NewStats: 3,261,984 , 8,175,800 topics. Date: Saturday, 31 May 2025 at 12:10 PM 3d6u3

Hello Nairalanders,

Am kind of new here and I decided to share this to learn from all, be it just sharing your own view or experience if you have had any or just advising base on what you know too.

Three years ago I met a guy, handsome, working class, well educated. He was 27 years then and I was 19 years and not yet in higher institution, he told me he loves me and he wanted a relationship with me of which after some time too I started developing interest in him too and so the relationship kicked off after few months.

He was my kind of guy tall, dark and handsome, Godfearing, intelligent and also from my state. We were happy together until I started feeling insecure because he never introduced me to neither of his parent nor friends nor any relative at all, while I was busy flaunting the relationship and he won't agree to come visit me at my place too, i kept telling my siblings my bf is not in town, he said because his last relationship he did that and the outcome wasn't good because the girl later broke up with him and he was heartbroken so was being careful.

I tried believing at first but with time I couldn't trust myself to feel he is not hiding some things from me, so i confronted him and told him at least ur best friend and am okay with it and I asked him questions like is it cos am not yet in school? besides as at that time have written jamb and was waiting for the ission list to be out.

He told me he loved beyond all that but still no one can hear about our relationship...at that moment I knew something was wrong and my insecurity wont let me trust him again so I decided to end the relationship there.

It was painful to me at the time but I tell you it was one of the best decisions I made...and to my surprise he didn't come begging back like I read in romance books and that hurts the more but that made me forget about him faster than I wanted and I moved on.

Fastforward to 2 years later this same guy started stalking me everywhere telling me how he loves me so much and that he is serious that he wants me to marry him, promising heaven and earth.

At this time have moved on and I was already in school, well I told him I was no longer interested and I dont love him again, he left me for some time and then started stalking me back this year again.

So when I was home for holiday I decided to see him and then he told me how he is now engaged to a lady he just met this year too and they have done their introduction but he doesn't love her and he still loves me and if I say yes to him he will call of the wedding and marry me.

It was strange to see that same guy that was always bossy around me begging me but I just told him I wont be the cause of another woman's sorrow by him breaking up with his fiancee.

Now he is ready to introduce me to even his ancestors, and treat me like a lady but unfortunately I stopped loving him long time ago.

Now he stalks me everywhere and am fed up already.

so ladies have you been in this kind of situation before and guys too? what's your best advice on this?

Meaningful contribution pls.

Some men are like that. I don't think there's anything much you can do than to always turn him down anytime he starts his talks.

The best thing is u ignore him...how he stalk u? Does he knows ur schedules?does he knows all ur social media sites? In this case block him..and do not answer any calls from him, eventually he will get tired doing it..

CHOP HIS MONEY TILL HE GETS SENSE

yomi007k:
CHOP HIS MONEY TILL HE GETS SENSE

And this coming from a guy?

later you guys will say ladies like money.

Lol,my dear u berra ignore him asap!!He's is after ur pusssy nothing else!!

braine:
Men are like that. I don't think there's anything much you can do than to always turn him down anytime he starts his talks.

Men are like what?
Don't generalize

Bbsharon:


And this coming from a guy?

later you guys will say ladies like money.

Don't they?

KashyBaby:
The best thing is u ignore him...how he stalk u? Does he knows ur schedules?does he knows all ur social media sites? In this case block him..and do not answer any calls from him, eventually he will get tired doing it..

I was trying to be polite before.

vizkiz:


Men are like what?
Don't generalize

I didnt generalize.

Nice one

Seriously speaking, the young man doesn't know what he wants.
Already done his Introduction with his fiancee and still wants to dump her ass for You.


You did the right thing by moving on. There's also a chance of him dumping You if you would have agreed to let him leave his fiancee for you.


THE DUDE LOOKS LIKE A PLAYER TO ME

vizkiz:


Men are like what?
Don't generalize

are u trying to say you are an exception?

Bbsharon:
I just told him I wnt be the cause of another woman's sorrow by him breaking up with his fiancee.

...... You have said it all already with these words. You dont need any advice anymore sis. Just ignore him henceforth..............

Men!! them think sey they get sense

yomi007k:
CHOP HIS MONEY TILL HE GETS SENSE

Ignore this guy, he wants u to dirty ur hands and probably get trapped by this pathetic stalker. U ve don well so far. Keep it that way.

yomi007k:
Don't they?

Majority not all.

Bbsharon:


are u trying to say you are an exception?

yeah... I am freagging different.

Bbsharon:


Majority not all.

Then that's a YES.


..."I rest my case ur honour"

48noble:



Ignore this guy, he wants u to dirty ur hands and probably get trapped by this pathetic stalker. U ve don well so far. Keep it that way.

Wat is dis one saying?

Is it all girls chopping guy's money that dirty their hands?

She has every reason not to be loyal to him.

If she starts collecting his money without any show of love, he will be uncomfortable n leave d relationship.

Wat about d babe, hasn't she invested in d relationship?


* for every action,there is an equal and opposite reaction*...sir Isaac Newton.


GO FIGURE!

prettythicksme:
Lol,my dear u berra ignore him asap!!He's is after ur pusssy nothing else!!

alright thanks.

yomi007k:

Wat is dis one saying?
Is it all girls chopping guy's money that dirty their hands?
She has every reason not to be loyal to him.
If she starts collecting his money without any show of love, he will be uncomfortable n leave d relationship.
Wat about d babe, hasn't she invested in d relationship?
* for every action,there is an equal and opposite reaction*...sir Isaac Newton.
GO FIGURE!

It's unethical

Bbsharon:


alright thanks.

Welcm babe

48noble:


It's unethical

Ethics of which profession? LOL

And wat d guy is doing is "ethical"?

vizkiz:


yeah... I am freagging different.

what is freagging about it?

yomi007k:



Ethics of which profession? LOL

Relationship ethics

48noble:



Relationship ethics

Relationship na profession?

Was there any set rules or contract to bind?

that nígga ain't loyal just sleep with him....he'll let u be.

IamLEGEND1:
that nígga ain't loyal just sleep with him....he'll let u be.

Bad advice.

Bbsharon:


what is freagging about it?

I don't know... Maybe it is because I am fan-freagging-tactic

Bbsharon:

Bad advice.

he's only after ur vagína
so give it to him..... you'll be happy you did

He doesn't love u at all...its just that he "probably" didn't tick attendance so he's back to tick it then smile and run!!!""mission accomplished!!…dont be fooled