isn't willing to do same.

Some women are ready, but the men are not. The average Nigerian man is a provider, if he doesn't see himself playing that role well, he maintains his lane.

One NLder's girlfriend left him for a more eligible suitor. Some ladies are falling for the pressure and hopping on the next available bus in their prime. That's the cycle now. Many guys will be heartbroken in 2018

Vice versa for female folks. The rate at which men are approaching women nowadays is dwindling like force of gravity.

If the following factors like employment, reduced bride price, prudent spending on women's path and others, the rate of wedding on weekends will increase

No scarcity of sex partners ....but marriage partners? ... Men done wise ! ....nah baby mama dey reign ..


No quote me I am a happily married man with kids biko!

Let's stop deceiving ourselves.
There's nothing like shortage of suitors, do those pre-wedding people and Saturdays weddings crews fall from heaven

Look around you and tell me how many single ladies you see possessing marriageable characters

After already dating like eight guys I know in a space of two months, you want me to marry you when it's my turn to expand the honeypot.

Kolewerk

dafeyankee:
I am available.
Make them come marry me.

lol

There is that special someone for everyone.

This is why men should be allowed to marry multiple wives.. Women are more than men & 50% of the available men (in Nigeria) doesnt want to marry (either willingly or due to their financial situation fueled by the country's economy)

Listen to my songs @ http://my.notjustok.com/p/oracle

Who go marry una when una load too much to carry? Una eye don open and na want almost all the expensive thing in Nigeria

We still dey hustle, when we can meet up; we go come marry una

pocohantas:
The main reason our youths are not getting married is the poor economy as highlighted. Some men are ready to take this risk, but the woman they want to take this risk with, isn't willing to do same.

Some women are ready, but the men are not. The average Nigerian man is a provider, if he doesn't see himself playing that role well, he maintains his lane.

One NLder's girlfriend left him for a more eligible suitor. Some ladies are falling for the pressure and hopping on the next available bus in their prime. That's the cycle now. Many guys will be heartbroken in 2018

The emboldened, very true.

Here we are
Just tell them to lower their egos
Responsible guys are naturally selective.
I'm sure 70% of them are 'No man can dictate for me-calibre'

Just a piece of advice.

To the men, I hope you don't make 'making money first' your priority. Good luck to all

Oya come and marry me

Ok