NewStats: 3,262,501 , 8,177,320 topics. Date: Monday, 02 June 2025 at 01:30 PM 2q4v6p

StacyO:


And you said no one wants to hold a conversation with you.
Have you asked yourself why
Do you know why?

Hi, pls don't be vexed, I don't saying that.

KimberlyWest:


You're right.

Like it's not just "Nigerian girls" that the guys in this section talk about. The issue is not peculiar to any gender. We still have boys who can not hold intelligent conversations. The only thing they know how to talk about is the number of girls they've been with. Ask them questions about their state of origin, and watch them fumble.

It's not like I'm saying that Nigerian girls are perfect, but the way guys here sound like there's no lady in Nigeria who has something good to offer is so annoying.

Both genders need to work on themselves. Instead of the whole bashing and rantings, guys should also work on themselves.

They complain about constant billing. Crazy. You've been with a girl for two years and all you do is take care of her bills and call her to come whenever you're in your heat period. In that two years, you've never brought up the issue of her starting a business or acquiring a skill. If the girl is not intelligent enough to do all of that for herself, you're her boyfriend and partner, help her out. Let her tap from your well of intelligence.

When such relationship ends now, the guy will come to Nairaland and rant about how she didn't help his life and business. As if he helped hers.

Like I said, both genders need serious work. The rate at which Nigerian boys want relationship to be about you bringing your body and them bringing their money is also getting scary.

About the conversation aspect. It's only in physics that like charges do not attract. In life, you only attract your kinds.

In my opinion, if you keep meeting unintelligent ladies, then you also need to work on yourself and the kind of places you go to. You can't go to strip clubs and expect the ladies who came there to have fun to start discussing politics and current affairs with you.

I come in peace.

Are you an AUTHOR or WRITER on Okadabooks?

LMFAO

My own rule is simple; tell me "k" and I'll "kick" your dumb ass out of my chat list.

Thattallgirl:
Lol which part? The part I said she's not interested or that I ignored the guy?

The part you said she's not interested.

Collegelove:
The part you said she's not interested.

It's by force abi?

Paromarc:
LMFAO

My own rule is simple; tell me "k" and I'll "kick" your dumb ass out of my chat list.

These girls are more interested in money. Just show them money, they would follow you like a puppy and get laid.

Thattallgirl:
It's by force abi?

Of course. What I do to women now is to show them money and get them laid.

Women are so sweet especially when you are hitting them hard.

Collegelove:
Of course. What I do to women now is to show them money and get them laid.

Women are so sweet especially when you are hitting them hard.

Lol the type of women you meet do not know who they are

nurain150:
I respect their privacy that why I won't post our whatsapp message.I have this sister more of a sister all she keeps saying is lol,smile I be like wtf.The other ones are just boring.

come see ur people

Thattallgirl:
Lol the type of women you meet do not know who they are

Lol...who told you that?

They've also enjoyed me. They also enjoyed the stuff. wat do u do for work? Pm me so we can chat in private.

Kobicove:


It's either she's probably bored with the conversation or you only attract low quality girls...

stale.. U sef follow girls dey talk dis rubbish? Oga 80% of naija girls chat like that. How about girlfriends/wives that chat that way, they are not into the guys/husbands I guess?

Or does it mean low quality girls can't learn? If they can't learn at the low is it when they get to high quality they will learn?

U guys should stop defending rubbish it's too annoying.
Tell it to them they way it is that's only when they will change.

KimberlyWest:


Thank you for this response. That's just it.

I also see some guys complaining about "walking through fire" to get a girl's number, then in the end she starts replying with "k" "lol" and "lmao"

The babe is not just into you, bro. Don't be surprised that there's a guy who she legit replies to with a whole page of textbook.

Nobody is boring. It's either they're not interested in your kind of conversations, or they don't want to talk with you.

how about wives that chat this way with their husbands?

StacyO:


LOL LMAOO

Damn!! You call that chatting??

Fvck off!

Stop texting. Talk to them offline and you will get tired.
Nigerian girls are parrots.

thunderfirebubu:
how about wives that chat this way with their husbands?

It happens with men too. I have a very close male friend, he's not dumb, in fact he's intelligent but just not a conversation person. Our chats are mostly like "how are you?" "How was your day?". Except I bring up a topic. He's been a great friend though and I've accepted him like that. His ex-girlfriend broke up with him cos of it.
Yea, u can say some girls are unintelligent but not all. Some can't just flow with conversations. It's either u accept them or not

Karleb:
Stop texting. Talk to them offline and you will get tired.

Nigerian girls are parrots.

They aren't. Most of them are crazy in nature. That is how one girl reported me to her dad. I thought that her father is going to finish me, but surprised he did not. In fact, we became friends.

