NewStats: 3,262,657 , 8,177,807 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 08:20 AM 2940g

RoastedCorn:
ain't you girls foolish for insulting broke guys too??

so you knew the economy was bad when you were insulting broke guys?

utter foolishness, and is still you undergraduate girls that will shouting gender equality

Don't minD her. They don't worth it. Just fvck such girls and give them empty promises. They condemn broke guys yet talk about gender equality when they are not ready to work

Dependency isn't a gender-specific thing in a relationship or marriage. Every human that isn't physically challenged should be self-sufficient to a reasonable extent, both financially and otherwise.
However, the quality of orientation parents give kids propagates the ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY. Going by the modern standard, female children are taught to be domesticated and also financially independent but boys are taught to provide without making them see the importance of being domesticated.
Just imagine a boyfriend of less than 6 months expecting his girlfriend to do domestic chores for him even though she isn't constituting a burden to him both financially and otherwise - AN INSTANCE OF MALE DEPENDENCE.
With this pattern, it is likely to see marriage where the woman believes the PROVIDER should buy her personal/petty things e.g sanitary towels regardless of what she earns while the man also considers it mandatory for the HOME MAKER to undertake his personal hygiene e.g doing his laundry. Personally, I see nothing wrong if a HOME MAKER loves the PROVIDER to the extent of even bathing him till death separates them. Also, I am not against a PROVIDER that loves the HOME MAKER to the extent of buying her sanitary towels and even 10naira matches. (As long as these gestures come from the heart).
Unfortunately, regardless of who the dependent person is in marriage, THE WOMAN BEARS THE BRUNT of the situation most especially because of societal views. Take a look at this scenario:
A husband that is financially challenged should be ed by his wife especially if she also works or at least, remain with him and soak garri together if she isn't working.
A wife that is unable to perform domestic functions in the home due to infirmity or physical challenge is most likely to be replaced (openly or secretly) with the of her inlaws and husband's friends. Whereas, the same friends and family will castigate the woman if she leaves abandons him because of financial problems (not minding whether he is even poorer than a church rat).

tombravo:
by diop. howfar jambite?

jambite ke? wrote jamb five years ago..serving my country presently...the table turned#hello jambite#

missingrib:
jambite ke? wrote jamb five years ago..serving my country presently...the table turned#hello jambite#

Thank you for yabbing me too..... hello corper!

amokeme:
you are 100% right! A woman who can't take care of her self financially has no business getting married. Why should you need your husband to take care of your parent? Or siblings? What happened to YOU? The thought of it is even embarrassing. The only thing I need from a man is his love and respect.... that's all.
And that gender equality thing is just a huge joke.

one carton of orijin for you

Hi great Nairalanders...
Am new here, but I have being following your threads and have learned from it, my issue is that I have initially applied earlier this and booked an appointment, but purposely didn't go for the interview because I wanted to change an information. Am married with three kids and they stay in , I intend to visit the U.S sometime next year for my annual vacation..
I have initially filled married on my DS-160, but skipped the interview, I intend to pay for another visa fees and schedule for another appointment using single this time.
My question is, would the Initial information still be on their record or I can go on and restart the process again since I didn't go for the initial interview..
Please help be pros

kekakuz:
in response to the topic in front page "any guy who doesn't own a car and house has no business getting married or dating"for God sake.in order not trow away the baby with the bath water, I will agree with her to an extent but I think it goes both ways.
a lady without a job or any money making skill has no business raising a family.
the average life expectancy for Nigerian men is 50 and the reason is our society expects men to do everything
feed our immediate family
feed our mother in law,father in law,brother in law and other irrelevant distance uncles and aunties.
so the average man works all his life some have 2jobs. the ripple effect of this is the short life expectancy rate and our women are not helping matters. they cry for gender equality but can't do a thing if their man is not around.
many children suffer after losing their father because the women can't do enough to take care of home when the man is no longer around.they sit and watch movies and get overweight and lose appeal to the man who has been Working all day.

in conclusion, a woman without a job is not worth getting married to because she will end up being a liability and you cannot be sure she would take care of the family in case of any eventuality.

dude u are talking to the wrong people. come back when they are able to develop their country and launch a space satellite

kekakuz:


they want gender equality and man with house and car

imagine that. 3hands in one mouth.

halfricanadian:
I wud graduate nd get a job

U guys are foolish for insulting broke ladies like we chose our lives from heaven

In an enconomy like nigeria u expect me to work without a certificate wen my dad aint otedola or dangote

U all define ur broke lady again u talkin bou undergraduate or female dat are graduates?

story for the gods.i totally agree with ur view it's sensible bit where is the sense in making certificateless guys and broke guys feel like shit