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Does any one else keep e-mails, letters, text msgs from exes?

Do you ever read them and when you do what goes through your mind?

Do you cringe at the thought of some of it - or doesn't it even feel like it was you doing those things? Do you miss anything about them or are you just glad to be rid of them?

Holla

was just going thorugh my inbox and e-mails from 3+yrs ago from a couple of exes and i just kept thinking - what were you doing with some of those guys

obviously paying you - all their excuses and sweet names, an apologies and i felt my skin crawl!!!

luxoire:

Does any one else keep e-mails, letters, text msgs from exes?

Do you ever read them and when you do what goes through your mind?

Do you cringe at the thought of some of it - or doesn't it even feel like it was you doing those things? Do you miss anything about them or are you just glad to be rid of them?

Holla

very very glad with thanksgiving

luxoire:

was just going thorugh my inbox and e-mails from 3+yrs ago from a couple of exes and i just kept thinking - what were you doing with some of those guys

obviously paying you - all their excuses and sweet names, an apologies and i felt my skin crawl!!!

discovered some when i moved last year. it is quite amazing how much foolishness we tolerate when you dont know no better.

JJYOU:

very very glad with thanksgiving discovered some when i moved last year. it is quite amazing how much foolishness we tolerate when you dont know no better.

that is exactly what happened i think - i didn't know any better - although i could say thanks to them i have an in-built bull high sensitive bull shit detector!!

gosh - you see how some of them ignore you for weeks - then turn up wth some long ass story and apology and then when all isstettled they tell you they are about to be evicted and you 'lend' them money - lol - those are bad debts written off - now i know better

twerps!! - they must have had the last laugh

There's a good reason why an Ex is an Ex.
The day I let him slide . . . . I put his every memento behind me
except memory which is impossible for me to wipe out completely.

luxoire:

that is exactly what happened i think - i didn't know any better - although i could say thanks to them i have an in-built bull high sensitive bull shit detector!!

gosh - you see how some of them ignore you for weeks - then turn up wth some long ass story and apology and then when all isstettled they tell you they are about to be evicted and you 'lend' them money - lol - those are bad debts written off - now i know better

twerps!! - they must have had the last laugh

thank God for deliverance. just last week i ed one small boy that would have asked "uncle" to buy wimbledon stuff for him.

When I brought my house and was packing everything I ran across some old cards and letters from my ex. It made me the person he presented himself to be and made me mourn his loss.

I really had hoped that he was the one but he was not and God had other plans for me. Althou I have to say he made it 3 years before the cracks started to show and the pretense started to fall. It took another 2 years for me to end it.

sistawoman:

When I brought my house and was packing everything I ran across some old cards and letters from my ex. It made me the person he presented himself to be and made me mourn his loss.

I really had hoped that he was the one but he was not and God had other plans for me. Althou I have to say he made it 3 years before the cracks started to show and the pretense started to fall. It took another 2 years for me to end it.

dont worry we love it like this. nigeria = 1 AA = 0.

I delete pics and all to do with ex's, don't ever want to even that they where a part of my life, *relief from bad rubbish*!

the moment the r/s ends everything that was between us ends also, including those email and others

Can a guy comment? oh, wth, Il just go ahead and add my usual long boring post! lwkm.

For me I think the way you feel now when you see such corrspondences says a lot about how you still feel about him.

My ex and I were together to almost 4 years and it was good while it lasted till she decided to move on. The painful thing is she did it in my final year in uni infact during my final semester. She didn't just end it, she was already with someone else and each time I asked she smiled and denied.lol. Human beings wicked o. Eventually she owned up. I wasn;t too bitter that she left, I was more bitter about the timing and I told her. To me, it was wicked and heartless. I had been doing well in school before then, if I had messed up that last semester, it'ld have been disastrous. And I would have messed up but for Grace of God. At that time, I felt nothing but hatred for her and I let her know.

I think over the years, time has healed the hurt and now, when I stumble over some of our correspondences, I jst smile.

Like someone said, an ex is an ex. Rather than moan over them or feel angry about them, one should thank God one didn't get to marry someone who was meant to play that role in our lives ie the role of an EX.

