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Hi my fellow Nairalanders,

okay, i have this friend who has been dating her guy for some few months now, and he also has plans of getting married to her but has never bought her any gift nor has he cared about her needs finacially. I personally told her the guy is a stingy guy and things might get ugly after marriage, but then again i might be wrong, so i need you all to share your views on this.

Also, would love to have answers to the following questions:

1. When should a guy start spending on a girl? ''For your info am not a gold-digger, i hardly collect stuffs from my boyfriend but atleast am glad he isnt the stingy type''

2. Why do guys so much believe in the word 'Give and take'?

3. Who should call more?

And for the Ladies, you could also tell us what and what your boyfriends or fiance's is doing or has done as per being in a relationship with him, same with the Male folks as well.

Note- Forming is allowed.

whose responsibilities when ur girl or fiancee? got pregnant for anoda guy

i don't know...
Hmm...they could both share the responsibilities. The fiance and the father of her baby, after all there is love in sharing.

@OP, to your number 2 question, i believe most guys beleive in give and take because dem don suffer taya before dey get the money...

So for him to spend money finish for girl make the girl come dey say 'thanks i will see you next week' the guy no go gree...

If na you, you go gree

However, it is best that both should share the responsibilities with the man handling the bigger part...

Boyfriend na for maintenance na.

Nigerian Police and Nigerian Girls are the same. They visit u, u pay. U visit them, u pay. Either way, u lose something.

I don't do relationship I only nak akpako so if u ask me the responsibility of naking akpako I will tell ya

To make her moan...

Op, Hope its not your true live story cos i see no good reason you should be taking panadol for another woman's headache. After all, you won't be the one in that marital home that you're worrying yourself over!

Give and take is the best rule, not give and give. Naija gals can demand!

He has no responsibility. He isn't married to her. If the girl wants gifts, she should go and work.


Why is it always in Nigeria that a girl thinks she can laze around and expect a guy to fulfil her every need because she has one watery t0t0

Nonsense

jhydebaba: Nigerian Police and Nigerian Girls are the same. They visit u, u pay. U visit them, u pay. Either way, u lose something.

* dies

@OP, i know u r the one dat has d problem and not ur friend like u claim... U better say d truth so dat we knw wia to start helping u...

The main responsiblity is phucking. That's the main thing, any other one is secondary

Responsibility of bf or fiance is very simple



































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How the hell do these threads make front page?

SpicyMimi: Hi my fellow Nairalanders,

okay, i have this friend who has been dating her guy for some few months now, and he also has plans of getting married to her but has never bought her any gift nor has he cared about her needs finacially. I personally told her the guy is a stingy guy and things might get ugly after marriage, but then again i might be wrong, so i need you all to share your views on this.

Also, would love to have answers to the following questions:

1. When should a guy start spending on a girl? ''For your info am not a gold-digger, i hardly collect stuffs from my boyfriend but atleast am glad he isnt the stingy type''

2. Why do guys so much believe in the word 'Give and take'?

3. Who should call more?

And for the Ladies, you could also tell us what and what your boyfriends or fiance's is doing or has done as per being in a relationship with him, same with the Male folks as well.

Note- Forming is allowed.

Dear OP,
How convenient for you to suddenly reduce your friend's relationship to just one thing - Money.

1. When should a guy start spending on a girl?
It is not the primary responsibility of your boyfriend to "spend" on you. Infact when a guy starts by "spending" there is a huge probability he wants to "give and take". People are different and I am sure there are happily married couples out there whose husbands do not just dole out candy at every opportunity. Your friends parents/guardians are still alive presume or she should have a job to primarily take care of her, it's her responsibility.

2. Why guys believe in Give and take?
No guy who wants you in a serious relationship would be thinking of give and take. It's ladies like you who have formed the opinion that a guy who is a spendthrift is the correct guy and the more conservative guy is stingy. At that point it ain't rocket science, services has been paid for in cash, the payee expects service in kind for the pizza or the blackberry z10 he bought, simples.

3. Who should call more

My advice is go back and look out for the important things in a mans character that would make him a solid rock for you tomorrow instead of chasing flimsy things like who spends on you or not. Men do not want a financial or even an intellectual liability at home, grow your sense of pride as an individual most especially as a lady and whatever you do kindly stop advising your friend or anyone on what makes a marriage ugly.

