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Good day Nairalanders. A very depressed soul needs your advise to make an important decision. This is going to be a long post, i apologize for the stress. Bear with me.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to a year now. Everything was good at the beginning as usual with our little fights here and there. I have my own fault as i tend to flare up easily and she does has hers too. She's usually very rude and she shouts a lot even when we are having a little misunderstanding in public. We both agreed we were going to work on these flaws to make everything go smooth and i tell you I've always tried my best in that aspect.

But recently my girlfriend has been acting funny. She doesn't call frequently and she prefers to chat most times. Although this is an issue that i encountered at the early stages of our relationship because she said that's how she is so i tried my best to cope with it even though i wasn't sitting well with it. However, things have changed drastically to the extent that she doesn't even call at all or check up on me on social media.

There was a time i called her like five times(I usually call only twice and if you're not picking i chill and wait for a call back), because i wanted her to pick up but she didn't. Instead she sent me a "hi" message on whatsapp without an explanation for why she didn't pick my call.

Also, she doesn't pay attention to me when we are in a conversation. She fixes her interest on other things like her phone, the television or just staring at the ceiling like I'm a bore to her.

So all these made me to think deep and ask what may have been wrong. I wanted to conclude that she was getting tired of the relationship but I said let me ask her first maybe it was my fault. I know that sometimes I can be controlling and authoritative but it's not my fault sometimes because she does anyhow when left to do her things alone. It's like she wants me to always tell her what to do. But when i do, it's a problem.

So when I asked her she told me everything that she was not tired but I was putting pressure on her. I promised to stop pressurising her and I also asked her to change from her behaviour and become who she once was and we agreed.

Last week, on a Wednesday morning I woke up to her message on whatsapp and I replied without getting any reply till like 12 so I decided to call her. She told me that she was eating and she would call me when she was done. After an hour she hadn't called and i called again and she told me that she was sorry that she was watching a movie.

I got angry and complained to her, but instead she was rude (as she usually is) and started raising her voice. She said what had happened is in the past and she cannot do anything about it then she hung up.

I'm fed up. I don't know if there's any other guy although I've noticed some shady behaviors of hers but they aren't concrete enough. This is not the kind of relationship i want because it's obvious that we are on a different perspective. I don't bug my girl or attach myself to her, but I also feel that the right things should be done in the right measure.

It's been a week now and she hasn't called or sent a message even on Christmas Day. I want to call her now and break up, but I'm confused cos I still lover her. She has her good side which is rare in most girls.

Sorry for the long post once again. Please help with your contributions.

Just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel if she really loves you she would change.

Let her know that she's making the relationship hell for you and you are thinking of leaving her

Werris dingbang?

Ok. I dey come

Haaaaa... What's important in her replying you?




I'm sure you are the type that uses high pitched, very special alarm tone to welcome d arrival of gal's chats.


Do u also check ur phone every minute in case she replies?

Did u save her number with such: #ifemi, #mySunInTheclowds, #eyinfunjowo, #earthwormInMySoil etc?











My friend, you are a loverlover











Delete her number so fast and start ignoring her calls and chats. If she feels remorseful, turn her into sidechick, while u lookout for another damsel, else, still find another damsel and FORGET her totally








ZANGA

TrapQueen77:



Werris dingbang?

loooooool ur gonna pay me 59 dollars to summarize for u

Hun hun

Lalasticlala please help a brother.

she too is confused on how to dump you. she don't know how to tell you too. keep dreaming of lost love.

ikombe:

wraps a weed


Takes a smoke



es it to trapqueen77


Observes thread

Tnxxx but No weed for me plz...

obataokenwa:
she too is confused on how to dump you. she don't know how to tell you too. keep dreaming of lost love.

I was ready for anything when i asked her if she was tired. I didn't want to be following a lost cause. But she said she was still interested in the relationship.

She's really confused!

RennyX:

I was ready for anything when i asked her if she was tired. I didn't want to be following a lost cause. But she said she was still interested in the relationship.

She's really confused!

The girl is done with the love. move on

2SWT:
Just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel if she really loves you she would change.

Let her know that she's making the relationship hell for you and you are thinking of leaving her

Thanks. I've done this lots and lots of times. Sometimes she switches emotions and turns it into an argument and my anger won't let me. Then I'll have to apologize.

obataokenwa:
The girl is done with the love. move on

Thanks bro.

dingbang:
loooooool ur gonna pay me 59 dollars to summarize for u

I dnt have dollars ooo, only pesos

Oya abeg, summarize it for me na

with your observation, it seems the girl is fed up with the relationship hence her lacklustre and inactive reactions and actions, a piece of advice, try and talk sense into her or take a leave and move on.

RennyX:

Thanks. I've done this lots and lots of times. Sometimes she switches emotions and turns it into an argument and my anger won't let me. Then I'll have to apologize.

tell her you love her but her attitude is pushing

you away if she still sees nothing wrong with it, pack

your load and run, she's done with you

Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier

For the fact that you're 'confused' means that your internal policeman is accusing you of wrongdoing.

First settles your conscience by absolving it of all blames and then finally puts your foot down- either you work things out since you still love her, or call it off.

Good luck!

Everblazinggg:
Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier

She's more childish than you can ever think. I don't control intentionally. I don't always complain but whenever do it becomes a problem.

