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Nairalanders, do you have firsthand stories/tales of people that missed it by marrying the wrong person, please feel free to share so that we can know what and how to aviod this.Thanks

'Missed' what?

^^^ Would like to know "what" too?

ngwana.mobu:
'Missed' what?

People that feel they went into or are in wrong marriages or that broke-up their marriages because they couldn't continue.

proevan:

People that feel they went into or are in wrong marriages or that broke-up their marriages because they couldn't continue.

so you simply trynna ask how to avoid divorce Cz the title of ur thread is a lil off

Royal^^Pearl^^:
^^^ Would like to know "what" too?

Hmmm don't really get you but I have this friend that just called me up some day ago telling me how he feels he has missed it concerning marriage because according to him he fell into the hands of some occultic people ministering in the prophetic

chokl8candie:
so you simply trynna ask how to avoid divorce Cz the title of ur thread is a lil off

Ermm no the title is fine and not everyone that missed it in marriage divorce, some of them just manage it till they die ; turn their focus and enery away from spouse to children, money or even chasing power.

Marraige is not javeline ni?

Op what are you trying to say sef? I think a lot of people won't understand this topic

totalbaby: Op what are you trying to say sef? I think a lot of people won't understand this topic

Once, twice : I have modified the post. Thanks for your concern.

proevan:
Once, twice : I have modified the post. Thanks for your concern.

Much better . Firstly i believe that before you get married, one should date their partner for a reasonable period of time(+/-2years) so as to really get to know him/her, their likes, dislikes, beliefs,habits, communication skills,ideology,religion etc to see if you are on par with one another.

Secondly, oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes, while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both s. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.

Someone once told me that " the only thing u need in a partner is emotional intelligence...thats it...u can never find someone thats perfect in every category...u should look at who u are, and chose someone that can accept that"

This's one of the things that scares me and why I won't get married until I am 110% sure I will be marrying the right person!

Yield: This's one of the things that scares me and why I won't get married until I am 110% sure I will be marrying the right person!

Honey next year you'd be 32

u better manage what you can get now oh!!

na advice i give u so

totalbaby: Much better . Firstly i believe that before you get married, one should date their partner for a reasonable period of time(+/-2years) so as to really get to know him/her, their likes, dislikes, beliefs,habits, communication skills,ideology,religion etc to see if you are on par with one another.

Secondly, oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes, while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both s. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.

Someone once told me that " the only thing u need in a partner is emotional intelligence...thats it...u can never find someone thats perfect in every category...u should look at who u are, and chose someone that can accept that"

110 likes. This is true.

190-the-clown:


Honey next year you'd be 32

u better manage what you can get now oh!!

na advice i give u so

scram

HumbledbYGrace: scram

if i curse this one now - God go begin vex!!

My dear please gather your menses enter room - i nor get your time tonite

190-the-clown:


if i curse this one now - God go begin vex!!

My dear please gather your menses enter room - i nor get your time tonite

eu

Scram if you got nothing meaningful to add on this thread.

^Biko nor vex

i forget say this thread is a gathering for the old and frustrated!!

Make i leave una

btw humbledbyugliness if thats you on your profile pic

I nor get anything further to tell you again than to simply ask God to provide "THAT MAN" in your life

U indeed need am

^ Mumu stop derailing the thread idiot

^Olodumare!!

Jesus son of mary -ive heard ive heard!!
Honey can we talk about something plz kinda urgent its some business proposal ive got for u

190-the-clown:
btw humbledbyugliness if thats you on your profile pic

I nor get anything further to tell you again than to simply ask God to provide "THAT MAN" in your life

U indeed need am

you don't need googles to see it me. ;P

HumbledbYGrace: you don't need googles to see it me. ;P

abeg carry your wahala dey go

190-the-clown:


Honey next year you'd be 32

u better manage what you can get now oh!!

na advice i give u so

32 ke? . Mcheeew, I'm not even going to bother giving you a decent reply, lol.

190, you're such a pest. Is someone paying you to annoy me tonight?

190-the-clown:
btw humbledbyugliness if thats you on your profile pic

I nor get anything further to tell you again than to simply ask God to provide "THAT MAN" in your life

U indeed need am

Leave her alone . She's beautiful!

Avoid Marrying someone you do not trust 100 percent( such as can you rely on them? Do you trust their judgment? Do you trust their word? Can you believe what they say?) because it will only get worse once married.

I also cannot marry someone who does not make me feel emotionally safe as that is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells. I know some men who always disregard what their women say as stupid, my partner needs to respect me and my thoughts etc.

Lastly many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the beginning. It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you about this person or the relationship and any other important discussion that will need to be discussed in order for you to be absolutely certain you want to marry this person.

190: ^

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lekpalicious: Avoid Marrying someone you do not trust 100 percent ( such as can you rely on them? Do you trust their judgment? Do you trust their word? Can you believe what they say?) because it will only get worse once married.

I also cannot marry someone who does not make me feel emotionally safe as that is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells. I know some men who always disregard what their women say as stupid, my partner needs to respect me and my thoughts etc.

Lastly many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the beginning. It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you about this person or the relationship and any other important discussion that will need to be discussed in order for you to be absolutely certain you want to marry this person.

Sorry to say but who in this world will 100% trust his fellow human

Reincarnated:

Sorry to say but who in this world will 100% trust his fellow human

Okay 99 percent, happy

lekpalicious: Avoid Marrying someone you do not trust 100 percent( such as can you rely on them? Do you trust their judgment? Do you trust their word? Can you believe what they say?) because it will only get worse once married.

I also cannot marry someone who does not make me feel emotionally safe as that is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells. I know some men who always disregard what their women say as stupid, my partner needs to respect me and my thoughts etc.

Lastly many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the beginning. It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you about this person or the relationship and any other important discussion that will need to be discussed in order for you to be absolutely certain you want to marry this person.

@ Last part noted. Nice pix kudos to 190 hope you won't do a 180' on him.

proevan:

@ Last part noted. Nice pix kudos to 190 hope you won't do a 180' on him.

lekpalicious: Okay 99 percent, happy

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