Cheers.

psamcin: Give and take is the best rule, not give and give. Naija gals can demand!

The demand nor be small, my brother

SlyIg: Boyfriend na for maintenance na.

See ur mouth like maintanance

The only responsibility is to be faithful to the relationship! If u get gifts and all - cool! If it doesn't - that's life!a relationship is not a welfare system; friendship is about looking out for each other-all parties must learn to give-it should even be competitive!the average nigerian woman only wants to receive an ipad and buy u a swimming short!it won't work!

SlyIg: Boyfriend na for maintenance na.

yea, to maintain ur punny after it has slacked. U need rubber to make it tight so dat u can have a fiance and tink u are responsible?

SpicyMimi:

okay, i have this friend who has been dating her guy for some few months now, and he also has plans of getting married to her but has never bought her any gift nor has he cared about her needs finacially. I personally told her the guy is a stingy guy and things might get ugly after marriage, but then again i might be wrong

D reason 4 going in2 any relationship shld nt be based on gettn financial help only. Like wht u told ur frnd wht if d guy doesn't hav d money? Hav u nt seen an affair wia d lady is n d guy financially? Relationship is al abt ur emotions, feelings & preparing 4 marriage. And nt an avenue of lukn 4 financial .

First of all lets give glory to God that 9ja boys don dey wise up. Finally we give God praise that 9ja girls will soon learn to stop pocknosing in oda peoples business.

SpicyMimi: Hi my fellow Nairalanders,

okay, i have this friend who has been dating her guy for some few months now, and he also has plans of getting married to her but has never bought her any gift nor has he cared about her needs finacially. I personally told her the guy is a stingy guy and things might get ugly after marriage, but then again i might be wrong, so i need you all to share your views on this.

Also, would love to have answers to the following questions:

1. When should a guy start spending on a girl? ''For your info am not a gold-digger, i hardly collect stuffs from my boyfriend but atleast am glad he isnt the stingy type''

2. Why do guys so much believe in the word 'Give and take'?

3. Who should call more?

And for the Ladies, you could also tell us what and what your boyfriends or fiance's is doing or has done as per being in a relationship with him, same with the Male folks as well.

Note- Forming is allowed.

Is this a "trick" question? Are u trying to catch me in a lie?

SlyIg: Boyfriend na for maintenance na.

You're damn right, but the door swings both ways. You maintain me as a guy and I return the favor with cash and gifts. Simple life, but girls always want to make it so complex! I don't know why?

pDude: He has no responsibility. He isn't married to her. If the girl wants gifts, she should go and work.


Why is it always in Nigeria that a girl thinks she can laze around and expect a guy to fulfil her every need because she has one watery t0t0

Nonsense

na wao u dey vex o

pDude: He has no responsibility. He isn't married to her. If the girl wants gifts, she should go and work.


Why is it always in Nigeria that a girl thinks she can laze around and expect a guy to fulfil her every need because she has one watery t0t0

Nonsense

Pdud, U r so so on point, Let her go and work !

Royou: The only responsibility is to be faithful to the relationship! If u get gifts and all - cool! If it doesn't - that's life!a relationship is not a welfare system; friendship is about looking out for each other-all parties must learn to give-it should even be competitive!the average nigerian woman only wants to receive an ipad and buy u a swimming short!it won't work!

Bros watch out oh, the female liabilities here will soon start calling you stingy.

See As I love and mumu reach.. I bought my GF a blackberry, me i no get one oh...i even load d bis sometimes even when i can't afford to sort my own needs...she just called me to tell me she needs to upgrade her phone.. wetin i go do? don't forget sa i no get bb battery oh..God go help nija girls

Oh no! I clicked on a dumb thread AGAIN! WTF nah? And for the record you sound bi.tchy and a wicked friend. "I TOLD HER THAT HER MAN IS STINGY BUT I MAY BE WRONG" (can't quote it word-for-word, it irks me). Abeg, shharrap!

okay, i have this friend who has been dating her guy for some few months now, and he also has plans of getting married to her but has never bought her any gift nor has he cared about her needs finacially. I personally told her the guy is a stingy guy and things might get ugly after marriage, but then again i might be wrong, so i need you all to share your views on this.

This is an unpleasant sign of what is to come when they get married,that is, assuming ur friend is not being

economical with the truth.