NewStats: 3,262,465 , 8,177,209 topics. Date: Monday, 02 June 2025 at 11:16 AM j133c

adewumiopeyemi:
TRy call her in the morning and ask her why her phone normally switch off in th night because some girls dont pick call late in the night.. sme to my girl also..i no hw u feel...

Whenever I ask why she will turn the issue upside down...she will start saying I am a complain box...it is out of respect that I haven't fixed a hidden camera in her crib or pay someone to study her movement. Don't just know what to do.

dante300:

What do u advice....@35do I actually stop and solve my problem or I should walk away and start a whole new relationship that could be worse?

i think a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. if you marry her communication will be a big issue. forget age am also close to 35 but i was just an atm machine to her so i walked away, i value my happiness. sit her down tell her what you feel and ur suspicions if she does not change,walk away

ave u try to sit here down try talk some sense on her head.. and hw many year have both if u been together...

dante300:

Whenever I ask why she will turn the issue upside down...she will start saying I am a complain box...it is out of respect that I haven't fixed a hidden camera in her crib or pay someone to study her movement. Don't just know what to do.

Did u say ALWAYS in d EVENING?..
Is she financially stable?..coz that's d time "runz babes" usually resume 4 work..

4give ma tenor abeg.

Am a lady and her actions are not justifiable even to me as a lady...those talking about her age are getting it wrong...av seen married women with matured kids behave like babies...i think she is not ready to be serious or shez prolly cheating on you but first calm down,if you cn give her 5k every 2 weeks,you cn be able to go to the neighbouring state where she school nd stay over,you can pay for a hotel,she shud be with you in the evening...i think that can help....its tough but you've got to be strong....cancel the tot of not getting married and having kids...i believe your matured and wanna settle down but it shouldnt cloud your judgement...hope you ok tho?

If this has been on for 5 years, hmmm, that girl is a suspect. She's either living with a man or a man is living with her. Pay her a visit in the evening and spend the night and check if the phone is set to automatically go off at night.
#MaLady

sashishalom:
Am a lady and her actions are not justifiable even to me as a lady...those talking about her age are getting it wrong...av seen married women with matured kids behave like babies...i think she is not ready to be serious or shez prolly cheating on you but first calm down,if you cn give her 5k every 2 weeks,you cn be able to go to the neighbouring state where she school nd stay over,you can pay for a hotel,she shud be with you in the evening...i think that can help....its tough but you've got to be strong....cancel the tot of not getting married and having kids...i believe your matured and wanna settle down but it shouldnt cloud your judgement...hope you ok tho?

Thank u so much u are so sweet. Appreciate

Try not calling her starting now before you pay her a visit like i earlier suggested,get a hold on your sef first,watch your match if any comes up,i believe you have friends that you can chat with nd save yourself the stress of working too much cause you want to meet her needs,i know its not the only reason you working that hard but stop stressing yourself for a while...




Its clear you love her so much,a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage and i believe dante you'll agree with me on this...you said if truly shez dating anoda,shez at loss not you cause your a blessing,i believe you are a blessing...there are a lot of good women out there who would embrace the kind of feeling you have for her cox truly your kind is rare just like the type you are looking for is...i've got to afmit that we ladies are bleeped up atyms,we actually dont know whats good for us until we lose it...Dante am not saying shez cheating on you but if she is well then wad we will advice you bout is how to man up and move forward cox i believe your too emotional,time would tell if she is cheating on you but before that get yourself together,you need some time so pls do what i earlier suggested,i hope you will be ok..i think we've adviced you enough,its left for you to play your part..






Me i need this kind love oo...oluwa provide a boo like dante for me...

dante300:

I am contemplating taking a hidden camera to her apartment fix it and study her every move from my phone....don't care how much it would cost me.

naw dat sounds lyk obsession,y nt jes pay her a surprise visit one of dose evenings dan u buggin her room. If her fone is always off every evening,den its suspicious.

dante300:

I wish I could turn back the hand of the clock..... This is someone I ve spent well over 2mill ing her education....

Dont beat yourelf unecessarily. Look at it like an investment that went bad. You will find someone better who appreciates her man.

dante300:

I wish I could turn back the hand of the clock..... This is someone I ve spent well over 2mill ing her education....

over 2million naira on her?? is she your sister or wife??

[quote author=rosieluv post=46377627]
naw dat sounds lyk obsession,y nt jes pay her a surprise visit one of dose evenings dan u buggin her room. If her fone is always off every evening,den its suspicious.

No,in this situation it ain't an obsession..it is investigation..if h goes there unprepared,he might not have d nerve to hold in what he'll come across..he might end up being overly dramatic because of emotional stress.

When we say many ladies don't like nice guys, they will say it's a lie... Imagine the her attitude towards her husband to be

I can bet there are good ladies on this forum who will do anything to have a guy like you.
Whatever you decide, talk to her again. iF need be you guys sit down and talk again before you walk away from her..
A woman is suppose to advice her husband on finance and possibly be his financial manager but what you have is someone who will drain you both financially and mentally..

dante300:

I am contemplating taking a hidden camera to her apartment fix it and study her every move from my phone....don't care how much it would cost me.

guy relax ur nerves ok.
Jez giv her a brake, dn't get ursef work up.
Giv her a brake.

pcguru1:
Could be the stress of PHD or she might just want personal time, during my time in school , I switched off my devices because I really wanted no calls and just alone time, maybe you need to take your attention, at 32 I sincerely doubt she's gonna start playing games.