Thattallgirl:
It happens with men too. I have a very close male friend, he's not dumb, in fact he's intelligent but just not a conversation person. Our chats are mostly like "how are you?" "How was your day?". Except I bring up a topic. He's been a great friend though and I've accepted him like that. His ex-girlfriend broke up with him cos of it.
Yea, u can say some girls are unintelligent but not all. Some can't just flow with conversations. It's either u accept them or not

all you said is true. some guys are that way too, I don't dispute that fact and not all girls are that way.

Kobicove:


It's either she's probably bored with the conversation or you only attract low quality girls...

I have met with girls who chat confidently and good prowess.

EdricBond:
So you just found out?
Well, continue...
Just ignore them if you can't play along with them.
If they are becoming boring — try to be more boring (sometimes I reply with emoji, gifs and stickers ).

One of the new thing I learnt

Well, not all girls. You have to understand that we have our attention divided and we can't please everyone, most especially if the lady is not feeling you. There's always a special somebody, or special set of people. But the truth be told, the way some ladies chat will bore most guys. Some guys too don't know how to chat. Ask open ended questions that will require her to express herself. Not yes and no questions. Some guys will also bore you to death. But if you're the kind of guy that knows the art of communication and know how to pull the strings, you're going to intrigue most intelligent ladies. And always know when to end the conversation; don't drag a dying conversation for too long.

Thattallgirl:
Lol pele... mostly it happens when the lady isn't just interested in you or she's not interested in having a conversation with you. And sometimes, that's how some ladies are like. They're not just big on conversations... some guys are like that too. One time, I was chatting with a guy, I was mostly the one asking questions. He even gave me topics to discuss, topics to ask him. Lol I just had to ignore him.

It not that and please don't involve guys we are talking of intellect here.I chatted with serveral non Nigerians and they are cool at convo ......

thunderfirebubu:
how about wives that chat this way with their husbands?

Plenty of them just ruin the marriage

Openbusiness:
That's not true and it's a wrong assumption, a popular wrong assumption. There's no single woman that can't hold a conversation. Women naturally love talking, communication is their forte, they enjoy chit chat, gossips etc. They like conversations.

But the problem many guys have is that, you keep trying to force a conversation with a woman that's not into you. If she's not attracted or interested, then she wouldn't want to have a conversation with you, and that's when you will be saying She doesn't know how to hold conversations. She does, but she's not into you. Check her chats with guys she's into, LONG CONVERSATIONS. Stop wasting your time trying to force a woman that's not into you into a steady conversation, you will just frustrate yourself for nothing. If a woman keeps giving you 1 word replies, or short phrases, then SHE'S NOT INTO YOU.

This is not been into or not.if you read my initial post it about sense abeg....even if she is into you what will she say have you eaten.lol no sensible convo

Bigcowhorn:


She ain't my girl and her love for falsehood is famous. Tell me something else I don't know.

Aww!! What happened? You use to be so in love with her.

Y'all should go and read "No More Mr. Nice guy" and "The Manipulated Man" to save yourself from these shit.

nurain150:

It not that and please don't involve guys we are talking of intellect here.I chatted with serveral non Nigerians and they are cool at convo ......

We all say what we've experienced. Everyone has their own opinion and experiences.

Thattallgirl:
We all say what we've experienced. Everyone has their own opinion and experiences.

I was saying mine too

"Lol, kk, yes, no, hi, hmmmm"
I hate dating sites because of these robot replies

nurain150:

I was saying mine too

Noted

Brownpeanut:
Well, not all girls. You have to understand that we have our attention divided and we can't please everyone, most especially if the lady is not feeling you. There's always a special somebody, or special set of people. But the truth be told, the way some ladies chat will bore most guys. Some guys too don't know how to chat. Ask open ended questions that will require her to express herself. Not yes and no questions. Some guys will also bore you to death. But if you're the kind of guy that knows the art of communication and know how to pull the strings, you're going to intrigue most intelligent ladies. And always know when to end the conversation; don't drag a dying conversation for too long.

I'll love to have that conversation with you

The sooner they get their minds off the gutters, they will understand the importance of socialization

Brownpeanut:
Well, not all girls. You have to understand that we have our attention divided and we can't please everyone, most especially if the lady is not feeling you. There's always a special somebody, or special set of people. But the truth be told, the way some ladies chat will bore most guys. Some guys too don't know how to chat. Ask open ended questions that will require her to express herself. Not yes and no questions. Some guys will also bore you to death. But if you're the kind of guy that knows the art of communication and know how to pull the strings, you're going to intrigue most intelligent ladies. And always know when to end the conversation; don't drag a dying conversation for too long.

I get your point. I really do. And I usually don't take extreme positions on a given issue so I'm not in of the majority of the guy's popular notion on this.

However, do you realize that someone - like me - may interpret your submission as you suggesting that the fruitfulness or lack thereof, of a Discuss, Chat, Meeting, Brainstorming, etc, between a Guy and a Lady LARGELY DEPENDS ON THE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLs of The GUY?

If yes, why so?

I'm really looking forward to your response to this.