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i feel so happy reading this,,,being independent has this prestige that comes with it.....speaking from an experience...God please enlarge my coast.

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quote author=Toks2008 post=39769207]It is widely believed that it is a man's responsibility to take care of the lady in his life and in my opinion i see absolutely nothing wrong in this and i always tell any guy that even if his lady makes 1million naira a month,he should still make it a duty to take care of her and give her whatever he can afford to make her feel happy and also to maintain his place as the man hence the need for any real man out there to understand that taking care of your woman is sacrosanct in order to be a real man and not a figure head.

However,it has become very appalling that many ladies have taken this for granted and have put their hope in getting a man who is financially prepared to take care of them and have totally forgotten the fact that they are also expected to be an independent entity and even more worrisome is the ideology of some ladies that they now prefer to be with a man that has "potentials" as though they are totally hopeless in getting the best out of life.

This write up is not for greedy vultures who despite making a decent living will still want to suck a man dry but for the decent average disciplined Nigerian lady so i present to you 6 good reasons why it is very vital for our unmarried ladies to have something doing that can at least bring in a daily profit as little as N2,000 on the average for a start.

1. You have the confidence to be with a man for the right reasons: I have seen many ladies claim they love a guy they would never have considered in their dreams And this has nothing to do with the man in love with them but he is ready to spend on them and because they are so financially vulnerable,they easily fall prey to a man who has no desire for them but just their body.But if you have something doing that at least takes care of your minimal needs,you will be able to say YES to man for the right reasons and not because of what he has.

2. Unmarried men now prefer a financially independent lady: Yes it is no longer a fashionable thing for guys to crave for ladies who have nothing doing just as ladies have phobia for guys in same category.I am not talking about secondary school or campus romance but if you really need a man who has a sincere desire to make you his,then you better get your ass right and start doing something to earn a living no matter how small.

3.It boosts your self value:Do you know that guys respect a lady who does not ask for recharge cards,money to make her hair,money to buy this or that? Oh Yes that guy may not care and i really don't too but trust me,even if i have to give you a weekly or monthly allowance,you better be making something for yourself no matter how little so that i will give you that allowance with some respect for you knowing that if i don't give you,it won't affect you in anyway.Ladies who are financially independent are hardly jilted by their guys because men see them as great assets and not liabilities.

4.You have the propensity to follow your dreams:Oh yes when you make your money,no man can make you his puppet(Not saying you should be arrogant) because he will hear you when you speak and you can decide to make your own decisions about your life and aspirations but if you depend on your Bfriend,fiancé or hubby for money,you will involuntarily see yourself yielding to his demands knowing that going against his wish is tantamount to being broke.

5.You become a real help meet for a man and not a parasite:Yes GOD made you as a woman to be a help meet for a man and even if no sane man should expect to eat from your sweat.shits happen in life and a man who is full of life,energy and plans may find himself in a crazy situation and at times like this,you play a good role by helping him out while you also pray to GOD to resuscitate his finance and this means if as a spinster you are independent,you will definitely catch the fancy of many men.

Whether you are still a student in the secondary or tertiary institution,you can still be financially independent and YES we know how harsh the economy is but trust me,if you think deep and become more purposeful,you will see something you can do that can bring in at least average of 1000naira on daily basis which is a good start.

6. It will be a sure proof that indeed there is gender equality: This needs no long explanation as we are tired of hearing about gender equality yet the ladies still depend on the men folk to take care of them as well as the children they both brought to the world but when you are financially independent,gender equality becomes a practical thing to reckon with.After-all,what a man can do,a woman can do even better according to the songs of the ladies.


Just trying to make sense and i hope this helps.[/quote]

nice 1,nice post.

GrammarNazi:


@Bolded, it's 'Help mate', not 'help meet'.

Very nice points raised here. I hope these girls are taking note

I for one, will have nothing to do with a woman who isn't financially independent. Not because I need her money, but because I need to know that someone has got my back, should anything go wrong in the future!

I still think op was correct, it is help meet,

Meet - in the context implies fit
Hence, a fit helper

Besides a helper can be good but not fit for a particular person

pinkiberry:
what if he married the woman when she is still in d university

what justification are you looking for?

Is she going to remain in the university forever?

bookworm07:
Still waitin for a lady to kick against dis thread, make i use plank scatter her back

sharap

nice write up....my dream is to buy car for my hubby as a birthday gift. wt financial independence it shall come to . AMEN!!!