of all d time in d world, its in d night sumone choose to switch of d fone. do u knw most emergency happen qt night?so long we are adult,I bliv u shldnt willing off ur fone for ur personal reason unless light prob or work ethics. u dnt knw wen dt cal dat wld change ur present state wld cum. I feel d lady is living with q man.dat d only reason I can c

dante300:

Her reason is she has not charged her phone or she left her phone in a neighbors room charging....haba 3 phones chargingat the same time....why is it only when she goes back to school...I agree that I am inlove and I don't have apology for that I am only human...if she is actualy cheating on me her and the other guy are the loosers not me...she will only loose a blessing like me....

well, she doesn't realise dat, but the sooner she realises dat, d better for her. But my instinct is telling me dat she is living wit a boy over there. I wld suggest u take a 2day leave offwork, travel to d place, datz if u knw her hostel or dwelling place, get there in the afternoon, meet with her and tell her u will be spending d nyt wit her, either at her home or in an hotel. And if she is staying wit a room mate, let her introduce d room mate to u, and get d room mates number. So dat u can alwaz communicate tru d room mates number if hers is not going thru.
Wit dis, when u come back, u'll knw either to continue or let d bird fly so dat u can consentrate on forging ahead

I hav this similar case, she pressed me to get an apartment i did money that I'd use to set it up the apartment she wants me to spend on her makeup kit. This is a 32 yr old working class lady who hopes that we'd get married someday. Smh.

My dear, I know how u feel jare but right now my head is 2 heavy to think well but let me try... I know it's nt easy to end everything BC of ur luv 4 her, ur age, and considering how much u spent on her also how long d relationship Ve lasted.

It's nt easy 4 u 2 start all over again, u don't know if d next person will b worst self. When u re in love, its nt easy to let go, even when d signs re clear....Trust is what keeps a relationship going. Dats why Most times couples re advice to b deaf and blind 4 dere relationship to b everlasting .

Give her a surprised visit 2 clear ur doubt, talk 2 her and find out things 4 urself. Discuss at length and know d way forward so u can b sure were d relationship is heading....Face to face is better Dan phone talk.

Distance most times affect a relationship, maybe someone over dere Ve taking over her sense of reasoning. Hope she loves u 2, let it don't b dat she's with all dis yrs 4 what she will gain 4rm u. Some women can pretend to d last.

My dear, try and work things out, no relationship is perfect but if at d end it doesn't work out fine, let go and move on with life. Some ppl don't realize what dey Ve until dey lose it by den it will b 2 late.

U seem to b a nice guy, i wish u all d best.
#my opinion tho...

lol..she is seeing someone else..E.O.D!

Bro don't be naive. How can your gf of 5 years have her 4 phones switched off every damn night. She definitely has another life which you've a zero stake in. And you thinking you're the crazy one only shows that she does not own up to her misdeeds. Your babe is a goner bro.
Sorry.

dante300:

Her reason is she has not charged her phone or she left her phone in a neighbors room charging....haba 3 phones chargingat the same time....why is it only when she goes back to school...I agree that I am inlove and I don't have apology for that I am only human...if she is actualy cheating on me her and the other guy are the loosers not me...she will only loose a blessing like me....

It's written clearly that she's cheating. That's why they keep calling them hoes.

lovingT:
Which kind book she go dey read when she nor fit on her phone talk to her Love "everynight"?

What has age got to do with cheating?

Her phone is off every night?? Every night?? Come on. Every night is not possible Esp if u know ur Bobo go call. Esp if u know he wants to talk to u.

Haha at least Sunday the phone go on small.

If she's busy with her books then the phone ba3 go save cos she won't be pressing it so much. Plus she has a power bank.

And what kind of hair does she make with 5k every 2wks Esp in this economy.

I don't know oh. But................. "side dude"

i love this comment...straight and direct!
No emotions just making common sense....#commonsense@lovingT

kaziblake:
So you want to throw away a5yr relationship cos of this small problem?

little drops of water makes a mighty ocean....
How can a lady with four fones have them switched of at nightfall only to give a flimsy excuse that her "four fones" were off at that same time..And to even think it happens every night is highly suspicious..her excuse makes no sense at all....

dante300:

I am contemplating taking a hidden camera to her apartment fix it and study her every move from my phone....don't care how much it would cost me.

Bro, you should do it if you can
Also post video clip in xvideos and link us.

Penisinpenisout:


Bro, you should do it if you can
Also post video clip in xvideos and link us.

I like the way U think

JewelDiamond:
I do switch my fone(s) off every evening. That's my personal decision to avoid disturbance. In this ur case, she would have kept a special line where you can reach her whenever you want. But that should be if she's into you o.

hello @jeweldiamond i respect ur privacy and understand that you just don't want disturbance esp if you have plenty queue...
However,switching off ur entire fones in the night may pose a serious security problem for you or ur immediate family in future...some one may want to give you a very important info or about a robbery in ur residence or a friend or family member might be in a difficult situation and may need ur help...Thats wen you wud wish ur fone had been ON to help out some way....
Just an advice sha...no pun intended

Lalasticlala I see you..

rosieluv:

naw dat sounds lyk obsession,y nt jes pay her a surprise visit one of dose evenings dan u buggin her room. If her fone is always off every evening,den its suspicious.

Or prolly they have scheduled power supply in her area where she lives and phone goes off same time every day.

meisterkitan:


Or prolly they have scheduled power supply in her area where she lives and phone goes off same time every day.

lols ur imagination tho

Gliterrati:
If she calls during the day and switches of her phone at nights, it could mean alot... Maybe she doesn't pick night calls

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I believe we have all advised him enough...Dante you should know what to do right now...hope your ok tho?takia

schumastic:


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