Some girls like you just want a guy that you can match on. Not every guy can be like that

dump her before she dumps u

TrapQueen77:






I dnt have dollars ooo, only pesos

Oya abeg, summarize it for me na

lol d nigga said that his girlfriend doesn't call him in fact she doest even show any regard for the relationship set... I pity him..

daewoorazer:
Haaaaa... What's important in her replying you?




I'm sure you are the type that uses high pitched, very special alarm tone to welcome d arrival of gal's chats.


Do u also check ur phone every minute in case she replies?

Did u save her number with such: #ifemi, #mySunInTheclowds, #eyinfunjowo, #earthwormInMySoil etc?











My friend, you are a loverlover











Delete her number so fast and start ignoring her calls and chats. If she feels remorseful, turn her into sidechick, while u lookout for another damsel, else, still find another damsel and FORGET her totally








ZANGA

RennyX you might have intentionally skipped this cuz it sounds sarcastic but i tell you, this is good advice.

Your girlfriend isn't scared of losing you hence the misbehavior.

Bring another girl into the picture, let your girlfriend know there's a new girl enjoying your attention and leave jealousy to correct her behavior.

.

You two need to move over to the other room, f*ck your brains out and then say goodbye....

There's no need fighting a lost cause

Everblazinggg:
Boy O boy.....chill. that babe is definitely tired of your childish act. If am her, I would have dump your childish ass since. Go get your self a new girl friend that you can control like mumu or change your ways like you don't care and watch your babe become happier

Ooshey John terry!!!...... Confirm defender!!!

So the girl is mature with her silly attitudes.... Why not just call off the relationship instead of tormenting him.....

I'm suspecting that she's met a new prince charming that is keeping her attention away from the op but still wants to keep op as plan b just incase the new guy is fake, she can always fall back on mr. loverboy op

TrapQueen77:



Tnxxx but No weed for me plz...

Codeine nko

My man.. One advice... DO WHAT U THINK IS BEST FOR U... IF U STILL love her.. Try and make it work, that's if she's still interested... If not, b a man and do d needful..
They are lotta good single babes around....

ikombe:
Codeine nko

No syrup either.. Bring the ice instead and we can chill for the whole week without slowing down..

send her a lengthy message detailing your feelings and how she's been treating you. Tell her you've tried your best and no longer ready to force things. wish her the very best,don't expect her reply or call and don't ever call her no matter the temptation to do so. if she calls or text after some weeks,give her the silent treatment till she apologizes. if she doesn't,just move on cos she isn't yours; if it's yours,it will surely come back to you. i'm typing this from a personal experience,she called four months later begging to be friends again

RennyX:
Good day Nairalanders. A very depressed soul needs your advise to make an important decision. This is going to be a long post, i apologize for the stress. Bear with me.

I have been with my girlfriend for close to a year now. Everything was good at the beginning as usual with our little fights here and there. I have my own fault as i tend to flare up easily and she does has hers too. She's usually very rude and she shouts a lot even when we are having a little misunderstanding in public. We both agreed we were going to work on these flaws to make everything go smooth and i tell you I've always tried my best in that aspect.

But recently my girlfriend has been acting funny. She doesn't call frequently and she prefers to chat most times. Although this is an issue that i encountered at the early stages of our relationship because she said that's how she is so i tried my best to cope with it even though i wasn't sitting well with it. However, things have changed drastically to the extent that she doesn't even call at all or check up on me on social media.

There was a time i called her like five times(I usually call only twice and if you're not picking i chill and wait for a call back), because i wanted her to pick up but she didn't. Instead she sent me a "hi" message on whatsapp without an explanation for why she didn't pick my call.

Also, she doesn't pay attention to me when we are in a conversation. She fixes her interest on other things like her phone, the television or just staring at the ceiling like I'm a bore to her.

So all these made me to think deep and ask what may have been wrong. I wanted to conclude that she was getting tired of the relationship but I said let me ask her first maybe it was my fault. I know that sometimes I can be controlling and authoritative but it's not my fault sometimes because she does anyhow when left to do her things alone. It's like she wants me to always tell her what to do. But when i do, it's a problem.

So when I asked her she told me everything that she was not tired but I was putting pressure on her. I promised to stop pressurising her and I also asked her to change from her behaviour and become who she once was and we agreed.

Last week, on a Wednesday morning I woke up to her message on whatsapp and I replied without getting any reply till like 12 so I decided to call her. She told me that she was eating and she would call me when she was done. After an hour she hadn't called and i called again and she told me that she was sorry that she was watching a movie.

I got angry and complained to her, but instead she was rude (as she usually is) and started raising her voice. She said what had happened is in the past and she cannot do anything about it then she hung up.

I'm fed up. I don't know if there's any other guy although I've noticed some shady behaviors of hers but they aren't concrete enough. This is not the kind of relationship i want because it's obvious that we are on a different perspective. I don't bug my girl or attach myself to her, but I also feel that the right things should be done in the right measure.

It's been a week now and she hasn't called or sent a message even on Christmas Day. I want to call her now and break up, but I'm confused cos I still lover her. She has her good side which is rare in most girls.

Sorry for the long post once again. Please help with your contributions.

Don't be surprised she's seeing someone else ... my 1 cent