Like we say in yoruba (and I hope I get this rite): Olorun o je ka fi girlfriend/boyfriend fi se iyawo/oko! Someone help me translate

Still friends with them.  I only find such memorabilia either humourous or sweet.  There is nothing more to it for me.  I suppose i have been lucky to be friends with people who i dated

I have cringed sha.  .  .at how incoherent i used to be Thank goodness for progression

still frnds with em , no hard feelings n their memories only make me smile cos of d roles they played which could av been worse i guess i moved on n am doing good!

Yes i have all those old stuff, i'm friends with those who want me to be friends, and i let those who want to move on go. . .  But one thing i know is i have absolutely no regrets and if i was given an opportunity to relive my life, i'd do it over and over again. Every woman i dated had a uniqueness to herself and i know i will be attracted over and over again if the clocks were to be turned backwards.

One woman made me very sceptical of women in general but i would still date her, only differently

Right now though, i think they're in the past and should best remain there. . . Knowing them has made me tough and strong at heart - which was exactly what i needed at the time.

most of my exes i dont even want to know again let alone talk to - they cheated, lied and betrayed me on a whole.

i only remained friends with 1 of them and even he - sometimes its a struggle - cos he claims over familiarity - which i dont like!!

i thinki agree with @sistawoman - you mourn the person they presented themselves to be - not the real them you later discovered

and in my case sometimes what annoys me is how long i deceived myself and kept living that lie

Na wah

I still got everything, e-mails, text msgs, cards, u name it.

D stuff don't exactly move me,

still went over like 35 of her sms' 3days ago and just smiled.

well i dont see y we can't be friends no more.
i still talk to them and see some.

actually my ex was in ma office some weeks back. no hard feeling.

luxoire:

i thinki agree with @sistawoman - you mourn the person they presented themselves to be - not the real them you later discovered

and in my case sometimes what annoys me is how long i deceived myself and kept living that lie

Now I wonder if my exes mourn me too , frankly i hope they're celebrating me instead

whitelexi:

Now I wonder if my exes mourn me too , frankly i hope they're celebrating me instead

was that a rhetorical question or did you expect an answer? - seriously!!!

whitelexi:

Now I wonder if my exes mourn me too , frankly i hope they're celebrating me instead

Only if you are a pretender.

luxoire:

was that a rhetorical question or did you expect an answer? - seriously!!!

I think it was more the former than latter

sistawoman:

Only if you are a pretender.

Nlanders can say all they wish, but i know i'm really a very very very em uniquely different individual Pretending is not in my nature

whitelexi:

Nlanders can say all they wish, but i know i'm really a very very very em uniquely different individual Pretending is not in my nature

ROTFLMCAO

Sorry I was too busy laughing, I almost forgot to comment on the topic.

Nope, I delete everything. It’s like moving to a new house. You leave all the old baggage behind. Me I don’t see why I should keep them and let them occupy space, when I can get newer ones!!

Ujujoan:

Sorry I was too busy laughing, I almost forgot to comment on the topic.

Nope, I delete everything. It’s like moving to a new house. You leave all the old baggage behind. Me I don’t see why I should keep them and let them occupy space, when I can get newer ones!!

You mean you never had an ex you wouldnt mind having in ya bed?

steve49ja:

You mean you never had an ex you wouldnt mind having in ya bed?

Of course not. I do have one ex I wouldnt mind having in my bed once in a while . . damn he was a good f**k. And that's allhe can ever be tome again.

Ujujoan:

Of course not. I do have one ex I wouldnt mind having in my bed once in a while . . damn he was a good f**k. And that's allhe can ever be tome again.

woaw - lol - tell it like it is lady

Ujujoan:

ROTFLMCAO

u have to explain this laughter oh

_{rolling on the floor laughing her chinese ass off}

woaw - lol - tell it like it is lady

I sure do!!

rolling on the floor laughing her chinese ass off

Oh my . . and I thought it was cute!!

Ujujoan:

Oh my . . and I thought it was cute!!

aaaahhh silly me, i should've known it was cute
Apologies, i was guessing.

I still want an explanation of that laughter sha

iice:

I have cringed sha. . .at how incoherent i used to be Thank goodness for progression

Yea right!

This is easily the best topic for today.
I still get sms from my exs and can't help to think common why was i that foolish to take those shits.Got one yesterday nite and she was the one that broke my heart the most.though i'm still friends with an ex.and i glad i have moved on and know better and it made a better person.